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Why do gays not like back and shoulder hair?

I find them so sexy, just like chest hair

by Anonymousreply 90Last Sunday at 7:30 PM

Not fond of it. I'm getting more accepting of chest hair though. I prefer hairless with the exception of armpits, legs/arms and the pubic region.

by Anonymousreply 104/07/2021

Timothee, is that you??

by Anonymousreply 204/07/2021

I do! Yes

by Anonymousreply 3Last Thursday at 1:50 AM

How old are you OP? It's generally the over 60 crowd that likes backhair.

by Anonymousreply 4Last Thursday at 2:14 AM

back hair is trailer trash bear shit.

by Anonymousreply 5Last Thursday at 6:57 AM

If you want a serious answer...

There are several reasons gay men prefer smooth guys with some minor acceptance of hair in other spots (legs, pits and pubes), and they collide where you'd expect them. As gay liberation took hold as part of the overall free-love/hippie movement in the 60s — letting it all hang out — the gay clone look took over, featuring facial hair, exposed chest hair and more freely-exhibited secondary sexual characteristics. In comparison, this look was short-lived.

Taste makers in the gay world came along and their personal preferences became dominant. From Chuck Holmes to Calvin Klein (really Bruce Weber, whose name I suppose we should only whisper today), every depiction of gay men tended toward young, hairless boys just entering their fully-grown but not yet fully developed stage. Look at early porn and the vast majority of what you'll see is this aesthetic in spades. Think of the Klein's iconic billboard in Times Square of Tom Hintnaus (specifically named as one of the 10 photographs that changed America). The era of shaving, plucking and tweezing took over, denying what real men looked like for more than 25 years.

Blame it on porn and fashion, and let's collectively give thanks that the era of social media, while it may bring about the demise of our republic, did bring back accurate depiction of men's bodies.

by Anonymousreply 6Last Thursday at 7:33 AM

I love natural men. Hairy, smooth. Whatever as long as it's natural. A little tightening is fine but the over-trimming is awful prissiness that I do not find attractive whatsoever.

by Anonymousreply 7Last Thursday at 8:03 AM

Because many gay men have a compulsion to be perfect, and unwanted body hair is a sign of imperfection. They demand perfection of themselves, their sex partners, and their friends. It goes back to their need to be perfect on a surface level to compensate for feeling so much less than perfect about themselves internally because of their homosexuality.

by Anonymousreply 8Last Thursday at 8:09 AM

It just reminds me too much of lesbians 🤷🏼‍♂️

by Anonymousreply 9Last Thursday at 8:20 AM

Love a nice hairy chest but back hair is absolutely disgusting. Wax that shit off.

by Anonymousreply 10Last Thursday at 8:44 AM

Excellent answer R6

Is your comment about Weber due to the fact that he was something of a predator? (Okay, more than something of, that Chop Suey book was like a predator's how-to guide)

by Anonymousreply 11Last Thursday at 8:47 AM

R8 - a compulsion to be perfect? Not me darling!

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by Anonymousreply 12Last Thursday at 9:32 AM

What R10 said. I hate putting my hand on a guy's shoulder or back and feeling hair there. Chest is fine, forearms fine, pubes fine, knuckles fine, face is fine, but NOT shoulders, back, neck or upper arms.

by Anonymousreply 13Last Thursday at 1:36 PM

Furrier the better. WOOOF!

by Anonymousreply 14Last Thursday at 1:38 PM

I like a little back hair. My husband has it and is the hottest man I've ever met.

by Anonymousreply 15Last Thursday at 1:42 PM

Hair on the biceps makes me want to barf. Laser that shit!

by Anonymousreply 16Last Thursday at 1:43 PM

Laser your dick off, doesn't sound like you use it much

by Anonymousreply 17Last Thursday at 1:48 PM

Back hair is fucking gross. Shoulder hair is fucking gross. Upper arm hair is fucking gross.

by Anonymousreply 18Last Thursday at 2:16 PM

Nothing is nice than cuddling up to a furry back on as cold night.

