PERHAPS OFF TOPIC, BUT can i get some serious replies to the following: about to turn 57 years old, only have 4000 IN TOTAL! savings, retirement, no 401 k, and owe over 50 thousand in student loans still! and WHY? because for over 10 years i have worked very very sporadically (last job was 5 years ago a temp job for only 4 months) because i have taken care of my father (passed away 3 years ago) and now my elderly mother and their elderly dog... AND NO, i can't work from home either with all that goes on and all that i do!.... i basically have no life and haven't had one in years and years.. i have siblings who seemingly don't get it or don't care enough as they go on with their lives, have their jobs, their husbands and wives, and think by bringing over food once a month they've done something... ANYWAY, so my mother (and my father) have various savings, money market accounts, cd's in their banks, as well as life insurance and annuities....
according to the WILL, everything is suppose to be divided between all of the siblings equally... HOWEVER, this is obviously not fair to me!
I am on one o f the money market accounts as a co-owner with my mother and technically when she passes i'm the sole owner and that money (around 250 thousand or so) is mine and it CAN NOT be touched by a WILL....i of course think i deserve every single penny of this and MORE!....
the life insurance and annuities divided between my siblings and i would give me another 30 thousand or so.... another money market account that was my father's savings is about 125 thousand (i'm not yet sure what happens to a CD in a bank that is under my mother's name and no one elses when she passes)...
i talk to friends about all of this and they say if everything was fair you would get ALL the money in the bank and share ONLY the life insurance/annuities with your siblings....
course they would think "wait, you want nearly 500 thousand dollars and we only get 30 to 40 thousand! are you insane???!!!"....
what they all seemingly don't realize is how much money do they think i've given up by not working all of these years? a very very low estimate would be let's say 40 thousand a year times (x) 10 years is 400 thousand just that! NOT to mention, by not working all of these years when i do retire (if i'm every able to do so!) i'll be getting hardly ANYTHING, maybe a few hundred dollars from social security!...
now granted, that doesn't automatically mean i would have saved 400 thousand dollars, but i WOULD have made that much at least!.....it's sad to me and outrageous to me that none of my siblings "get this"?!... i've given up my life taking care of OUR parents (and their dog which is a 24 /7 job in itself!) living with them for over 15 years now!!... i'm the one who was career goal oriented and the only one with a college degree, i'm the one who was SUPPOSE to have the nice house, career, etc....anyway...
SO what say you all of you experienced about to retire or have retired persons?... AM i wrong! AM I asking for too much?