What if you're a bottom and you fall in love with another bottom? What if you're a top and you fall in love with another top?

open relationship?

It happens. I know several long-term couples who fit this description. You work it out.

Although I have a hard time sympathizing with one couple who are both hung tops who occasionally, grudgingly bottom for one another "only because I love him and want to make him happy." Cue the violins, Mary.

I've seen numerous couples that describe themselves as "Top only" thought that may just be for threesomes and such.

Husband and I were both tops when we met, and for the first year or maybe two, we just did everything except anal. Then one day I thought I’d give bottoming another go. Once I did, I never looked back. I want his Dick in me any chance I can get.

You'd be bottom-heavy.

He hasn't got tired of your hole?

R4 You're one cockhungry whore, darling.

Bottoms are hopelessly bottoms, and will never be able to pump their dick into an ass.

Tops are versatile.

R8 - not all tops. I am not. Didn't fall in love but dated another top for awhile. Total mismatch. He blew me and I rimmed him and fingered his ass but he couldn't get into the anal and neither could I. Needless to say, it didn't last.

Bottom here and I've never really been attracted to another bottom. My ex-partner was a vers-top. He described himself as 75% top. When we met, I was young and didn't know what I was. After trying everything, I definitely realized I am a bottom. Love getting fucked. He wanted to get fucked occasionally, though, and I didn't really want to do it. It just didn't turn me on. I ultimately broke off with him for many other reasons (he was an emotional mess being the main one), but we hooked up even after breaking up. That sexual chemistry was still there for a long time.

My current partner also described himself when we met as top-vers. He had tried anal with toys but said it hurt and was unpleasant. Sexually, I'd say I'm more compatible with my current partner than I was with my ex. He loves to fuck ass and I love to get fucked. Match made in heaven!

It seemed when I was single I dated a lot of versatile guys for whatever reason. Ultimately I didn't think I was that sexually compatible with versatile guys. They usually wanted me to do something to their asses (rim, toys, finger), but asses don't turn me on.

I did know a couple who were both tops, and one was more dominant than the other and got his way and fucked his partner occasionally. Both cheated on each other all the time with bottom guys because they both weren't getting to plow enough ass with each other. They ultimately broke up and both are partnered with bottoms now.

I imagine it's common for older couples to be in love with someone they're no longer sexually compatible with. People change. Sometimes a man becomes a default bottom (a top who can't get it up anymore). Sometimes a Top is with a bottom who is no longer interested in getting fucked. Open Marriage?

Anal sex usually requires some preparation, at least for the conscientious and hygienically-minded among us. I always think it's a mistake when gay men (or anyone) sees it as being exactly the equivalent of vaginal intercourse, which usually doesn't require as much forethought and planning (birth control notwithstanding).

Fatigue can set in in some long-term relationships. I know plenty of same-sex couple who have anal much less frequently over time. Just saying.

Anal sex is fabulous. But it's not the be-all and end-all. And it's a dumb thing to pin your sexual identity on. I think younger generations of gay men are getting that.

I was just going to type the same as R12 and wonder at the massive assumption (no pun intended) that sex is all about anal. Porn has a lot to answer for in creating that illusion and expectance I fear.

I was going to suggest, "What if you didn't roleplay gender archetypes from the 1950s?" but R12 said it nicer.

I was a natural bottom in my youth and never had any problems finding hung tops. Now that I’m middle age, I have realized old bottoms are not in demand! So I’ve become a top “daddy” for young men with issues, with the help of a little blue pill. Hopefully I’ll find “true love” (although at this age I doubt it.) Thankfully I’m a generally happy person so whatever happens is fine.

My ex and I were both tops. Neither of us ever flipped, we had a really good time kissing, jerking off, blowing each other, but most of all, just being intimate with each other. There's more to sex than, well, just sex.

Impossible. It's like two women falling in love. The relationship is doomed to failure.

we started as two tops and then I discovered the joys of bottoming. Now, we are one top and one bottom. Works perfectly.

I’m a TOTAL top. I NEVER get fucked and I hardly ever suck. I like to fuck. I think about mens asses a LOT more than I think about their cocks.

That would be impossible for me. I am a TOTAL bottom. I love being fucked. I could take it 10 times a day if needed. I have sex with a guy on the first or second date so sexual compatibility is gonna come up pretty quickly. Who are you to judge me? LOL A bottom or even a versatile man could never satisfy me. I wouldn't waste his (or my) time!

People actually fall in love?? Your curiosity and concerns are groundless.

R21 Right! Most men fall in lust a long time before love and relationships are even contemplated (especially M2M). If there is no sexual compatibility there is not much of a chance for love happening.

R19 and R20 should probably exchange numbers...

Someone asked the first part of your question before and one of the replies said the bottoms would just end up gossiping and bitching together.

R20- I have some news for you-

YOU'RE A WHORE DARLIN

I've never understood this. Surely guys have preferences, but if you're truly in love, it shouldn't matter. Period. And anyone who allows this to limit their romantic potential is a fucking idiot.

R25 Thanks! ;)

-R20

Senator Lindsey Graham

You find a way, OP. You find a way.

[quote] Surely guys have preferences, but if you're truly in love, it shouldn't matter. Period. And anyone who allows this to limit their romantic potential is a fucking idiot.

We will NOT have you talking this way about 95% of gay men.

This member of the 5% will say whatever the fuck he wants about the larger (but certainly not greater) 95%, R29. They're the same 95% that whines about being alone. Because of course they are.