What's one of the most insulting things a guy has ever said to you?

When i was about 14: "When I first met you I thought you were, like, a 2 out of 10. Now I think you're an 8 or 9." This person went on to clarify that they actually thought I was "retarded" at first because I was so ugly. So yeah. At least they came around?

“I’ve always liked guys with a few extra pounds.”

"Please do not contact me again. You are shrouded in disappointment" - hurt because it was true. Lobbed at me by an *actual* friend with benefits who finally decided to cut me off when I cancelled on him one too many times...was dealing with depression at the time, to be fair. Still, though - ouch

You might get a second glance, but you'd never give anybody whiplash.

"You embroider neatly."

“I wanna treat you like a real lady!”

"You'll do."

"You're lucky I'm feeling charitable tonight."

"Most gay men would kill to hook up with an educated straight guy like me."

That i looked like Nellie..

“I thought you were a Republican“

Unfortunately this really did happen

When my boyfriend told my mom...."thanks for letting borrow the priss pot". (My mom replied "Keep it").

I love you too much to have sex with you.

I have too many of these things going way, way back. I luckily don't dwell on them like a did when I was younger. I could write a book on the way I was shoved into little league baseball and the embarrassment that followed. Needed glasses, didn't know. Couldn't see the damn ball. My dad and my brother played college ball so I really stuck out as a disappointment. I was a pretty decent writer but no one cares about that. I survived. Life wasn't perfect but I found peace and found a way to march to my own drum. I do remember all of my attempts at team sports so vividly still. I wish my dad or my brother had tried to teach me to throw or catch a ball. Maybe they did a few times and just gave up. Who knows? And really who cares at this point. We have to just keep moving forward.

R 12 Here. Sorry, I had a bit too much wine and misread the question. My reply is off subject.

You’d be quite handsome if you lost some weight.

This is AFTER he paid for tofurkey rounds of drinks.

*four

“Tofurkey “!?! what the hell, autocorrect?

That I confuse being carefree with careless.

Jeez, R3, never let someone -- especially if it's just some piece of ass -- talk to you that way, let alone internalize it as the truth you deserved to hear.

[quote] "Please do not contact me again. You are shrouded in disappointment" - hurt because it was true. Lobbed at me by an *actual* friend with benefits who finally decided to cut me off when I cancelled on him one too many times...was dealing with depression at the time, to be fair. Still, though - ouch

Actually, I though R3's FWB cut him off in a pretty classy fashion. R3 admits that what FWB said was true. People complain about getting ghosted, and "You should have explained." Then, when someone actually says exactly why they're cutting you off, it's too much to handle.

"If I wasn't drunk and high I never would have had sex with you, you're not my type at all!"

We had sex 3 or 4 times.....

After sex with an older guy with flashy car (now dead of AIDS):

"You'd be really hot if you worked out and had a better body."

Oh, ok.

[quote] You’d be quite handsome if you lost some weight. This is AFTER he paid for four rounds of drinks.

That's not so bad. I was actually told this while being sexually assaulted.

When my sister (who has struggled with her weight all her life) was in high school back in the '80s, some random cunt told her, "You dress cute for a fat girl!"

When I was in college, I was dating a guy who was 13 years older than me. He worked for a record label. We had some fun and very hot sex, but deep down I knew I was way more into him than he was me.

One time I met him at his office to go have lunch. He brought me inside and introduced me around and gave me a tour, filled my bag with a ton of promo CDs, etc. I was super excited, as me made me feel really special. I was waiting for him in the lobby while he got his coat and one of his co-workers who I'd just met approached me and asked me out. He was very sweet and not the least bit cruisy or creepy, so I was not upset at him and assumed he misunderstood, so I clarified that I was seeing someone, and was, in fact, his co-worker's boyfriend. He said- Oh, I just asked xxxx if you were single and if it was okay to ask you out. I'm not sure which of us was more embarrassed. I laughed it off and assured him that he must have misunderstood, but I was super humiliated and my "relationship" didn't last much longer.

You smarter than you look.

R23, wow. Your ex was a major asshole.

To be fair, most of these, especially those about looks, sound like negging to me (deliberate insults aimed at bringing your self-confidence down. Insecure assholes do that a lot to feel better about themselves.)

I have had a similar experience to the guy who has depression and was chastised for flaking on meetings. Funnily enough, the guy who read me a lecture about what a flake I was (and who knew very well how much I was struggling with depression) later cut out most of his friends in a similarly holier-than-thou fashion. Turns out... he just was a huge asshole who lacked empathy.

R11 Or I respect you too much to have sex with you.

[quote]Lobbed at me by an *actual* friend with benefits who finally decided to cut me off when I cancelled on him one too many times.

People who cancel "one too many times" deserve to be cut off in most instances.

"You're too special." "You're in a class by yourself." "I could never do that to you, use you like a whore." Gentle and totally passive aggressive words from a hot, slick, shallowly charming bodybuilder drug dealing sociopath.

