How often do you cry?

I've written a country song called Yesterday, I cried. As it unfolds, it becomes evident that it's a daily occurrence for a recently dumped woman. I can't share the lyrics with you now, because we are in negotiations with publishers. And Miss Maren Morris. It's more built for Trisha Yearwood or the great Tammy Wynette, but they're dead. I've had other songs published and recorded, but this one will be a classic HIT. Where the fuck is Tammy Wynette's voice? Who would believe that Carrie Underwood cried over a man leaving her? I know you won't.

So I put a load of laundry in, just to watch something come clean again.....it's gold.

Gay men start crying early, but for most guys it happens sometime between ear hair and low T. Nothing more pathetic than an old man crying. It's okay to sing about it though.

I tear up at least once a day.

I cry cry maybe a few times a month.

Almost never. In sad situations, I kind of become unable to and resort to smoking and nervous ticks. Wish I could cry.

I know I need to cry when I start feeling tired and listless. Then I cry really hard and I have all of my energy and enthusiasm for life within an hour or so.

That's beautiful R4. Feeling tired and listless?

Sometimes, usually in mornings, I cry a little to let loose of some stress. Not sure what triggers it, but it just comes out for a quick moment.

This is a rough month as it's the birthday month of my dad (who died in late 2019) and my mom (who died in early 2020).

Once every few years.

Whenever I go to the bank.

I only cry at movies, never real life.

Every 9 years.

Regularly.

I am crying as I type, OP.

I cried a couple of times when I was 18 and once when I was 23. I'm turning 30 in a few months.

R9 I cry not only at movies but also at operas and ballets. I sometimes start with the music that precedes the action when I know what ‘s coming. I rarely cry in real life, so maybe I should listen to sad music to get the tears flowing when sad things have happened.

I tear up now and then, but don’t really cry much anymore. I received some potentially very bad health news last week, and can’t even cry about that. The last ten or so years of my life seem to have beaten all the cry out of me. Weird.

At least twice a month. Sometimes more if I’m severely depressed.

Sorry to say but I think this is GENERALLY a guy/girl thing. I know plenty of guys, gay and straight, and they don't cry or at least don't confess they do. I don't. However, I've known plenty of women who say they cry once a day for a variety of reasons or no reason at all. I will say the ones that cry often tend to be young.

Generally speaking, men and women just process emotions differently.

I don't know how you guys manage to cry. I simply can't and instead my emotions cause me stress and depression quite often. I saw my mom and grandfather cry a lot and it must he a good relationship I just don't find myself being able to do.

It takes a lot for me to cry so almost never do it. Maybe 2 or 3 times a year.

Only with laughter. There are things on YouTube (and, rarely, on Datalounge) that have me laughing so hard I'm wiping my eyes and blowing my nose.

Almost never. A couple times a year when I've seen a great scene in a movie or something, not a sad scene.

I probably cry about once a week, I’m a sucker anytime something sad pops up in a movie or on TV, or thinking about my deceased grandma (she died 7.5 yrs back, I guess I haven’t “dealt” with my grief yet). I have a friend, total macho bodybuilder gay, who cries even more often than I do. He into tears during Snakes on a Plane. Not because the movie was bad; he was crushed when Lin Shaye’s character died so near to her retirement!!

Only when I don't get my way.

My brother died last month and I haven’t stopped. I’ve tried to be distracted by a big workload but I can’t stop thinking about him. Before his death I mostly experienced tears of extreme happiness for friends and family members. Now I just feel that I’m always going to be sad and will never stop missing him.

I never cry. I never cry about me or my life at all. Too depressed to cry. Things are just too hopeless. Stupid commercials or sad movies, however, make me cry like a damn baby. Life is so disturbingly strange now.

The welling up is there, but the waterworks don't seem to happen. I might shed a couple of tears, but I don't have a real, good cry. Most times I feel like it, though. A good sobbing would be a great release. I feel sad most of the time.

R24, I,m very sorry for your loss. One month is still recent, you will feel better with the time even though part of you will always miss him.

When I watch the news

I keep it inside, and for God's sake I never cry out loud.

I tear up mainly out of frustration with my job. My managers are idiots.

I have had tears roll down my cheeks when reading some threads. Usually, the older ones.

