As a gay man are you embarrassed?

I’m fine with it as there are plenty of over-50 straight men who chase young tail. I just think it’s odd that those men haven’t figured out by that age that sex isn’t that important and there are so many other pursuits that bring much deeper and more meaningful fulfillment. Like drinking and drugging or overeating or other decadent behaviors, age should bring wisdom that minimizes the need to chase momentary pleasures and focus on things that being deeper meaning or insight - or or appreciate the awesomeness of nature, art and the world.

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No. I don't get embarrassed by the behavior of others, unless it's something that directly involves me. And even that's a maybe.

There's a line between not caring what others think and pathetic, OP, and too many older gay men fall into the latter category, usually without realizing it.

But I am not personally embarrassed by them or for them.

It doesn't embarrass me as it doesn't affect me. I do find it a little sad though.

Yes OP, that is a sad existence and symptom of a larger problem in their life.

Not embarrassed, but I think someone like Tom Bianchi is rather pathetic (despite his money) with his constant and relentless quest for a "soul mate du jour."

Also way up on the pathetic list are the assholes looking for "daddy." Please take your unresolved parental issues to the nearest shrink and stay there until your seriously fucked up hang-ups are resolved.

No, my life is my life and I'm not hanging by the waist around other people. If I were affected by this gay hyper-empathy thing, I would have killed myself already so I would not become an OCD old coot like OP and start a stupid thread like this.

R5 said what I think but to be honest I find a lot gay life pretty sad at any stage. Theres's a lot of dumb choices reaffirmed.

But, they're your choices to make.

People's sex lives is one thing about people I rarely if ever pass judgement on. Whatever floats your boat I say, unless you're doing harm to yourself or others. If some 70 year old still wants to go out in search of some 20 year old tail, fine by me. If he can get it, more power to him.

No. It doesn't have an impact on me or my life in any way. In fact, I think people just need to leave other people alone. Everyone is making their own movie, and guess what - you're not in it, you're not the director or producer either.

[quote] I rarely if ever pass judgement on.

I’m judging you. But then, I’m judgmental.

I do think a lot of things we do reflect the low self esteemed that comes from being a kid hearing fags being mocked.

As a hawt young gay, I don't like the idea that any gays over the age of 29 are having sex.

OP, I'm unclear why you "cringe with embarrassment". The behavior of others, and particularly a very small subset of gay men in the 50+ age category, is not your concern and their behavior doesn't make all elder gays (of which I am one) look bad. Live and let live.

Hawt Young Gag...

Fine will cut your penis off once you reach your last day of being 29!

I am happy when other people find ways to enjoy their lives. Older gay men out looking for sex has nothing to do with me and I would suggest you learn to be more tolerant.

I find it sad.

Eh, if they are not breaking the law, it's really no one else's business. Gay men are men just like straight men, and if they're overly interested in sex, then they are no different than straight men who are overly interested in sex.

Why the hell are you looking at the social media of people you disapprove of, OP?

I mean I'm not like that and don't want to know the details of my peers' sex life, but that doesn't mean that they have any obligation to keep from posting about their sex lives on social media. I mean, they presumably hope to benefit by putting the details out there and maybe get the attention of other people who share their tastes, and if I don't like it I'm totally free to pass on reading.

One of the lessons of age is, as an eldergay quoting Barbara Stanwyck as Mary Carson [italic]in[/italic] The Thorn Birds: Inside this stupid body, I'm still young. I still feel. I still want. I still dream.

And so will you.

I recognize there's a delicate balance between what's inside, what's reality and making a fool of yourself to the outside world. And so might you.

No

My challenge: being a 55 year old man who loves to dance at clubs. I know the young’uns think I look ridiculous but I love the spirit and joy of communal dancing. I’ve found that Wilton Manors and Palm Springs are great environments for eldergays to live out their younger inner selves without judgment.

Just embarrassed of the hypocrisy. When you have gay men like this telling other gay men how to live their lives or run their business.

If you want to present yourself like this, when you’re in your 50s/60s, then you need to let gay men run their lives how they see fit.

“Alpha Top, hung, love Peach, Aubergine and Splashing sweat symbol. Love being a Daddy, 6’1”, 235#, 17.5” arms, beefy muscle. Leftist AF. Boystown. FFC He/Him”

I like R23

Party on, young man!

As someone in my early 30s, I'm more embarassed by the "Yasssss" gays my age or younger who consider Brtiney and Taylor Swift gay icons and salivate at everything they do. They have no taste. They are destroying the good stereotype of gays being more tasteful than straights!

I do too, r25.

I think r23 would be a great person to hang out with.

People have different sex drives, even past 50. If that’s what turns their crank, why would I care?

That’s the point, r28, I’m trying to get someone ELSE to turn my crank.

That may not be what you meant, though.