I never once spoke another word to him after that. Ghosted him every time I saw him at the gym and he became the invisible man. Sex never happened. (A little too doughy for the rock). But I know it drove him crazy to be ignored. I'll eventually forget him, but I know he'll remember me.

“Do you have a minor case of Down’s Syndrome? It’s ok if you do, I have a cousin who has Down’s. I’m just sensitive to it.”

"You're a nice guy..."

Did anybody ever tell you that you look like Margaret Hamilton?

"B-List at best!"

Quite awhile ago I moved to a new city in the middle of winter. One of the days I had reserved to look for an apartment turned out to be a gray, snowy, icy day, so I had to dress appropriately: jeans, sweater, boots, snow jacket.I had tromped around the gayborbood in which I was determined to live, checked out some depressing apartments and seeing how it was 5p or so, decided to pop into a gay bar for a cocktail.

An older man took the seat next to me at the bar and we started chatting. I was happy to talk to a local, just to get an idea of the scene, and he was pretty chatty... fascinating job, not creepy, etc. As I’m ordering my second drink he turned to (attempt?) to give me a compliment.

“I like you,” he said. “Most people here in this bar care so much about what they look like and how they dress. But not you.”

"You know, your features are rather nondescript"

Me, 'I feel you becoming less interested all of a sudden.'

Him, "I'm getting sober.'

"It's late. You'll do."

“You’re very good at sex, but you’re probably not very good at anything else.”

Said to me by a trick at his place in Greenwich Village, about 40 years ago, when I was married and self-hating.

I was in a Fraternity at a small mi state college in the early 80s . I had a frat brother , very nice guy who died of AIDS from being Hemophiliac . Another Frat Brother ran into me in the Mall , I was close friends with this guy . He said to me poor so and so is dead , and you're still taking it up the ass . I walked away , and ran my finger across my neck . He tried to apologize and I walked away . He tried to call several times , I hung up. NEVAH SPEAK TO ME AGAIN .

R38 WOW!!! What a douche!!!

[Quote] cancelled on him one too many times...was dealing with depression at the time, to be fair.

To be fair - to yourself, not to him.

Told hot bodybuilder guy, that I had seen around for over a year, and who finally came over, that I was inexperienced. "Sex with you was painful, you're inexperienced, you CHAFED me! And it wasn't even worth it"

Off he went. He looked like an Adonis but he was such a jerk.

One of the most insulting things: a guy I met at a bar forgot that we already hooked up before. He approached me and I realized he didn't recognize me. I had to remind him. Also, it was more than a hookup, it was an actual drinks date where we rode in the same car, etc. Fast forward a couple more years and we're again in the same bar (by coincidence). He's eyeing me up and I can just tell he doesn't recognize me.

It took a while, but I can actually laugh about that now.

I've ended up working with someone who I dated some years back. He pretended not to even know me. How I want to out him! Oh, how I want to out...!

While I was sucking his dick, looking at his pager (this was a long time ago) "I've got to go. I've got a client"

Yeah, he was a whore.

No, I didn't know.

Yes, I got checked for every disease known to mankind (all negative, whew)

R44 - I’m so confused. What kind of disease can you get from sucking cock?

Throat cancer. I think.

He said I was an endomorph.

[quote] [R44] - I’m so confused. What kind of disease can you get from sucking cock?

You've never heard of oral gonorrhea or chlamydia?

New to town, got invited to a gay halloween party. Dressed like a lumberjack. Some guy loudly asked if I was supposed to be the nephew from The Red Green Show. Ouch.

Why do you work so hard to be ordinary?

R46 Gonorrhea of the throat, herpes, cytomegalovirus, epiglottitis, just to name a few...

[quote] I’m so confused. What kind of disease can you get from sucking cock?

HPV and Oropharyngeal Cancer

Damn I guess I’m lucky for never having caught any of the aforementioned ailments. I’m 50 and have been sucking random cocks and swallowing since I was 18. Im guessing those mentioned diseases have a very low percentage of transmission.

"You're the lucky one."

“There’re not bad, but they’re not great either.”

"You're not traditionally handsome."

This was decades ago. Wouldn't you think I'd have forgotten by now????

When an acquaintance got to know me fairly well after spending lots of time together - "Wow, for a skinny guy, you actually really do eat a lot. We used to say you were anorexic or bulimic, or on drugs or something." Wow, thanks.

A guy I was having sex with who wasn't even my type says- I wouldn't even look at you on the street- He wanted to video himself sucking my off and I refused to let him to do it. Just before he had been saying how great my cock was.

I don't know why, but I used to get this really, really often (usually after several dates):

"You know, you're actually good looking."

And they say it as though it's quite a surprise, and that they clearly thought I was a dog.

You're just so plain looking!

