I got Married Today

Who gives a shit?

OP congratulations

But tell me, how will your EXs react to your marriage - was it a nasty break-up with your former partner, and your husband's former partner?

Congrats OP. I'll dedicate my drink to you guys.

Congratulations OP!

Congratulations, OP! I married my lovely husband 2 years ago. In our case the timing in our case was dictated by his need for health insurance - if not for that, we might not have bothered making it official. But we're both glad we did.

FYI, in case you didn't already know: you two are now considered married retroactively to the first of this year, so if you file jointly you might get a nice extra tax refund.

(1) Your jealousy is showing, not a very good trait. But I want to extend congratulations to the newly weds, and you prove that it's never too late.

Congrats, OP!

Congrats to you and your new spouse, OP!

All the best!

Congrats, OP.

Congratulations. Also what are you doing typing here why aren't you making love on your wedding day?

Mazel tov!

I’m happy for you, OP! Wishing you and your husband many more years of happiness. 🍷

Oh, and R1, kindly fuck off.

Congratulations to OP for getting hitched!

And congratulations to r1 for the customary DL celebration!

Congratulations and best wishes to OP and your new husband.

What made your 22-year relationship end?

Congratulations to you and your husband OP. Shame r1’s bitterness got the better of him.

For all who think they're an ElderGay at 35 and your love life is over, these guys prove love comes along when it should. Congratulations !!!!

Wonderful OP, so happy for the both if you! Many blessings.

I give a shit. Congratulations, OP. I wish you every happiness.

That's nice.

I'm 58, too, so your story gives me hope.

Last night I had a Grindr chat with a guy who was me if I were 'gen'.

Congratulations, OP and husband! May you have many long years of happiness!

Is your pre-nup sorted, OP?

R17 maths? They had previous long love stories and this one came along in their 40s. Your point?

Congratulations. Blessings, joy and peace.

Only someone on this site would be rude enough to ask questions about people’s exs on their wedding day, haha. Congratulations, OP.

Married at 10 am and on DL a few hours later?

R1, you seem sad, lonely and jealous. I'm sorry.

Mazel Tov!

R26, he’s obviously posting as he eats lunch. Duh.

Congratulations, OP!

R1 is an asshole.

R27 you seem new to DL.

Congratulations honey

What r23 said. OP had a 22 year relationship and then relatively quickly found another.

This is not a lonely eldergay manages to finally find love story that some seem to be implying.

OP here. I’ll save the 411 about my Ex for another day; my husband’s previous partner died (cancer) about a year before we met. We were both damaged and vulnerable at the time, but trusted each other and healed together.

The nicest part of the brief ceremony was at the very end. The officiant (an elderly gentleman) said, “I would like to recite a Native American wedding blessing.” Here it is:

"Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years. May happiness be your companion and your days together be good and long upon the earth."

Congratulations, OP!

Much happiness to you both.

[quote]The nicest part of the brief ceremony was at the very end. The officiant (an elderly gentleman) said, “I would like to recite a Native American wedding blessing.”

He didn't warn you beforehand? Run it past you?

Congratulations and best wishes, OP.

Wonderful. Have a wonderful life together.❤️❤️

Congratulations!

I'm 44 and your story gives me hope, which is in short supply these days.

I was with my husband for 29 years before we were finally allowed to legally marry. By that point, being “legal” shouldn’t have felt any different, but it absolutely did. Suddenly, our relationship now equaled a hetero couple. I don’t hesitate to throw out the phrase “my husband” when before I had to go with “friend” or “partner”. And if someone doesn’t like it, fuck’em, we’re legal.

Sure, Jan.

I would like to believe you OP, but if DL has taught me anything, it’s that these threads always turn out to be ESTs. Are you sure you didn’t leave out the part where you each fucked the officiant??

Congratulations OP!

I hope you have many, many happy years together!

Guessing he's the top?

Congrats OP!! Wish you well! I met my hubby when we were both13 and both knew we were meant for each other but we're separated for many years and found each other again. As soon as we could we got married and it's incredible. Peace!

For R41:

Only on DataLounge would two men getting married in their backyard qualify as an EST.

Congratulations! I am lonely.. Have you ever considered a thruple?

Did the Top propose to the Bottom? Will there be honeymoon sex tonight? Did Joel and Mitzi attend? So many questions for the DL peanut gallery.

Congratulations from the United Kingdom

🎊🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉

Shelby, I hope you and Jackson will be as happy as Lloyd and I were.

Congrats, OP. I recommend the Maldives for a honeymoon. My husband and I were looked after so well there. They are fine with gay couples on the hotel islands.

Which college did you go to taught you not capitolizing "got" in you're subject is accepible? Preytell?

Congratulations OP. I wish you and your husband a lifetime filled with happiness and good health.

Sláinte

Where are you two heading off for your honeymoon?

So it really does happen...

