“buddy”

Brother, who hurt you?

OP, I bet you ate alone in the lunchroom...

I had my puppets and various dolls with me.

You like being alone don't you?

R4 My guess is that OP hates being alone but doesn't know how to interact socially. R1 is correct; someone hurt this guy.

It’s patronizing.

my nickname for my dog was "buddy boy"

"Buddy" is what shop clerks who don't know you call you in Pittsburgh.

I use it as a term of endearment to my son (I use 'baby' the same way to my daughter).

When I was maybe 13 or so, a man sitting next to me on a flight addressed me as “buddy” when he requested to get by to go to the bathroom.

I’ve never been keen on patronizing, assumed familiarity, and replied with a sarcastic “sure, buddy.”

Buddy should be saved for dogs and babies.

Last week I had a plumber out to fix a water heater and he kept calling me “buddy”. He turned out to be an uncut, vers Latino and we fucked for an hour after the fix.

DON'T TOUCH ME!!!

I call people buddy all the time. What else are you supposed to call them?

I like buddy. It sounds very friendly, not patronizing

OP, who made you this way? Were you hurt at an early age? It’s okay. People who show affection towards others aren’t trying to hurt you.

Have you tried therapy? It might be a good outlet to talk out your unhappiness.

I prefer "buster" or "toots."

I first noticed it used by cops in Toronto. I didn’t know if they were trying to appear less authoritarian or avoid addressing strangers as “sir”.

I think of it as being similar to the UK use of “mate”.

I’m not convinced by any of these pro-buddy arguments. I should add that when a guy starts saying “yeah buddy, buddy, yeah” during sex, it’s a turn off. Yes, I am in therapy, as every ex-Catholic should.

R18/OP Not a dig at all, but glad to hear you're in therapy. You seem very angry and somewhat hostile over words which you may not like, and certainly don't need to use yourself, but they convey the meaning of friendship, equality, and endearment. It's not meant to provoke such strong ire you experience.

Have you been evaluated for Autism Spectrum Disorders, or feel it could be a possibility? It's common for this to happen when you have a brain wired in that manner, especially amongst the smart and high level functioning types.

Try to accept peoples' kind overtures, and attempts at friendliness. They're not barging into your home, or private life. This is very normal behaviour, and a sign they like you, and your dog. Don't allow a petty dislike for given words prevent you from enjoying the company of others, or meeting new people.

I like buddy a lot more than boss.

Bears do it ALL the time. It’s all part of their made up act. They wanna appear masculine and straight so they call everybody buddy. They overdo it to the point of fucking annoyance. They do it during sex they do it at bars…etc

If somebody called me a ‘buddy’ during sex.. I would laugh in their face.🤣

I don't mind when people use it in a friendly way. But when closeted or DL guys are trying to flirt or whatever they are trying to do and call you "buddy," it comes across awkward and weird.

I like the term. It sounds very 1940’s and endearing.

I like it in pretty much all situations including sexual ones. If this word bothers you a lot, you might want to think about the kinds of relationships you have and have had with other men, including your father or brothers, and how you treat and act towards men yourself, and then ask yourself why male affection is so alarming and off-putting for you. There's something a lot deeper going on if a common male term of endearment causes you this much discomfort.

R25 You’re missing the point. It’s not about discomfort. Bears are all full of shit anyway… It’s their act that’s hilarious they try to hard. I don’t mind being called buddy… If it’s from someone genuine. Bears are not genuine.

R26 Are you also OP, and simply forgot to sign your post? Either way, sweeping generalisations are not fair. Many straight Americans and Canadians use "buddy", as I use "mate"... Bears do not hold a patent or trademark on its use. It sounds as if you dislike Bears, but I think that is the least of your problems for now.

It hasn't been my experience that Bear types are phoney at all. I think they're generally very outgoing, and do use a more sportsman like approach to introductions and small talk, like straight blokes do. It doesn't mean it isn't genuine. If they seriously disliked you, or were to be dismissive of you, they wouldn't deign to speak to you in the first place.

R27 nope im not OP .. again you’re missing the point

[quote]Bears are all full of shit anyway… It’s their act that’s hilarious they try to hard. I don’t mind being called buddy… If it’s from someone genuine. Bears are not genuine.

Since you make a series of sweeping generalizations about a sub-culture of men, I suggest you go back and re-read what I wrote, but think a bit more deeply while doing so. Ask yourself why you hold the opinions that you do. Answering with "because [entire group of men] are full of shit," you're not being serious.