Stress, exhaustion, art (especially music), nostalgia can all make me cry. I really wonder if a hormonal change may be involved too, as I cry much, much more in my 50s than I ever have before.

Rarely, and then only at movies, etc.

But I'm on some excellent anti-depressants.

#23 = Mrs. Markle-Mountbatten

I am normally not a crier at all but like others it comes out when I see something sad or heartwarming on tv. I had a few too many and watched MUNA on HBO the other night and bawled my eyes out when they told the story of how I Know a Place was about Pulse.

I usually cry once a day. Over something beautiful or sad or funny. Doesn't matter. For me crying is part of my mental hygiene. Tears eliminate the build up of toxins in the brain. Helps balance the hormones. People who cry too much or never cry have psychological problems. Just my experience.

Music makes me cry- otherwise I’m a rock

I rarely cried until I got COVID in January 2020. Some symptoms are still lingering, and my defenses are down. Now I cry at least once a day, not heavily because I do everything that I can to stop it. I wonder if I should just let go and cry for days.

The person on here who asked me if I ever helped anybody made me cry today. I'm sure that makes him full of glee to know that.

I cried a bit at the end of tonight’s ep of The Good Dr, because my favorite character left the show! I’d cried once before from this show, when Elizabeth Mitchell’s character died. I used to cry a lot for Grey’s Anatomy, especially when Izzie had her tumor. And when Denny Duquette died. And when George died. And when George came back for the “beach” episode, I cried the whole show. And when Deluca died. Maybe I should stop watching Med shows???

I don't know if this would be something that affects all of you but it has been found that in women, they need to cry at certain times because it releases something that they need to get rid of. Sorry I can't remember all the details but it was a long time ago that I read about that study.

As a kid, I cried all the time...very sensitive. I'm still sensitive, but crying doesn't come as easy for me now. A good cry is much better than holding it in...where it can affect your body negatively...ulcers, pain or worse. Of course, do it in private if you can.

only during vicious face slaps

Randomly. The last time was last week while watching the final episode of "Good Times." JJ finally gets a job as a comic book artist, Thelma is knocked up, Keith's playing football, and Florida and Willona discover they're finally moving out of the ghetto and living upstairs from each other in their new place. And the last scene is them hugging. That really touched me. Especially knowing both actors are gone.

To clarify, it wasn't an ugly cry--by any means--but there were tears.

I'm like you, OP: I cry very easily.

Big long cries with a lot of boo hoo noises only puff your eyes up. Who needs it? The most I do is a few tears every year or so.

I can relate, R36. I feel sad watching sad movies, but rarely cry. However, a song like Vincent ("Starry Starry Night") can make me weep.

I easily shed tears when I think of my cat, who died less than 2 years ago. I think about that wonderful little boy almost every day.

OP is right. After a good cry, tension is released and you feel calm for several hours.

The instrumental version Of the MTM theme. I’m just a sucker for credit sequences. I get a little misty, and whisper something to myself like, “until we meet again, dear friends.”

I sobbed when my kitty died. Last week I was watching These Three. Merle Oberon has a line, “I’ve been to heaven, but it didn’t feel like home.” Fucking set me off.

When my hot Grindr date slams the door on my face because I took 15 years off my age and 60 lbs off my weight.

I tear up often. A note, a phrase, an image, can suddenly bring tears to my eyes.

Juhst vehn husbahnd ask vor lovemake....WHAAAAAAAAHHHH!

Starting to wonder whether I might have a crying kink.

Athletic alpha men in floods of tears (fear, pain, wistfulness or joy) absolutely hits different for me, don’t know why.

R39 defo think that’s true. As a sensitive introverted woman, I struggle to cry as much as I need to and should (dismissive withholding NPD abused father and bullying teachers used to shame me for it), but when I can manage after enormous effort to release the tears I feel immensely more healthy.

The same problem happens for me with anger—got tons of it that I can’t seem to release or reveal. Tried everything to get it out, from throwing books to pillow screams, to smashing plates to fevered journaling, to frenzied exercise to talking it out, but nothing so far has worked.

Wish I could be more expressive like others, able to cry and scream about anything. I feel like a robot sometimes.

