Why do gays not like back and shoulder hair?

Not fond of it. I'm getting more accepting of chest hair though. I prefer hairless with the exception of armpits, legs/arms and the pubic region.

Timothee, is that you??

I do! Yes

How old are you OP? It's generally the over 60 crowd that likes backhair.

back hair is trailer trash bear shit.

If you want a serious answer...

There are several reasons gay men prefer smooth guys with some minor acceptance of hair in other spots (legs, pits and pubes), and they collide where you'd expect them. As gay liberation took hold as part of the overall free-love/hippie movement in the 60s — letting it all hang out — the gay clone look took over, featuring facial hair, exposed chest hair and more freely-exhibited secondary sexual characteristics. In comparison, this look was short-lived.

Taste makers in the gay world came along and their personal preferences became dominant. From Chuck Holmes to Calvin Klein (really Bruce Weber, whose name I suppose we should only whisper today), every depiction of gay men tended toward young, hairless boys just entering their fully-grown but not yet fully developed stage. Look at early porn and the vast majority of what you'll see is this aesthetic in spades. Think of the Klein's iconic billboard in Times Square of Tom Hintnaus (specifically named as one of the 10 photographs that changed America). The era of shaving, plucking and tweezing took over, denying what real men looked like for more than 25 years.

Blame it on porn and fashion, and let's collectively give thanks that the era of social media, while it may bring about the demise of our republic, did bring back accurate depiction of men's bodies.

I love natural men. Hairy, smooth. Whatever as long as it's natural. A little tightening is fine but the over-trimming is awful prissiness that I do not find attractive whatsoever.

Because many gay men have a compulsion to be perfect, and unwanted body hair is a sign of imperfection. They demand perfection of themselves, their sex partners, and their friends. It goes back to their need to be perfect on a surface level to compensate for feeling so much less than perfect about themselves internally because of their homosexuality.

It just reminds me too much of lesbians 🤷🏼‍♂️

Love a nice hairy chest but back hair is absolutely disgusting. Wax that shit off.

Excellent answer R6

Is your comment about Weber due to the fact that he was something of a predator? (Okay, more than something of, that Chop Suey book was like a predator's how-to guide)

R8 - a compulsion to be perfect? Not me darling!

What R10 said. I hate putting my hand on a guy's shoulder or back and feeling hair there. Chest is fine, forearms fine, pubes fine, knuckles fine, face is fine, but NOT shoulders, back, neck or upper arms.

Furrier the better. WOOOF!

I like a little back hair. My husband has it and is the hottest man I've ever met.

Hair on the biceps makes me want to barf. Laser that shit!

Laser your dick off, doesn't sound like you use it much

Back hair is fucking gross. Shoulder hair is fucking gross. Upper arm hair is fucking gross.

Nothing is nice than cuddling up to a furry back on as cold night.

Seriously gross, R19. That literally made me shudder as I read that. Disgusting. Wax/laser that shit off.

"I'd always liked back hair on a man, found it very sexy, but then someone on an anonymous gay message board said it was gross and I realized it was."

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Everyone is entitled to their opinion of course, but do you ever consider the feelings of others? No one has body hair because they want it -it just happens. And if you have a lot, or got it young, you have had to deal with a certain amount of social stigma, which can be hard on adolescents. Not everyone can afford expensive laser treatments or regular waxing, and back hair is damn hard to shave off by yourself. I am naturally super hairy. My back hair was thicker and fuller than most men's chest hair. I dreaded taking my shirt off in public because NEVER could I do it without rude comments from men and women around me -calling me an animal, or gross, or other ego-crushing comments. I saved and saved for laster removal, which was very painful. And after the maximum number of treatments I still have a hairy back.

It's fine for you to be turned off by it, but FUCK YOU for labeling me as "disgusting" and "fucking gross!" There is no excuse for being cruel to people.

I love back hair! But especially furry butts. There's a whole community of back hair enthusiasts on Twitter - they all link to each other. Here's one to get you started, if you are interested.

There are levels - some back hair is fine, but a full pelt is a turn off.

I'd rather see some hair than fully shaved. That look is so tired and over.

Bunch of prissy sissy bitches on here only wanting smooth men. The hairier the better,after all,men have body hair. Little boys dont.

Wax and lasers exist. As do razers.

Hairy balls are fucking disgusting AND useless. Nothing grosser than trying to lick hairy balls.

Well guess what. I have hairy balls. Or I would, but I shave that shit every day so it's NOT gross.

That's just fucking NASTY, R23.

r26, doesn't the stubble ruin your pantyhose?

No, R28.

[quote]It's fine for you to be turned off by it, but FUCK YOU for labeling me as "disgusting" and "fucking gross!" There is no excuse for being cruel to people.