Wondering how old you are. You should extremely insecure and naive.

R28 Care to explain your "point" more elaborately then mate? Does mate bother you as well? I think you and OP can relate to one another, and I think that's great. I think finding or taking offence with such words is indicative of something deeply wounded or stunted. It's the same with the DL pisters who claim to hate friendly or nice people. Negative and flawed thinking, or atypical neural connections are the only reasons to assume an entire group is fake, or a word can provoke such feelings.

*sound not should

OP, show us on the doll where the bad man touched you.

I like to call people "chief."

OP, I highly recommend that you never order anything at the deli counter in NYC as the barrage of affectionate bro nicknames hurtled at you by the guy behind the counter would likely send you into complete meltdown.

R34 I would welcome being called those names at a New York deli. If a fake masculine bear did I would laugh in their face.

R33 Good on you mate. I've been called Chief several times, and each time it causes me to smile. I find those using it are genuine, and cool people. Other words I don't mind used similarly to convey camaraderie and friendliness: Man, Brother, Guy, and sometimes "Bro" is acceptable and genuine coming from certain younger blokes, though I know DL is as against it as "dude".

Surprised by the amount of antagonism for those who don't like it. Here's my only dislike: when mothers call their little boys by that. I don't know why but it irks me. Are they trying to be cute? Also, being from New England I really don't hear it much. Way too familiar.

Good Lord, of all the things to take exception to. I don't like being called dude but to take such offense is just ridiculous. As far a bears being fake phonies at least they are not pretentious, damaged snobby twits. OK instead of calling you buddy how about snotty queer faggot piece of shit. Go kill yourself...

What about in Family? Was the whole Buddy thing hinting at her lesbianism?

I’ve always wanted a burly handsome man to affectionately call me “Scout.”

Odd, you don't sound like the type anyone would ever call "buddy", OP. Why worry about it?

What r41 said.

Do you like being called "Prissy," OP?

R42 Hey bitch! may even be more apt.

My Buddy > Kid Sister

I call kids and pets “buddy.”

"Son, I need a friend."

I have to say that this is highly entertaining. Here’s something to consider, when does role playing need to stop? What happens when it becomes your life? Does this ring a bell for the bears out there?

Another thing, why can’t I find this irritating? What if I were a woman and hated being called “honey” or “sweetie”? It’s basically the same thing for me.

“Hey there, you sniveling, smelly cunt” is always sure to endure you to the other party.

My doctor says this and it pisses me off to no end, especially since he insists on his patients calling him Dr. Tom and not just Tom.

“OK Buddy, pull down your underwear and show Dr. Tom-Tom your no-no hole.”

Oh my god, who is the bear that broke OP's heart? WHO DID THIS TO HIM?

OP, FU. What's wrong with my first name??!

OP Come off it already. You are surprised so many react this way, but you object not only to "hello, friend", but also don't want people speaking to your dog. You trashed a huge group of decent blokes along the way who use or enjoy the word buddy, but you also accused Bears as being phoney, fake hyper masculine, and constantly role playing. You're an odd duck OP, and as others have already said probably not worth greeting or approaching anyhow.

OP is right! The whole bear community role-plays. None of it’s real.

The world is going to shit in front of our eyes and OP is upset because people are making an attempt at being friendly?

ALL the parents in Brooklyn refer to their sons as “Buddy.” Usually when the kid is having a full on brat meltdown: “c’mon, Buddy, what’s wrong?!??”

If you think I’m exaggerating, take a walk through Prospect Park on a warm, sunny day. You all hear “Buddy” at least 100 times.

Can we go to war for people saying "full stop?" It is more important than fighting "buddy," "no problem" and "hon" at this time. Thank you.

R56 Yes and these people are 100% authentic. Bears are not.

I've always found it sort of sweet. Way better than "bro" or" brother"

R56 Oh and go to some bear pig sex club… You know the ones. You’ll hear ‘buddy’ said about 4000 times

What's wrong with you, buddy?

I liked how men used to use the word "pal" when pissed off:

1. "Hey pal, move your car off the road. You're blockin' fuckin' traffic, here."

2. "Hey pal, take a long walk off a short pier."

3. "Hey pal, take a hike."

You also don't want Paulie Walnuts saying: "We're gonna have a problem, my friend."

Men in Texas say "buddy" all the time. It grates on my nerves.

Maybe OP would prefer, "hey gurl"

[quote]Oh and go to some bear pig sex club… You know the ones.

