Gay "Husband" and "Wife" Couples

George Takei and Brad Takei

Nate Berkus & Jeremiah Brent-Berkus have been amusing me lately. They seeming play the roles of Nate as the clumsy, doofus "husband" who makes the money & Jeremiah as the nagging, demanding "wife" who sees herself as the brains of the partnership. At least that's my perception. It's really evident on their HGTV show (which I love).

My husband calls me an old battle-ax

What about mike del Moro and his partner?

I’ve been both husband and wife in my relationships.

This is more of an elder fag thing.

Colorado Governor Jared Polis and his homemaker husband Marlon Reis.

Lily Tomlin is the femme. Weird you think otherwise. Her wife is the quiet, stoic bull.

Simon Doonan and Jonathan Adler are either vers or using a double-ended dildo. Probably a dildo that Adler sculpted and Simon sold at Barney's back in the day!

OP = Pete looks miserable in that photo....He probably misses threeways and cruising. I cannot imagine that Future Ex Husband Chasten offers him any level of satisfaction. Not that Pete is a big prize. The only thing they have in common is their desperate love of attention...Pete has got to be on thin ice after claiming Biden would be creating over 17 million more jobs when the actual number was 2 million. I cannot imagine Biden enjoys retracting Petes remarks repeatedly..

Some couples don’t do anals

This is one of those threads that says a lot more about the deeply conservative attitudes of the posters rather than the people being discussed.

What R12 said.

OP is furthering one of the oldest lies about us, that "there's always one who's the man and one who's the woman."

This is straight from 75 years ago, but these ignorant ideas fester in ignorant places and within ignorant people.

OP and his ilk are very damaged, if they're even gay at all. I have doubts.

How can you tell when everyone is in a caftan?

Nate Burkus is another who always looks miserable with his husband. I get the vibe Nate just settled...And Jerimiah is so feminine and what is up with his teeth? And he admits Nate was in a relationship when they met?...Classy...

I am EXHAUSTED by OP's heteronormativity!

WTF is this gay husband/wife couple garbage?

This kind of idea would only exist for very, very old people who are in their 70s and above and will soon be gone.

These days - gay couples are just two men in a relationship.

We ask eldergays for their wisdom and then viciously tear them down when they come in here and eldergay with their eldergay shit.

Jeremiah is beautiful.

The first time twenty-something Frankie comes home, plants his fat one in the recliner, and asks twenty-something Micah "what's for dinner", the husband/wife dynamic blooms.

Eldergays are merely observing a universal constant.

Nate Berkus mourned the loss of his partner who qent missing in the tsunami for years. Jeremiah--who always looks like a French mime to me--was smart enough to chain his cart to the Nate Berkus work horse dynamic.

Another one I juat thought of: Josh Flagg and his partner (Bobby Somebody). No way Flagg isn't spreading his legs for that every night. He's also drinking like a fish and I'd imagine they'll split soon enough because of that. Bobby seems nice, but a bit dim. (Smart enough to get that $$$, though.)

Dustin Lance Black (or whatever the name order is) and Tom Daley. Tom plays the peckish, rolling his eyes wife role in every video.

Big secret revealed... there’s no friggin wife! Just two best friends willing to make it work, and being able to call the other one out when it’s not working.

The truth is that best relationships are where one likes to spend and the other is good at saving-

and they love each other enough to heed the other one!

OTOH, it's a sad truth was that part of what made Pete B so palatable was that Chasten was clearly the "wife"

If he'd had a masculine partner who was also very accomplished and maybe taller and more muscular than Pete, I suspect that would have freaked a lot of older, more conservative people out.

I see more gay couples that look like mirror images of each other, than husband and wife

Have we missed DL faves Gio and Tommy? That might be another situation of a double ended dildo.

Anderson Cooper is surely still fucking "live-in co-parent/ex" Ben. They seem like they'd be pretty vers.

I didn't even know David Rubin was married. His husband is a cute twink.

[quote] Anderson Cooper is surely still fucking "live-in co-parent/ex" Ben. They seem like they'd be pretty vers.

Vers?!? You seriously think Anderson has topped anyone?

R28 = They took the "twinning" to a whole new level---they are now "Father Sonning"...When your BF looks like he is a Senior in High School and wants to borrow the keys to your car...

Josh Flagg’s husband now is somehow freakier than the albino flamer, Colton? If Josh is bottoming that’s great. That’s what I’d do with him.

If Perez Hilton and Andy Cohen had a Brady Bunch marriage, who'd be the husband and who the wife? Their babies together would be so cute.

Troll!

What about us?

They are so lucky they found each other.

Chasten's morning wake up for Secretary Pete

They look miserable because that photo was taken right after the Pulse nightclub shooting.

Dick isn't big enough anymore to support the top role. That's what you men, OP?

or mean?

