'Major RED FLAG': TikTok video of groom 'aggressively' throwing whole cake at bride sparks debate

Groom looks like trash, so no big loss.

He should get out now, the 3 decades of mental abuse that women give men is way worse than a 3-tier cake to the face.

It's a tradition (a stupid one). It doesn't seem like they love each other.

So he couldn’t even tuck in his shirt on his wedding day, but he did manage to wear a bow tie???

Someone from his family probably got her a pair of oversized sunglasses as a wedding present. They already knew what was coming.

Jerry Springer redux.

Were frozen peas on the wedding registry?

He’s fat, greasy, has unwashed hair and a sleeve tattoo.

He’s wearing a $19.99 untucked polyester shirt from Wal Mart to his wedding.

Run, gurl! You’ll end up supporting his white trash ass the rest of your life.

Why do people assume dramatic videos of strangers are real?

If she has half an ounce of sense she'd immediately divorce that motherfucker. Thank god Im a man and a scrappy bitch .If some asshole did that to me Id kick his balls so hard he'd piss blood for a week.

She looked pretty aggressive too. He was probably embarrassed, drunk and it got out of hand. Not making excuses for him but I'm sure there was definitely alcohol involved.

It's not a tradition for everyone. It's a tradition among low class people to smush cake in each other's faces. You're supposed to feed it to each other - and somewhere along the line, smashing food in each other's face became common. It's disgusting.

Just like the taking off and putting on a garter in a very sexual way.

This guy just destroyed the cake for a good portion of the rest of the guests. Why pay over $1000 for a cake that's going to get smashed?

These people are trashy. And yes I judge. I know trash when I see it.

It could be worse

R13, that was intense. Now, that guy has some issues big time!

they seem perfect together.

That might be the trashiest thing I’ve ever seen.

It’s so depressing. Is this what we’ve come to as a society? A bunch of fat, oily losers?

Where’s the glamour?

R16 - I have a feeling he didn't really want to get married.

That man is not going to be a good husband, father or provider. Girl - you ARE better off on your own.

I foresee a 50 to 100 lb weight gain by him after his hair loss.

This was just for a laugh people. This is cake smooshing gone a little too far, but all in fun. Smashing the cake on each other, throwing pieces and starting food fights is the whole point of having a wedding cake, isn’t it.

I hate TikTok, and I hate for posting TikTok.

No, R18. It isn’t.

R18? Where? Meth Hollow, Flyoverstan?

Well the bride’s backless wedding dress is also very trashy, so this is working out well for them.

A man that age with a man bun.

You in danger, gurl.

All these stupid things are fake and set up....

Go on r/relationship_advice on Reddit. It’s really illuminating. After reading a bunch of them, it’s really easy to see what relationships aren’t going to last. If this idiot is defending a man throwing a large heavy object at her head on her wedding day, he’s either going to end up killing her or she’ll stick around long enough to get knocked up between beatings, and then escape in the middle of the night with two toddlers and no money when she’s finally had enough. Lots of women are obsessed with having kids and they will cling to any dirtbag with a penis until they get two. Then they might leave, if they’re still alive.

99% of those posts are, “my live in boyfriend beat me with a baseball bat, sold my jewelry, quit his job and sits on the couch in a dirty wife beater drinking cheap beer and farting. Should I leave?” When 3,000 people say yes, they start backing down and say they can’t do it right now, they’re going to give him another chance, he’s really a nice guy, they still love him. It’s pretty obvious it’s really a combination of financial precariousness and the sunk cost fallacy.

I learned from reading them, don’t bother with any situation where you’re trying to hold the relationship together by yourself, just leave. It doesn’t matter what you do, if they’re not into you, it will never work no matter what. Just give up. Move out, buy a cat and watch Netflix and pet.

If you want to read a subreddit about people who are really dumping their s/o’s right and left, read r/QanonCasualties. Everybody on that subreddit runs for the hills, leaves their spouse, blocks their parents, closes their Facebook, jumps out the window, whatever they have to do. Some of the Qanon cultists went nuts after the inauguration and started attacking their spouses or kids or threatening suicide (or murder). According to that subreddit, a lot of those people were perfectly “sane” just a few months ago, or a year or two ago. Some even said they thought Qanon was crazy, now they’re in it. Some threw away marriages of thirty or forty years to follow a cult. That’s just scary. It’s like they were replaced by pod people.

If the bride wants to put up with it let her. It’s her problem now.

R13, this is absolutely horrendous. Poor woman, she looked like she didn’t want any of this. Looked like an arranged marriage in some shithole country.

R27, I read somewhere that the woman was drugged, that’s why she was reacting so slowly. Probably tried to fight marrying him for good reasons.

MAGAT wedding?

I weep for R18 and his future. Copiously.

Don't quit your job at WalMart R18.

A manbun at your wedding?

he's FUG!

Fat rageaholic fuck.

What a lucky girl.

The wedding @R13 looks Mongolian

The world of het'rosexuals is a sick and boring life!

That was very inconsiderate of the guests who probably were only there for the cake.

I mean it was inconsiderate of the groom towards the guests who probably were only there for the cake.

What a complete waste of a delicious looking CAK!

I am alone.

I have been alone. I may be alone the rest of my life.

That's not always a bad thing.

That's how I feel after seeing that.

He's also fat. Definitely divorce him.

Weddings are so outdated. The "cake tradition" is especially embarrassing.

Looked violent to me... I say divorce but she won't listen.

No clickbait here, no sirree.

Here's the video from another angle. They're both laughing. It looks like he didn't realize it would hit her so hard. Childish behavior, yes. And they do look a little trashy. Abusive- let's not jump to conclusions.