Tell that to the "ewww gross uncut stank sleeve" trolls. You can easily do something about excess or unsightly hair. Foreskins are perfectly natural and EVERY male is born with them. So ... hope you're not one of THEM. That'd make you a hypocrite. And if you've never called them out like this before? That'd make you a self-absorbed hypocrite.

What about nostril hair ?

Ear hair ?

Neck hair ?

I had a boss who had nose hairs growing out of his nose... LONG ones, they came so far out his nose that they brushed against his upper lip. I wonder how the hell he didn't notice that and get annoyed. I could barely look at him, it was so distracting.

I wanted to anonymously leave a nose-hair trimmer on his desk, but never did. He was fired before I worked up the guts to do that.

TRIM THAT NOSE HAIR PEOPLE.

Some guys have hair on the shaft of the penis. That’s a no-no for sure

I'm a foreskin fan, and regularly call out the idiots who hate on them. I'm also calling you out, R30, for your hypocrisy, using the terms "excess" and "unsightly hair." That body hair is just as natural as a foreskin. Why should one stay and the other be removed?

R26: Yes, wax and lasers exist. So do spaceships, but that doesn't make me an astronaut. Waxing and lasers are expensive, and not at all necessary -except for pleasing body nazis who can't contain their hatred and disdain for other people.

36 replies and nobody mentioned the BAKBLADE? I have the bak blade 2 and use it regularly. It's an angled triplewide razor that you can use on your own back.

I recently started dating someone with back hair. He likes hairy guys. I find back hair a turnoff. May eventually discuss him using a bakblade if hes ok with it and stop using it on myself.....

Hairy guys smell. Thread closed.

R36 Because shaving is easy whereas circumcision is cruel

It’s because I have barely any body hair (aside from some weird super growth of hair at my taint that holy shit what the fuck?)

I love the feel, scent, and warmth of hairy guys. I love how they have to decide where to stop shaving their necks. I love seeing them in shorts - or when they feel confident enough to remove their shirts.

If I’m not hacking like a cat the next morning, it doesn’t count as sex.

I love love love hairy men!

Hairy blacks, shoulders, biceps just make them hotter.

So happy porn today embraces hairy guys. I can’t stand to look at porn from the 80’s and 90’s where everyone was completely shaved. Yuck

It's animalistic and bestial. It's actually a natural turn-off to humans. If you like it, it's a fetish.

[Quote] It's animalistic and bestial. It's actually a natural turn-off to humans.

But we’re animals

FUCK! That's repulsive R23. Just nasty.

We all have our preferences. I love a hairy man, including back hair. My ex was hairy all over. He hated it. I loved it. I'll take a hirsute man any day.

It’s more unsightly when it turns gray/white

My last partner was obsessed with getting rid of his light back and shoulder hair until I met him and convinced him how sexy it made him.

He would be fucking me missionary, and I would just look at his shoulder hair and cum.

R23, that gave me an instance hardon

You should move to Glendale, CA, and take a gym class at the local community college, OP -- it'll be like you died and woke up in hairy back/hairy ass shower heaven.

My ex had the hairiest back and it was great hugging him; it was like my personal, warm wool blanket.

I just can’t ... .

You pelt lovers knock yourselves out.

Are the "pelt-lovers" all men who were denied pets as children?

I really can't pinpoint why I don't like it - I love hairy chest and stomach, but a hairy back/shoulders is just not attractive to me.

If a guy is really hairy all over, trimming it like this always looks better IMO:

If you have hair on your biceps, shoulders or back and wonder why you can't get a boyfriend...

Laser it off, and you might be surprised at how your luck will change.

You bitches question my sexuality when I say that if by 55 I don't find a partner I will just throw my lot in with a woman, yet here you are...whining about the fact that men are...well, men and have body hair. No doubt we have a bunch of millennial loons on here. The rest of us are attracted to body hair because it's a masculine thing....we are NORMAL gay men (translate = attracted to masculine features). And R22 is right also...some really mean people on here.

I absolutely adore hairy chest and legs. It turns me on when I look at a hot man who has hair in those places. But I hate guys who shave their pubic area. I want to fuck a man not a kid.

A hairy back may be fine for me if it's not a Yeti back.

I also love a hairy chest. Love a bush, as long as it's trimmed. Hate when it's close-cropped. Totally shaved is a boner-wilter and a no-go.

But I also am just repelled by hairy shoulders/back/upper arms/lower back. Ugggggh!!! *shivers*

Rice queens appreciate the smoothness of Asian boys.

So, if one has a hairy back and shoulders, does this mean their ideal sex partner is similarly hirsute?

Or do they prefer smooth guys?

My personal opinion is hairy tends to seek hairy.