A guy I had a huge crush on. I went to his apt for a party. He opens the door and says, “Oh, I forgot I invited you.”

Crushed me for years

“I’ve been out with so many good looking guys and they haven’t ended well—so I figured I’d go out with you.”

“I started to get hard, but then I realized I was with you.”

“Your clit is adorable.”

"I didn't know they made Calvin Klein underwear in your size."

I was a 32 waist.

Well... in all fairness R65

He started texting 10 minutes into a bad date and says 'my friends cat died this morning and I want to see if she still wants me to come over.' Looks me right in the eye and says 'but I guess YOU hear that one alot.'

[quote] A 32 is not exactly petite.

It's a medium.

[quote]It's a medium.

Gurl.

“You’ve made my life a living hell.”

You look like Natasha Kinski only not so pretty

32 is a perfect medium size by all fashion standards, who the f thinks that's fat?

"It's a shame you're not cuter,you have a great personality ". I was 15 .

Your grandmother's ass is tighter.

Jesus Christ, R67, I hope you threw a drink in his face.

Mm. Nothing that I remember. The thing that hurt the most was: "You're crazy!"

I couldn't argue, it was and still is true.

“If you’d start lifting weights, you’d be *really* hot! “

Went alone to a gay bar at 19 and was thrilled because a hot guy there with group of friends was talking to me. Pinches my arm and says “you don’t workout do you?” and then he walked off.

R2 I like guys with extra weight and would say that as a compliment

"You are going to regret being gay"

This from an old troll sitting in a gay bar buying me a drink when I was only 19.

I have a slim build (it's genetic) and was even more slender in my 20s. Was getting a heavy cruise from a guy in a gym locker room. He was getting undressed to go into the shower. I started to do likewise and he said, "wow, that's interesting - you know, your body really looks better in clothes". Ouch. I just pulled back on my clothes and left.

(1j Going down on someone, only to realize he has lit a cigarette and is looking bored. I’m glad he’s dead now. (2) Being called the wrong name, after being together for years. And I was called by his ex’s name. Hope he’s dead. (3) R23 for the win, though.

Guy on Scruff: “I’m too good for you.”

I love guys with receding hairlines. Oy

I've gotta say- If someone said to me "Your grandmother's ass is tighter" i would have had a hard time not laughing no matter how insulted I was.

He looked like a rougher nosed version of Christopher Reeve.

“You’re too smooth” - meaning not ripped? I was 17 and had just dropped 40 pounds. The ass and thighs protested.

I now have the body of a ripped hairless alley cat. I want to find that fucker. Make him steer using a tube.

After eating his vegetarian chili from Whole Foods, the next morning he says to me,

“What’s that smell?”

“You do get into your food.” This from a gal with an eating disorder. I guess she was hyper aware of people’s eating styles . What can I say, I’m Italian.

R15 holy fuck, I’m lying here in the dark with insomnia, had to stifle a burst of laughter so I don’t wake anyone

that he thought i was a man....

"You have so little to say to me and so much not to say"

'I think we should go our separate ways, you have issues.' I had just been diagnosed with throat cancer

I remember your story from another thread, R92. And I will say it again - despite the horrible circumstances, you were unbelievably lucky to get rid of that psychopath.

[quote] If you’d start lifting weights, you’d be *really* hot! “

That made me laugh because a top marveled over my "beautiful nature muscles."

I had been working out for years at that point.

This wasn't necessarily insulting as much as insensitive. I'd been being treated for colon cancer and it was about six months since my chemo ended. I hadn't been with another guy at that point for about a year and I felt ready to get back out there. I had a coffee date with some guy I met on an app. He was a terrible conversationalist in person so I was asking a lot of questions to get him to talk. He was a nurse and he worked in a facility that did dialysis and other sorts of infusion-like treatments. He was in charge of all the other nurses and all he did was bitch about his job.

At some point he asked me how long it had been since I'd had a boyfriend, dated, etc. I said- oh, it's been about a year... And he kept harping on me, Why so long, why so long? I said I'd had some medical issues... No one really prepares you how to talk around going through something so life altering when it's a topic that no one really wants to be confronted with, especially on a first date, so I wasn't eager to bring it up, but I wasn't yet versed well enough in the art of avoiding it.

So I finally admitted that I had been treated for cancer the year before but that everything was okay now and it had been several months since my last treatment. He asked what kind of cancer and I told him and he said, "Oh, that almost always comes back," just as though he was telling me what he'd had for dinner, except there was such condescension in his tone, I felt like I had been slapped.

I said, "No, not almost always," and he persisted, so I finished my coffee, got up and left. Walked to my car, had a complete breakdown and was a basket case for the rest of the night. Not necessarily because I believed him, but people think that the worst part of a cancer diagnosis is the treatment. That's awful, yes, but you have something to focus on and you feel like you're taking steps and fighting. Once it's over, it's really hard to shake that ever present feeling that the other shoe is about to drop.

