All sound advice and perspective given. I’m watching this thread with interest.
However, seems to me it’s a complex issue requiring deep work behind cognitive-behavioural adaptations, and for that OP has my sympathy—indeed, my empathy. Could be wrong here, but as I see it; the core issue for people like us (depressed types who tend to apathy/anhedonia) is belief and a sense of a specific hope for the future. Without your belief (I.e. your deeply-held and unconscious emotional conviction, not just your thinking or actions), there’s nothing to centre one’s world around and no basis of core personality/identity/idealism matrix. Given the societal messaging/conditioning we are bombarded with in the West, today and the evidence that long-established freedoms and securities are crumbling or are based on horrifying foundations, who wouldn’t feel nihilistic? Who wouldn’t feel deep down like nothing has meaning, so ‘what’s the point’?
This is different to mindset or mentality, to the ‘positive thinking’ and ‘mindfulness’ that is so often pushed as the cure-all to psychological or emotional turmoil. Because what is optimism without hope, and a context in which to feel happy or sad?
Like me, OP cannot (or will not, for long-buried subconscious reasons unknown to him?) locate anything to emotionally back and then throw himself behind. To do this would be a case of finding and having something to live for, then cleaving to that, rather than living in a contented cud-chewing state of pleasant ‘optimal’ happy-thoughts...
Here’s something my best therapist (the only good one I ever had, out of several) once asked me to get to the root of ennui: OP, how do you get fired up? How does your anger and your zeal usually find expression? In what areas? And what beyond the basic Needs (cf. Maslow’s Hierarchy) would it make you personally aggrieved to lose or to not be able to do/have/experience?
Now, this is a lot to process and confront. Myself, I’m still getting my head around all that myself, and a year later I’ve arrived at only a tentative definition, but a breakthrough is a breakthrough, and I don’t believe I’d be able to extract even mild enjoyment of my current life without getting there. Idk, just something to ponder.
Side note: could your boredom and reluctance to do anything also have to do with your family or social circle? For example, I have spent many years suppressing my natural interests, hobbies, personal life goals, and preferences and orientations (including sexual, sometimes), for fear that certain family members will use it against me. In particular, I have a BPD emotionally-incestuous grandmother and a smothering martyr-mother who tend to glom on to the things I do or like (including fundamentals like dress and diet) because codependent abuse has starved them of any real genuine core identity. My father on the other hand was always dismissive of my interests growing up, thinking them a betrayal of class and normality as well as ‘weak’, and in the few instances he wasn’t neglecting me tried to push his interests (sports, the outdoors, the military) onto me. If you’ve dealt with this, then it can really fuck up how you go about asserting your own enjoyment of life and creating an identity.
Pulling for you, anyway, OP mate. For both of us, and anyone like us. Boredom and ennui sound like innocuous snowflake problems, but; in cases where the sufferer is disadvantaged, disillusioned, or impaired in some way, the consequences of letting it grow can sometimes be catastrophic (for example, radical politics, hooliganism and even low-level domestic t3rr0rism can have roots in ennui).