by Anonymousreply 19Last Thursday at 2:19 PM

Seriously gross, R19. That literally made me shudder as I read that. Disgusting. Wax/laser that shit off.

by Anonymousreply 20Last Thursday at 2:20 PM

"I'd always liked back hair on a man, found it very sexy, but then someone on an anonymous gay message board said it was gross and I realized it was."





by Anonymousreply 21Last Thursday at 3:39 PM

Everyone is entitled to their opinion of course, but do you ever consider the feelings of others? No one has body hair because they want it -it just happens. And if you have a lot, or got it young, you have had to deal with a certain amount of social stigma, which can be hard on adolescents. Not everyone can afford expensive laser treatments or regular waxing, and back hair is damn hard to shave off by yourself. I am naturally super hairy. My back hair was thicker and fuller than most men's chest hair. I dreaded taking my shirt off in public because NEVER could I do it without rude comments from men and women around me -calling me an animal, or gross, or other ego-crushing comments. I saved and saved for laster removal, which was very painful. And after the maximum number of treatments I still have a hairy back.

It's fine for you to be turned off by it, but FUCK YOU for labeling me as "disgusting" and "fucking gross!" There is no excuse for being cruel to people.

by Anonymousreply 22Last Thursday at 3:55 PM

I love back hair! But especially furry butts. There's a whole community of back hair enthusiasts on Twitter - they all link to each other. Here's one to get you started, if you are interested.

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by Anonymousreply 23Last Thursday at 4:07 PM

There are levels - some back hair is fine, but a full pelt is a turn off.

I'd rather see some hair than fully shaved. That look is so tired and over.

by Anonymousreply 24Last Thursday at 4:09 PM

Bunch of prissy sissy bitches on here only wanting smooth men. The hairier the better,after all,men have body hair. Little boys dont.

by Anonymousreply 25Last Thursday at 4:11 PM

Wax and lasers exist. As do razers.

Hairy balls are fucking disgusting AND useless. Nothing grosser than trying to lick hairy balls.

Well guess what. I have hairy balls. Or I would, but I shave that shit every day so it's NOT gross.

by Anonymousreply 26Last Thursday at 4:51 PM

That's just fucking NASTY, R23.

by Anonymousreply 27Last Thursday at 4:52 PM

r26, doesn't the stubble ruin your pantyhose?

by Anonymousreply 28Last Thursday at 4:55 PM

No, R28.

by Anonymousreply 29Last Thursday at 4:57 PM

[quote]It's fine for you to be turned off by it, but FUCK YOU for labeling me as "disgusting" and "fucking gross!" There is no excuse for being cruel to people.

Tell that to the "ewww gross uncut stank sleeve" trolls. You can easily do something about excess or unsightly hair. Foreskins are perfectly natural and EVERY male is born with them. So ... hope you're not one of THEM. That'd make you a hypocrite. And if you've never called them out like this before? That'd make you a self-absorbed hypocrite.

by Anonymousreply 30Last Thursday at 4:58 PM

What about nostril hair ?

by Anonymousreply 31Last Thursday at 5:05 PM

Ear hair ?

by Anonymousreply 32Last Thursday at 5:05 PM

Neck hair ?

by Anonymousreply 33Last Thursday at 5:06 PM

I had a boss who had nose hairs growing out of his nose... LONG ones, they came so far out his nose that they brushed against his upper lip. I wonder how the hell he didn't notice that and get annoyed. I could barely look at him, it was so distracting.

I wanted to anonymously leave a nose-hair trimmer on his desk, but never did. He was fired before I worked up the guts to do that.


by Anonymousreply 34Last Thursday at 5:07 PM

Some guys have hair on the shaft of the penis. That’s a no-no for sure

by Anonymousreply 35Last Thursday at 5:08 PM

I'm a foreskin fan, and regularly call out the idiots who hate on them. I'm also calling you out, R30, for your hypocrisy, using the terms "excess" and "unsightly hair." That body hair is just as natural as a foreskin. Why should one stay and the other be removed?

