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‘9-1-1: Lone Star’ Actor Ronen Rubinstein Comes Out as Bisexual, Inspired by His Work on Fox Series

Ronen Rubinstein was anxious for his family and friends back in his native Staten Island to watch the second episode of “9-1-1: Lone Star.” He told them he was playing Rob Lowe’s gay son on the Fox procedural, but he wasn’t sure what they’d think of the very steamy encounter between his character, T.K. Strand, and his future police officer boyfriend Carlos Reyes, played by openly gay actor Rafael L. Silva.

“Carlos and I have a huge make-out scene where we, like, burst through the door, and we’re ripping our clothes off,” Rubinstein says. “It’s super hot and it just goes on. It just doesn’t stop. We’re, like, crashing against the walls, and then we end up on the couch. I warned my parents and my friends for months. I said, ‘Listen, I understand if you guys don’t want to watch it, I understand you probably might say some really ignorant, close-minded stuff or you just might not want to watch it and I get that too.’ ” In the end, it didn’t matter what they thought because T.K. and Carlos were a hit. As soon as clips of the scene were released, fans of the drama series, produced by Ryan Murphy, crowned the couple “Tarlos.”

As much as the series is fiction, there was something very real happening for Rubinstein. The 27-year-old actor found himself coming to terms with and accepting feelings that he had suppressed for as long as he can remember.

“I fully identify as bisexual,” Rubinstein says in an exclusive interview over Zoom from his Los Angeles area home. “I literally just got goosebumps saying that. It feels so good to talk about it, it feels so good to finally be comfortable with it.”

Rubinstein called his awakening “a journey” that was enabled by his work as an actor.

“The biggest thing for me is where I come from, it’s like people like me and people who have identified as bisexual or gay or as any part of the community, you’re just not welcomed. It’s as brutally honest as that,” he says. “It’s either you faced insane amounts of profanity, like the F-word was thrown around all the time or you would get your ass kicked if you were gay. So there was definitely a fear of sort of embracing how I felt. I was definitely more aware of it in high school. I was aware of my feelings and how I started looking at men, but I couldn’t talk to anybody about it.”

“Tarlos” paved the way to today. “The fans, especially the Tarlos fans, it’s one of the biggest reasons that I finally felt safe and comfortable to talk about it and to finally embrace it and be happy about it,” Rubinstein says.

For support, he’s turned to “9-1-1” co-creator Murphy, Silva and, yes, his girlfriend Jessica Parker Kennedy.

“She’s actually one of the first people that sort of respectfully called me out on it,” Rubinstein says of Kennedy. “She’s like, ‘Is there something we need to talk about?’ And I said, ‘Maybe.’ I didn’t know how that conversation would go. And it went probably as good as it can go. She definitely encouraged me to be vocal about it, just to live my truth. She’s like, ‘I love you for who you are, your full self and people will love you for who you are and your full self.’”

His relationship with Kennedy hasn’t changed since coming out as bi. “She just sometimes jokes, ‘Just don’t leave me for Harry Styles,’” Rubinstein says with a smile.

Rubinstein says he approached me with the idea of coming out as bisexual in an interview with Variety because he wants to help queer youth who may be struggling. “I want people to know that this is a hopeful and a happy story,” he says. “I want people to know that they’re not alone and it’s definitely okay. Trust me, I know that it is not easy. My path has not been easy at all, but it’s just one more thing that I can share with people to help them and let them know that I’m here for them.”

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by Anonymousreply 10016 hours ago

[quote]His relationship with Kennedy hasn’t changed since coming out as bi.

I give it a week, tops.

by Anonymousreply 1Last Wednesday at 2:40 PM

Did someone MMF threesome? Yum!

by Anonymousreply 2Last Wednesday at 2:41 PM

Good for him. Using “bisexual” is a great thing. He’s not using “queer” or “pan” or “fluid”.

by Anonymousreply 3Last Wednesday at 2:42 PM

Um, he LITERALLY has a "girlfriend up in Canada." (I remember his gf from being on two seasons of "The Flash.") Where Americans, of course, can't travel.

by Anonymousreply 4Last Wednesday at 2:43 PM

[quote]Good for him. Using “bisexual” is a great thing. He’s not using “queer” or “pan” or “fluid”.

Sure, if he's actually into pussy, but how many of these pitstops on the road to Gayville are we gonna see?

by Anonymousreply 5Last Wednesday at 2:44 PM

oh please, he's probably gay and not bi. He's from Staten Island. they will cancel him.

by Anonymousreply 6Last Wednesday at 2:47 PM

The beards contract probably expired

by Anonymousreply 7Last Wednesday at 2:50 PM

[quote] Good for him. Using “bisexual” is a great thing. He’s not using “queer” or “pan” or “fluid”.

