Would you date a bi-guy?

Useless without a poll, OP

Never.

Never...hard enough with a gay man.

I’m only into bi and mostly straight dudes

I've met a few dozen genuinely bi guys over time, and every one of them told me that they planned to have an LTR with a woman when they're ready to settle down. Never another man. To them, gay men existed only for short term recreational sex.

So OP, my answer is no.

Married to one.

Here's a thread we don't do once a week!

Dating for fun, 100% ok with it. Looking for LTR, never would I ever.

FUCK. NO.

Disease-ridden whores that will throw you under the bus for a whiff of fish any chance they get.

I have played with bi and straight questioning guys . They're delusional that's for sure.

I think Bi-guys are in denial. They are gays who are incapable to face their sexuality. For one night it can be very delicious and orgasmic but not for a serious relationship

We can be fuckbuddies, friends, frenemies -- whatever -- but never bfs. To love a bi guy romantically, for me, is to commit suicide.

^^ this x 1000.

They always end up with women, so definitely not. Just curious, are there any bi guys here on DL?

Same as dating a gay man.

Just a man that will leave you for a woman.

[quote] Just a man that will leave you for a woman.

Oh please, what bi guy has ever given up dick for pussy? Most bi guys would never even go near pussy.

They marry women and go down low. Who needs this?

Theoretically I would be open to it. I have very different tastes in men from fem twinks to older daddy types, so I get being attracted to different 'people'. But in reality I doubt it. As others have said, I have enough problems with gay men, I dont need to be adding another sexual layer to it My experiences with them even just on a social level have turned me off. Especially the self identified gay-leaning ones. Often crazy or deeply insecure. Deeply, deeply insecure.

Most bi guys end up gay. Most bi women end up straight.

Lived with one for 10 years....DON'T .

Only for fun. Most likely he’ll want a long term relationship with a woman at some point so I can’t handle that. Too many I know have been heart broken by supposedly bi men.

I have several

Yes.

If he can't commit to himself, why would he commit to you?

No, but I would fuck him several times.

The “bisexual” male will almost invariably pursue public/family approval with a female.

I briefly dated a guy that was openly bi, but after we had been dating for a while, he started bringing up the idea of us having a threesome with a woman, I told him I'm gay and not interested in having sex with a woman, but he keeps pushing, and I kept saying no then one day he tells me he'd already talked about it with one of his female friends and that she would be totally into it, we stopped dating.

R20 nailed it. The dick wins in the end for Bi men and women.

Only if he was filthy rich and at death's door. Otherwise, definitely not. The voice of experience.

It didn’t go well for Elio and Oliver.

Nope.

Maybe a bi guy wouldn't want to date a bunch of stuck up puritans....

No, because bisexuality is greedy.

I've created a new, more accurate Datalounge Motto:

'Acceptance, acceptance.

It's the thing for me.

But ask for it from me?

It's not for thee!'

[Yes, I would and have dated a bisexual guy. Damn, this place is ignorant AF.]

Dating is one thing,hoping for a long term relationship with one is quite another. Bi guys ALWAYS end up with women in the end. ALWAYS.

I am most attracted to bi and straight guys. Pretty much exclusively. I do believe there are truly bi men. And I do believe there are truly straight men, who like to have sex with men for various reasons.

Seek help.

Imagine feeling like damaged goods for a sexual orientation

I do believe that r37 has a strong preference for emotionally unavailable partners. Which is funny, because plenty of gay guys would hit it and quit it, but I guess that's still too much risk.

No, he just has "masculinity issues".

Relationships are overrated. Have fun, don't get too invested emotionally.

Would fuck, hell yes. Date, LTR? It would end in tears. And yes, they always date women and are never fully comfortable with their homo side.

I prefer them, though. The hot ones anyway. They’re basically straight guys who will sometimes have sex with other guys. For all intents and purposes, that’s what the vast majority of bi guys are. And they’re all the sexier for it.

