I value DL's input and advice, even if it's mostly cunty. I just had the strangest fight with my husband over what I feel is the stupidest thing, so I ask DL: am I in the wrong?
We have a a 1957 traditional ranch house that we've been slowly renovating since we bought it five years ago. There's a long list of projects, and we've been tackling them as we can.
One of those is the breezeway that connects the house to the garage. The previous owners installed storm windows about 20 years ago to enclose it, and it looks janky. Half of them don't open, so it gets hot. And it's ugly. Replacement windows would be a couple thousand $, and husband keeps saying it's "on the list."
I've had a lot of free time on my hands, and earlier this week I couldn't stand looking at those hideous windows any more, so I removed one of them and built a wooden framed screen to put in its place. It looks great! And I already have the materials so basically free.
Husband saw my test screen, seemed ok with it, so today I did it for remaining windows. Again, he liked it and agreed it was an improvement. Great.
In addition to the windows, there's an old wonky storm door, and pleased with myself with the screens I built, I built a simple wood framed screen door to match and replace the storm door.
Ok here's where it goes off the rails. Husband FREAKED OUT when he saw what I was doing, like slammed the door mad and wouldn't talk to me. So I put the janky storm door back on and went inside.
I've never seen him this angry. He was yelling at me that "this is his house too and he gets to be included in design decisions." He said I was being "disrespectful."
I told him he likes the test screen I did, so I'm confused why the sudden change of tune. He (again, nearly screaming) said yes he hated those old windows and door too, but I shouldn't have taken it upon myself to do that without asking for his input. Again, calling me disrespectful, and wouldn't I be upset if he made a design decision without me?
To be honest, i wouldn't care! It's not like I painted the house a new color or removed the windows with nothing to replace them. AND HE ADMITTED HE LIKED WHAT I DID, but was furious I did it on my one.
So I just sat there, dumbfounded about his contradictory argument. Let me get this straight: you hated the old windows and door, we've talked about replacing them for the past five years, I finally do something about it and he likes how it looks, but he's furious that I went too far and did the door too.
That's fucked up, right? Please convince me otherwise.