After that, I didn't go on another date for probably five months. Oh, and I did text him to tell him what a colossal asshole he was.

R95- Your date sounded like a CUNT.

R95, sorry that happened to you. Easy to say, but don't take it personally. You had never met this asshole before this stupid coffee date, so whatever he said is about him, not you.

I forget the exact words, but a guy whose home I went to after arranging a hookup online kept saying words to the effect that he couldn't believe I was the same person as in the photo I exchanged with him. Now maybe I wasn't looking my best that day, but I most certainly did not send him another person's photo or doctor one of my own (recent) pictures. I understand that people can discover they're not attracted to someone, or just not in the mood, but repeatedly implying that it was a deception or moral failing on my part pissed me off royally.

I forget the exact words, but a guy whose home I went to after arranging a hookup online kept saying words to the effect that he couldn't believe I was the same person as in the photo I exchanged with him. Now maybe I wasn't looking my best that day, but I most certainly did not send him another person's photo or doctor one of my own (recent) pictures. I understand that people can discover they're not attracted to someone, or just not in the mood, but repeatedly implying that it was a deception or moral failing on my part pissed me off royally.

An ex-bf of mine said to his roommate he'd wish my dick was smaller.

"You're always the third best-looking guy at any party. There's the exotic beauty, there's the bad-boy sex god, then there's you, perfectly, blandly handsome you."

The humblebraggers have arrived.

“You’re extraordinary good looks make it intimidating to approach you. I also wouldn’t trust you in a relationship because I would think guys are throwing themselves at you constantly.”

Fine, R102!

“Don’t clench; you’re too tiny as it is.”

R95, did it come back?

When most fat guys lose weight they look better. That couldn't help you though, you'd need a handsome face too.

R106 did somebody really say that to you?

[quote] [R95], did it come back?

So far, so good. 4 1/2 years. Don't jinx me.

Yes R107. He was a friend of a guy I knew. I had lost 60 pounds over a short period of time because of a health issue and my friend was asking about the weight loss and my health. His friend decided to weigh in with his opinion.

R106 you should have spat in his face and walked away . What a cunt that queen was.

This really happened: my personal trainer friend wanted to set me up with a client of his. We were introduced at a party, chatted a bit but I sensed he wasn’t interested. And he was very obvious about it. Fast forward 10 yrs later. I went from being very skinny to buff and in great shape thanks to my trainer friend. Met this guy online and he invited me to his place. We hit it off and fucked for hours. Afterwards we chatted a bit and somehow we started talking about trainers and I mentioned my friends name. This guy says ‘hey I know him. He was my trainer at Crunch about 10 years ago but he tried to set me up with this skinny, creepy looking dude and I wasn’t into it. Things got weird after that so I got a new trainer.’ Then it all came back to me. I didn’t say a word but I did get to jerk him around for a few weeks before I finally dumped him.

[quote] After sex with an older guy with flashy car (now dead of AIDS):

If that car had worn a condom ,it might still be alive today.

“The hottest guy I’ve ever seen in my whole life just totally hit on me...”

My partner of 18 years when we got a little drunk at The Eagle one Sunday last year.

Yeah, still sounds cunty. Probably accurate, cunty nonetheless.

I wouldn't give you AIDS with HIS dick. (Points to old troll sitting three stools down.)

[quote] “The hottest guy I’ve ever seen in my whole life just totally hit on me...” My partner of 18 years when we got a little drunk at The Eagle one Sunday last year.

R113, I've never had an 18-year romantic relationship, so, serious question. I always assumed that a lot of couples (not all) in long-term relationships become comfortable talking about their "hall pass" crush. Is that just not cool at all?

“I lost a bet, but at least you got what you wanted.”

My crush telling me that the reason he slept with me was that he lost a bet he and my so-called best friend made about who could sleep with another guy first. My best friend said he knew it was the only way my crush would ever have sex with me...

Last guy I dated was a real mental case. He was very sweet at first and then his mask started to slip and he morphed into an abusive narcissist type person. Anyway one time he got mad at me and hissed "What do you bring to the table?!? Huh!? NOTHING!"

Ironically, at this time, I was paying his rent, I'd bought a second car for him to use to go to job interviews (never happened), I was having sex with him daily if not twice a day, encouraged him and hung out with him all the time. I'd bought him a winter coat and ski pants and had taken him skiing, bought him THC tinctures for Christmas, would always take him out to dinner somewhere snazzy for our monthly anniversary. I'd also made efforts to become close with his young-adult daughter and had flown her across the country to spend a week with us. I also took him to multiple concerts and weekend trips. In truth I did WAY too much. The guy was broke as a joke and I believe that his emergent anger was stemming from the fact that that I was finally starting to put up my boundaries and was cutting off the teat. So whatever he could say to demean me, diminish me, he began experimenting to see which buttons to push for maximum pain.

