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Why are ugly people treated so bad?

It's not their fault, they were born that way.

The number one insult on DL has to do with how someone looks.

No, I'm not ugly before you cunts assume I am, I'm actually a very handsome man in my early 30s. But I feel bad for ugly people

by Anonymousreply 2405/04/2021

I think it is probably mostly a subliminal reaction - like a lot of our behaviors. And there are probably evolutionary reasons for it, "cruel" though it may be...

by Anonymousreply 105/03/2021

Not a matter of "fault", OP, just preference. I don't mind associating with ugly people but can't bear stupid ones. That's not their fault either, they can't help it and there's no way to cure it -- education is wasted on those who are stupid. I pity them but can't put up with them for more than a few minutes.

So I can understand how someone wouldn't want to spend time with an ugly person, let alone have sex with him. Hating to look at someone doesn't justify treating him badly, though -- just close your eyes or excuse yourself and leave the room.

by Anonymousreply 205/03/2021

I have very deep fear of developing “can face.” Oh, I’m a man.

by Anonymousreply 305/03/2021

^cane face

by Anonymousreply 405/03/2021

Generally speaking unattractive people have less regular features which we subconsciously associate with poor health or a medical disorder. Also, we like people who look like us? We hang out with people at similar levels of attractiveness.

by Anonymousreply 505/03/2021

R4, can-face sounds pretty bad too.

by Anonymousreply 605/03/2021

I have news for all the "pretty people" of Datalounge. You are not as pretty as you think you are. There is always someone who will look at you and see nothing but the faults that you so carefully try to conceal. Those faults, my friends, only become more pronounced with each passing year on your march to becoming an unwanted and unloved "eldergay".

by Anonymousreply 705/03/2021

They get what they deserve

by Anonymousreply 805/03/2021

Being ugly is a choice. I chose not to be ugly, so I did something about it. Now, I'm stunning.

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by Anonymousreply 905/03/2021

OP is dying for a bunch of strangers on the internet to know he's not ugly. "like omg what is it like to not be gorgeous, I can't even imagine lol". Fuck off.

by Anonymousreply 1005/03/2021

Ugly hurts…

by Anonymousreply 1105/03/2021

A man can be as ugly as Quasimodo,but if hes packing 12 fat inches he will never sleep alone. And you all know it.

by Anonymousreply 1205/03/2021

Op, you may not be ugly, though I suspect most would say you are, but you certainly are shallow and rather dull and that's worse

by Anonymousreply 1305/03/2021

R13, most people would say I'm attractive. I got a lot of action in my active 20s (as a top), but I've been in a relationship the past two years. Thanks for proving my point that every comeback is a reference to someone's looks, even though this is an anonymous forum and we don't know what anyone looks like.


by Anonymousreply 1405/03/2021

Which is worse OP: narcissistic, stupid, boring, or ugly? You’ve well demonstrated you’re three out of four. Upload a photo, and we’ll decide if you score the jackpot.

by Anonymousreply 1505/03/2021

Mean is worse than ugly or stupid.

by Anonymousreply 1605/03/2021

I find that "ugly" people who I've come to know and like, especially really smart and funny ones, become beautiful in my eyes.

"Beautiful" people, on the other hand, who are self-absorbed, selfish, uninformed bores become ugly pretty quick. Their beauty loses its appeal when their true nature emerges.

My first lover was gorgeous, he was the statue David in the flesh. We had a few good years until the lying and cheating was impossible to ignore, people would flirt with him in front of me, and I had to get out. It was a long traumatic breakup because in reality he was extremely emotionally fragile, but without trust it's hard to have love. For along time after that I was wary of the more attractive guys. Then I found out ordinary guys can be assholes, too.

Now that I'm older, whoever the person, what I appreciate is humor, integrity, energy, and intelligence.

by Anonymousreply 1705/03/2021

Grammar and spelling police, sorry about the typos,. ^

by Anonymousreply 1805/03/2021

I met a guy who looked nothing like his photo. At first I was disappointed and not attracted to him. Then i got to know him. He was cute and intelligent and endearing and articulate and spoke beautifully and I fell head over heals. It was a lesson in prejudice for me.

by Anonymousreply 1905/03/2021

In college I got to know a Korean girl rather well. For some reason or other, I used the expression "ugly duckling" around her, and she demanded to know the reason, so I had to tell her the fairy tale. Anyway, she said, "we could never have that fairy tale in Korea". I said "why not?" She said "because, In Korea we have a common saying, "ugly on the outside, ugly on the inside". I thought that was very harsh but after reflection, I realized that Korea had a long history of believing in reincarnation. Of course to people who believe in reincarnation, it makes perfect sense that only someone who had done something heinous in a previous life would be born into an ugly face.

But yes, DL is rather fixated on looks and bodies. However, some of the people extolled here as beauties do not strike me that way at all, so it truly is in the eye of the beholder.

by Anonymousreply 2005/03/2021

I'm sorry but what men AREN'T fixated on bodies and looks? It's got nothing to do with DL

by Anonymousreply 2105/03/2021

Many are only friendly to those that are as or more fuckable than they are, at least regarding their target fuck audience.

by Anonymousreply 2205/03/2021

OP refers to herself as “a handsome man” in their early thirties. Obviously, OP thinks there is a stigma to being ugly, since the felt the need to let DLers know how attractive they allegedly are. OP’s looks don’t matter. This is a legit question that lost it’s power when OP had to clarify how un-ugly she is.

by Anonymousreply 2305/03/2021

R23, it's OK to refer to OP as "he", since he tells us that he's male -- so no need to use the ambiguous "they" and "their" as if you don't know which pronoun is accurate. And using "herself" and "she" is SO cutesy!, but just adds to the ambiguity. Your post sounds as if you're talking about a crowd of people.

by Anonymousreply 2405/04/2021
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