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What's the most superficial thing you've ever secretly done to make yourself more sexually attractive?

I used to use retin-a on my junk in the hopes that it would keep everything down there looking young and pert. I've bleached my asshole at home with 6% hydroquinone (worked a treat, FWIW). I also went through this particularly insecure period where I'd go and get a spray tan before any first date where I thought there was a chance I'd be getting naked.

::hangs head in shame::

by Anonymousreply 55January 29, 2021 3:21 PM

Naired my lower back before a date. But it was too long before the date (Nair is like shaving; your skin is smooth maybe for 12-24 hours at most). While making out, date felt the stubble and had a noticeable reaction. Fail!

by Anonymousreply 1January 28, 2021 1:06 PM

Tit (pectoral) implants. They look great and men really love them, but I lost sensation in my nipples. I want them removed.

by Anonymousreply 2January 28, 2021 1:11 PM

Would your nip sensation come back if you got 'em taken out?

by Anonymousreply 3January 28, 2021 1:12 PM

Body contouring procedures: Emsculpt for my abs to increase musculature and reduce fat and Coolsculpt under my chin. Can’t say I really saw much difference as a result, but they emptied a few thousand from my bank account.

by Anonymousreply 4January 28, 2021 1:20 PM

shaved my pussy to the bone!

by Anonymousreply 5January 28, 2021 1:21 PM

I did the 'Just for Men' thing on my facial hair for a few months when it started to get more than more gray than not. The graying hair never bothered me, but the facial hair did a bit. I took much care to do it subtly but I dislikes the vanity of maintaining my small illusion more than I disliked the gray itself and threw it it.

After abandoning the brief experiment I got much more sex, a nice consolation.

by Anonymousreply 6January 28, 2021 1:21 PM

Lunchtime lipo under my chin. Gave me my jawline back.

by Anonymousreply 7January 28, 2021 1:25 PM

My mom has huge bags under and her eyes and droopy eyelids. It’s like she’s always squinting and my friends used to call her Janice. I worry that the same will happen to me. After reading the Jared Leto thread, I wonder if I should get a preventative eye lift..... but it kills me to even think like that.

by Anonymousreply 8January 28, 2021 1:31 PM

R8 same situation here, I had upper and lower blepharoplasty done at age 35.

Now, at 51, I have no bags (and no surprised look). But my brow is starting to get droopy/heavy, and I've already had a coronal brow lift.

by Anonymousreply 9January 28, 2021 1:40 PM

Retin-A on your junk??!! Didn't that shit burn and peel it?

by Anonymousreply 10January 28, 2021 1:42 PM

You can barely see my eyes. Drooping upper, baggy lower. I haven't seen a decent picture of myself in years. But my Mom had a brow lift and eyelid surgery and she went through a period of looking quite startled and then slowly everything returned to normal and then worse, saggy. So I guess the most superficial thing I did was spend a lot of cash on teeth, caps crowns, implants . . . but I had to.

by Anonymousreply 11January 28, 2021 1:44 PM

R8 you can get a temporary brow lift with Botox. I would try that first and see if it helps.

I had laser hair removal on my upper back. I like my hairy chest but the back hair always bothered me. Only took 3 sessions.

by Anonymousreply 12January 28, 2021 1:46 PM

i am currently convalescing from a breast reduction(gay man). Don't know how these ladies in Hollywood go thru this tortures constantly. But i am intrigued by the chin lipo ( see, its starting already)

by Anonymousreply 13January 28, 2021 1:48 PM

Chemical peel on my face and neck five years ago, officially for pre-cancerous skin lesions.

It's gruesome looking while it's working and yup, I went to work and scared the shit out of people. Nobody needed me for anything for about two weeks.

I'm 69 now and my face is as smooth as a baby's ass.

by Anonymousreply 14January 28, 2021 1:54 PM

The most superficial? Getting clothes impeccably tailored and relying on expert advice for color, line and fit. Scrupulous grooming, including all hair and also clean teeth. Paying attention to my posture. Not getting fat. Fortunately I am tall and good looking so I don't mind so much aging and after 45 or so, proper clothes and presence are noticed by the world if not by superficial gay men, themselves. They keep a man attractive. Very few men over 50 want to fuck their peers, sadly. But at least colleagues, clients, and the public react positively to a well-turned out mature man.

by Anonymousreply 15January 28, 2021 1:56 PM

R3 probably not, I just don’t like them anymore. It’s one of those things I got because they looked really sexy and filled out my chest, but now that I am a bit older I don’t work out like I used to. It looks plastic to me. I’m leaner than I used to be and I would just like to get them out.

by Anonymousreply 16January 28, 2021 1:57 PM

Dye all gray hair (Clairol brown/black match my hair perfectly and knocks off 10 years). I will let myself go gray at 60.

