Handsome Penn Station Overseer Committed Suicide

That's sad. I don't think it's irony that he hanged himself and that the hanging clock is a design fail. He was pushed beyond his own and operational limits to deliver and cracked.

He probably knew how much of the money was disappearing and whose friends were scooping it up.

R2, that’s ridiculous!

Next you’ll tell us Cuomo is also responsible for the hundreds of deaths at nursing homes. Sure he took tons of money from nursing homes so he wouldn’t close them and said nursing homes can’t be sued for negligence, and instead countless nurses lost their lives.

With his partner. Michael was very good looking... hot.

R1 - have you been inside the Train Hall? In person I think the clock is one of the better design aspects of the whole project, but these are the types of opinions that are largely personal.

This is so sad. What a beautiful couple. RIP.

Would they be considered Power Gays?

Not anymore, r7.

I'm referring to the hanging cock in the atrium. Not the cityscape clocks. And you? I think the hanging clock is dull and looks cheap and like pastiche. Maybe it weighs a ton and is crafted with great artisan skill, but it looks like 80s cheap postmodern to me.

Gorgeous couple of golden boys entering the prime of their lives. I wonder how he snapped liked that.

Wondered why I had OP on block and he's off defending antisemites on the ACLU thread and starting Bitcoin scam threads.

I absolutely do not trust anyone like this piece of shit OP when they post something like this. Are they a misery guts hoping to make people feel rotten, or are they hoping the story of a poor closeted gay who killed himself will start a huge flamewar on here?

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The were together nearly half their lives. A very sad and beautiful message from his partner:

R13, I already had him on ignore. I saw this thread in my sidebar, clicked on it, saw OP was ignored, so I clicked "Ignored" at the top of the page. It took me right to OP's entry on my ignored tab and I could see lots of the other stuff he'd posted.

"Overseer" is problematic. Do better.

If you read the article, Cuomo had little contact with Michael. The NYPost blasts Cuomo in the headline then makes a u-turn to blame his family for his death. It’s really a political attack that takes advantage of a personal tragedy.

Handsome is a tad too generous to describe him, but it's still a sad situation.

I lived in Germany where cost and time overruns are the standard for large projects. I'm surprised the US was able to achieve some so grand, built to standard and on time. It's because of Evans' efforts...sounds like he was a tad Tracy Flick-ish and lived his life as a box checker. Nobody can be happy and fulfilled like that.

Oh, and buried in the lede: He went skiing in Austria as COVID was rampaging across Europe. Austrian ski lodges became ground zero for the first superspreader events...maybe he was patient zero for the New York spread--which derived from a European strain.

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Well, he did a good job on the station.

It was likely a combination of the pressure he was feeling from Cuomo, the pressure from his family. And the post-meth orgy depression

Meth orgy in an Austrian ski resort? Was it a gay ski week?

Cuomo is such a fucking Bully. Why he got praised for his shit response to Covid is beyond me.

Didn't Cuomo initially say nursing homes had to take in covid patients? The man should be shot for all the people he killed. Even I thought that was insane at the time. Stupid wop.

R18 what the hell do you look like?

Perhaps the Gobbler will help partner Michael cope with his grief.

If you look at his pics, he was part of the “a list” crowd in NY. He was part of that circle that would give no thought to going to Puerto Vallarta and party during a pandemic.

People in the “a list” crowd are usually miserable despite an abundance of health wealth and looks, because in those circles, nothing is ever good enough and as popular as you may be, one wrong move and you get ostracized from those circles. That and being closeted to his family despite being in a 16 year relationship? This guys was suffering from trying to please people who will never be pleased.

Clearly he was having mental problems. Why are they saying he wasn't mentally ill? He was on the verge of a nervous breakdown.

That is a lot of supposition, and based on stereotypes, R27. I share your good point about being closeted.

r28 can we really call it the"verge of a nervous breakdown" when he went ahead and killed himself?

[quote] Handsome is a tad too generous to describe him,

Did you even see the pic at R4?

Hubba hubba.

Oh this thread has several hateful trolls. Every thread on DL has such trolls, nowadays.

R32 must be lost. Did you think this was MommyFrau Blog?

Goes to show you never know what’s going on inside someone. I think I’d never kill myself if I had that tight body and privileged lifestyle, but that was just the facade.

R14 what’s with the hashtags?

I get the feeling that he was an introvert and that the partner was a let’s go, more-more type, with Instagram aspirations. Think Gianni & Antonio.

I guess getting up at 5am didn't change his life after all.

If he was a top people would be saying nicer things, what a shame.

R37 at least not for the better...

R38 does he seem like a bottom?