"What do you bring to the table?! Huh?! " will always stand out for me as the most ludicrous thing a boyfriend has ever said to me.

R118, you type bottom.

R119 Yeah, totally. I do. Or did. Now I type single!

[quote]"What do you bring to the table?!? Huh!? NOTHING!"

Sounds like this was classic projection, R118.

Someone said this to him once, and it cut too close to the bone.

R118, you were doing *way* too much. Glad you got out of that relationship.

R121 Yes! Thank you. That's what I felt, too! Once I started to close up the candy shop and challenge his constant taking, he started projecting more and more. (Kinda like Trump.) Whatever he was accusing me of, I'd think about it and realize that it was actually something he was doing, or failing to do, or hiding. This person is out of the picture now, thankfully.

R122 I know, I know. I went temporarily insane. I was dickmatized. And rebounding off of a 17 year relationship that actually was meaningful and extremely paintful to end, but fairly sexless for the last year. I'd been so hungry for touch and this guy had a great bod. But yeah...that's what ya get when you rebound hard and fast: Joker's Wild!

[quote] The guy was broke as a joke and I believe that his emergent anger was stemming from the fact that that I was finally starting to put up my boundaries and was cutting off the teat. So whatever he could say to demean me, diminish me, he began experimenting to see which buttons to push for maximum pain.

At least he didn't savagely mock your penchant for stale clichés and mixed metaphors.

[quote]At least he didn't savagely mock your penchant for stale clichés and mixed metaphors.

Speaking of which, isn't a cliché stale by definition?

Our local Pride org put together a fun booze cruise during our Pride Week festivities several years ago. My husband and I went with some of our friends. There were a lot of people on board for this three hour boat ride, including a lot of unfamiliar faces. After the cruise took off I struck up a chat with a guy who had just moved to town & was looking for friends. I motioned for my hubby to come over, introduced them, & the three of us chatted for several minutes. My husband excused himself to go to the lower deck & look for some other friends who were supposed to meet us. As soon as he was gone the guy leans in and says "You could do *so* much better. I was floored. I told him that was fucked up and walked away. I decided to NOT tell my husband while we were still cruising because he would've knocked that asshole overboard. I told him after we got home because my husband was asking about him & if we should invite him to a friend's party later that week.

I was at a house party of gays and one said aloud, “I’d fuck everyone in this room except you and pointed to me.”

You told your husband that the guy said to you 'you could do so much better'? Why would you say something so hurtful to your husband? Unless I'm not understanding this. I realize what the guy said was lousy but couldn't you have gotten out of inviting him in a way kinder to your husband?

The truth is you probably could do so much better than your ugly, loser husband

I think you handled it well R129, even if it hurt your husband’s feelings. Little white lies to smooth things over add up.

R127 I experienced that a few times with my 1st husband. God love him,but he wasnt the most handsome man . When I first started dating him my "friends" called him "TDU" for tall,dark and ugly . In fact he asked me out for months before I deigned to go ,I was that full of myself (and also 21) . He had grown up in foster care in New Jersey and they never took him to a dentist once so his teeth,while healthy,were crooked. He had also had his nose badly broken at some point and it was never fixed,and a scar on his upper lip that pulled it slightly to the side. His good points were he had fantastic thick wavy dark hair,huge brown eyes and was 6'2 with a hard,hairy body and a set of shoulders so wide we played hell finding him shirts !

He also had a loving heart and amazing tenderness ,and the 12 years we had before he died made me grateful every single day I had gotten over my plastic self and looked deeper . Those very friends who laughed quickly turned envious when they saw how very good he was to me and how happy he made me. The 7 1/2 fat inches didnt hurt either ! I was 34 when he died and he ruined me forever on how I expected a man to treat me . I had other lovers ,one for 7 years,but it was never the same. I just wished I learned at a younger age that looks are indeed only skin deep , who knows what i passed up being a plastic bitch .

“Well, you’re not a KNOCKOUT or anything, but you’re nice looking.”

“Oh my god, you’ve lost like 80 POUNDS” - after I lost maybe 15 pounds.

Got the nerve to go talk to a hot guy at a gay bar. Went and introduced myself “Hi I’m (my name) what’s yours?” He goes “does that line work for you?”

You're cute and cute doesn't age well.

[quote] I think you handled it well [R129], even if it hurt your husband’s feelings. Little white lies to smooth things over add up.

I think you're actually talking about R127 here. Not sure what I would have done. You can tell a white lie & not tell husband what guy said: "You could do so much better [than your husband]." However, if husband and I got into a fight later and husband unleashed some bullshit on me, I would be tempted to say, "Oh, yeah? _____ actually told me I could do so much better than you!"

My father: (on asking him not to raise his voice to my mother) "You're full of shit." "Are you retarded?"

My cousin: (on request for a hug, because I just had upsetting news) "You're so needy. What's wrong with you?"