I love him and Rafael but he literally came out as "member of the LGBTQ community" last week, prior to this.

As with Billie Eilish, who I think will come out as bi soon, I think he's really bi.

by Anonymousreply 8Last Wednesday at 2:52 PM

Never heard of him. Any relation to Zelda?

by Anonymousreply 9Last Wednesday at 2:53 PM

[quote]member of the LGBTQ community

Oh. Oh well. Bummer. He did said “bisexual” this week so, I guess I take what I can get. I’m good with only gay and bisexual.

by Anonymousreply 10Last Wednesday at 2:54 PM

He and his storyline are one main reason I watch the show. He is hot.

by Anonymousreply 11Last Wednesday at 2:55 PM

Hopefully they have an open relationship, he is going to be hunting for cock. It either happens behind her back or with her blessing, she has to accept that.

by Anonymousreply 12Last Wednesday at 2:58 PM

Seriously though who comes out as "bi" when they're in a relationship? It's kinda rude.

by Anonymousreply 13Last Wednesday at 3:00 PM

[quote] Any relation to Zelda?

No but he's related to Artur, Helena and Ida,

by Anonymousreply 14Last Wednesday at 3:04 PM

Gay whoredom to commence in 3... 2... 1...

by Anonymousreply 15Last Wednesday at 3:06 PM

He's also related to Mortimer Rubinstein.

Not that any of you asked.


by Anonymousreply 16Last Wednesday at 3:08 PM

Is he going to start “an” OnlyFans?

by Anonymousreply 17Last Wednesday at 3:12 PM

It must be so nice to be a (good looking) bi guy.

by Anonymousreply 18Last Wednesday at 3:16 PM

I think he’s handsome and I like his body so much better before the tattoos.

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by Anonymousreply 19Last Wednesday at 3:17 PM

Is Smiley Face Killers worth a watch? The trailer looked really hot. Ronen and other good looking guys are in it. Looks violent and sexy.

by Anonymousreply 20Last Wednesday at 3:19 PM

And it's by Bret Easton Ellis

by Anonymousreply 21Last Wednesday at 3:19 PM

I love it when BLATANTLY gay men "come out"....You can imagine my joy when Max Ehrich or Josh Groban have an "epiphany"...

by Anonymousreply 22Last Wednesday at 3:24 PM

He's fat.

by Anonymousreply 23Last Wednesday at 3:25 PM

I didn't realize Jessica Parker Kennedy is his girlfriend. Loved her on The Flash and Black Sails.

by Anonymousreply 24Last Wednesday at 3:39 PM

Bi guys are hawter than gay guys but not as hawt as really hawt straight guys.

by Anonymousreply 25Last Wednesday at 3:40 PM

HE and his GF must be in an open relationship or they will break up soon. He announces that he likes guys, and yet she isn't one, as if there's going to be one in the future. He's hunting.

by Anonymousreply 26Last Wednesday at 4:05 PM

My mussy is waiting

by Anonymousreply 27Last Wednesday at 4:07 PM

He has no tattoos in the photo at R19 which is dated October 2020, yet multiple tats in this photo which is February 2021

Recent development? Why would someone get so many tats?

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by Anonymousreply 28Last Wednesday at 4:10 PM

[quote]He has no tattoos in the photo at [R19] which is dated October 2020, yet multiple tats in this photo which is February 202

He tagged the movie he's in in that pic so I'm assuming it's a set pic and he had his tats covered.

by Anonymousreply 29Last Wednesday at 4:12 PM

She probably snooped in his browser history and it was curtains! (And I don't mean the "beef" variety!)

by Anonymousreply 30Last Wednesday at 4:14 PM

Good for him.

by Anonymousreply 31Last Wednesday at 4:32 PM

He’s gorgeous.

by Anonymousreply 32Last Wednesday at 4:40 PM

So cool dude!

by Anonymousreply 33Last Wednesday at 4:51 PM

He and Sarah Jessica Parker Kennedy seem mismatched. She‘s short and stout and he’s... not.

by Anonymousreply 34Last Wednesday at 4:52 PM

Wasn't Rafael accidentally outed as having a husband back when the show first started?

by Anonymousreply 35Last Wednesday at 4:53 PM

R1 is considerate, giving all the tops out there an early heads-up like that.

by Anonymousreply 36Last Wednesday at 4:54 PM

[quote]played by openly gay actor Rafael L. Silva

Huh? All I saw was that guy giving some props to the LGBTQIA2.0^#&$# 'community'. When did that translate to being 'openly gay'?

by Anonymousreply 37Last Wednesday at 4:58 PM

I now consider he might be hooking up with Rafael. If you watch any of their lives together....

