Advice on Topping

A good top - well hard cock is a must. No spaghetti cock. Just play a little first, get him opened up with mouth, fingers etc. Foreplay helps a lot. If he's got a cute ass why not lube him up and use a finger or three to loosen the muscle at the entrance.

And do know the prostate for some men is right inside the old poop chute. If you insert your index finger go in about just past the 2nd knuckle and there it is.

I've fucked a few cute guys. One of whom I had to block because he was a demanding bottom.

Just lube it up and stick it in. The rest will come naturally.

only viciously face-slap when called on to do so

Once he's relaxed and lubed up, put the tip of your cock up to his ass and just let it hang out there without pressing more than the tiniest bit. His ass will slowly suck your cock in, and it will feel amazing for your both. Best top I ever had did that to me.

Well we've covered douching in a shower extensively in another thread

BE HARD

Real heavy whipping cream is always better than non-dairy topping like Cool Whip.

Some say 15% is the bare minimum. It depends on the service.

Oh TOPPING? Then I recommend the dulce de leche.

Lube, fingers, more lube, enter slowly, move slowly at first. The rest will come naturally - once he loosens up and gets used to it. Don't you know this from bottoming? What did you like starting out?

KY jelly is king.

[quote] He knows I'm an anal virgin but I think I'm ready to give it a shot.

I find it difficult to believe you never had your wife use a strap on. Its not exactly taboo in your world.

KY Jelly is for high-school kids

[quote]So what makes a good top?

The ones who aren't lying about being tops.

[quote] Don't you know this from bottoming?

Anal virgin

[quote] I find it difficult to believe you never had your wife use a strap on. Its not exactly taboo in your world.

Never had a wife

Don't speak during sex. No Blanche, you don't sound butch.

R4, I think in another thread, someone said after I'm all the way in, I should also wait a few seconds to let him get used to me. What about when he cums? Is it better to keep thrusting or stop?

OP: If you do it the way I described above, his ass will have slowly sucked you in, so by the time you're all in, he will have slowly gotten used to you already. I know that when I'm bottoming and I cum, I want the top to be done right away. So when I top, I keep an eye on how close the bottom is to cumming, and I try to shoot inside him when he's cumming. That way I'm all done when he's ready to have me out of him.

Ruth Gordon was a famous Broadway Dolly.

But who the fuck cares about the religion of the actress? She's playing a character. Acting. Remember acting?

But does it feel better to keep getting fucked while you cum or to have the top rest for a minute?

I want the top to keep thrusting while I cum. It pushes on the prostate.

I want the top OUT after I come.

[quote]If you do it the way I described above, his ass will have slowly sucked you in

Maybe wear a head torch so you can find your way out again.

wrong r16. Since OP is asking advice, it's also good to check in on the bottom and ask him what he wants. Faster? Slower? Harder? Close to cumming? How can I make you cum? Etc.

Since the OP is a bottom, who better to answer the question she posed?

It is always amazing to me that women who can play Dolly cannot play Mame, and vice versa. They are both Jerry Herman scores but seem to require such different types of actress/singers.

Gun oil as lube - poop don't stick to it- go slow. Listen to him if it hurts stop. Fingers are a must to open them up. ONce you fuck him you will be hooked.

I'm not a bottom. Did anal virgin not register?

More proof that most tops need to listen better.

If you have to think about it this much, don't bother. The raw desire is just not there.

The biggest thing which applies to sex of any description is good communication. You need to know what your partner likes and wants, as there's no one size fits all, what really does it for one guy might not work for another.

That said, there are some tips that I believe make a good top -

- Foreplay, of whatever works for you both, to get them really gagging for your cock. Eat that ass, suck his cock, get him to suck yours, rub and finger his hole while deep kissing and tugging on the nipples, tease the hole with the tip of your cock - you want to get the engine running, even voracious bottoms don't usually just drop their pants and expect to be shafted balls deep with no preamble - Plenty of lube (should go without saying, but...) - Switch up the positions, the speed, the depth of penetration. Not every second thrust, but I think a lot of tops think just jack-hammering away in one position until they cum is good topping. It might work for some guys, but dicks are different sizes and shapes, and guys are different sizes and shapes internally too, so what feels amazing for one guy might feel distinctly average for another - Play with the bottom's cock and nipples while you're fucking him, bite his neck and ear, kiss - Drive your dick in as deep as you can and stare into his eyes while you hold your dick still and just flex your PC muscles to pulse it inside him - If he's getting close to climax, DON'T suddenly switch positions or change the speed or depth too much, unless you don't want him to cum yet, as doing whatever it is you're doing (maybe a bit faster and harder if you're attempting a mutual climax) is getting him off, and changing it too much could put him off the boil - If you can't time your orgasms to happen simultaneously, which can be tricky, be aware that if the bottom cums first he may find it uncomfortable to continue to be fucked

^ I'll sit on you now, R31.

