Cruising opportunities

Universities and college campuses present wonderful opportunities for meeting young men. Simply dress in khakis and a sport coat, carry a leather satchel, and walk thru the campus grounds. They’ll assume you’re a professor. Go up to a hot guy and tell him he should take your “class.” Works every time.

Mary OP has become quite the coquette in her advancing years.

I’ve always been most successful when using a venue that will let me know a guy’s intelligence level and taste in music/literature BEFORE I strike up a conversation or make meaningful eye contact: concert halls, music stores, used book stores, libraries, etc.

Saves A LOT of time . . .

Stay home you old geezer super spreader.

Nothing so classy as picking up men in highway rest areas!

[quote] University/college campus (they let you use the grounds even if not a student)

Not where I work during the shutdown. Our campus is closed to the public.

Nursing home

As if; you're running your Carol Channing bug-eyes up and down some poor unsuspecting twink, and hissing.

Nothing beats a whispered “Yum. Mamma like.”

None, Sadly I'm one of the too shy to try guys.

R10 - you’re missing out! I used to be that way. Now I realize I’ve got nothing to lose! No more regrets going forward for me. It’s gets easier after the first couple of attempts. I was an awkward mess, but now I have a little game!

Isn't cruising IRL dead now?

^No. It's not.

R12 - I live in Texas. We have open restaurants, bookstores, of course public parks/jogging trails. I can assure you that cruising is very much alive!!

I discreetly press a twenty into his hand with a “there’s more where that comes from” leer.

[quote] licking my lips briefly

Do you do lift up your caftan and say “Yum!” after you do this?

Only a desperate whore licks his lips AND says “yum.’

R17 - I can assure you I’m definitely a “desperate whore.”

I have a question. Let’s say you’re walking down a sidewalk and you lock eyes with someone and then pass them. You go maybe 40 feet and realize you both looked over your shoulder to check each other out again. So then what do you do? I always just keep walking and nothing happens. Should I instead smile, lick my lips, wave hello, rub crotch, walk back and say hi? What’s the most effective?

The workplace...???

You sure...???

R19–do you blow your whistle?

R21 don’t carry a whistle

Well, there’s your problem. The whistle seals the deal.

I wonder if cruising has gotten tougher now that people wear masks to bookstores and whatnot.

Yes college boys are just DYING to hook up with random 50 yo fake profs who creepily approach them on campus.

R25 college guys tend to be horn dogs. If a sexy daddy approaches them I bet they would go for it.

Opposite, masks make everyone at least a point hotter.

Dog park and walking a dog anywhere. More single guys would have dogs if they realized this.

In the 80s you stopped. I mean If you really thought it was a connection. And waited for a second look. If you got the second look the other guy would indicated what next. Either he would stop and then you would meet him. Or, he or you might indicated with a nod and you would have have fun little pursuit.

God you people are amateurs. Before the internet there were dozens of ways to cruise men in public.

It depends on what you want. I’d stick with peep shows and video booths if you’re looking for casual sex...

Getting caught on camera cruising, picking up a minor or illicit acts too close to a school and you could wind up on a sexual predator list for the rest of your life.

R18- OP , you're not a desperate whore- you're JUST a WHORE darlin.

Prison, mental hospitals, housing projects. Make it spicier.

In November of 2015 I was standing in in at my Trader Joe's. I saw some guy in another line who seemed to be staring at me. I turned around there was no one behind me. He was DEFINITELY staring at me HARD. I was being cruised by this good looking guy about 32 years old. I was flattered but did nothing about it. I'm CONSIDEREABLY older than 32.

I used to do well at Loèche-les-Bains and Zermatt - pools and thermal baths. I was hot in my 30s and 40s. I got old REALLY fast in my mid 50s. Like a Mack Truck hit me. It's depressing but life goes on.

[quote]masks make everyone at least a point hotter.

I agree as long as you have great hair and extremely long eyelashes.

R19

Boy have I been there before! Sadly no one here has concrete good advice. If you catch someone's eye, just have the guts to walk up to them and say something, anything, in a relaxed way. They'll get why you're walking up to them, and either be flattered or spooked and then you go from there.