I wonder if hooking up with Rafa on screen had an effect on his realization. I'm very happy he came out as bi.

by Anonymousreply 38Last Wednesday at 4:58 PM

[quote] Huh? All I saw was that guy giving some props to the LGBTQIA2.0^#&$# 'community'. When did that translate to being 'openly gay'?

Rafael has been out since he was 19. When the show started, some actor mentioned that he couldn't be on a live because he was at home with his husband, those were her words.

He officially came out last year during Pride, you can watch the full video on his IG. He has talked about being gay ever since very openly. He sometimes uses the word queer though.

by Anonymousreply 39Last Wednesday at 5:21 PM

Next year, he’ll be a gay.

by Anonymousreply 40Last Wednesday at 5:27 PM

Well, it's nice and hopefully, it'll help young gaylings.

But I'd love actors who play Buck and Eddie to come out.

by Anonymousreply 41Last Wednesday at 5:35 PM

I don’t think he’s really bi. He looks all man to me. He’s just saying this because of his current role and to satisfy Tarkos stans.

by Anonymousreply 42Last Wednesday at 5:41 PM

Did he watch Rob Blow suck his friends dick in that sex video?

by Anonymousreply 43Last Wednesday at 5:43 PM


by Anonymousreply 44Last Wednesday at 5:43 PM

[quote] I don’t think he’s really bi. He looks all man to me.

This alone is enough to make us skip your comment for good. You're a moron.

Coming out bi or gay is a risky move, you're an idiot if you think otherwise.

by Anonymousreply 45Last Wednesday at 5:43 PM

Forget the bi stuff, what's a nice Jewish boy doing with all those tattoos?

Oy, such a shanda!

by Anonymousreply 46Last Wednesday at 5:49 PM

It’s a publicity stunt.

by Anonymousreply 47Last Wednesday at 5:50 PM

He sucks cock.

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by Anonymousreply 49Last Wednesday at 6:04 PM

This is one of the few men I actually believe is bisexual because he currently has a girlfriend and she knows about it. Usually men that claim they are bi never date women and are just saying that because they’re scared to come completely out.

by Anonymousreply 50Last Wednesday at 6:09 PM

It's not like he'll ever have to "prove" he's bi. Anything for clout.

by Anonymousreply 51Last Wednesday at 6:13 PM

Anyone watching his instagram lives with Rafael would and as a matter of fact, has talked about the way he looks and touches Rafael all the time.

There's real chemistry there and I wouldn't be surprised if they fucked with the consent of their partners.

by Anonymousreply 52Last Wednesday at 6:15 PM

r15 Would you be happy to assist him in that??!

by Anonymousreply 53Last Wednesday at 6:55 PM

Is the show any good?

by Anonymousreply 54Last Wednesday at 7:17 PM

The show is ok but the chemistry between the 2 actors is undeniable

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by Anonymousreply 55Last Wednesday at 9:23 PM

No, R9, Ida

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by Anonymousreply 56Last Wednesday at 9:37 PM

He’s a really good actor and I enjoy him on the show.

by Anonymousreply 57Last Thursday at 6:07 AM

So many confused posters here.

He’s actually related to Celia Rubenstein.

by Anonymousreply 58Last Thursday at 6:25 AM

I thought that Zelda was his mother?

by Anonymousreply 59Last Thursday at 6:43 AM

I was riveted watching Patti Lupone play his aunt Helena in ”War Paint” on Broadway!

by Anonymousreply 60Last Thursday at 7:01 AM

Love the hot Bi Male Movement

by Anonymousreply 61Last Thursday at 8:32 AM

I dont watch 911 and dont know who this people are. I googled them and the 2 actors have gay faces and the bi's gf is giving lezzie vibes.

by Anonymousreply 62Last Thursday at 8:59 AM

He’s as ‘bi’ as Elton John was when he came out as bi. Bi now, gay later.

by Anonymousreply 63Last Thursday at 9:11 AM

Jessica Parker Kennedy has played a few major lesbian roles and does have bi rumors about her. Bisexuals often date each other because so many nonbisexual people, both straight and gay, can be assholes about it, so it wouldn't surprise me. She's cute.

by Anonymousreply 64Last Thursday at 9:14 AM

The old heads Don’t like bi dudes. Gen X and Millennials adore them

by Anonymousreply 65Last Thursday at 9:31 AM

R55 gave me a boner. He must have popped one too. And I'm still hoping for Buck and Eddy to film a similar scene. My head would explode.

