Long distance relationships

Yes I have. It didn't work out in the end because of the distance.

Yes I have been in one for 8 years. My boyfriend lives 350 miles away. We have an open relationship. It's been hard during the pandemic, but that's been the only downside.

I'd suggest you open up to new partners so that the physical side of things is taken care of, so that you can concentrate on supporting each other mentally and emotionally.

You are not talking about a long-distance relationship. You will have a short-term separation when your partner deploys.

It's for two damn months. You can't try a bit of abstinence to make the homecoming extra wonderful?

Two months? Suck it up princess.

I think that's the issue R4

The princess won't be able to suck.

Two months of long distance is absolutely nothing, and if you're worried about that, to me that's a bit of an alarm bell that your relationship isn't that stable tbh.

I've been with my partner for a year and a half, he is 400 miles away. Monogamous, but I believe our ages help with this (I am 50 and he is 62.) We've seen each other twice during the pandemic (drove, did not fly.) The reunions are exciting and phenomenal. It is difficult, but he is worth the wait. Technology does help tremendously.

My husband and I started out long distance. Did that for 3 years. Worked out. 21 years together now. Wasn’t always easy, but relationships that last tend not to be. It’s got to be worth it. If you can’t last a few months while he WORKS FOR FEMA HELPING THE WORLD GET OVER A PANDEMIC, odds aren’t forever in your favor anyway.

This will surely end in tears, OP.

If you already know there's an end date for his trip, just remind yourself of that. Its like sitting through a bad movie....it won't last forever.

This could actually be great for you two. You get some time and space to reficus on yourself and a chance to write romantic letters/take funny photos/etc.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

And yeah, it's only 8 weeks, you'll live. Chill.

I was in one for 4 months while I was deployed to Afghanistan. It was actually kind of romantic--we e-mailed each other nearly every day, wrote letters weekly, and sent each other little gifts about once a month. Two months really is nothing in the age of Skype, WhatsApp, Facetime, etc. Plus, if he's deploying with the federal government he's going to be making some serious money in per diem payments. Start making a list of places you want to go when travel starts opening up...

My friends are a long distance couple—one in the US and the other in Germany.

They are realistic and have an open relationship but when they are together, their love is palpable.

Their jobs are very country-specific so can’t move. They see each other about 4 times a year

I knew a guy in a situation similar to what R12 describes. He was an opera singer and seemed very much in love with his husband. However, he was always on Scruff and made it clear his relationship was open. Part of me was skeptical at first, but when he went back home to visit his husband he seemed genuinely happy.

yes; it lasted 8 years with 4 in the same town and 4 in different cities 300 miles apart.

it worked year 1 and then sucked.

oh, just saw this was a 2 month issue. i have traveled 2 straight months with my current partner. that's not a big deal. but sounds like op needs to be on aids-avoiding drugs since she'll be slutting it up

Wow OP, you're straight up pathetic!

He's lucky to get time away from you.

If Connor and Miles can make it work for over 2 years, you can do it for 2 months.

I managed it with a Navy officer for six years before he got out. If you want I to work, it’ll work.

I’m in one right now with my boyfriend who lives in the future.