R26: Yes, wax and lasers exist. So do spaceships, but that doesn't make me an astronaut. Waxing and lasers are expensive, and not at all necessary -except for pleasing body nazis who can't contain their hatred and disdain for other people.

by Anonymousreply 36Last Thursday at 5:10 PM

36 replies and nobody mentioned the BAKBLADE? I have the bak blade 2 and use it regularly. It's an angled triplewide razor that you can use on your own back.

I recently started dating someone with back hair. He likes hairy guys. I find back hair a turnoff. May eventually discuss him using a bakblade if hes ok with it and stop using it on myself.....

by Anonymousreply 37Last Thursday at 5:28 PM

Hairy guys smell. Thread closed.

by Anonymousreply 38Last Thursday at 5:30 PM

R36 Because shaving is easy whereas circumcision is cruel

by Anonymousreply 39Last Thursday at 5:42 PM

It’s because I have barely any body hair (aside from some weird super growth of hair at my taint that holy shit what the fuck?)

I love the feel, scent, and warmth of hairy guys. I love how they have to decide where to stop shaving their necks. I love seeing them in shorts - or when they feel confident enough to remove their shirts.

If I’m not hacking like a cat the next morning, it doesn’t count as sex.

by Anonymousreply 40Last Thursday at 7:25 PM

I love love love hairy men!

Hairy blacks, shoulders, biceps just make them hotter.

So happy porn today embraces hairy guys. I can’t stand to look at porn from the 80’s and 90’s where everyone was completely shaved. Yuck

by Anonymousreply 41Last Thursday at 8:44 PM

It's animalistic and bestial. It's actually a natural turn-off to humans. If you like it, it's a fetish.

by Anonymousreply 42Last Thursday at 8:53 PM

[Quote] It's animalistic and bestial. It's actually a natural turn-off to humans.

But we’re animals

by Anonymousreply 43Last Thursday at 9:00 PM

FUCK! That's repulsive R23. Just nasty.

by Anonymousreply 44Last Thursday at 9:24 PM

We all have our preferences. I love a hairy man, including back hair. My ex was hairy all over. He hated it. I loved it. I'll take a hirsute man any day.

by Anonymousreply 45Last Thursday at 9:39 PM

It’s more unsightly when it turns gray/white

by Anonymousreply 46Last Thursday at 9:50 PM

My last partner was obsessed with getting rid of his light back and shoulder hair until I met him and convinced him how sexy it made him.

He would be fucking me missionary, and I would just look at his shoulder hair and cum.

by Anonymousreply 47Last Thursday at 10:07 PM

R23, that gave me an instance hardon

by Anonymousreply 48Last Thursday at 10:08 PM

You should move to Glendale, CA, and take a gym class at the local community college, OP -- it'll be like you died and woke up in hairy back/hairy ass shower heaven.

by Anonymousreply 49Last Thursday at 11:22 PM

My ex had the hairiest back and it was great hugging him; it was like my personal, warm wool blanket.

by Anonymousreply 50Last Thursday at 11:28 PM

I just can’t ... .

You pelt lovers knock yourselves out.

by Anonymousreply 51Last Thursday at 11:51 PM

Are the "pelt-lovers" all men who were denied pets as children?

by Anonymousreply 52Last Friday at 12:00 AM

I really can't pinpoint why I don't like it - I love hairy chest and stomach, but a hairy back/shoulders is just not attractive to me.

If a guy is really hairy all over, trimming it like this always looks better IMO:

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by Anonymousreply 53Last Friday at 12:54 AM

If you have hair on your biceps, shoulders or back and wonder why you can't get a boyfriend...

