DL People How Long Has It Been Since You've Had Sex?

Towards the end of February 2020.

...never had it a first time...

Actually, it just occurred to me that, should I be very unlucky in these trying times, I could literally die an adult virgin and paradoxically I'd be the envy of all those Xtian Repug hetero women who mercilessly bullied me in youth. Funny how these things shake out.

Anyway, knock on wood I'll live and stay healthy, so I can finally do the do with a woman I'm into in the next year or two.

Ugh. Since yesterday evening...about 9:30. Hooked up with a limp-dick top...wasted my time, after I spent ages cleaning out. Guess it serves me right for hoeing during Covid.

it's been 84 years

The Carter administration..

April 15 2015.

Yesterday afternoon, by the fire. Yeah, it was hot.

[quote]Anyway, knock on wood

R2, I think you'll be doing anything BUT that! 😀😂

Those dates are strangely specific. I'll leave to one side - though perhaps just for a moment - how odd it would be to have your most recent sexual encounter be on Feb 29. I'm more interested in what happened on March 14. Are you not sure what happened that day was actually sex?

When they gave that party after the signing of the Declaration of Independence. Big to-do and I gave head to, I think, Ed Rutledge. But, christ, it's a long time ago so my memory is fuzzy.

About 22 hours

For those of you who are going without, what's the longest dry spell you've ever had - does this qualify?

I think the longest I've not had sex for since my first time is probably about 8 weeks. University finals and a messy break-up meant I just wasn't in the mood.

I have a partner. We live together. Use your imagination.

Some grndr kick gave me gonorrhea and Hep A, 2 weeks ago. Guys, use condoms. Prep just saves you from hiv but there's other shit out there - literally

[quote] I have a partner. We live together. Use your imagination.

OMG poor you. Has it been YEARS?

R13 a few years then? :-D

Lesbian bed death: it's real.

Met my bf at the beginning of Covid, but because of certain circumstances and the possibility of coming into contact with a coworker who is now positive, Haven't seen each other in a few weeks. Missing the fuck out of him.

Good one R15 R16! :)

This morning. Last night. A couple days before...

Two years but I live in a small town, and the only guys that would be interested are married closet cases, and I don't mess with those.

I am sex-negative. Ages. In order for us to evolve as humanity we need to stop focusing on animalistic urges of Sex.

10 years

Fuck

Never had it. Too fucked up from attachment disorder. And my pussy smells. I don't get it, I'm using probiotic cream like a champ. It's called Ellen.

I'm asexual. Bachelor. I feel disgusted by sex.

R14, YIKES!

Why are you not insisting on condoms?

Is it really worth it? I mean, now you have HEP A and, and although I’ve never had the clap, I cannot imagine what a sad affair it would be to take a piss or a shit or both, having the clap in my ass or urethra.

So happy I lost my virginity with condoms involved. I never ended up with these troublesome consequences.

Because let me tell you all something kids:

There are some fucked up tricks out there who will fuck you even when there sick is about to fall off and manage to get it up while their groin is the worst pain possible.

Those dudes?

They’re the same dudes who haven’t taken an HIV test in months or years, and run around telling folks they think they had CoViD because they had bad flu like symptoms for a few weeks. But those tricks don’t tell you or their friends that they never had a CoViD test, a Hep ABC or E test, a full panel STI test or an HIV test. Then when they’re finally in the ER with Pneumonia or some lesions on their body, they think to themselves, “Fuck it. If I test POZ for HIV, I’ll be OK because I’ll just take my meds and use PREP, and eventually take some vaccine”.

Nah, man. That’s not how that shit works. Depending on MANY variables, including the adherence to 100% compliance of pharmacological-prophylaxis regiments available for treatment and management of disease, you may or not be OK.

I am not sure why the community never discusses this. Many people who are HIV POZ STILL die of AIDS complications and there are ZERO guarantees that PREP will be beneficial to anyone, within a certain amount of time.

This CoViD thing has allowed me to study virology in ways I did not understand 15 years ago, when I personally though I knew all there was to know about HIV.

Here’s what I learned:

The eco system of viruses almost always win. Same with bacteria and fungi. These things will outlast us all, and no matter how far we have come in medical advancements, and no matter that we can cure certain cancers when treated at certain points, here is something we have NEVER managed to do...

Cure the common cold.

Think about this, my gaylings. Do not place your insatiable holes or cocks at risk, because I have seen the ravages of what HIV does to the body up close. I have seen the progression from responding well to the meds and then getting the gut wrenching news about T Cell Counts. I have seen the going blind, the inability to walk, suddenly out of nowhere and just drop in the kitchen. And I have seen the X-Rays with the brain tumor that wasn’t there 3 months ago but is going to kill my best friend in less than three weeks and just devastate his body and make him unrecognizable in 21 days or less.