Is that you at R60, OP? You loathe bears and trash them at every turn but casually drop this bit into your post? Clearly you know all the bear pig sex clubs yourself and what goes on there.

Who hurt you? Do you ever think about it?

No one says "hello friend", aside from me and a friend. It's just a literal translation of "hola amigo".

As a non-binary, it’s very offensive to me.

I love the use of buddy or at least love to use the term buddy. But I certainly would not expect anyone else to like it because I do. I also love to use "Bub" or bubba. Not born in Texas, either. Born in southern Minnesota, got that southern Minnesota twang.

If I accomplished anything with this thread, it’s that everyone involved will imagine that doll when someone says “buddy”.

Bub? You realize that’s like saying, “hey, fatty”?

Hello? Yeah, I want to speak to the OP, I'm the original Buddy.

Yes, that was my name on the show. A weekly series about an average American family with a huge dose of depression. Yes, I looked like a cute boy with long hair and wore plaid on the show but baby dykes were not allowed on TV so I did what I did. I was America's favorite Tomboy.

P.S. Big sister is in the closet she's a big old lesbian but wont come out for another 40 years.

- Buddy

I wanted to change it from Buddy to Butchie but Mike Nichols nixed the idea.

Didn't Cosby's murdered son introduce himself to people with "Hello Friend"?

Answered my own question.

The only time someone say's hello friend is when I am in a sketchy part of town and someone is trying to sell me something.

I wonder if bears stop saying buddy if they lose weight

Over 30 years ago I was on my knees in the bushes of a park in Queens enthusiastically rimming a young chunky Italian cop in uniform. As he bent over he reached behind to spread his fat ass cheeks apart to give my tongue better access, saying "You're one sick puppy, ya know that buddy?"

I found it endearing.

Who wants to be my buddy?

OO, Boomer.

Wasn’t there a Clinton dog Buddy who died a tragic death?

Yes because he was on KILLARY'S HIT LIST!! He saw her diddling those kids at Comet Pizza so he had to die!

[quote]Wasn’t there a Clinton dog Buddy who died a tragic death?

Contractors working at their place in Chappaqua left a gate open. He ran out into the road and was run over.

OR THAT'S WHAT THEY'D HAVE YOU BELIEVE.

Accidents happen!

Did any of you as a child have to call your father “sir”?

Yeah, OP, why are you so bothered by two words that indicate nothing but friendliness and affection? What word or words would YOU substitute for "buddy" and "friend?"

“You” or “yous”, if I’m drunk, might work. The point is that these words are unnecessary cutesy schtick. Gay men especially shouldn’t be using them because it’s an act. Straight men can occasionally get away with it.

Another thing, parents calling their children “buddy” probably isn’t a good idea, since their children are their children, not their buddy. When I was a child in the 1980s, my aunts and uncles would call me “sport” or “squirt” once in a while, which I think is ok. At least they didn’t call me “buddy”.

R88 (etc.), how very odd that you would find "squirt" okay but not "buddy." It seems you feel comfortable with words you're familiar with, however weird they are, and uncomfortable with words you're not familiar with. But you should at least be able to recognize that's what's going on here, and there's nothing intrinsically wrong or strange about using the word "buddy" for a child or a stranger or whomever.

“Kiddo” makes me want to kick a parent in the pubes.

A bad Buddy! Buddy Ebsen undermines Miss Hathaway’s Democratic run in Pennsylvania.

Bears are the worst, with their faux-masc drag. Even in bear porn, it's all "yeah buddy yeah, fuck me buddy, fuck yeah buddy" in as deep a voice they can muster. Agree with others that it tends to be patronizing and dismissive as well.

Show me on the "Buddy" doll where the bad man touched you

R92 Haha! So true.

I use all of these. Use Bud on my grown son just like I have all his life. I use "man" a good bit. But watching Biden use it, I think it might date me.

If I am cruising a guy much younger than me, I have found that "sport" delivered in my best Gordon Gecko gets great returns.

“Sport”? Pedo-alert!

Nah, r96 no pedo. But it does invoke a kind of daddy thing. Which is what those twenty somethings are looking for if they are hooking up with me.

I use “man” a lot too. As we n “what the fuck are you doin’, man!” When someone cuts me off in traffic.

What about Champ? That sounds like someone giving a compliment.

"Nice butt you got there, Champ."

Champ and sport are for pedo gym teachers. “Nah” is for those who are desperate to butch it up. We’re sodomites, embrace it.

I use dude the way younger guys use bro, and the way older guys use man. It's funny how these words all mean almost the same thing but they date you immediately.