Laser it off, and you might be surprised at how your luck will change.

by Anonymousreply 54Last Friday at 1:00 AM

You bitches question my sexuality when I say that if by 55 I don't find a partner I will just throw my lot in with a woman, yet here you are...whining about the fact that men are...well, men and have body hair. No doubt we have a bunch of millennial loons on here. The rest of us are attracted to body hair because it's a masculine thing....we are NORMAL gay men (translate = attracted to masculine features). And R22 is right also...some really mean people on here.

by Anonymousreply 55Last Friday at 1:42 AM

I absolutely adore hairy chest and legs. It turns me on when I look at a hot man who has hair in those places. But I hate guys who shave their pubic area. I want to fuck a man not a kid.

A hairy back may be fine for me if it's not a Yeti back.

by Anonymousreply 56Last Friday at 1:47 AM

I also love a hairy chest. Love a bush, as long as it's trimmed. Hate when it's close-cropped. Totally shaved is a boner-wilter and a no-go.

But I also am just repelled by hairy shoulders/back/upper arms/lower back. Ugggggh!!! *shivers*

by Anonymousreply 57Last Friday at 1:51 AM

Rice queens appreciate the smoothness of Asian boys.

by Anonymousreply 58Last Friday at 1:52 AM

So, if one has a hairy back and shoulders, does this mean their ideal sex partner is similarly hirsute?

Or do they prefer smooth guys?

My personal opinion is hairy tends to seek hairy.

by Anonymousreply 59Last Friday at 2:29 AM

R59 opposites attract

by Anonymousreply 60Last Friday at 2:48 AM

Count me in as not liking back and shoulder hair. To me it looks unkempt and gives the person a rather dirty appearance. It needs to be shaved or depilatoried at all costs IMO.

by Anonymousreply 61Last Friday at 3:45 AM

I'm fine with hairy shins/calves, hairy forearms, hairy chests, and hairy heads (but beards do need to be kept neat and trimmed). And pubes of course.

But I'm really turned off by hairy inner thighs taints ,balls, stomachs (except treasure trails), upper arms, shoulders, backs, and butts.

by Anonymousreply 62Last Friday at 6:33 AM

So much prissiness in this thread. And you wonder why we lust after straight men (though that prissiness has leaked into straight culture as well).

by Anonymousreply 63Last Friday at 6:38 AM

It's totally standard to shave, trim, and groom the hair on your head... facial hair, eye brows, nose hair, ear hair, the hair on your head... so why is the concept of shaving and grooming the hair on the rest of your body so looked down upon by men here? Talk about being ridiculous.

There's nothing grosser than a nest of unsightly unkempt hair, no matter where it resides on your body.


by Anonymousreply 64Last Friday at 6:40 AM

Those who are intolerant of hair have pedo tendencies.

by Anonymousreply 65Last Friday at 6:43 AM

No, R65. Just ... no.

by Anonymousreply 66Last Friday at 6:51 AM

I think naturally hairy bodies are making a comeback as porn is including them.

While hairy chests attract many men, I find that men with hairy chests tend to be in the minority with lots of men going after them

by Anonymousreply 67Last Friday at 3:07 PM

Because it's excessive. A hair on the chest, arms, and legs is sufficient.

by Anonymousreply 68Last Friday at 3:10 PM

Give me a caveman any day.

by Anonymousreply 69Last Friday at 3:36 PM

Correction: "...A bit of hair on the ..."

by Anonymousreply 70Last Friday at 3:45 PM

This OP made up 42 threads in the last week. FF and block. Good grief, grow up.

by Anonymousreply 71Last Friday at 3:47 PM

Gotta love all the gays on here lamenting the cruelty of others. Sure can dish it but you can't take it.

by Anonymousreply 72Last Friday at 3:59 PM

R55 if you do decide to throw in the towel and go for a woman would you be happy with her having hairy legs pits and crotch? Of course not, cause it's gross looking. Sorry if you have an unattractive part of your body but welcome to the real world where almost everyone has to change part of their appearance if they want acceptance.

by Anonymousreply 73Last Friday at 4:03 PM

I didn't realize so many here hate hairy balls.