Nose job years ago in 1998 (it was too big). It looks better, but sinus problems ever since... I would not do it again.

by Anonymousreply 17January 28, 2021 1:58 PM

Oh honey, dyed hair on men NEVER looks natural, no matter what people may tell you.

by Anonymousreply 18January 28, 2021 2:48 PM

[quote] Dye all gray hair (Clairol brown/black match my hair perfectly and knocks off 10 years)

We can all tell. Dye jobs are usually hard to conceal

by Anonymousreply 19January 28, 2021 3:34 PM

I tried to Nair my facial hair, thinking it would a shortcut.

Instead, it gave me terrible burns that oozed puss for a few days.

by Anonymousreply 20January 28, 2021 3:35 PM

Just for Men burned my scalp and left me with a red oozing rash for a week. Grey and happy now!

by Anonymousreply 21January 28, 2021 3:38 PM

I started lifting weights which made a HUGE difference in my curb appeal.

by Anonymousreply 22January 28, 2021 3:44 PM

Lasik eye correction at 46, no more contacts or eyeglasses. Upper and lower eyelid bleth at 50. Liposuction under the chin to gave me my jawline back, also a mini tummy tuck at the same time. I thinking about a full tummy tuck as I lost about 30 lbs.

by Anonymousreply 23January 28, 2021 3:49 PM

My hair is somewhat coarse so I’m college I would use a relaxer to make it finer. In hindsight I feel ridiculous for doing it.

by Anonymousreply 24January 28, 2021 4:01 PM

R18/R19 - LOL, maybe, but it looks better to me and I def. look younger. So, I will go with it :-)

by Anonymousreply 25January 28, 2021 4:28 PM

Ordered one of these to make my junk more prominent in khakis/dress slacks. I've got a pretty big cock, but it's definitely a grower rather than a shower. Got some action in unexpected places when I started wearing it. I miss commuting :(

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by Anonymousreply 26January 28, 2021 4:40 PM

[Quote]Lunchtime lipo under my chin. Gave me my jawline back.

Doesn't skin have to be removed during this procedure as well?

by Anonymousreply 27January 28, 2021 7:31 PM

Bought a Noogleberry device to use on my asscheeks. After about 14 months of nightly Noogling I got the results I wanted and started doing it less (I'm white and didn't want to overdo it).

by Anonymousreply 28January 28, 2021 7:38 PM

r28, I refuse to Google "Noogleberry". What is it?

by Anonymousreply 29January 28, 2021 8:24 PM

Interesting thread. Thanks for sharing, everybody.

I don't consider Lasik surgery vain; it's more convenient to not wear glasses.

Any money spent on teeth is also money well-spent, esp. if it's your natural teeth.

by Anonymousreply 30January 28, 2021 8:30 PM

Pec implants

by Anonymousreply 31January 28, 2021 8:31 PM

How much is under chin lipo? Is it really just a lunch time?

by Anonymousreply 32January 28, 2021 8:35 PM

There is nothing wrong with getting any sort of surgery as long as you are well educated, the surgery has been around for a while (so you can see the results on others)....But also know that it wont make much of a difference in terms fo your attractiveness to others. And that's what OP starts with in the headline.

It does sometimes improve confidence but that's shortlived. If you have a self esteem problem it will come back quickly. ( I can't imagine being more or less attracted to a person because of their ab definition.)

by Anonymousreply 33January 28, 2021 8:53 PM

I am a straight chick so the superficial things I have done to get laid (before I realized that having a pussy is actually all that I need) is legion. I guess the most superficial thing is having acted like a dumb blonde.

by Anonymousreply 34January 28, 2021 9:13 PM

I used to let my bf shave my hole. We used it as a kind of foreplay. Actually it was really hot.

by Anonymousreply 35January 28, 2021 9:25 PM

Given a hot Puerto Rican my pin number.

by Anonymousreply 36January 28, 2021 10:02 PM

LIED about my age.

by Anonymousreply 37January 28, 2021 10:20 PM

I've never felt the need to make myself more attractive. Unless basic hygiene and brushing my teeth count.