Congrats, OP.

I didn't think it would feel any different but it does.

Mazel tov and all the best.

Congrats, OP! I hope you enjoy married life, and I’m sure you will.

The people who are always asking when to give up hope should be heartened by this. Never say never!

[quote] I got Married Today

No, you didn't.

Who will play you and your husband in the inevitable Lifetime movie?

Mazel Tov!

Congrats! Going on 5 years here. It’s a wonderful feeling. All the best!

Congrats! And with both of you so ancient, there's almost no chance of one of you screwing around. After all at that age you're just trying not to piss on yourselves and worrying about having a good shit everyday.

Miss Nervous OP sang this right before the vows.

Congratulations. I wish you both many and happy years together.

Congratulations/Best Wishes! Celebrating love is a glorious thing.

Best Wishes!

But how many got "mary-ed" today?

R67 that would make a great parody thread

Inspiring story but also a cautionary tale of two elder gays marrying and one of them is posting about it on the wedding night. Or is the happy couple Lesbians who married after accepting the inevitable lesbian bed death?

Although R1 did crack me up, congratulations OP.

r62 = someone whose eventual husband will drop him like a hot potato once he turns 50.

Very happy for you, OP! Congratulations to you both.

Good news is hard to find at the moment. Was very glad to see your post. May you enjoy a long and joyful union.

Why won't OP share his honeymoon destination?

OP here. Thanks to all of you for the kind and sincere wishes! This being DL, I knew that there would be snark aplenty, but I just wasn’t sure what form it would take; thanks for not disappointing!

In response to some of your queries:

1. No Honeymoon planned (yet). We’re both homebodies and happiest together in the home we’ve built together with our two cats. If we do travel in the future, it will probably be France, Italy, or both.

2. I posted to DL just to share the news, as I had an overwhelming need to tell somebody about our great day, and why not my DL “friends”. My husband was with his best friend who came here from Cleveland so I took that time to write the post. I don’t know why people try to read anything dysfunctional into that.

3. Of all the responses, R40 is definitely my favorite. MidWestMan TOTALLY understands the experience, feelings, and emotions I was trying to convey. I honestly didn’t know if marriage would change me or my outlook in any way, and I had no preconceptions as to how it might; however, I can report that if you truly find the love of your life, marriage will only deepen your closeness and commitment.

How about the sex? Do you still have some dirty, sloppy, passionate, hot sex, OP?

Just present dongs and holes please as I don't mind gawking at geriatric sex today.

Nice story and great news! Congrats.

Congratulations, OP! And some hope for others...

I'm 59, he's 63. We met two years ago on a beach in Mexico, both of us on vacation. We live on opposite coasts. We commuted back and forth many times, but only twice since the pandemic. There is daily Skype and texting. We are engaged.

I had been in a 26-year relationship that ended badly (wow, almost ten years ago - time flies). When marriage was temporarily legal in SF, I did not want to do it. Gut feeling. But it was history being made. Fortunately, the line at City Hall was miles long, so we just had brunch in our tuxes. As we gays do.

My fiance was legally married and ended up in bankruptcy and divorce court.

We have pre-nups for when we can finally live together and retire. Neither of us is trusting of marriage, but we want to do it.

I predict that I'll feel like OP.

May you enjoy your marriage until you both die in a grease fire (that's Dataloungese for "good luck")!

R20 "who asked me if I was 'gen''

Congratulations, OP! And some hope for others...

I'm 59, he's 63. We met two years ago on a beach in Mexico, both of us on vacation. We live on opposite coasts. We commuted back and forth many times, but only twice since the pandemic. There is daily Skype and texting. We are engaged.

I had been in a 26-year relationship that ended badly (wow, almost ten years ago - time flies). When marriage was temporarily legal in SF, I did not want to do it. Gut feeling. But it was history being made. Fortunately, the line at City Hall was miles long, so we just had brunch in our tuxes. As we gays do.

My fiance was legally married and ended up in bankruptcy and divorce court.

We have pre-nups for when we can finally live together and retire. Neither of us is trusting of marriage, but we want to do it.

I predict that I'll feel like OP.

May you enjoy your marriage until you both die in a grease fire (that's Dataloungese for "good luck")!

[quote] I'm 59, he's 63. We met two years ago on a beach in Mexico, both of us on vacation. We live on opposite coasts. We commuted back and forth many times, but only twice since the pandemic. There is daily Skype and texting. We are engaged.... We have pre-nups for when we can finally live together and retire. Neither of us is trusting of marriage, but we want to do it.

IMO, I would live together in the same town / same house for a year. Then decide if I wanted to get married. Frankly, I don't understand the logic here.

Congratulations! News like this is much needed these days. Thank you for sharing your story.