Also, everyone calling him fat is nuts. I wish I was that fat.

[quote]“aggressively” throwing their three-tiered wedding cake at her head

I call that foreplay

I have never understood the whole cake smashing thing at a wedding, that isn't how you are suppose to treat someone you love. To me it is cringe worthy even when it doesn't turn too aggressive.

As a guest, I’d be pissed at not getting a slice first. The cake is the best part by far.

That shit was so staged by the both of them for more $$$ by going viral.

They only threw the top tier part, which was never going to feed an entire guest roster at a wedding. The guy has long hair, but he's not Jesus.

White trash gonna white trash.

[quote]Not making excuses for him but I'm sure there was definitely alcohol involved.

R11, It sure sounds like you're making excuses for him.

I read a questionnaire roundup of several wedding photogs and most of them said, in their experience, the wedding cake face smash is the most common sign the marriage won't last very long. Not a for sure thing, but a noticeable trend I guess.

This is loving, what it's all about.

I'm a wedding photographer and I've seen enough to know what really happened. At least half of the cake cuttings I've seen began with the bride warning the groom not to smear any cake on her face . These warnings started days and even weeks before the wedding (the groom would always shoot down his friends' suggestions to "get her!" with "no, she already warned me not to do that." The brides always ramp up their warnings very sternly right before the cake cutting... and then suddenly they turn "playful" by smashing the cake in the groom's face. They laugh and think it's so funny, meanwhile the groom has been totally emasculated both before and after.

I've seen cake smashes happen at more than 50 percent of all cake cuttings, and more than 75 percent of the be time it's the bride who pulls this shit. I don't pretend to know why it's so common, but I don't find it playful or funny, and it always makes me think less of the bride. I don't blame the groom one bit for getting pissed.

ya'll are really too invested in this.

Just another example of heterosexual savagery. I hope that they both get cake poisoning and die.

The world of the heterosexual is a sick and boring life!

Agree with R2 and R11.

Not that the grooms are innocent, not that there isn't alcohol involved, but in my opinion the bride's behavior in all of these videos isn't classy, considerate, loving or respectful of their husbands. In each of these cases, it seems to me, the bride looks like she's taking an opportunity to embarrass / shame her groom publicly or put him on the spot. Sort of passive - aggressive or provoking behavior. The women seem to be shoving the cake at these guys in attempt to demonstrate they're able to keep their men in check, show dominance or control. What did the brides expect if they shove cake at the groom's faces in front of a crowd?

R58 = tradwife

[quote]At least half of the cake cuttings I've seen began with the bride warning the groom not to smear any cake on her face . These warnings started days and even weeks before the wedding

R54 is a wedding photographer who stalks his subjects for weeks before the event, apparently.

Alternately, it's a dipshit who doesn't know how to write a convincing EST.

Yeah, this is a big no-no.

You feed the cake to each other, not hurl it!

This may have been staged, but if it wasn’t I would feel humiliated if I were the bride.

The cake didn’t seem to have much give. The groom may have sensed it was over baked, hence his wrath.

On viewing from another angle, it looks like that was a mini-version of the cake for the couple. I still don't understand why people do the cake smashing.

It's like, ok let's make vows and confess our undying love for the rest of our lives. Then, 2 hours later, PSYCH! Not really! Everybody laugh at the fake abuse please!

Plus it totally fucks up your clothes and you have to sit in ruined clothes for a few hours.

There's so much to straight weddings that I just don't understand and think is really vulgar. In fact, I'll start another thread.

R60 you ignored my reason for saying the bride had been warning the groom leading up to the wedding - whenever the be groom's friends would encourage him to smash cake in her face, they always say something like "no, she's already warned me not to do that."

I agree with R58, it's almost always the bride taking an opportunity to embarrass the groom or put one over on him. I've seen it happen too often and it's disrespectful.

the only thing that could have made this worse, is if he kicked her in the cunt!

Where on earth do people get the idea that that’s a THREE-TIERED wedding cake? Before I watched the video, I was picture an ACTUAL three-tiered cake. You know, like this:

This guy has anger issues

He went overboard with throwing it that hard but the video of the bride getting slapped was far worse. You could tell she was zonked out of her head and probably forced to be there. The woman in OP's vid had a choice in her groom.

Curious what country video at R13 was filmed in. The groom looks more caucasian while the bride looks middle eastern. Turkey or one of those "stan" countries?

There are always red flags. Her desire to be a BRIDE overrode any recognition of all the red flags this guy was waving.

You can’t force people to make better choices. Dumb bitch.

Nice tattoos on the bride’s back . . .

They’ve from Tennessee, where this is considered foreplay.

You all sound very judgmental. He is dreamy.

Geez - it's amazing how much less violent it looks from a different angle.

Safari blocked 51 trackers on OP's link

I'm a pie guy.

R75, actually looks more violent.

Hubby is hot bear

R78 Hell, Yes. Hot as fuck.

These women know their fiancés are prone to violence, but they must have that big wedding and a husband as evidence of their worth before family, friends and community.

Please please please do not bring pets or children into these relationships. If he abuses you, he will do so to those little ones whom you love in order to control you.

They are just white trash. Only juvenile trashy people smash cake in the first place.

Everyone smashes cake at this point. It's become a wedding cliche

Right. It's not the least bit funny or interesting. The only thing worse is a wedding I went to where you could put money in a silver bowl when anyone wanted to see the bride and groom kiss. (Keep in mind it was an evangelical/pentacostal wedding and the pastor was sure to include the fact that the couple had never had sex or even kissed during the ceremony). I said to my mother "I wonder how much we have to give for them consummate the marriage right here and now?"

I was expecting worse, like a full size wedding cake being hurled at someone.