Sorry for anyone lacking confidence and self-respect.

by Anonymousreply 38January 28, 2021 10:23 PM

Crash diets, “lifestyle change” diets, hair coloring appointments (expensive over time).

Now that I don’t care, I’m a healthy weight with s&p hair.

by Anonymousreply 39January 28, 2021 10:49 PM

R35, shaving right before sex is risky. Little nicks and cuts can let in HIV.

by Anonymousreply 40January 29, 2021 12:45 AM

This is a wonderful thread. I’m always looking for ways to look better and these are great tips.

Keep them coming.

I did stuff socks in the back of my jeans once to try and seduce a man I used to pass everyday on the way to work. It was rediculous considering eventually the truth would be discovered. I caught his glance, but he turned out to be straight.

by Anonymousreply 41January 29, 2021 12:57 AM

Oh! I forgot to mention—I once bought those fake, stick-on nips a la SATC to supplement my own rather soft/flat pair under tight shirts. One night I got drunk with a super hot guy and forgot to take 'em out before he took my shirt off. That memory will forever live in infamy along with the time I accidentally farted during a rimjob.

by Anonymousreply 42January 29, 2021 1:10 AM

[quote] Oh! I forgot to mention—I once bought those fake, stick-on nips a la SATC to supplement my own rather soft/flat pair under tight shirts.

Wow! That is definitely a new one!

by Anonymousreply 43January 29, 2021 1:12 AM

^^Trust me, I'm not proud.

by Anonymousreply 44January 29, 2021 1:13 AM

R10 Nah, it didn't peel or hurt. Didn't do much of anything really, but it was low strength (0.025%). I think you need to use at least 0.1% on your body to see a difference.

by Anonymousreply 45January 29, 2021 1:24 AM

When I was in my early 30s, my boyfriend (same age) was an MD/surgeon, and he refused to remove (on the grounds that it was unnecessary) a little fatty cyst in my abdomen, which made me insane because when I was lying by the pool, it would become visible just above my speedo. I had pretty much done medical school and his residency with him, so I had seen it all, so when he was at work one day, I got his bag, injected a little Lidocaine, made an incision with a disposable scalpel, popped the cyst out (about the size of a pea) , and closed it with two stitches (its all in the wrist). He was initially incredulous, but eventually found the humor in it. It turned out fine, and I was happy to be flawless (in my mind).

by Anonymousreply 46January 29, 2021 5:36 AM

R29 Its this device. Now, let your imagination run wild.

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by Anonymousreply 47January 29, 2021 5:50 AM

$250 for cut and color blending. The key to natural men's coloring is go to a very expensive salon with experts and never let yourself go gray. Start blending before grays even appear. I think the gym, skin care, and keeping the grays away are simple, non invasive things that will keep you fuckable..

by Anonymousreply 48January 29, 2021 5:56 AM

R47 Ok, MIND BLOWN. How does this do anything but stretch the skin and maybe temporarily inflame by bringing blood to the surface? Have your results lasted and how long ago did you end the experiment?

by Anonymousreply 49January 29, 2021 5:57 AM

Why is it so much harder to cover grays for men than for women? I mean, hair is hair, right? I had no idea this was a high art.

by Anonymousreply 50January 29, 2021 5:58 AM

R46 See now, what you really should have done to get back at him for not helping you was to douse a t-shirt in fake blood and stumble out of the bathroom, scalpel in hand, sobbing that you'd now be disfigured forever from the back-alley lumpectomy he forced you into. That's how you deal with incredulous boyfriends.

by Anonymousreply 51January 29, 2021 6:10 AM

[quote]Now, at 51, I have no bags [bold](and no surprised look)[/bold].

That's what YOU think R9...

by Anonymousreply 52January 29, 2021 6:11 AM

[quote] Why is it so much harder to cover grays for men than for women? I mean, hair is hair, right? I had no idea this was a high art.

Women are allowed a certain amount of artifice (unnatural shades of hair, obvious face makeup). Men are supposed to undetectable in anything they do to enhance their looks.

by Anonymousreply 53January 29, 2021 8:22 AM

Put lipgloss on my asshole.

by Anonymousreply 54January 29, 2021 8:27 AM

Nothing, I'm all natural.

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by Anonymousreply 55January 29, 2021 3:21 PM
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