I cry a lot - when there’s something sad on the news or movies or tv shows or even just when other people cry it makes me tear up. What can I say except MARY!!!

R24 - I’m really sorry for your loss. Sending you a hug.

Tonight, for the first time in about 1 1/2 years. My husband has beginning dementia and my sister has glioblastoma and my husband’s siblings are nagging and condescending and I talked to five people on a credit card “customer service” phone line, trying to cancel my husband’s credit card—they were so unhelpful that I resorted to “inappropriate “ language after explaining I was trying to assist my husband in cancelling the card. Thanks, Chase Manhattan/Amazon Prime! It all got to be too much.

R54 that happened to me a couple years ago while trying to cancel cable - a bunch of unrelated stress poured out when the Spectrum person was giving me a hard time on the phone and I started weeping. I felt insane but better after I let it out. That being said, I think the spectrum representative was like what the fuck is this guy’s problem?

I’m sorry about your husband and your sister.

I cry just a little when I think of letting go

Oh no Gave up on the riddle I cry just a little When I think of letting go

At least three times a day - and over the stupidest shit on TV, especially when they play the right score. I’m not ashamed of it and I don’t consider myself disturbed (a little damaged maybe, but that’s about it- aren’t we all?) Most of the time it’s years of joy.

A lot recently, going to see a psychiatrists soon. I have a lot of sleep issues and sometimes when I struggle to sleep I begin to cry and just think of ending it all. I binge eat, my right thumbnail is fucked up because of how much I mess with it. I feel miserable and there is so much more that adds to this dynamic but too much to post.

I was raped by a family member a a young kid and imagining what my life would've been without that happening to me messes with me. I just don't care anymore, I feel like ill be lonely all my life, I'm fat and have never been in a relationship because of how much I hate myself.

Very often, too often. Depression and anxiety are a bitch.

The last time I really cried (not just teared up which I do all the time when I see certain sad things on TV or in movies) was 1992, the day we walked into the viewing room at the funeral home and I saw my mother's body in a casket. Never before had I cried like that. It was so bad I almost passed out. I hope I never again experience anything that makes me cry like that.

If my sweetheart writes a letter ✉️ of goodbye.

Everytime he whispers goodbye.

The damn is gonna break and I'm gonna cry cry cry .

R58 sending you love. Please hang in there and see the psychiatrist.

Once or twice a year in real life. Cried when my dad died this year and when my dog died two years ago. Those are the only two times I can really remember recently.

I do tear up in movies where an animal does something heroic though.

Well there is crying and then there is crying. I have been known to tear up slightly watching many a movie, even a few touching commercials, songs and books have brought a tear to my eye. However I didn't cry when either my mother or father died and earlier in my life when my brother died there were no tears, it wasn't that it wasn't upsetting, there were just no tears. I didn't cry when the love of my live left me. It isn't a response I can either turn on or off, it either happens or it doesn't.

R58 I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I'm betting the doctor can help you. Have you considered getting a pet? It's amazing what taking care of a little kitten (easier to care for than a dog IMO) can do for a person. Being responsible for another life can give you a new outlook on life and give you a reason to be on this planet.

Sending good vibes your way tonight. Don't give up. Things will get better.

I'm glad to hear others cry at movies etc but rarely ay other times. I don't remember if I cried when my mother died. I may have a bit comforting my sister. But it was years later when I actually cried about it. But like some others, I het emotional just hearing the first few notes of music when a movie starts. To Kill A Mockingbird is a good example. I get emotional at Marvel movies (when Cap picks up Mjolnir - "Avengers Assemble!") Yeah, I know.

Rarely, usually a sad movue or something. But dont cry, its a waste of time and energy.

Just watched Burton & Taylor and at the final scene I burst into tears.

Tomorrow.

My cat died a year ago and I cried so much that week and still tear up when I think about how much I miss him. I cried more than when I lost close friends and family members. Maybe because I had no one else to grieve with for my cat?

I cried watching S3 of After Life.

A few months ago I cried out of absolute frustration trying to set up a new wireless printer. Mostly because the control panel and instructions were nearly impossible to see clearly. I ended up returning it and got a different one that was simple to set up.

