Why are so many bottoms flaccid all the time?

Total top doesn't understand mechanics of sex, role of prostate. Story at 11.

If I could get it up all the time, OP, I wouldn't be rolling over for you.

Not sure I understand either- I am always at full mast and leaking like a sieve when getting fucked.

My ex was a total top who had very little interest other than making himself feel good during sex. I was barely able to stay hard on a good day

When a bottom Is not hard he is not turned on therefore you aint hot and you do not turn bottoms on.

Wow. First day of 2021 and we already have the stupidest OP of the year. Congrats!

What R5 said. Sounds like you're a shitty lay, OP. Probably nothing to look at, either.

How's [italic]your[/italic] testosterone? Maybe it's time to get it checked. I find masculine men a huge turnon. Maybe you're not that masc?

Maybe you are not hot enough, fat OP? Otherwise.....

How big is your dick, OP? Therein may lie the problem.

I, for one, like a flaccid cock on the bottoms that I fuck. Not sure why. Probably some kind of domination trip.

I'm not the only one. Look at all the videos online of bottoms with caged cocks.

OP, does your cock even hit their prostate? How small is your dick? I'm never not hard while getting my prostate massaged or fucked. Can't imagine not being hard while getting fucked really well. Some guys aren't very good at it, though.

Is [italic]your[/italic] dick hard?

Says more about you than them OP.

Most bottoms I’ve hard get and sty rock hard when fucked.

Eventually I met this guy who was really really hot and he seemed to really like me, but he wouldn’t get hard. At first I was offended but the more I got to know him the more I realized he was really self loathing. He was one of those types that would only sleep with “total tops” and he assumed I was one because I always went crazy for his ass and never sucked his dick. He even told me he had no respect for men who suck dick and was glad I wasn’t one of them, lol. He also refused to cum claiming bottoms didn’t deserve to and were only made to pleasure the top.

I kept the charade going and fucked him regularly but I knew it’d never be anything more serious due to his self loathing.

Even better-- when they get and stay hard and you can make them cum hands-free

r13 omg yes. I have only had that happen a few times. I pre a lot when getting fucked if the guy is hitting my prostate.

"pre" is not a verb!!!!!

R12 Dang, have we met before?

BTW, if I’m flaccid, that means you’re doing it wrong.

I think it's a lot about the brain being the biggest sex organ. When I've gone soft while bottoming it's because the physical discomfort of it exceeds the mental or emotional stimulation of it. So, basically, the top is failing on some front because I'm not there just to be the necessary friction for his dick.

I understand it in porn, cuz I imagine doing it on camera makes a lot of guys nervous. But IRL, yeah, if you're a good top and I'm into you, I'm hard. The only times that wasn't true, party drugs were involved. (And it was still fun.)

I find it really hot when sub bottom boys just have a limp little dicklets and don’t get hard. They’ve learned their place and understand that their pleasure in sex should be derived from serving and being a total hole for their alpha top.

Having a cock up your ass hurts, that’s why

[quote]When I've gone soft while bottoming it's because the physical discomfort of it exceeds the mental or emotional stimulation of it.

A lot of tops get off on just that, punishing the hole. so the bottoms penis is just there

R20 Can I have your number?

Many factors involved on this issue . Size of top (lets face it gurls,a huge dick hurts) ,how much one had to drink (or drugs ingested) ,comfort level (am I behind a dumpster or a nice bedroom) etc,etc. As a total bottom for 90% of my life ,sometimes its more about the "getting" of the guy than the actual sex. In all my fucks I met exactly 3 guys who could get me off hands free every time ...a short stocky hairy greek boy with 6 skinny inches, my 1st husband ( I married him for the dick really,at first ) and a hustler with 8 uncut inches who was the best fuck I ever had ,bar none. Ive cum hands free with many guys over the decades ,but more often than not it was all about the mind set. I will say though I usually stayed hard ,except when it was one of those giant ones.

This thread is so romantic.

I'm with r10 and r20. As a top, I love the bottom to be flaccid. I want to rough fuck their hole and wreck it. A flaccid dick is a sign of submission.

I will add: Even better when the bottom has a big butt but a small flaccid dick. I always enjoy the view of a big guy with a small dick spreading his legs and presenting his hole.

Anyone matching the description on here?

I like pounding a guy and seeing his hard meaty cock bounce around so ,yeah, a lot of porn will soft small dicks on bottoms is a boner killer. To each his own.

The feeling of bottoming is just like pooping. If the bottom gets hard bottoming, you know damn well he is a boner shitter - the men who have boner when taking huge poop and even ejeculate from shitting.

Not turned on / dick isn't thick enough

skinny dick is painful, thick dick isnt

another reason is because the bottom doesnt know how to relax their muscles properly

So many guys when topping or trying to top don't know what they're doing or don't care at all how much pleasure the bottom is getting. What's the best website or book out there to educate both tops and bottoms? If there's a book it needs to be in every hotel room next to Gideon's bible.

All the bottoms are usually hard in the pornos. I’m confused.

Gay men are broken.

Agree with R26. A bottom's soft dick means that his focus is on pleasuring the dominant top, not himself.

You need coke up your nose to take a dick up your ass.

[quote] Why are so many bottoms flaccid all the time?

I think it’s because the bottom is going over his mental check list as to how to murder the top - and is merely poised to make his move.

There may be a straight razor nearby.

I cage My boy’s meat. It stays limp, and cums from anal stimulation that I give.

I'm not hard when I'm first getting penetrated - my ass is being stimulated and all of the sensory switches are being turned on there.

But usually, once the train gets going, so to speak....I'll get hard during sex, and especially if the top is hitting the right spot.

That's when I surprise my tops....because I shoot really far, and shoot a lot, they're always surprised when I splatter their face or hair with several shots!

Where the hell is this vaccine coming?