I see NYC is going back to old timey gangsta politics. Follow the money. This is a Law & Order NY reboot episode waiting to happen.

Has Chewy McNips commented?

Why'd the attention whore partner delete the "J'accuse!" Tweets if his allegation is true?

R43, you don’t go after Cuomo and not expect consequences.

Plus, high class jobs in nyc aren’t gonna give you nice jobs when you’re arguing against the gov online.

We're they in a Thruple?

Perhaps he was worried that he'd gain 3lbs and the Fire Island crowd wouldn't love him anymore.

Not a belly in sight

R45 Who are "we", dumbass?

I smell a Carole Radziwill-type book in the works.

B-b-b-but pretty people should NEVER have problems! They're PRETTY!

Nor a decent bulge.

'lifestyle choices'?

CHOICES?

Are people still calling it that. ?

He had nice hair.

R47 They were all thinking about how to ditch the one in the blue shirt - he was getting too old for the group.

This guy was very well educated, professionally accomplished and had a great lover.....you never know what the mind is thinking or obsessing about. Very sad indeed.

r55 is correct. The fact that he's "handsome" means nothing except how shallow the gays can be.

R4, The sex must have been incredible.

He couldn't live forever.

Who do we think is the top and the bottom? Open relationship?

This guy had the kind of Manhattan life that many people would kill for, and he was still miserable and suicidal.

R47, R51 Nor a mask, either

R60 it’s fun to visit but the day to day is not for everyone. Lots of gays are in NY or LA because there’s not better options for gay community.

r61, were you wearing a mask in February?

[quote]Who do we think is the top and the bottom?

Given their ages, prob. versatile.

Very sad. But Blaming Cuomo? Really? Sounds like he had other issues. And as far as crazy deadlines, if he says this is the reason he did it, the vast majority of architects would be dead.

R65 yeah definitely some projection going on. Definitely other issues.

R18 is correct. Possibly COVID-induced psychosis?

So we’re blaming everything on COVID now?

How is that any different from the idiots who claim everyone is dying of COVID now and nothing else?

People think just because you're beautiful and popular, life is easy and fun. Nobody understood I had feelings too.

I die knowing no one knew the real me.

R60, why do people think looks and money makes you happier? It’s the opposite in my experience.

I used to be part of that crowd in NYC. In fact I was friends with one of his friends from that Instagram post. And from my experience, the prettiest and richest of that scene are the most incredibly insecure people out there. I was depressed when I was part of that scene because nothing was ever good enough for those people and I realized how shallow everyone was. A lot of their privileges are based on looks (which they know down inside don’t matter in the long run yet cling on to tighter each day) and that creates this anxiety cause they know the free ride will eventually end. The free ride is what all pretty boys chase. But it’s all empty. That makes the shattered illusion that much more painful.

I used to have tons of friends back then and felt so alone, now I have less than 5 friends and feel loved even though I’m separated from them by a pandemic. That scene is incredibly depressing when you look behind the curtain.

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Yes, r69, I’ve seen that. It’s an exceptionally rare event. What’s your point?

There’s been no evidence he had COVID, which this phenomenon is thought to be an aftereffect of, and to link COVID with a suicide without any evidence whatsoever is as ludicrous as the lies spewing out of Washington.

He was 40. Was long past time to go.

People are blaming Cuomo and work when it was probably just a gray pube or not being invited to brunch.

He turned 40 one week prior and among the celebration, neither his friends, his lover of 16 years , his co-workers, anyone.... got a glimpse into the severity of his mind? He evidently hid it well. A sad story indeed.

R75 well NYC COVID restricted actually had just started on his birthday.

He cracked under the pressure of actually having to prove himself for a change. I'm sure no one ever pressed him for results in his life and he just couldn't do it. I have no sympathy. Also why was such a young guy responsible for such a massive project in the first place? Accident waiting to happen.

R75, in those circles you always have to be “perfect” and living your “beat life”.

Some gays say over 40 really means your life is over. He took it literally. But at least he had a charmed gay life in a way. Found a lover in college and kept the relationship going for 16 years. That's more than a lot of gay men can even hope for.

And still managed to stay in the closet too!

[quote]Also why was such a young guy responsible for such a massive project in the first place?

40 is too young for a job with big responsibilities?

R80 He was 40 and living with a man! It's not like his family doesn't knows. Accepting his orientation and relationship is another matter.

Can I have his stuff?

I don’t know if this has been posted. It is Michael’s obituary from last March. There is no mention of his partner of 16 years. Disgraceful.

Daaaaaaaaaaaaamn...even his cousin’s husband got a shoutout in the obit. That was pretty cruel to not mention his partner of 16 years.

