I never heard the Tobey M Steamworks story/rumor. There's been dozens of rumors about celebs at Steamies. (Plus the patently false one about Obama and Rahm at Man's Country.)
In the late 90s I lived and worked in Andersonville - near a string of gay bars and a video store there on the upper floors of a building. We had quite a few actors hanging out in those places - not any huge A listers but a few Steppenwolf types. I don't know if they were craving some guy on guy action, researching a role, or what. But those kind of guys - many of them 30something, married, etc. would always come to that little stretch in A'ville because it WASN'T the center of the community. Not that we didn't get other more public type visitors.....I remember seeing Michael T. Weiss in one of the bars there a few times. We also saw a few indie musician types. And of course more porn actors than you could even count.
Anyway, I went to the arcade one late Friday evening after bars closed and I hadn't hooked up. There was a handsomeish, tall man wandering around the video arcade who had sunglasses on. He looked to be in his 40s or 50s but it was dim lighting and his sunglasses and ballcap hid his face, Anyway, right in the center of the room (outside all the little stalls/rooms/seating areas), dude unzips and pulls out a very long, veiny cock, with a downward curve.
It gets so quiet you could hear a pin drop (and a few videos playing) and one guy said, "Damn!" Someone tried to walk toward him and he shook his head no, gesturing his arm to stand back. So like four of us watched this guy for a few minutes, stroking this very long dick. His dick gets redder and the head more flared, and we hear him muttering "fuck....fuck!" and then he cums. It's almost comical how much he cums, and he didn't stop stroking, so it sort of goes everywhere. He zips up, not a word, goes downstairs.
About five minutes later, the young chubby queen who was the cashier/gatekeeper downstairs came up. Usually he only ever came upstairs (once in a blue moon) to check that everyone was behaving, etc. This time he bounced up excitedly, looking around at all of our little rooms. I leaned my head out to see what was happening, and he turns to me and says:
"So, which one of you hooked up with John Malkovich?"