Worst part?

I have seen it more than once.

Condoms and lube are so cheap and so fucking easy. As long as you keep dirty needles out of your veins, there’s no safer way than making condoms a non negotiable method of protecting yourselves from this profoundly fucked up disease, as well as others.

OP, I fuck myself regularly, and in more ways than one or in the literal sense. Good vibes, & all of that! 🍆

Thanks for asking, doll.

February 24th. No sex since then. Desperate for ass but not desperate enough to risk my life. Also, I gained weight.

It usually tales longer than two weeks for a Hep A infection to become detectable.

Just saying.

For the non believers, please read this ever relevant link below.

Poaching, climate changes world wide, and a million other things do NOT guarantee us safety when vaccines arise. I’ll take a CoViD vaccine as soon as I can because I’m not stupid and know how to measure my odds, however, the virus and all of it’s close relatives and extended family members wants us all to know that it is not going away, because we are too stupid to kill it and that right there, is all that needs to be said.

Imagine, never asking why and where killer viruses originate? Even worse and sad, is being asked to wear a mask and REFUSING to do so because you have zero issues with gambling away with the lives of others.

Learn this now, or we do not get to stay here. Aliens and spaceships aren’t saving us, nor are angels or faeries.

We either save ourselves, or we perish. Common sense and science, not bootstraps, matter.

From article linked below:

“ Telfer booted up his laptop to show me a digital picture taken on a previous trip to Bakoumba. If we were lucky, he said, we might find something similar on the outing planned for the next day. Hunters often cannot eat all their kill, so they display the extra meat in front of their shacks. Driving past one shack, Telfer had noticed a pair of bloody mandrill arms hung up for sale. He pulled over to speak with the woman who lived there and asked what had happened to the mandrill's head. He had photographed the answer. The gruesome image shows the woman holding the head of a male mandrill. The animal has big, crooked teeth; one eye is open in a death glare, and blood courses across the monkey's face and down its beard. The head partly blocks the message on the woman's T-shirt, so that it reads IS BEAUTIFUL. Close inspection reveals that mandrill blood is dripping onto two of the woman's fingers. "If people asked me how HIV could have entered humans, this is what I would show them," Telfer said.”

2018

One year in March

2 days ago with my otherwise social distancing best friend / fuck buddy.

2016

Last night. It pays to be married for 25 years and just roll over in bed.

No one has sex anymore.

[quote] Some grndr kick gave me gonorrhea and Hep A

Why haven’t you been vaccinated for Hep A?

How are you defining "sex"?

With another person? 7 years, OP. Not since January 2013.

Not sure I miss it.

R38-You're not interested in sex anymore? How old are you?

I just jerk off now but then again I was never really a fan of people so it's okay.

27 years.

The beginning of October. The onset of the holiday season and seeing everyone stupidly traveling and having huge family gatherings made me "come" to my senses.

I met some fuckbuddies in the summer when things were more relaxed.

Three years. Maybe four. Who cares anymore?

I think it would be interesting to know the ages of the posters. These things are all relative, but the poster's age is probably quite determinative.

I can’t say it out loud because I’m in denial.

About a year ago, on vacation.

During the Taft administration.

It was with Taft.

I’m 48 and fucked a hot bear last week

Two last night. It was slow start for the week.

hot bear- Isn't that an oxymoron?

I'm having sex with three men even as I type!

One year in March.

At first I was clawing the walls but now I’m fine

R53- YOU GO GURL!

Jan. 30th, 2021, BF and I had a three way with a very hot 6’4” black guy - muscle bound with a very big cock. He had just been tested for COVID and showed us the results. And he was on PreP (showed us his meds) and BF and I also on PreP so we fucked and sucked each other all night. Had a blast.

That's Hot, r56. Your butt clap should show up toward the end of next week.

About an hour and a half ago.

I’m having sex right now...

Wow, so many guys here had it last when I did: the last week of February 2020.

I'm 60. Have put on a lot of weight.

Last Monday, 2/1/21 during the NYC snowstorm at some guys hotel room in midtown. I ate his ass, he came in my mouth and I fed his load back to him. A fun hour.

Any kind of sexual encounter? It was at least three or four years ago. And that was just heavy making out and grinding. I didn't even get off. He did though. But of course he did.

I've just never been confident with one off encounters. I don't have to be in a full-on relationship, or in love, but I need a little SOMETHING to make it work. I was almost infected with HIV once, so I just don't trust people at all. And that takes the air out of any potential enjoyable experience.

I wasn't always like this. What I miss most, is the physical contact. Being awakened in bed two hours after falling asleep, for an encounter. I love that.

[quote] "hot bear- Isn't that an oxymoron?"

No. It's redundant.