Best Wishes OP, for love and peace and contentment. Be all you can be for one another. Revel in the joy of being with the man you know is right for you. Remember the little things he'd enjoy simply because you did them. Tea just the way he likes it, clean eyeglasses so he can do his crossword puzzle more easily, a kiss on the top of his head just because. There's always another hug to give.

The old standby served my husband of 43 years and I very well:

Rule #1 Always put him first.

Rule #2 See Rule #1.

Did you post the pics on Instagram? because..

r80 you must be young.

I've had cancer twice, he has multiple health issues. We are stuck with our jobs until retirement in just a few years, which go by fast at this age.

There is no question about our compatibility together under the same roof. From past relationships, we both know that there is not a Mr. Perfect, or a perfect relationship. You learn to appreciate what you have -- and time is the most important thing here.

Should neither of us expire in the next few years, our marriage would mostly be for medical insurance and legal reasons, but I do hope it feels as magical as it does for OP (once we are living together).

maybe Muriel will buy you a present

Congratulations OP, I have been with my partner now 27 years not married. Kind of like why bother at this point but you give an interesting perspective.

[quote]IMO, I would live together in the same town / same house for a year. Then decide if I wanted to get married. Frankly, I don't understand the logic here.

With Data Lounge you can always count on the cautionary advice of the frail and wounded: "don't do it", "it will be the ruin of you both", "get a prenup!"

Congratulations, OP.

It's fine not to get married but make sure your partner is your legal next of kin because if he dies unexpectedly without a will, you won't get a penny. It will all go to his parents, siblings, nephews. Anyone but you.

OP, I hope that you've sent an engagingly written announcement to the New York Times, including details of both your and your spouse's pedigrees going back at least four generations and details of your breathtaking educational backgrounds and professional accomplishments.

Otherwise, DL will be sorely disappointed.

FYI, R89, that is NOT necessarily the case in many states. Over the years, many partners have been stripped of their rightful inheritances by greedy family members and prejudiced judicial officials even though a valid will has been in place.

' Over the years, many partners have been stripped of their rightful inheritances by greedy family members and prejudiced judicial officials even though a valid will has been in place.'

Yep because a valid will can be overturned if in law he isn't your next of kin. So get married or change it legally. Much simpler to marry than go through the legal rigmarole of changing your next of kin.

[quote]It's fine not to get married but make sure your partner is your legal next of kin because if he dies unexpectedly without a will, you won't get a penny. It will all go to his parents, siblings, nephews. Anyone but you.

We have a domestic partnership, way back when that was all you could get. I know it's not the same but I think in California it has expanded the right to almost the same as marriage, they changed and added stuff over the years. It's kind of a gray area in the law I think. A lawyer from the center told me all of that has not been tested on the courts yet.

Did you save your flower for your husband, OP?

You gals still together?

OP, I hope you signed a good pre-nup before marrying.

Congratulations OP!

What a great way to start the day! Love and happiness to you both!

I wish you and your husband all the happiness in the world!!!! God bless!!!

You can name anyone to inherit your fortunes. This next of kin shit is BS. You would actually be better off having a trust. And you can stipulate so and so is intentionally left out of the trust or anyone contesting it does not receive anything. You have protections when you are married, but wills and trust add another layer of protections. I like trust over wills for many reasons, the privacy of them and the fact they are not held up in court. With some planning you can make sure your partner receives what you want them to receive and a relative cannot get their greedy little hands on anything.

This is fake lol. Why would someone post this on here. “We all prepared a luncheon meal”? If this real then it’s ridiculous.

Married in the yard as they’re both ravaged with AIDS and pink sock

OP & Husband here - one-month anniversary yesterday, and we are happier than ever! No prenup needed as we had been “living together in sin” for 11+ years prior to tying the knot.

As for you jealous, bitter, and incredulous Old Queens, just dry up and blow away! 😊

R103 Posting together haha. This is my favorite troll and all these old queens fall for it.

Are you divorced yet, OP?

Im so happy youre happy, [OP]

Congratulations!

What a lovely story OP, congratulations to you both!

Thanks for the extended good wishes, (almost) all!

One aspect that I think is pretty cool is that while many married folks have been getting separated or divorced because of COVID-19 quarantine/close quarters, these current conditions helped my (now) husband and me realize that we simply cannot and do not want to live without each other.

Pardon me, was everybody there? Because if everybody was there I'd like to thank them all for coming to the wedding. I'd've appreciated them going even more, I mean, they must have had lots of better things to do, and not a word of it to Paul.

1/10

Did your husband carry you over the threshold, OP? I hope he didn't hurt his back.

Tell us about your wedding night sex.

[quote]these current conditions helped my (now) husband and me realize...

Shouldn't we have an opposite to an "oh, dear" to highlight the correct usage of "I/me"? Suggestions?

Lovely story. Congratulations yo you, OP and your spouse.

Congrats OP. I'll have an extra vodka gimlet in you and your hubby's honor tonight.

Congratulations OP!