OP, Sport is very patronizing. Have you never read Great Gatsby?

Is it insensitive to call a transwomen "buddy?" It is literal violence?

I hate buddy too. I don't like it when people use that term for pets or small children. It doesn't sound affectionate to me at all. It's like the person is telling a cute little puppy or a two year old to "man up". It's gross.

How could I have forgotten "dude". It is exactly my age bracket.

“Dude” has bee ruined by “The Californians.”

All the construction workers around where I live call me "Sistah" whenever I skip by.

[quote]I hate buddy too. I don't like it when people use that term for pets or small children. It doesn't sound affectionate to me at all. It's like the person is telling a cute little puppy or a two year old to "man up". It's gross.

I don't know how the hell you came up with that twisted interpretation of a simple, friendly word, but you're welcome to it. Just keep it to yourself.

^Sure, buddy.

Buddy sucks but kiddo is worse. Doggo is unspeakable.

Kiddo was what Bill called Beatrice. I would consider it a term of endearment. But it just goes to show how the situation, the relationship and the tone make a big difference.

It's always odd when women say "dude"

I love it when women say “dude”.

But, a male friend of mine, a gay who fancies himself as butch, uses it in every sentence. It gets old quickly.

So, watch it, bud, when you caress

That pussy is a lioness

Using "buddy" causes premature and brutal aging. Don't do it.

Parents almost invariably call their little boys "buddy." Never the endearments they call their little girls, like "sweetie" or "honey."

Michael Bluth would often call son George Michael and brother Buster “buddy” on Arrested Development”. Of course, one of them was a teenager and the other one was mentally retarded.

I call my daughter “buddy.”

(I had forgotten the Kristy McNichol character, which is hilarious.)

Lots of little southern boys are called “Sugar,” r117.

Which explains a lot, I guess.

How many of you grew up with these, they were one of the few classics at the ice cream truck, other trendy things would come and go like PAC Man Pops, but these were the old standbys? They ones from the truck always tasted so much better than ones from the grocery store.

Squirt is really weird. I don't think I've heard it since I was a kid.

Does it... does it mean what I think it does? Why would you call a kid a "squirt?" I mean.... come on. What's really up with "squirt??"

What about "chief"?

A buddy is someone who goes and gets two blow jobs and comes back and gives you one!

A buddy is someone who blows you too.

Got any other petty crap you can annoy us with, Op?

What do you say, buddy boy? Help a fellow out?

This discussion has gotten quite ridiculous. Bottom line: The meaning of the word "buddy," like SO MANY other words, all depends on context, tone of voice, and several other variables from one situation/interaction to the next. Now, can we PLEASE STOP?

R128 Only if you say “Buddy, now, can we PLEASE STOP?” In the correct tone, context and several other variables?

[quote] I don't mind when people use it in a friendly way. But when closeted or DL guys are trying to flirt or whatever they are trying to do and call you "buddy," it comes across awkward and weird.

IOW, it has never happened to you. You just like to make sweeping generalizations. From the way you write, it sounds like every "closeted or DL" guy hits on you from the second you leave your house and until you are back home. They don't. And you know they don't. And you know that I know they don't.

I just know you shouldn’t be calling the same guy “Buddy” and “Daddy” in the same sentence.

Overheard at ANY eagle bar - BUDDY about 690 times

Any other oldsters remember this?

I remember those commercials. At the time, I thought children that had one had broken households or some other tragic situation. What’s interesting to me now is that gay men who call others “buddy” have the same hat and combover hair as that doll!

Tell you what r128, why don't you clue us in on the threads that you keep going well beyond their shelf life so we can criticize you instead of hiding your activities. I doubt you just came out of the blue to make your point about buddy and are now moving on in the dead of night.

^ drinking whiskey with one’s coffee?

^ Not too smart, eh?

Fuck My Buddy

I didn’t understand this joke on Kimmy Schmidt. Jacqueline says to her parents ‘Later days bud...dy’.

Is this a pop culture reference? DL - please help explain it to me!!!

[quote]I like to call people "chief."

I prefer "old sport."

I liked Nancy Sinatra’s version

Or, R129, I could just direct towards you a response with a meaning that does NOT depend on context, etc.: "Go to hell, you insufferable asshole."

And R135, your post is so poorly written that I honestly am not sure what you mean, but since it appears you're insulting me, I'll direct the response above to you as well.

Dude, where's my car?

What's wrong with little squirt?

The word “buddy” makes me think of Pauly Shore.