R59 opposites attract

Count me in as not liking back and shoulder hair. To me it looks unkempt and gives the person a rather dirty appearance. It needs to be shaved or depilatoried at all costs IMO.

I'm fine with hairy shins/calves, hairy forearms, hairy chests, and hairy heads (but beards do need to be kept neat and trimmed). And pubes of course.

But I'm really turned off by hairy inner thighs taints ,balls, stomachs (except treasure trails), upper arms, shoulders, backs, and butts.

So much prissiness in this thread. And you wonder why we lust after straight men (though that prissiness has leaked into straight culture as well).

It's totally standard to shave, trim, and groom the hair on your head... facial hair, eye brows, nose hair, ear hair, the hair on your head... so why is the concept of shaving and grooming the hair on the rest of your body so looked down upon by men here? Talk about being ridiculous.

There's nothing grosser than a nest of unsightly unkempt hair, no matter where it resides on your body.

GROOM THAT SHIT.

Those who are intolerant of hair have pedo tendencies.

No, R65. Just ... no.

I think naturally hairy bodies are making a comeback as porn is including them.

While hairy chests attract many men, I find that men with hairy chests tend to be in the minority with lots of men going after them

Because it's excessive. A hair on the chest, arms, and legs is sufficient.

Give me a caveman any day.

Correction: "...A bit of hair on the ..."

This OP made up 42 threads in the last week. FF and block. Good grief, grow up.

Gotta love all the gays on here lamenting the cruelty of others. Sure can dish it but you can't take it.

R55 if you do decide to throw in the towel and go for a woman would you be happy with her having hairy legs pits and crotch? Of course not, cause it's gross looking. Sorry if you have an unattractive part of your body but welcome to the real world where almost everyone has to change part of their appearance if they want acceptance.

I didn't realize so many here hate hairy balls.

Yeah, I guess they're kind of gross especially when sucking them, but smooth shaven balls are much better? Isn't it best to just trim them?

R55 Some? You're much too kind.

R73 - let me tell you, in high school I was pretty much closeted and dated a half-Persian girl. Her Persian mom subjected her to a nose job (at 15!), laser hair removal not only for her legs and arms and armpits but for her forehead to make if "higher" and all over her face (she had peach fuzz) and spend 2 hours every 2 days straightening her nice ringlets curls. It was painful and she was insecure all her young life. No way to live. As far as I am concerned, everyone has imperfections but on DL people freak out over MEN having chest hair (why that's an imperfection instead of normal I have no idea)...that is just as sick as making a woman remove her baby hair on the hairline for looking "Persian". C'mon.

The point is not about improvement here, it's about loathing something natural to a human being. Hairy chests on men are part of their masculine beauty just as curls and baby hair are part of Persian beauty. Self-improvement and grooming are normal, but when it gets to a point of calling people "disgusting" or "hairy monkeys", that is crossing the line.

R75 - I am really starting to miss my 50+ year-old bottoms in LA. I NEVER heard them talk some of the aberrant stuff I read on here and they work in beauty and retail and deal with the large diversity of human beings in LA on the daily. Never have I heard one of them say "ewwww....the manly chest hair on those Armenians/Persians". They complained about the smell of their food on their bodies at most but never about their masculine features. DL isn't just infested with Repuke trolls, it's getting infested by some weird shut-in freaks.

I like men who leave all the hair below the neck natural and ungroomed. When a clean cut clean shaven guy is a gorilla naked that is so hot.

Some races are naturally smooth

One time I was sitting with my boyfriend in a park and a friend of his I hadnt met yet came up behind me and put his t shirt over my head. Yes it was a weird thing to do,but he was an oddball. Anyhoo,As the t shirt engulfed my head I found myself nestled against a veritable mat of black chest hair ! Never one to let an opportunity go wasting,I turned my head,nuzzled in and gave a few good licks . Long story short,said boyfriend was gone not long after,and I had a lovely fling with hairy man ,who was hairy from head to toe (literally!) .

This thread needs more pictures.

Why do gays ??? Which ones?

R75 nobody in this thread is talking about hairy CHESTS as a bad thing. Read the subject line. Jesus.

R81, that's the most disgusting picture I've ever seen in my whole fucking life.

R81, so fucking hot!

I love guys with hairy asses

Another hairy guy.

R86, is he twerking?

[quote] Never have I heard one of them say "ewwww....the manly chest hair on those Armenians/Persians".

Speaking of Armenians, what initially clued me into just how hirsute they all are, was the first time going into my Jr. High locker room and seeing full chest and back hair at, like, 13. Made me wonder what they looked like at 31...

It’s just hair.

[quote] No doubt we have a bunch of millennial loons on here. T

Millennials didn't introduce the perfectly plucked hairless manscaping but I'll let you figure out who did