My rich uncle: (on hearing I lost my job through no fault of my own) "Why don't you just get a job picking up trash?"

My former boss, who employed me in a cold rundown downtown bakery for minimum wage: "It would be better if you wore a skirt, the gentlemen like it." (???I'm guessing he meant himself)

My first driving instructor made me weep in park on the side of the road, too, but I've forgotten what he said to 15-year old me to get that reaction. He was a fucking perverted creep, awful with people, and poor at his job, anyway.

There was also a really catty, cruel, snobby gay classmate (sorry) that I had in University, who looked down his nose at me and scoffed at anything I said during group projects. Again, I don't recall exactly what he said anymore, but it was needlessly nasty to my recollection. I never found out what his problem was; I presume he didn't like that I came from country stock, wasn't from an artistic background like him, and was obviously a dyke but not militant about it. It's too bad, I would have liked to be his casual friend.

R127 here. Basically I told my husband because: I had just introduced my husband to him & they exchanged numbers. As I mentioned above, we told him about a party at our friend's house and my husband was going to text him later in the week with details. Also I forgot to mention that the guy came up to me later in the cruise & was drunk & kept trying to apologize & he was a mess. I had to tell him of kind of loudly & my husband was on the deck above us & saw/ overheard some of it & knew something was up. It ends up that this guy was a jerk to a couple of our friends & was a creep in general, so my husband did not take it personally.

[quote] My first driving instructor made me weep in park on the side of the road, too, but I've forgotten what he said to 15-year old me to get that reaction. He was a fucking perverted creep, awful with people, and poor at his job, anyway.

I learned to drive on an old VW with a rustic-type clutch & stick shift. The person that was teaching me was such an asshole, bitching and yelling. It was only until later, when I drove other stick-shift cars that I realized that not all stick-shifts are that hard to drive.

My father knowing I had suffered from severe depression through my youth, 'Why don't you kill yourself?' He was such a prick I was more annoyed than upset.

'are u ethnic?'

[bold] The One Where DLers, Continue To Hold On To Minor Insults From 50 Years Ago

Some of these are pretty horrible and I'd hardly call a lot of them minor. It's amazing how awful people can be.

I know this is going to sound like blaming the victim but, seriously, you gotta wonder with some of these people who are serially insulted, what are they doing or not doing to receive that kind of constant negativity. You know who you are.

said i reminded him of caillou

^^^Ouch!

Mike Albo's book "The Underminer" is a classic of this genre. A fun, fast read that I highly recommend.

Lying in bed after sex with a Dutch guy who struggled with his English: "You look like you've never stepped into a gym."

He was cute so I decided that he must have meant to say something fun and flirty but it got mangled when translated into English. Of course, I never saw him again.

[quote]A guy I was having sex with who wasn't even my type says- I wouldn't even look at you on the street- He wanted to video himself sucking my off and I refused to let him to do it.

Does he live in NYC, r58?

[quote] A guy I was having sex with who wasn't even my type says- I wouldn't even look at you on the street-

You sound like a pair of catches! It's odd things didn't work out.

R149- I had sex with him at West Side Club in NYC so it's possible he lives in the city but I didn't ask him. If he had been my type- slim, with no tattoos- what he said would have hurt.

You’d be really handsome if you lost some weight. He was right. I did. When we hooked again a year or so later, I reminded him and the icing. On my cakes was that he had put on 50lbs!

You look just like Dave Matthews. Oh! I didn’t mean that as an insult.

You look like the young Maggie Smith

If I wanted a woman, I would have dated a woman.

'I'll just close my eyes and think of somebody else.'

That somebody else turned out to be his sister.

You might be cute if you lost 10 pounds and got your teeth fixed.

The "lose weight" insults don't seem that bad to me, esp. if it's just a few pounds. You can lose the weight if you really had to.

The other kind of insults, about immutable (unchangeable) things seem way more insulting.

Same with the "you'd be hot if you worked out" insults. If you had to work out, you could. Almost seems like a humblebrag.

R137 This is crazy, I had a driving instructor that was a perv, too. He took me into the country on our third lesson (of six). He made me get out and walk into the forest and look at this random pond with him. I was scared. He tried to come close and put his arm around me. I was like "WE SHOULD GO" and sped-walked back to the road. The drive back home was suuuuper awkard. Then he told my mom I earned my certificate. I got the driving lesson certificate with three out of six lessons completed. Also, he reminded me of Don Knotts as Mr. Furley in Three's Company. Just a bad scene all around.

"You ski at HUNTER?" Well I could have just died.

R159 so you were the one making the insult? "WE SHOULD GO." Rude.

R132 made me misty-eyed. It's a very sweet story. I'm sorry you lost him at such a young age.

"If a guy was a 9 or a 10, I'd date him regardless of how much he made. If he's 4 or a 5, like yourself, he has to be pulling at least $150,000 a year."