It can get weird though when you're literally following someone for several blocks hoping they stop and you can organically engage them in conversation after they've given you some meaningful glances. Sometimes, cute guys are very "no homo!" even if they're looking and clearly interested....so this "young guys are so game!" notion is not entirely true. Many will look but order themselves never to touch. I was that way.

Guys love to get the attention but then want to give you the brush-off because it's less scary than giving you their number or whatever.

But then, I'm talking about something more than just anonymously bumping uglies in the woods.

gaybros? on reddit had some tips posted recently.

[quote] CONSIDEREABLY

Yunglings love irreverent misspellings in emphatic caps.

It used to be easier to suss out a stranger. Now even straight guys flirt so they can report back to their followers.

It’s very tough with the mask wearing. You don’t see any smile.

R19, you definitely turn around and you hope he does too... or at leasts stops... and you walk over and you say "you look so familiar, where do I know you from... ?" to strike up a convo. Believe me. If it's gotten to that point, he's interested and it really does't matter what you say to get the convo starting. Turn around... you have noting to lose!

I’m imagining OP in a tanktop over a gut, and one of those penguin walks, all of which he equates to ‘being fit fat’., rather than the over-the-hill mass of needy, delusional gilla monster gristle and blubber he is.

I suspect there's also some hissing going on with OP...

Gyms are great for cruising because you have the advantage of being able to see the goods in advance (most guys in skimpy/tight workout gear at a minimum, or fully nude in the lockeroom/showers/steam room). You also have an easier time striking up a flirtatious conversation with someone, offering to spot for them/asking for a spot, complimenting their form/size etc.

The biggest downside is that you are likely to be going there several times a week and it's not usually a good idea to 'shit where you eat' so to speak.

Best situation therefore is a gym you go to as a one-off, if you're working out of town or on holiday somewhere. Hit on the hottest guys and fuck them in the showers after, when you're both pumped up and horny post-workout, then rinse off and go.

R41 that is great advice. Of course in a Covid world it’s more difficult to strike up a conversation with someone though. Hey another question: sometimes these look over the shoulders happen while both people are jogging. Is it still ok to stop and say “you look familiar”. R44 I agree gyms are problematic because you’ll see the same people over and over and it can get awkward.

R19, you stop and pretend to look in a shop window and wait for the other guy to approach. If no shop windows are around, stop and pretend to look at your phone or bend down to tie your shoe.

If you are pulling trade in with drugs, please spell out your intentions!

My area is loaded with people asking if you want to party. There are plenty of straight junkies who don’t discriminate against drugs, but some will put on a panic show when the drugs are gone.

In thirty years, two different neighbors have had the hallway fight - “I didn’t know you were a fag!”

R46, sometimes the other guy might be too nervous about approaching (for example they could be straight or married but still curious). So if you’re just tying your shoe you might miss the opportunity.

I read this topic as "Cursing Opportunities" and I thought "What ISN'T a cursing opportunity?'

Apps at the grocery store. Spot them, flirt with them, trade filthy messages and pics with them, fuck them. Something about food shopping makes men hungry for non-food items.

Op, I’m a few years older than you and I have to inform you that you’ve crept into troll territory, scaring boys with your hungry advances. Seems more desperate than likely to be successful.

R51 - Sadly I know there’s a lot of truth to what you’re telling me. And I’m sure I’m made fun of by many boys (“that old desperate homo thinks he has a chance with me?!?!”), but I figure I’ve only got 5 years left (at best) to “make memories” so I’m going for it. And yes this goddam Covid has put a damper on my mission, but I’m now vaccinated so that helps.

Just don't have sex in anyplace other people have to go guys at the gym or going to the bathroom don't want to step or sit in some rando's jizz.

You lick your lips, OP? That's fucking disgusting.

More importantly for your purposes, that's the kind of gesture that can only be forgiven (cautiously) of the village idiot, the old geezer with the funny shaped head and two wildly oversized teeth who never learned to speak, "Oh, that's Karl," everyone knows him. He does that."