I wasn’t a crier when I was a kid. I remember crying myself to sleep when Thurman Munson died, I think I was around 12. My mom rubbed my back and stayed with me until I finally fell asleep. The same year a girl in my class and neighborhood died after getting hit by a car and although I was very sad, not a tear.

This thread is making me wanna cry!

I'm sorry for all your suffering that makes you cry.

TTWEIT

Much more often as I get older(70 in April).

I cried today on the phone with my father. My mother died recently and he says he only hung on to take care of her. He keeps telling me he plans to die within the year. He’s heartbroken.

I wish I could wholeheartedly cry like how I did when I was a child.

The problem is being in the wrong place (physically) when you want to cry. For ten years, I had a stressful job in a large office in a new town (when I started, it was a new town to me). I was single, on my own, and never wanted anybody to see my cry. I had a coworker who cried in front of others and it was seen as a huge weakness; she did end up getting fired for a couple of reasons.

All that suppressing and one day I just could not cry anymore. Only while drunk & watching a sad movie could I cry.

R78, The last 10 minutes of "Field of Dreams" leaves me slobbering.

R79, I don't know if Field of Dreams would do it for me, but believe me, it doesn't take much. I quit drinking a while ago. IMO, crying while drinking does not really process any of your emotions.

I didn’t cry for 15 years because of Lexapro. I felt nothing. I just stopped recently (and then my mom died) and now I cry all the time.

Almost all the time

If someone you love has a long, serious illness, you grieve their loss before they even die. I found out my mom had a terminal illness and cried quite a bit when I found out her diagnosis. When she actually did die, I was cried out, had no more tears.

My theory: I had already been grieving her while she was alive.

She and I did do nice things together, though, and I did get to tell her how much I loved her.

Almost never. Nine years ago was the last time, I think. It takes an overwhelming sense of helplessness and loss and being forced to confront the indifferent nature of the universe. The death of a dog, for example.

In sadness, never. I focus on what's to be done next.

I cry in empathy (like, "I know how that person feels, it's so frustrating, I hope he/she makes it through"), and in situations of a beautiful feeling of fulfillment or perfection . . . it's just . . . so wonderful . . . [italic] sob sob sob [/italic] . . . can be real life, or in the arts . . .

How often? Probably on average seven or eight times a year. Quietly.

[quote] I talked to five people on a credit card “customer service” phone line, trying to cancel my husband’s credit card—they were so unhelpful that I resorted to “inappropriate “ language after explaining I was trying to assist my husband in cancelling the card.

Things we can't do without POA.

Almost everyday for unborn children.

"When you need a good cry go in the loo and turn on the tap".

I am envious of people who can cry and then 10 minutes later no one would know they've been crying. I have the type of eyes that if I cry you can tell I was crying for a day or so afterward. All puffy!

I cried on New Years Day watching A Little Princess 👸 from1986 with Amelia Shankley - the part where Sarah goes to Mr. Carrisford’s house to return his 🐒 and Carrisford realizes she was the girl Sarah Crewe he was searching all over Europe for and all that time she was just next door- I tear up EVERY time I watch that scene. This also THE best version not the LAME 1995 movie not the Shirley Temple vehicle from 1939.

R86 I do have POA for him, but the people at Chase just ignored that. I sunk so low that when I asked the final person (who hung up on me) to repeat his name and he said "Milo," I said, did you say "Mila, because I'm hearing a woman's voice" (he had extreme gay voice). It would be funny if it didn't make me feel so juvenile and out of control.

I think of crying as a valve. I release it as I need to. I see it as a form of self care - that I can feel sorry or bad for myself or be a fucking baby for a minute or two. I always feel better for having a cry. Then I get on with my life.

R91. And homophobic, I realize.

R91, that sounds really horrible to call that guy "Mila" and say that he has a woman's voice. I know you were frustrated, but you really expressed it the wrong way. Next time, just ask for a supervisor. Seriously.

I've done shit I've been embarrassed of, taken out frustrations on people, etc. It just doesn't pay and I am the one who ends up feeling shitty.

I cried when my grandmother died in 96. And I cried on 9/11.

As Debbie's mother said to Carrie and recounted in "Wishful Drinking" . . . "Go on and cry, you'll pee less!".