Chasten is cuter

I don't know, sometimes stereotypes are real but sometimes are nothing more than what the person wants to see.

There are a lot of heterosexual powerful men who are not the dominant (or husband) part of the couple and i think it happens the same with gay couples. Not everytime the one who has more power in the real world is the one who has more power in the couple

OP can't have a husband, because they always end up committing her.

Dave Rubin has always looked like a confident top. Handsome and good lookin body. Lucky Janet.

Too bad Rubin is a total idiot. His Rubin Report is hard to watch. He simply can't compete with the intellectual acumen of most his guests...

I was very much the "wife" in my first LTR. My ex was just a man's man. He was older, bigger, the top. He naturally embodied every male stereotype. Super secure with himself and his maleness. It was sexy as hell.

He liked always driving, taking care of the yard, fixing stuff around the house. Those were things he was drawn to doing. And I found myself doing the cleaning, laundry. Stuff I did not enjoy doing. But I did for it for him and, frankly, loved taking care of him like that. Never felt resentful or less than.

We were both very masculine. He was just more alpha and we eased into our roles seamlessly. It was never a thing or an issue. Plus, I was a teenager when we met. He actually taught me a ton on how to become a good man. And damn was he gifted in bed. I still miss getting fucked by him.

I've never been in a relationship like that since. Where the roles were almost like a 1950s sitcom.

But I get why people like it. Having defined roles was actually nice. Oddly comforting. But it takes two people who are committed to it. Btw, I also get why people hate it.

You must be ANCIENT R43.

Can you imagine losing a partner in a tsunami?

How horrible.

Y’all call?

For those who thinks it’s just an Elder Gay Thing

Not really R44. I'm 41.

Maybe I wasn't clear. It wasn't like I said to to my then partner, "I'm looking for a hetero type husband. You BBQ steak and drink beer. And I'll be your hetero type wife. I'll sip white wine and cross stitch."

Nothing like that at all.

We just found ourselves in very husband/wife type roles. Almost by accident. I was a very masculine post high school jock when we met. Not exactly a femme. I never thought I'd be the "wife" or like it when it happened. Turns out I did. But only with him. It just fit. Like I said, my other LTR could not have been more different. Much more verse.

Eh, hard to explain I guess. But the main point was that some people like that husband/wife dynamic and I understand why. No reason to judge it.

You sound like you cross stitch R48. The bottom line is that you're perpetuating a completely inaccurate and offensive myth.

It’s not a myth if he’s lived it. Stop forcing your views on others, r49

Go fuck your wife R50.

When a guy says "he's my husband" the speaker is the bottom.

I was wondering the same thing as R50.

The guy @ R48 was talking about his own personal experience.

What's the big deal?

I wasn't perpetuating anything. I was living my life, R49.

Though I've never actually cross stitched, maybe one day I'll try it. Your tepid insult notwithstanding.

Btw, you sound like you're afraid of being anything other than a living embodiment of some cliche slogan you stole from twitter.

My apologies to everybody and especially to R43.

I was out of line and shouldn't have shit all over your experience of being a husband and wife role couple.

I reacted like that because it's my experience that the term/idea (which one's the wife?) is used by homophobic straight people/christians as a subtle and underhanded way of demeaning gays as a put down and something to snicker about. I know you all know what I mean.

So that's why I don't think we should be perpetrating and encouraging the myth ourselves. As far as I am concerned - two men are in a relationship. A wife is a female. There are no females in a gay male relationship - just two men.

I'm not on Twitter nor woke R54.

OK - apologies and I will leave you all to it.

R49 Homophobes also call us cocksuckers and make comments about who in the couple takes it up the ass. They also assume every gay man wants to be fucked by a straight top while being verbally humiliated. Should we stop having sex too, in order to avoid perpetuating and encouraging the myth?

We all know a wife is female, just like lesbians know a husband is male. That's not the point. the point is that one of the men chooses to function as a wife and enjoys assuming all or most of the traditional attributed of that role.

Who gives a shit about this anymore?

In my 2 long term relationships I was always the "wife" but since Im as femme as femme can be it just seemed to fit. In my other shorter term relationships,it was more just 2 gay men. I never thought about it before but this thread has made me ponder why that was so and why it seemed to work !

This happens when one partner is much wealthier and more powerful than the other

My husband and I make similar money. I just like being the lady of the house.

r60 Do you have a white Slimline™ telephone with restricted area code? 😉

the mos are as bad as the fraus.

most of yo' predictions about tops are wrong

dave is a power bottom

andy is a top

that is all for now.,

[quote] "For those who thinks it’s just an Elder Gay Thing..."

Oh, dear.

Unless by chance you're a cockney...

[quote]They also assume every gay man wants to be fucked by a straight top while being verbally humiliated.

No, you assume that because you think all gay men are just like you. If this were actually the case then straight men wouldn't be so paranoid about getting fucked up the a.