So sad. There is no mention of his partner of 16 years in this obituary.

The parents must’ve known right? It’s almost like they went out of their way to list people... and here’s his childhood friend who he hasn’t spoken to since he was 7, but nope, he had no romantic life!

The partner should have run his own obit with the Fire Island picture in the Times and in the local papers where his parents live.

They weren’t married? If so, who would get to write the obituary? How’s that work?

R89 Well, if he had a will stating what he wanted done and who should do it, then that should be respected. Otherwise, it's really up to whoever deals with his funeral and burial. I assume he didn't have a will and the family took over his affairs after his death and that's how the partner got ignored. Lessons for the gays to make their wishes clear in a will if they have a partner and don't wanna get married.

R86 His mother is Elizabeth Palacio from Cali, Colombia?

[quote]A lot of their privileges are based on looks (which they know down inside don’t matter in the long run yet cling on to tighter each day) and that creates this anxiety cause they know the free ride will eventually end.

I'm in my forties and I've seen this happen with my contemporaries over the past several years. When pretty people hit middle age and they're not the hot young things anymore, it's a shitshow.

R92 I don’t think this guy seems that way, but the vapid crowd he was around does. I think he’s the type who wanted to sit around reading old English Literature, go for a jog, and cook, rather than “Yasss! Queen!!!”’ing in the Pines.

The partner works for the UN.

[quote] The partner works for the UN.

Another strike against them

I watched a video of him from 2017 on youtube talking about the Penn Station project he was definitely one of the STRAIGHT looking and sounding types. He did was not at all QUEENY and did not seem like the SCENEY type either.

He doesn’t seem to have an Instagram. Another sign he didn’t like attention. Makes sense too if he was closeted to family.

R77: your comment seems unnecessarily cold and bitter. ‘I have no sympathy’. None whatsoever? He wasn’t some vapid ‘influencer’ or Trump which might justify that response.

R92: agree. Obviously photos don’t tell a full picture but a quick scroll through his boyfriend’s Insta doesn’t show this Michael guy as an arsehole A gay. Though the boyfriend looks like a bit of a scene queen e.g. keen to show off his hot shirtless friends and his travels. Maybe they clashed a bit on that. Who knows. The comment in the boyfriend’s otherwise lovely tribute to Michael where he mentions giving Michael the brush off when they first met at Oxford might be telling. I found it a bit odd to highlight that to everyone. Like he has to show he was the hotter one/superior somehow, even now. Maybe I’m being unnecessarily cold there though myself.

^ Sorry I meant I agree with R93 in response to R92

Jeez a job is only ever a job. What's wrong with just quitting and moving to Thailand?

R100 Ambition. The people who don’t move to Thailand, so to speak, end up running things.

Link, r96?

The theory that he might have cracked because he was losing the power related to his looks, is garbage because at 40 he was in still in the prime and handsome. He wasn't a circuit queen he was a well educated quite highly placed professional in his career. In fact he would be considered young in his professional peer set.

It's possible he was a total perfectionist in his work and he snapped on this very high-pressure big stakes project, a milestone in his career and in the cities infrastructure. Imagine.

His hair was florid.

His mother is a stone cold cunt to write that OBIT with no mention of this man's life long love.

I had a bf commit suicide during the AIDS years. Quite horrible experience. But this couple, if the BF had no idea what was coming and things were swimming along. Sheesh. 16 years. Very tough break.

If Brian Lutz happens to read our thread in DL - Brian - I am very sorry for your great loss. Michael seems like a wonderful man and partner. I'm sorry. I hope you find a new love eventually, when you're ready.

[quote] His hair was florid.

It may not have been styled in the way you like, but isn’t that a bit rude?

I mean it in the best way - very flowery in style : ORNATE. I could say luxuriant or exuberant

Oh.

R104's video is the one I was referring to.

R77 You're a fool. Did you actually know this guy or his history in detail?

You sound like another bitter queen.

R106 is a gold-digging feral cat making her move.

This is also one of the nicest Datalounge threads I’ve ever seen about a topic like this. Thank god he was hot and straight acting.

[quote] in those circles you always have to be “perfect” and living your “beat life”.

Maybe he found out a bad medical diagnosis?

Was the bf an exhausting, shrill harpy?

I mean...sad that he killed himself BUT this isn't a teenager whose loved ones kicked him out of the house and he had nowhere to go. This was a grown-ass --SELFISH--man who clearly had some kind of support system but bailed anyway. Enh

If the stress of the deadlines killed him, why did he go to Costa Rica in February and skiing in Austria in March?

