Gay Couples with Kids - open relationship or no?

I suppose there will be a bit of everything (just like straight couples) but i doubt most gay couples with kids are so focused on sex.

Unlike straights, gays have kids because they really want a familiar life

"Timmy, go get daddy some lube. I have a visitor."

Chasten, go feed the baby! I need to fuck my assistant!

"Dad, Poppa, and their friend are going to play leapfrog upstairs. Enjoy Disney+ with your brother"

I know two married gay couples with kids. Like most gay men in open relationships, sex with strangers is prioritized above all else—including their children.

R5 I can only imagine how well adjusted those kids are going to be

"We don't understand the question, and we won't respond to it."

I would imagine if one of them travels without the husband and kids then yes - they get dick.

Nothing open here. I like Wanda Sykes line after having twins with her wife, “It’s exhausting having kids, i told my wife, honey, if you catch me in bed with someone, it’s because I’m taking a nap!”

So, what? We leave food on the table for our kid while we hook up with other guys.

Straight people have been managing to find the time to do it for centuries OP. Though in most cases they don't actually tell each other.

I don't know about other gay dads on here, but there is NO time for much of anything besides taking care of the kids (esp. if they are elementary school age like ours...) We're lucky if we get to sleep the whole night through. I can imagine finding the time to hook up with someone else. And we had kids because we wanted kids. As I say, "It's the hardest job you'll ever love."

R17 -totally agree and same here Keep up the good work!

My god now the gays are renting a womb and having shitty little kids just like the straights.

And why pair this with open relationships? What has one to do with the other? Except that you are a shit stirrer.

All the gay couples I know with kids seem to parent equally (unlike the straight couples I know). Not a single couple has said they are open. In fact, they are too tired to think about sex most of the time.

I would not trust a gay couple to be in an open relationship with kids. That would scream extreme narcissism to me. And I say this as someone in an open relationship with no kids in sight, ever.

I know a couple who drop off their 4 kids every weekend and the Grandparents, and the have chem sex parties all weekend.

And you know all this kids would be in vitro babies from poor minority women.

Actually was never offered a minority surrogate, they were all white.

It's hard enough for us to have time and privacy to have sex with each other, much less with other people. When she was a baby, we would put the baby to sleep in her nursery and be free to fuck. But now she is 11, and not only pops up when you least expect it, she's also old enough to know exactly what we are doing.

Gay couples with kids in open relationships are rare. Probably because they actually love their kids.

[quote] So, what? We leave food on the table for our kid while we hook up with other guys. [quote] —Matt and Azure

LOLOL We see what you did there.

R21 is proof the gay agenda is out of control! Now they’re pushing children into open relationships!

We had one white surrogate - pretty middle-class - and one bi-racial surrogate (also pretty middle-class).

[quote] Gay couples with kids in open relationships are rare. Probably because they actually love their kids.

And we appreciate the value and availability of our kids as props for carefully planned "impromptu" photo ops to enhance our image.

I know a couple who had 2 adopted toddlers. They were ALWAYS on Grindr and Scruff and trying to hook up. They split a few months ago.

I lot of really successful gay men I know have babies with their fag hag or best friend if she is decent looking. They co-parent in separate homes. Usually the men pay for the private schools, much of the woman's living expenses and keeps the kids during the week. The dads will take the kids on weekends and they will all get together for holidays.

Just like heteros, there are a lot of gays out there who think kids will "save" their relationship.

R28 I know 3 gay couples who split before their kid started school. At least with heteros you can say it might not have been a planned baby.

I let the baby hold the poppers for me.

Ask these guys if they're open

I know it's my own internal homophobia and shame, but I give gay couples who adopt all boys past a certain age a side eye.

"We had one white surrogate - pretty middle-class - and one bi-racial surrogate (also pretty middle-class)"

Man that's sad, it's like ordering from Amazon. I guess there was a drop down menu to add them to your cart? Was it prime delivery?

R32 thanks for your contribution, now go back to mumsnet.

Gay or straight, if a couple has kids, do they have much time for sex with their partner...or anyone else?

[quote]I know it's my own internal homophobia and shame, but I give gay couples who adopt all boys past a certain age a side eye.

We moved to Brazil with the best intentions for our boys!

R32 I feel the same way....

So your husband's dick isn't good enough?

R31, I doubt those guys have time to take a piss let alone fuck outside the marriage. Why did they raid the orphanage?

Just go on vacation without your brats, then whore yourself.. That seems to be how Anderson and Andy do it.

Look at Dan Savage and Terry Miller

Men --or at least Gay Men---are not built for monogamy...It is ridiculous to even try. I know a lot of miserable monogamous gay couples and some very happy swinger couples.

There's always just one in a monogamous relationship.

While I agree with you, r42, men are not wired to be monogamous, I think once you're a parent, things can be different.

I can tell you that ever since I became a father, I stopped hooking up. Two reasons: (1) I love my kids and hooking up would expose my family to too much risk, and (2) I just don't have time. Raising kids is a full time job.

You're still horny, but sex with strangers is just no longer high in terms of life priorities. I know it's probably mind boggling for many on here.

Business trips are a blessing.

R44, the posters were talking about here usually have nannies.

Gay parents that care for their kids safety and have no time anyway, are not the gay couples that were trashing on this thread. We’re trashing the gay couples who still prioritize sex before the safety of their kids. It’s the rich gay couples that get a kid as the latest accessory.

My husband and I fucked one half of a couple, who said his husband also plays around. They take turns someone is always home with the young kids.

They said they don't do it often but that they've never felt more secure in their relationship.

Sometimes you just need fresh dick.