A 100% gay guy who’s emotionally and practically available? Ewwww.

Better ask women. They are the ones who have issues with it., cause most bi guys tell the male guy gays and make bis that they are, yet keep it out of conversation with their girlfriends

My ex is bi, but hid from myself kept it from our and all of our mutual friends who were straight

Straight women don’t mind and would love to participate even straight one.

For fucking only. Many above have already eloquently provided details as to why this would be the wisest choice.

He will tell you he is bi and then you find out he’s bi-curious. Bi-curious men are scrapey-toothed bottoms and I am not a mentally qualified therapist for anyone.

Nope.

Why don't they just date each other?

Well, it hard to get jealous over another woman. You can hardly compare yourself and feel you lacked something other than a vagina if he left you for a chick..

So, yes.

I did in my 20s. Predictably, it did end well. He proclaimed he was openly bi.

We were not dating exclusively and he often told me about women he dated. One night, I ordered takeout from a restaurant and when I went to pick it up. As I was exiting, he came in with a woman. I smile, greeted them, and paused so as to exchange pleasantries. His date introduced herself and I recognized the name from our conversations. When she asked me how I knew him, I said that we were also dating. I didn’t stay to see how things went, but he called me later that night. He was irate. I hung up on him and a half hour later, he was buzzing my door from outside, screaming at me on the intercom. It turns out that seeing him at the restaurant was the last time I saw him.

Well, why in the heck did you go and do a thing like that, R49?

No thank you, not for me.

Straight women have even less willingness than us gays to date them. They do not want a man who is 'on the DL' (and I don't mean Datalounge).

I've dated two. Both claimed they favored women and used that as ammunition against me, and against gay men in general. One had deep internalized homophobia which showed in his treatment of other men. d

Not into marinated meat.

What do you mean they used their stated preference for women as “ammunition” against you and other gay men, R52?

Ever notice how Bi-Guys never acknowledge they are bi in front of straight crowds or parties? They LOVE to pretend they are straight and "its not big deal" not mentioning they are Bi. But in a gay crowd, of course they are openly and publicly gay and maybe Bi. It's always a shifting definition with them.

If they were truly Bi, then they should not be closeted about it when it's convenient.

R49, I had an almost identical experience, but I walked away when he pretended not to know me — after 5 months of dating. I’ve dated 3 guys who were bisexual and let’s just say that the rhythms were off.

Bi guys are not gay. They’re bi. They’re in a category all by themselves. Best let them date each other, but if you’re gay? RUN.

[quote] Bi guys are not gay. They’re bi. They’re in a category all by themselves. Best let them date each other, but if you’re gay? RUN.

Gospel truth. I learned my lesson from dating one years ago. Never again. They truly duplicitous individuals, it's in their nature.

R54

It would be used as a method of triangulation, to generate conflict, interest, or a sense of competition by getting close to or highlighting closeness to his ex wife or women he'd dated since. He'd make sure to mention how much easier women were and how dramatic gay men could be. He would sometimes refer to things as "faggy", but probably had my semen leaking out of his ass at the same time.

Yes and in some countries it's common.

No. They are liars and game players. They are just as harmful to date as an Aspie or an addict.

That’s an astute comparison, R60.

I have in the past. It doesn't really matter to me. If someone's got a wandering eye they've got a wandering eye. If someone cheats on you, they cheated on you, doesn't matter what gender.

R62

What you're doing is NOT stereotyping and maligning an entire demographic group.

That's not the datalounge way. The datalounge way is to view other groups in the same way that homophobes view them: as inherently immoral, mentally unstable, a threat.

These people see bisexuals and transgender people the same way that homophobes see them.

The only way to test your theory, R63, is to be true is to find some homophobes who have dated gay men.

R64

That shouldn't be hard. Homophobes who have dated gay men; so, in other words, gay republicans.