R116 I hate people who call someone who committed suicide “selfish”, a lot of times truly selfish people who are only interested in themselves drive someone to that point with their lack of compassion and inability to connect emotionally.

R117 I’m sure he was stressed by that high-profile of a job, but the BF is the one pushing the narrative that it was all work-related.

I would imagine that an Oxford grad managing the renovations of one of NYC's public works crown jewels suffered a lot of self-imposed stress. Maybe the vacations were his partners attempts to cheer him up. He doesn't look particularly joyful in any of the pics.

[quote]If you read the article, Cuomo had little contact with Michael. The NYPost blasts Cuomo in the headline then makes a u-turn to blame his family for his death. It’s really a political attack that takes advantage of a personal tragedy.

Exactly. That paper is, was, and always will be a rag. If only they'd close up for good, that would be a wonderful thing.

And I hate people like you R118 who refuse to see that suicide is the ultimate act of self-service.

R47 both he and the boyfriend are hot, especially the BF - nice chest and killer abs.

No, R118 the note said it was work related.

In today's NYT (1/15/21): "He Brought Moynihan Train Hall to Life, but Didn’t Live to See It."

R124 at what point do we just call it “attention whoring”...? What’s the story here? Suicide awareness? Cuomo is a demanding government official? If Miss Mourning is going to keep making the rounds, let’s hear about the sex parties in the Pines.

My best friend of over 10 years killed himself. I couldn't tell he was going to do it.

He was staying at his mum's house, and said goodbye to her, and walked out and killed himself. She had no idea he was gonna kill himself either.

Neither of us saw any signs, mood changes, depression, he didn't say anything unusual. Didn't leave a note, nothing.

I miss him very much. But, there was honestly nothing either of us could have done, because we had not a clue that he would kill himself. So sad.

Oh, please...that article at R124 is fucking ridiculous. And of course his partner couldn’t be denied yet another glamour shot!

R127 maybe this is the widower’s way of presenting hole since the gay bars are closed and she is a lady of a certain age.

I just fell head over heels for r128!

Is that a real NYT story or one of those paid death advertorials?

It's a real story, R130. Although in this case, the Times was late to the party. The NY Post ran the story first, and then the Times remembered their readers live for this shit.

[quote]"He Brought Moynihan Train Hall to Life, but Didn’t Live to See It."

Congratulations, boys!

Madame Karenina should've thrown herself in front of a train, but dying in the closet was equally appropriate.

Thats the curse of being attractive and gay. You spend so much of your time on social media with your shirt off in FABULOUS places that you don't have time for anything else. It's just one photo responsibility after another.

PS- Welcome to the real world of job responsibility and time constraints. Oh and 'being made the scape goat' is a construction industry tradition.

I like the clock and the grieving partner. Do you think he's ready to move on?

partner has bad skin in NYT photo.

Should be fine for you to move in now R135

A decent mourning period has now elapsed.

Goddamn. Sixteen years together and not the least mention in the obituary? Husbands of cousins, sure, but the partner of 16 years, no.

I can only wonder what the story is, but better not to do; it's too ugly a thing to ponder. Ultimately it doesn't reflect well on the parents who obviously had some grudge serious enough not to name the man he lived with for 16 years.

St. Andrew's (the filming location for Dead Poet's Society and others) is and has been an expensive school, $60,000 a year now.

The surviving partner looks SUPER GAY and a TOTAL BOTTOM. Michael Evans was the STRAIGHT type. His partner was QUEENY and SCENEY.

The partner's Instagram post(s) announcing the death (and even the lead photo in the NYT article) are indescribably vulgar. Instead of putting out discreet and appropriate pictures, he puts out these mating calls which proclaim his (undoubtedly great) body and availability. Put on a sweater, for goodness' sake.

Just found this story today in the midst of all the Cuomo drama. It’s really hit me. Cuomo is toxic and his staff are a nightmare (I worked for his admin for two years about a decade ago.) That said, it certainly seems like there was more going on beyond that. He and his boyfriend seemed like the ideal, but how can his family not mention a partner of almost two decades in the obit? And there was a weird remark from his bf about “80 percenting” after dinner cleanup. That really strikes me as the kind of fucked up - who talks about basic life tasks like that? It’s the sort of thing you hear from a high school coach and quickly ignore. Guessing all the “best little boy in the world” pressure they both must have grown up with never left. All of that education, talent, and looks - and he winds up strangling to death alone in his closet. Tomorrow will be the one year anniversary of his suicide. A nightmare.

This is what happens when non-Italians enter the workforce & have to deal w/goomba Italians

Going in..if you don't know what they're all about w/their inferiority complex..you're doomed

Gonna need some meds

White people just don't behave this way so it is a major shock to some