R163- On a scale of 1 to 10 how would the guy who said this to you rate?

We should all be glad for these buffoons who insult us and lay their cards on the table. What's worse are the skilled con men who fool us for a while, then we wake up to reality like it was all a bad dream. Lying on the floor with our pockets turned inside out.

Has never happened to me. If I find a guy too god looking coming on to me I'm wondering what he's after. I'm a 4.

[quote] "I love hanging out with guys I'm not attracted to!"

OP, if he ever says something like that again, answer, oh yeah, me too.

"I don't want to ruin the friendship..."

A recent date: "I'm a Trump supporter. And I hope you are, too." End of date.

R37, R71, R100, R101...humblebraggers all.

Lovely story, R132.

PLEASE, someone give me some advice as to how to deal with neggers. They paralyse me.

R170: a quick and vicious recitation of all their shortcomings followed by a strong push in the lower back area.

R158, while the 'lose a little weight' comments may not be as bad as some of the others, they show a complete lack of sensitivity, and a disregard for how those comments will be taken by the person to whom they are speaking.

I don’t mind a guy with a lisp.

My friends tell me I'm funny, the life of the party. I like making people laugh. I end up meeting a guy through a dating site, We go out. I try to break the ice with a few jokes. The guy tells me "Funny guys turn me off. And so do you." I was mortified.

Wow. Why are people such shits? The worse thing I've said is can't we be friends? I guess it is horrible in its own way but it's better than saying I don't find you attractive.

I went on a first date a few years back with a guy I met on OKCupid. We went to a really expensive restaurant (his pick), and I scrambled the entire time to keep the conversation going. I was wearing a blazer and a button down shirt. At the end of the date, he walked me to my car, went to give me a hug goodnight and while doing so, stuck his hands under my jacket and felt up my lower back, sides and abdomen (I'm assuming to see how in shape I was). I never heard from him again, but he also never heard from me again.

“I like your body and the sex, but I don’t like your personality “......a guy I used to fuck around with that I was TOTALLY into said this to me. I was crushed.

I was discussing a morbidly obese politician with this guy and he said, "Well, you're not exactly slim yourself."

I was carrying a few extra pounds, but comparing me to a 400 lb colossus????

Something suddenly came up!

"You bruised my dick" - I just gave him a blowjob :-(

"I like older guys."

I’m attracted to guys rugged pock-marked skin like yours.

I was invited to a sex party once. The host called and asked me to describe myself again? As soon as I mentioned being black he dis-invited me. He said the other some of the other guests didn't want blacks at the party. I suggested that instead of accommodating their racism, those guests could stay home. But I was the one uninvited, instead. On a side-note, the party was a bust and for his next one he called me back and asked me to attend saying that it was impossible to meet everyone's needs and specific tastes and he should have just held the party he wanted in the first place.

[r95] thanks for posting, I think. Wasn't expecting to be reminded about colorectal cancer tonight. That murse should lose his license, or worse. I'm about two years out. No, it doesn't always come back, and yes, it will always feel like the other shoe is about to drop. Wish we could discuss more. Am now disturbed, but here's what I had been thinking...

From a previous post: "I like you,” he said. “Most people here in this bar care so much about what they look like and how they dress. But not you.”

Heard almost the exact words, but I decided to take it as a compliment. He was saying that I was unpretentious and not vain, I thought. He found that to be "butch," to his liking. The fact is that I was a poor college student overdue for a haircut and was a bit of a slob. And sort of insecure about it, but sort of didn't care. I was at the bar to drink, not to be on display. He was 11 years older.

We went to his place, where I would stay for the next two toxic years. I ended up with a great career and a "makeover" but he was always judgemental about pretty much everything. At some point (in 1985) I decided to form my own opinions about myself and left.

Anyone else like R184, who actually formed a r'ship with someone who had just insulted them?

I'm sure if we had a thread "What is the most insulting thing a family member has ever said to you?" it would fill up in record time.

[quote] [[R95]] thanks for posting, I think. Wasn't expecting to be reminded about colorectal cancer tonight. That murse should lose his license, or worse. I'm about two years out. No, it doesn't always come back, and yes, it will always feel like the other shoe is about to drop. Wish we could discuss more. Am now disturbed, but here's what I had been thinking...

I'm sorry to have upset you. I know you know it wasn't my intention. If I can offer any comfort, I will say that the bouts of uncertainty and "waiting for the other shoe to drop" do lessen with time. Being two years out is a huge accomplishment. Just keep doing your best to treat yourself right and take care of yourself. You can always send up a bat signal by starting a thread on here about it if you need to talk in the future. I'll keep my eyes open.

What if you go to a sex party and there is nobody who is your type? Do you just walk out?

[quote]What if you go to a sex party and there is nobody who is your type? Do you just walk out?

