Do you think we should stop being so harsh on closeted men?

Gaaaaaaaaaaa!

Coming out should always be an individual's choice.

By the same token, if you wish to remain discreet about your relationships, it's probably best not to enter professions that are by their very nature the focus on intense public scrutiny about your private life.

What people fail to recognize is that in life you cannot expect to have your cake and eat it too.

Of course, outing is ALWAYS acceptable for people who actively campaign and work against the best interests of other gay people - pastors who preach against the gay, politicians who vote against legislation to protect gay rights, and others seek to enrich themselves at the expense of other gay people.

This is a complex question. Some closet cases deserve the ridicule. They are sometimes in positions to come out and do a lot of good by living in the light of day, rather than denying who they are and continuing the cycle of shame and stigma around the gay community. Especially, the kind of closet jagoffs that perpetuate prejudice and hate against their own, in order to try and cover up the fact that they themselves are gay. On the other hand, I feel empathy for those who hide their sexuality based only on fear of losing those they love and the shame that that were raised to feel around their identity. Some are quite fragile and powerless in their situation.

Closet cases who actively do harm to or promote prejudice toward the gay community deserve to be outed.

I'm willing to cut a little slack to people whose careers could be badly impacted by coming out, but these days there's far less excuse for that than, say, 25-30 years ago.

Yeah, you can't pursue a career that plants you firmly in the public eye then cry when people pay attention to every little thing you do.

Yes.

LOL This sounds like it was written by Shawn Mendes. Why talk about being harsh on closeted men in the abstract and then only use Shawn as an example? Come on.

And no, Shawn, we're still going to ridicule and mock the shit out of you for being a closet case. You make it far too easy for us, plus your music fucking sucks balls. You have no business being a recording artist. Even if you weren't a closet case, you still suck.