Not since December 2019 with this guy who lives about 4 blocks from me (we hooked up twice actually). So I had already been in a dry spell for 3/4 months when COVID hit.

[quote]Last Monday, 2/1/21 during the NYC snowstorm at some guys hotel room in midtown. I ate his ass, he came in my mouth and I fed his load back to him. A fun hour.

I live in Harlem now, but R61, your post makes me miss the days I lived in Hell's Kitchen. You're always just a 10-minute walk away from all the horny businessmen staying in Midtown hotels.

Two weeks ago. You bitches are pussy. Covid ain't shit.

January 9, 2020

R56, How did you meet him?

It's been almost exactly a year, and even that was just some quick oral action. I haven't had penetrative sex since November 2019. I recently had a stressful work project that really sapped my libido, but now that it's over I've been popping boners like a teenager.

23.5 hours ago I blew a hot ( really) 70 year old Retired Navy MCPO . The wife kicked the bucket and with the kids grown he was free to experiment !!! I met him at the gun range , and he had "old school" navy tats like an anchor on this forearm Anchor's Aweigh !!!!

During half time of the Super Bowl. The Weekend was lame, and we were horned up. And it was just us five from our Covid sex bubble. We all needed to drop a load.

2018, I forget the month. I was diagnosed with genital herpes in 2015 so casual sex doesn't really work. And most guys bail out after I disclose.

On the plus side, I give myself AMAZING orgasms.

R70 were your fingers greasy from the chicken wings? Did you have plenty of Vanity Fair Dinner Napkins available? And most importantly was it one bottom for 5 tops? Was that bottom you ?

oh mary. take your valtrex and get on with your sex life.

My god Datalounge seems 85% celibate worrywarts these days.

Valtrex doesn't prevent transmission.

Sex ? WTF I am busy cleaning my oven !!!

last weekend and tomorrow

one can take Valacyclovir permanently, daily, and never have an outbreak. no transmission. at least in Europe this is standard.

March 5, 2020, on a business trip.

The following week everything went into lockdown.

I'm 41, gained about 30 pounds due to an illness, and feel utterly sexless and disgusting. It happening anytime soon. The last time was last Feb when I was hot and fit.

R69- YOU GO GURL!

[quote]2018, I forget the month. I was diagnosed with genital herpes in 2015 so casual sex doesn't really work. And most guys bail out after I disclose.

R71, at least you're honest and tell them, which is more than can be said for a lot of other guys, so kudos to you for being a stand-up guy.

I honestly didn't know that you could take Valtrex daily and transmission would be so low. Thanks R77!! All I need to do is get a prescription for that, another for PrEP, lose this covid weight, get vaccinated for covid-19, and I can stop disclosing and go back to being a sexually active adult man. (sorry R81, I'd rather be a lie-down man). Life is way too short not to spend it fucking as many men as possible.

I almost hooked up with a guy but when I said I wanted to wait until I got the Covid vaccine he stopped talking to me.

October, with a friend. Prior to that, once in June with a different friend and once in July with a third friend. Those are the only times since the start of the pandemic in February.

Yesterday.

Can a friend with benefits ever become just a regular friendship?

2 years. Can't believe I just typed that.

I went for a massage in February last year; a nice Asian kid. I saw him on and off for years.

Language barrier, but he's sweet and gentle; and a hard worker. He's not into me and I'm really not that into him, but I'd leave feeling nurtured and stress-free. I was able to zone out for an hour to 90 minutes.

I used to think it was kind of a sad substitute for having a real BF or even a 'real' FB.

Of course, now, I realize how lucky I was. It was human contact and in his own way, I think he cared about me. A little, at least.

R83, you dodged a bullet.

Cripes. I feel like it's the 80s all over again.

I've had people say to me 'wellll...you 'look' safe."

I want to say, it's a VIRUS that's airborne. You can't base it on the fact that I look like I don't get laid much.

R86, I suppose so, but why would you want it to?

About five days ago. A lovely younger fem guy (mid 30's?), gave him a nice massage too, played safe. Figured he might be fem as he had a pink and white floral clutch purse. I'm 58

Hey OP - I'm not saying I don't miss sex, and I do enjoy masturbatory activities, I'm not sure I miss sex with other people. I don't rule it out. I'm 54, btw, but I think this was brought on more by a nasty separation I experienced 7 years ago from my partner of 17 years. It was just such a betrayal, I think I lost the desire to ever be intimate with anyone again - and I mean intimate in terms of trusting and open which would be prerequisites for sex for me, even in a recreational encounter. My core relationships at this time in my life are with people with whom I have a history of probably 15 years or more. I'm social and can get to know new people but it takes time. I would never surrender myself immediately to another person, I don't have that capacity anymore to be romantic and trusting from the off. Anything romantic would still be a process for me. But, don't worry, I'm perfectly happy and feel secure and protected living my own life.