Thank-you for sharing that, R26! And now back to tops and bottoms...

Insert SLOWLY at first. Use LOTS of lube.

Warm up his hole with your finger and lube before fucking, which means you’ll have to CLIP YOUR FINGERNAILS so they don’t tear.

ease in just the head, and let him tell you when to go further

Tell us, OP, how big you are, It makes a difference in the technique you need.

[quote]Thank-you for sharing that, [R26]! And now back to tops and bottoms...

It is a well known fact that both Ethel Merman and Carol Channing were tops.

Rough, inconsiderate tops at that.

I learned to top from the Ethel Merman disco album. I would fuck in the rhythm of her vocal wobble--and that left them all satisfied.

I still hum Everything's Coming Up Roses in my head while I fuck.

What are good tops made of?

What are good tops made of?

Snips and snails

And puppy-dogs' tails

That's what good tops are made of

While topping, refrain from singing Rodgers and Hart.

R26, are you lost?

Keeping things varied has always worked for me. Once you get bored of one position or speed, change it up. Or if your bottom doesn't seem as engaged as he was prior, do something different. Some guys, tops or bottoms, love a lot of body contact and to feel the weight of the other guy on them or close to them. Hold him close, get your torso right on top his, feel the heat and sweat you both generate. Have fun!

R26, I cannot guarantee your safety, but I think you really need to break out your Ouija board and tell that nonsense to Ginger Rogers.

Report back here on how it went for you.

Everyone has been giving advice as if it is the bottom's first time. Copious amounts of lube, lots of time working it with fingers first, emphasis on slow penetration etc. Unless OP's nickname is tripod I think the bottom will be able to handle it.

R36, I'm not big, 6". I've been told on several occasions it's the perfect size for sucking but not sure how that translates for this.

OP/R28: So, you are a *virgin* - since you've never topped or bottomed for a guy. Anal virgin who never topped is confusing.

R31: UKGuy knows what he's talking about!! Kudos!

Oh nm - Reread the OP's post. It seems the OP has topped before, but needs advice on how to be a good top. Got it now - RIF!

Great advise here. Foreplay, for me at least, is a must: kissing, nipple sucking, rimming, fingering.

My favorite positions are missionary with my legs wrapped around my top’s waist - NOT perched up over his shoulders (I feel like a fucking rag doll when they do this and usually they do it because they’re scared you don’t know how to aim your hole in a way in which they can rest comfortably on top of you; I know what I’m doing, so no thank you) - and doggie style because cock just feels so damn good that way. I also love riding, and love when a top gets beside himself and just has to suck on my nipples while I do so, or pull me in for a kiss or to suck on my neck.

RHYTHM is key. You want to find a nice balance between slow and sensual, and fast yet graceful, usually undulating between the two. Also, never underestimate the intermittent pause between the aforementioned to take a moment to pulse and throb your cock inside of home whilst staring into his eyes and going in for a deep kiss, neck or nipple suck.

If you’re doing missionary, be sure to arch your back and work those ass muscles while making the cakes easily accessible for his groping and squeezing pleasure. For me, this was always one of the biggest turn-ons. It’s like I have my own personal jock and I’m the ball AND court he’s playing with and on.

Let him take charge. Find a balance between being dominant and submissive; a top that can play both roles with ease is a master.

Hm... that’s it for now.

*inside of him, though ‘inside of home’ sounds about right, too, if you know what you’re doing.

Just give your bottom a fresh bottle of poppers and he will have a great time, no matter how rustic your technique.

OP: Know your bottom. What does he need from the experience? A rough fuck? Tender love and care? Find out what your bottom likes and cater to that.

oh who cares. you fuck for 15 seconds, bottom cums and then bottom is forced by politeness to lick your balls for 45 minutes until you cum.

best thing you can do is save that bottom 45 minutes and just jerk yourself off to reliable porn memories.

Sorry if I was unclear to some of you. I have not had anal sex ever. Only oral.

R54 Have you fucked a pussy?

Is your "friend" an experienced bottom?

When the bottom starts crying, you know you're doing it right.

Rim him first

R57 LOL! So true! When a top reduces me to crying and feeling transcendent coupled with feeling an overwhelming urge to whisper or moan “I love you” to him even if I barely know him, he obviously knows what he’s fucking doing.

Another great position: sit on your heels and have your bottom back up onto you with his legs on either side of yours (I can’t believe I’m getting semi-hard just thinking about this; too pathetic) and let him take control. This is such a great and versatile position. You can play with his nipples, suck his neck, or kiss sideways and then when you want to take control, you can arch forward, makes him out his hands on the bed and place your hands on top of his and thrust in a gradual sensual manner. As you thrust, he can continue to ride you. It’s an extremely comfortable position and very effective for both parties.