I'm almost forty-one, and I've never cruised. I look at them all the time, but that's not the same thing.

It seems most times both people turn their heads to look back, but then no one has the courage to walk back and say hello.

Probably not much cruising during covid

I would be very careful either way but I would still go on a date using gay dating apps. Just approaching a tola stranger is dangerous. You never know how this person might react. You don't want to be labelled a pervert or worse get arrested.

Another elaborate fake scenario OP?

0/10

Not a fake scenario, a lot of people just have trouble cruising. They need tips on how to do it correctly.

Yeah, a lot of people get shy when they are cruised, or don’t know how to begin.

Waitrose supermarket, Brighton. Thursday night.

1 bag of sugar in your basket meant that you was looking for action.

This is a troll post.

"Licking your lips and grinning" is a DL meme, followed by raising one's caftan, exclaiming "Yummers!" and presenting hole. Mocking eldergays who cruise youngsters is also a running joke.

If OP were truly 50 years old, he would know damn well how to cruise because he would have experienced Mansex World before the internet.

The OP is either mocking eldercreeps or he's a Zoomlennial who wants to learn how to cruise because the culture is nearly extinct.

I’ve met a couple hot guys at Lowe’s on a Saturday. Good times. We exchanged numbers then hooked up later.

R64, do you have great gaydar or do you just see an attractive guy, start chatting him up, and take your chances?

A year ago in January I was in a Kmart on a fruitless search for an ULTRA firm pillow. The store was out of ALL pillows. I purchased some other items anyway. My cashier said to me - Did you go to Central High School?. I said -no.

Do you think he was flirting with me?

Outside of homeless shelters.

[quote] 1 bag of sugar in your basket meant that you was looking for action.

Mama’s sugar walls are melting from all the steaming hot cage meat.

Why don't you just keep pretending to drop your mail at the trailer park mailbox...

and showing off your dangling bits under your shorty Caftan...

when you bend to pick it up

Girls! A trip to your nearby JoAnn Fabrics will seal the deal.

Just wait until another man enters he store, hold up a bolt of fabric and say “do you think this chintz highlights my ass?”

You’ll never be lonely again.

R44 Agree with your gym comments. There are a few times I regret not being more forward when visiting another gym and recognized "missed opportunities".

A few years ago I was staying at a 5* hotel and went to swim in the gym/spa. I used the changing room and sauna but no one ever came into the locker room as it wasn't really a busy time until I was getting dressed to leave. A handsome late forties dad type came in at that time in running shorts and tee shirt. He was checking out the lockers and appeared confused on how to use the electronic locks on the doors. I showed him how and he was sort of friendly but I figured he was a just a straight married guy not really looking so I didn't push it. He stripped down and revealed a great body and semi hairy chest. He put on a robe and I wasn't able to catch a glimpse of his cock--until he turned to me again and did a little flash! I regret not taking the opportunity as I didn't think fast enough. I think he was a little embarassed and headed off to the showers. By this time I was pretty much dressed. I really should have ask "Do you need some company? Or are you staying here in the hotel?". The locker room was empty again the next morning too. Not sure if he was married with his wife in town too or a guy in town on biz. Would have been great to invite him up to my room but I would have enjoyed just showering or wanking together in the sauna.

Be bold.

Yes I do want a blow job, not I do not want to 'hang out'

Being bold gets the prize.

Your poll is being trolled. Gym is in first place but we all know DLers never leave their basements, the lardasses don’t work out, and they never get laid.

Another missed opportunity for me this week too. I was headed to a big box store similar to Home Depot/Lowes to pick up a few extra bags of mulch. I had to take a leak and headed to the restroom before looking for the mulch.

As I entered, I thought "Wow, this would be great cruising restroom", but no one was in it. There was a wall of four dividerless urinals. I took the second one in. Not long after two addiitonal guys entered. A hot dad at the far urinal and a contracter type next to me. I had a full bladder to it really did take me awhile to enter and the dad was already washing his hands when I finished. We both washed our hands and dried them--he appeared to be a nice fit blonde hairy dad type. Great hairy arms. Anyway, I left and when I passed the restrooms again on my way back to the cashiers a few minutes later he was in the aisle just outside the restrooms looking at grass seed/fertilizer. Looking back, did he see me go in and then follow?