Yeah, I guess they're kind of gross especially when sucking them, but smooth shaven balls are much better? Isn't it best to just trim them?

by Anonymousreply 74Last Friday at 4:35 PM

R55 Some? You're much too kind.

by Anonymousreply 75Last Friday at 4:41 PM

R73 - let me tell you, in high school I was pretty much closeted and dated a half-Persian girl. Her Persian mom subjected her to a nose job (at 15!), laser hair removal not only for her legs and arms and armpits but for her forehead to make if "higher" and all over her face (she had peach fuzz) and spend 2 hours every 2 days straightening her nice ringlets curls. It was painful and she was insecure all her young life. No way to live. As far as I am concerned, everyone has imperfections but on DL people freak out over MEN having chest hair (why that's an imperfection instead of normal I have no idea)...that is just as sick as making a woman remove her baby hair on the hairline for looking "Persian". C'mon.

The point is not about improvement here, it's about loathing something natural to a human being. Hairy chests on men are part of their masculine beauty just as curls and baby hair are part of Persian beauty. Self-improvement and grooming are normal, but when it gets to a point of calling people "disgusting" or "hairy monkeys", that is crossing the line.

by Anonymousreply 76Last Saturday at 12:58 AM

R75 - I am really starting to miss my 50+ year-old bottoms in LA. I NEVER heard them talk some of the aberrant stuff I read on here and they work in beauty and retail and deal with the large diversity of human beings in LA on the daily. Never have I heard one of them say "ewwww....the manly chest hair on those Armenians/Persians". They complained about the smell of their food on their bodies at most but never about their masculine features. DL isn't just infested with Repuke trolls, it's getting infested by some weird shut-in freaks.

by Anonymousreply 77Last Saturday at 1:05 AM

I like men who leave all the hair below the neck natural and ungroomed. When a clean cut clean shaven guy is a gorilla naked that is so hot.

by Anonymousreply 78Last Saturday at 1:15 AM

Some races are naturally smooth

by Anonymousreply 79Last Saturday at 1:16 AM

One time I was sitting with my boyfriend in a park and a friend of his I hadnt met yet came up behind me and put his t shirt over my head. Yes it was a weird thing to do,but he was an oddball. Anyhoo,As the t shirt engulfed my head I found myself nestled against a veritable mat of black chest hair ! Never one to let an opportunity go wasting,I turned my head,nuzzled in and gave a few good licks . Long story short,said boyfriend was gone not long after,and I had a lovely fling with hairy man ,who was hairy from head to toe (literally!) .

by Anonymousreply 80Last Saturday at 7:51 AM

This thread needs more pictures.

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by Anonymousreply 81Last Saturday at 8:31 AM

Why do gays ??? Which ones?

by Anonymousreply 82Last Saturday at 8:33 AM

R75 nobody in this thread is talking about hairy CHESTS as a bad thing. Read the subject line. Jesus.

by Anonymousreply 83Last Saturday at 9:01 AM

R81, that's the most disgusting picture I've ever seen in my whole fucking life.

by Anonymousreply 84Last Saturday at 9:01 AM

R81, so fucking hot!

I love guys with hairy asses

by Anonymousreply 85Last Saturday at 1:45 PM

Another hairy guy.

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by Anonymousreply 86Last Saturday at 2:19 PM

R86, is he twerking?

by Anonymousreply 87Last Sunday at 11:11 AM

[quote] Never have I heard one of them say "ewwww....the manly chest hair on those Armenians/Persians".

Speaking of Armenians, what initially clued me into just how hirsute they all are, was the first time going into my Jr. High locker room and seeing full chest and back hair at, like, 13. Made me wonder what they looked like at 31...

by Anonymousreply 88Last Sunday at 6:20 PM

It’s just hair.

by Anonymousreply 89Last Sunday at 6:24 PM

[quote] No doubt we have a bunch of millennial loons on here. T

Millennials didn't introduce the perfectly plucked hairless manscaping but I'll let you figure out who did

by Anonymousreply 90Last Sunday at 7:30 PM
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