*make him put his hands on the bed

Practice makes perfect keep poindin) ass until the bottoms keep texting you back begging for more Than you know you have good dick or good skills or both.

R47 I've been topping for around 20 years, I'd like to think I'm pretty good at it by now

R63 Your suggestions made me cum.

R31 Not all bottoms want to cum when they get fucked and they may be turned off if the “Top” is more interested in the bottoms dick and making them cum over anything else. Most bottoms love tops that are a bit selfish and some may even have more tops stopping by after you.

[quote] some may even have more tops stopping by after you.

I feel called out!

Well I definitely want to cum, but a lot of times I like my top to cum first. That alone get me hot and bothered. I'm happy then just to beat off, maybe as he plays with my balls.

Do you continue fucking the bottom after the bottom has cum ?

R68, the answer is, "It depends."

Some bottoms will make it clear that they are done. They will off your dick and in the bathroom in a flash. Other bottoms will remain in place, face in the pillow and ass in the air, moaning, "Don't stop. Don't stop. Keep fucking meeeeee...."

And, of course, every personal variation in between. If you want to top, you have to pay attention to your bottom. Not that the bottom would ever let you forget that.

It's best if you haven't met.

If you really want to impress a bottom, tell them you are straight and married and when you talk do not sound gay for gods sake!

R8: No doubt - all you need is a cold stainless steel bow and a wire whisk. Of course I don't use whipping cream but heavy cream. Heavy cream is very useful - you can use it to make ganache, whipped cream, butter etc.

My favorite topping is Smuckers Butterscotch but their Raspberry is good also.

and vary your pace and position as earlier posters have said. some bottoms like you to re-position them (with varying degrees of manhandling, so read your bottom) but switching things up is very hot for both. slow and fast are your friends. Also some bottoms like to do the work, riding you, so you don't have to do all the work. And it can be very hot, after he's been doing that awhile, for you to suddenly take over and starting fucking for all you're worth.

STICK IT IN

At the moment of your climax, scream out "You Filthy Whore!"

Thanks, this thread has been very helpful.

Can't stress it enough.. let him open up at his own pace...there's plenty of time. Otherwise, you're apt to cause pain and most guys aren't there for that.

And keep your eyes open and locked on each other.

r79 yes EYE CONTACT. I think it's helped every bottom I've ever fucked. (In fact I try to avoid too much porn talk but I like being a little verbal, and "Look at me, look at me while I fuck you, I wanna see your face as you feel my thick cock" seems to work well. Love eye contact while I'm first sliding in.

If they look away, I get more insistent. "Look at me, I want to watch you face" as my cock pushes them open. Locked eye contact

*your face

R81 I love that!

15% in middle America; 20% on the coasts. Marked down for poor service. Waiters prefer cash.

r84 Topping not tipping dear.

Nuts THEN fudge, whipped cream, sprinkles, cherry.

Eye contact can be hot but demanding it seems a bit much. If someone did that while fucking me I'd start to worry they were going to strangle me as they came.

R87 I find it adorable, especially coming from a hot alpha top.

It’s like he’s saying, “Please, notice me 🥺.”

I meant what I wrote, R85.

R88 One guy I hooked up with (as a teen gayling) would make me gag on his dick until I could not breathe and had to push him away with all my strength for him to let me go and (so I would not pass out) He pounded me so hard and choked and slapped me and would spit on my face ( and it kind of smelled) and he would tell me to look at him and asked me if he scared me. I must have looked absolutely terrified as I nodded yes because he shot his huge load right then and there deep in my hole and then put it in my mouth after. He was scary but also hot as hell and obviously very memorable.

Eye contact is very cool. And sometimes being quiet is cool. I used to fuck this very hot bottom who always made eye contact when he took my dick. He never said a thing when I went in, he just stared at me and took it all.

But now I'm talking about bottoms and getting wood.

R90 Oh, hell no. I’m not into all of that. I would’ve squeezed his nutsack with one hand and smacked him with the other. “Do I scare YOU?” I would have asked.

I like some rough play but bitch, don’t go gagging, slapping, and humiliating me. I’m not your personal fucking therapy doll.

I’m more of a sensualist anyway.

R92 Well he had about 100 pounds on my ass.

What about when a guy pulls out and then immediately puts it back in all the way? That looks like it hurts. And is there a name for that move?

“ misguided wannabe porn move” is what it’s called, and it is enjoyable for no one

You have to ask, OP? You are not ready.

regarding topping . this is all i have to add

Same Hooke 3 times and we’re only at post 97

[quote]a sea of bottoms

Pics please.

same joke

Also give him a taste of your precum off your finger. Mine's like Open Sesame magic potion to get a guy to relax and open up

Frau pegging post.

huh?

Go in gradually, inch by inch (by inch), and once you're all the way in. hold it there before stroking. He'll let you know when he's ready. And for god's sake, start slow.