R72 I too need to be more bold!

I miss NYU restrooms=Bobst, and The Brown Building

R75 What are/were they like? What types of guys where seen there?

R19, what R36 said.

You still have to be very careful. There's a great deal of homophobia out there. My favorite cruising spots are bars in hotels that I'm staying at, when I travel. Have always scored there.

But my advice would be to join a group that caters to gay men centered around activities you enjoy. Search on-line for that. I'm interested in rugby. I don't play it anymore, but if you get involved in a gay-friendly sports league, you'll increase your chances of meeting other gay men. They might be on the team itself. Or after a match, guys would end up going to a nearby pub, where other guys would be -- friends of friends, fans.

No matter the activity, R19, put yourself out there in activities or venues where a lot of gay guys will be. They'll present great opportunities for hookups or something more serious.

You have to be kidding me. ‘Cruising’ has never existed in my life and probably will not. I recently have been trying the dating app Taimi, to abysmal results. Everyone on dating apps are extremely lower society these days. Filthy homes and guys who live in their dirty basements.

One guy I met, his floors were literally coated in dog shit. It was a nightmare. Getting to know this person heavily ended my dude search. I’d rather die alone than live like that. Nasty.

A great gym pick up line that has actually worked: "Wow, you're really making great progress! You must really be hitting it hard." Every single guy in the gym likes to hear this so just make sure you say it so someone who swings your way. They usually say something like, "Thanks, nah, I have a long way to go" to which you can complement them even further. If they're gay (and not totally out of your "league" you can then introduce yourself, ect.

R76 3rd and 5th floors in the Brown Building, gloryhole in each stall divider. Restroom full of students and horned New Yorker.

Just wondering what you can actually *do* during a pandemic. I guess... hand jobs?

Or get the freaking vaccine r81 then live your life again until the next strain ruins our lives.

A lot more people are cruising now that they are vaccinated.

When I first read this, I thought it said Cursing Opportunities. Damn it.

I'm 41, so old enough to actual cruising in parks (I started early).

Even though I know it was dangerous/stupid/risky? It was so thrilling to be 17. At a park. Horny as fuck. Not sure who would show up. Honestly, I loved the game of it all. I hardly ever did anything.

But, because I have a thing for blue collar daddy types, when I did? It was fucking heaven.

Feel bad for kids who only know a dumb hookup site. I mean, I use them. Don't get me wrong. But something is lost for sure.

R85 where were these parks? I bet some of that park stuff still happens, especially because older guys probably don’t use the apps that much.

Oh, it does.

Trust.

R86, in and around LA and Orange County. This would have been 1997-2000. I stopped cruising at that point.

You're 50, no one but old ugly trolls want you anyway, unless you pay for it. Then they just hold their nose and think of the cash to get through it.

Gay Parks are putting up CAMERAS now....It's True.....So, that's off the table.

I found OPs YT page...NOW we know why he doesn't use apps.....

My 60-year old workmate said he saw a really handsome guy on the bus who got off at his stop. He had to say something, so he said, "Wow, the bus was so shaky, I thought the wheel was going to come off". And the guy said, "uh, yeah" and kept walking. That would probably be my experience, too, if I was brave enough.

A lot of guys seem to cruise on the street while jogging.

Here's a tip regardless of where you are, but it takes practice. I'm one of those people who usually goes around with a stern, defensive look on my face without knowing it. Yet I love those moments when I exchange glances with a guy and he gives me a slight smile and a nod. Invariably at that moment I realize I have this "resting bitchface" expression on my face! So I try to remember to actually look at the people I'm around with a friendly and approachable expression without looking like a crazed lunatic. (I know - pretty basic Human Interaction 101.)

It's very hard to have any kind of readable face while wearing a Covid mask.

Definitely the gym sauna or steam - at least for a JO and maybe a BJ.

The Metropolitan Opera -- especially the balcony level bar before the show and during intermission

Gas stations in Pensacola