Straight women do not want to date them, according to my women friends. They think bi guys are as promiscuous as the sluttiest of gay men, and walking pits of disease. However, they do lament that the bi guys are often gorgeous and sexy, though toxic.

I don't know, some of my partners have accused me of being bi because I fucked around with women (and, if no men are available, I probably could again when this shit with COVID ends). However, if I am out and about, I always search for a nelly bottom and don't really think about women. Out of hunger I have thought about fucking a few but overall, it's always about men. Also, I haven't once been with a man who said he was bi. I kind of find them a bit disturbing tbh.

Bi men - emotionally into women, sexually into men. There's the issue.

[quote] Bi guys are not gay. They’re bi. They’re in a category all by themselves.

That category is called FICTION.

Then you're Bi R67 and best avoided by gay men.

Good god no.

The “No” guys on here are in denial. If the Bi guy is hot and your type looks-wise, of course you would date him and convince yourself he is really gay (until he leaves you for a woman).

I'm a guy and yes, I would date a bi-guy. I'd even be open to allowing him to date women, but I wouldn't be open to him dating other men.

R73, are you a masochist, or...?

[quote] That category is called FICTION.

You obviously haven’t known any actual bisexual men in your life.

If the sex is good and it’s not serious, why not?

A bi guy loved me several years ago without any sex, just a ton of tension and lately, admission. I'd have dated him that several years ago. This desire faded a few years ago. And now he's have to work to convince me.

Do that new gallop poll that just came out that found 1 in 6 "identify" as LGBTQ+? the survey also showed a whopping ONE PERCENT of bisexuals in same sex relationships. LMAO it's a little lower than the pew study that found 8% a couple years ago.

[quote]Would you date a bi-guy?

Gay male here and I would never, ever date a bi-guy OP. Not for any reason whatsoever - and the reasons have been listed over and over here at DL for the last 2 decades.

I think you're just trolling actually.

I am married to a bi man. And have been for nearly five years. We’ve been together almost ten years.

It’s possible. Just like it’s possible for gay men not to cheat on you with other gay men.

Not again, no. I dated one for a year and a half. He cheated on me with a woman and knocked her up.

I can't compete with that.

We broke up, and he married her and she shit out a couple more kids.

He's fat now.

R74, hello. This is R73. No I am not a masochist. I guess it would have to be a somewhat open relationship. Maybe have fun on the side, but don't bring anyone home.

I have. Unremarkable, really. Didn't try to do a three way, would occasionally remark on a woman's beauty but it was just a short term, bland relationship. I broke up with him because he didn't seem to have any sort of life plan or ambition besides DJing through his 20's. He has three ex-wives and six kids now.

I mean aren't there any bi guys on DL to chime in on this thread?

No, They aren't worth the mess.

No. Wouldn't even consider dating a bi-guy. God no.

Bi woman. Would date and have dated bi men and other bi women, with the same sorts of successes and failures you'd expect from any set of relationships. I'm sure it helps that I am bi myself and not going into these relationships with a lot of irrational fears and weird preconceived notions about bisexuality and bi people. Other than "they like women AND men," there's really nothing you can say about bisexuals that applies to the entire demographic. As with any group, some are assholes and some are lovely human beings; some are terrible at relationships and others are wonderful boyfriends or girlfriends. It used to piss me off when DLers made ignorant remarks such as "it's in every bisexual's nature to be duplicitous"; now it just makes me laugh and feel a bit of pity for those who live such willfully limited lives.

My only rule for dating other bi people (or anybody, really) is that they must be OUT. I'm not interested in being some chick's dirty secret or finding out after months of dating that my boyfriend has boyfriends of his own. (Having them is fine, depending on the "rules" of the relationship; pretending you're not even interested in other guys is not fine.) And I've grown too old and cranky to enjoy playing therapist to well-meaning bis and lezzies who are just too scared and insecure to deal openly with their same-sex attractions.