by Anonymousreply 66Last Thursday at 9:35 AM

Yet he's dating a woman. What a surprise... not.

by Anonymousreply 67Last Thursday at 9:49 AM

Bisexuals, by definition, date women.

by Anonymousreply 68Last Thursday at 10:11 AM

^^ and fuck men ^^

by Anonymousreply 69Last Thursday at 10:16 AM

The traumatized boomers in this thread are struggling today.

by Anonymousreply 70Last Thursday at 10:19 AM

I wonder how far he's gone with a man?

by Anonymousreply 71Last Thursday at 10:46 AM

[quote]I wonder how far he's gone with a man?

He's been active in showbiz for nearly a decade, despite not having a breakout hit till getting cast on "9-1-1." Before then he starred in a movie directed by Bret Easton Ellis ("Smiley Face Killers"), which is almost entirely unwatchable aside from a short scene early on with Ronen in the shower (featuring his bare ass from several angles). Ellis is a perv, so I'd be stunned if landing that role didn't involve some sort of casting-couch action.

Regardless, I think the odds of him being a virgin in terms of same-sex fucking are nearly zero, unless of course him being "bi" is merely a PR play to appease all the "Tarlos" stans. (And those bitches are NUTS. Think Domlijah but dialed down a few degrees.) Not sure if there's legit heat with him & Rafa, considering how much he gushes over Harry Styles (though he could of course have multiple "types"), but it's certainly possible.

by Anonymousreply 72Last Thursday at 11:07 AM

No one is pretending to be bi unless they really are. Stop with that stupidity

by Anonymousreply 73Last Thursday at 12:04 PM

R73, you must be new to DL. And to the planet. And definitely to any real understanding of sexual orientation.

The VAST majority of "bi" guys are closeted gays too chickenshit to come out, as should be amply evident via a quick perusal of the "offerings" on Grindr or Scruff. While there are thankfully far fewer today than in years back, thanks to much-reduced stigmatization, they're certainly still prevalent in the nation's conservative areas – and Ronen is from the lone part of NYC that is heavily Republican (Staten Island).

by Anonymousreply 74Last Thursday at 12:21 PM

r73, to be fair, in the past for some bi was the middle step before they came out as full-on gay. They eased their way into coming out as gay.

Being genuinely bisexual has its own challenges when it comes to acceptance.

by Anonymousreply 75Last Thursday at 12:23 PM

I don't think bisexual, heteroromatic guys have many challenges. (Not saying Ronen is this exactly, but I wouldn't doubt it.) They have hetero privilege, don't have to stress about finding a life partner bc women are everywhere, but get to enjoy gay sex when they feel like it. Their sexual attraction to men is just a fun bonus for an already privileged life. Am I wrong?

by Anonymousreply 76Last Thursday at 1:08 PM

R76 that's a rather elaborate narrative you've constructed out of thin air there about this dude.

by Anonymousreply 77Last Thursday at 1:11 PM

r77 I'm talking about bi/heteroromantic guys in general.

by Anonymousreply 78Last Thursday at 1:18 PM

Bi guys would probably be less frequently heteroromantic in practice if the stigma against m/m sexual attraction weren't so constant and aggressive. Internalized homophobia exists and I don't think it's a privilege to live like that.

by Anonymousreply 79Last Thursday at 1:22 PM

[quote] I don’t think he’s really bi. He looks all man to me.

All man? Oh, that’s right, fags aren’t men.

by Anonymousreply 80Last Thursday at 1:27 PM

Oh Ida!

R56, I heard you premiered a dance version of Ravel's 'Bolero' by masturbating on stage.

by Anonymousreply 81Last Thursday at 1:27 PM


No penis.

Tubercular chest.

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by Anonymousreply 82Last Thursday at 1:35 PM

Actually, according to current surveys and polling, bisexual identity is skyrocketing amongst males and females. You seem oblivious to this widely known fact.

by Anonymousreply 83Last Thursday at 1:53 PM

[quote] I don't think bisexual, heteroromatic guys have many challenges.

- "You're not bisexual! You're gay but can't admit it, yet! You COWARD!". " You probably marry a woman and have dick on the side! COWARD!"

- "Eeew, you're so fickle! You're gonna dump your girlfriend for dick!" / "boyfriend for pussy!"

- "I would never date a Bi guy. You can't trust them!".

by Anonymousreply 84Last Thursday at 1:55 PM

[quote]I don't think bisexual, heteroromatic guys have many challenges. (Not saying Ronen is this exactly, but I wouldn't doubt it.) They have hetero privilege, don't have to stress about finding a life partner bc women are everywhere, but get to enjoy gay sex when they feel like it. Their sexual attraction to men is just a fun bonus for an already privileged life. Am I wrong?

r76, no, you are not wrong, the vast majority of bisexuals live lives that are largely indistinguishable from their straight counterparts; even the ones who will, on occasion, hook up with other men for some NSA fun. Survey after survey shows that close to 90% of bisexuals end up in relationships with the opposite sex. Of course, in the new world order, where victimhood equals power, that narrative won't do, so the script has been flipped to suggest that bisexuals are more oppressed than the 'privileged' homosexuals.

by Anonymousreply 85Last Thursday at 1:58 PM

So the usual TV star starts out with the bisexual proclamation before we see him in the arms of many a men and next to no women.

Hey presto, roll on a couple of years and we get the I am GAY!!

Hollywood baby steps, i suppose.

by Anonymousreply 86Last Thursday at 1:58 PM

The “I would never date a bisexual” folks on DL or either lying or an aberration from most gay guys. On dating sites and apps, Bi and mostly straight dudes are the most sought after guys by men seeking men. Gay-identified guy are much less desired by other men on dating apps.

by Anonymousreply 87Last Thursday at 1:59 PM

r84 having to put up with small minded idiots isn't a challenge. We all do it every day.

by Anonymousreply 88Last Thursday at 2:30 PM

r88. LOL. That's your argument?

by Anonymousreply 89Last Thursday at 2:32 PM

r89, I'm not r88, but yeah. If you're not getting the support you need then start hanging out with new people. That's literally the impetus of the gay community, homosexuals sought out other individuals like themselves to escape a hostile environment. If bisexuals don't feel like their needs are being met in either the gay or straight communities then it's up to them to build something that does center them.

by Anonymousreply 90Last Thursday at 2:56 PM

r90. This isn't about the need for support. This is about this:

[quote] having to put up with small minded idiots isn't a challenge.

Who died and made r84 the decider what a challenge is? His argument was silly and weak.

by Anonymousreply 91Last Thursday at 3:05 PM

r91 Not sure if you meant to tag me instead of r84, but.... Sure, if you want to be whiney about it: putting up with small-minded idiots isn't ideal. But everyone has to deal with idiots in some way, shape, or form. So, no, I don't think the occasional brush with an idiot is a notable challenge for bi/het-romantic guys when, at the end of the day, they're just gonna settle down with some pussy and fuck men when they want on the DL. Seems like an extremely advantageous love life if you ask me. (I'm not talking about bi guys who are homoromantic here.) Of course, this is my opinion.

by Anonymousreply 92Last Thursday at 3:54 PM

r92. And there lies the problem: Dismissing what other people have to face. Whether it's occasionally or on a daily basis. You don't know, you don't care.

by Anonymousreply 93Last Thursday at 4:14 PM

r93 what don't I know?

by Anonymousreply 94Last Thursday at 4:28 PM

I like

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by Anonymousreply 95Last Friday at 4:10 AM

[quote]I don't think bisexual, heteroromatic guys have many challenges. (Not saying Ronen is this exactly, but I wouldn't doubt it.) They have hetero privilege, don't have to stress about finding a life partner bc women are everywhere, but get to enjoy gay sex when they feel like it. Their sexual attraction to men is just a fun bonus for an already privileged life. Am I wrong?

Not only wrong, but ignorant.

by Anonymousreply 96Last Friday at 4:35 AM

Since so many guys on DL seems to hate bisexuals, what makes you think it's easy to find good relationships with guys when you're bi? As for marriage to women, do you think many women want to get married to a bisexual guy when they could be married to a straight guy? Many bisexual men don't end up with partners for these reasons. So sick of reading it's "easy" to be bi. If you don't know what it's about then read something.

by Anonymousreply 97Last Friday at 4:42 AM

I'm gay and all my exes were bi. Never chose them because of that, it just happened I had more in common with them.

Some are married to women now and others are dating other guys. They all still love to fuck women , that's what bisexual means.

The biphobia of old gays here is understandable albeit funny.

by Anonymousreply 98Last Friday at 9:27 AM

[quote] The VAST majority of "bi" guys are closeted gays too chickenshit to come out

They're not, gramps. We're not int 70s anymore.

by Anonymousreply 99Last Friday at 9:46 AM

It's a right of passage for Hollywood men to come out as Bi as a baby step to full on gay where they test the employment waters with announcement number one.

Bad reaction and I'll just keep on dating my beards because after all, I said i was Bi!

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