If we learned anything from 'Eyes Wide Shut', it's that just walking out of a sex party isn't that simple.

r187 Give it some time. New people might arrive later. You might have a great conversation with a couple of people you never thought you'd ever talk to and end up having a good time. You might find other things attractive about guys who you thought were never "your type". Give yourself and other people a chance. These are the opportunities that allow you to grow as a person. You might just come away with a life-long friend.

Who needs friends?! I want to get laid!!

"You're a lot of fun, a lot of laughs. But there's nothing in the sex department." I cried for a week.

A guy I had a huge crush on told me that although I was a very nice guy, he just didn’t feel a thrill when he was with me.

[quote] "You'd be really hot if you worked out and had a better body."

From the beginning of the thread.....this is so common and I shut this kind of shit down as soon as I hear it.

And you'd think this is just about muscle or fat, but words aside it's the technique. I ran with the "bear" crowd for a while (not really one so don't any more) but I'd have guys all the time saying things like "I see you trimmed your beard. You were so much hotter before." Just like: things your bitchy inner voice says but that I'd never think to say to anyone. Meant to manipulate you, make you doubt yourself and throw you off balance.

Not to inject politics but this is a Trump thing, too. It's a specific psychological approach that's very abusive.

We have awful trolls and cunts on here sometimes, but R186 is a lovely person.

We’d been dating for a month or two when I traveled to visit my parents. The first night back, I asked if it was weird that I missed him already. He replied that he wasn’t sure if it was weird, but that to him it was like I had never existed. He later texted to say that he couldn’t pick me up from the airport when I got back (as planned) because he was going to a movie with someone he met at a bar while I was gone.

R195 I hope you never spoke to him again.

R196 I saw him here and there after that because it was a small city, but this was a decade ago and we’ve both moved on to new lives in new cities. It was just one of those brief twentysomething relationships where you’re both learning how to balance what you want with how to treat the other guy with respect. Sometimes we fail. He failed then, I failed loads of other times with other guys before I met my husband. It’s just easier to forget the things I said than the things that were said to me.

I dated a guy for two months, slept over a lot, the sex was fun, and his handsomeness made many people swoon. One day I was waiting for him at his apartment and he didn't show up. I called him the next day and asked what happened. He said, "Oh. You didn't get my letter?" Not insulting, I guess, but devastating nonetheless..

To my colon cancer friends:

90% of people with colon cancer that has not spread will be over at 5 years, which means they will probably never have to deal with cancer again. Even colon cancer that has spread to the liver and lungs is often curable.

Don’t worry about what the bitchy nurse told you. Many nurses are brilliant, but there are just as many who are glorified ass-wipers. Yours was an uneducated ass-wiper.

Meant to say “will be alive at 5 years”. What a horrible autocorrect 😆

I was supposed to meet a guy in a parking lot one night. I didn’t see his picture beforehand, so I got there first and when he pulled in to the left of me I saw what he looked like, said “sorry“ and went in reverse.

r158 tells his dates they'd be hot if they worked out.

R201 I once did that to a guy who showed up at my door . His pics were 15 years old at the least ,and 100 lbs lighter . I opened the door,took one look and said "Im sorry,you misrepresented yourself" and closed the door. I felt terrible ,but there was no way I was going to have sex with him.

R201 Were you going to do anything in the parking lot? I have so many blowjobs in diner parking lots when I was late teen. It’s the most Jersey thing about me.

No R204- it's the most SLUTTY thing about you.

I invited a straight mate to swim at my club once, and in the locker room he said "Wow, you're not really fat...I had always thought you were fat. You just have a fat face." I always thought this friend was handsome, so my feelings were hurt, but I was numb by how catty his comment was coming from someone straight. I still resent him to this day, yet remain friendly.

I've done him many favours in the past, extended him hospitality, invited him to dinners, etc. Not anymore. He keeps hinting around for another invitation to my winter place... It's not going to happen for him. I know I'm being somewhat petty, but I don't care.

^^ Humblebrag

R184, Thansk for noticing my post and sharing yours. I would agree with you that he didn’t mean it as an insult, rather, some weird compliment about how butch/masculine I looked. You and I may not have been coming from the same situation at the time, but when I went into that bar that night, I wanted a drink and some camaradrie. At least I got the drink.

I will echo the post that found it curious you developed an LTR with your insulter. Reading (perhaps a bit too much into your post) it seems that you thought you couldn’t do better at the time? I truly hope that is not the case now.

[quote]I had always thought you were fat. You just have a fat face

I've known people like this who say such things declaratively, as though it needs to be put on record. No filters at all. Almost spectrum-based.

It's just about tolerable if part of accepted banter between really good friends. Return the service, get a laugh. Otherwise, punch and delete indeed.

i was called mulatto.

R205 That is nowhere near the sluttiest thing about me.

Ugh R95, that guy was a total twat. I feel bad for his patients. My MIL had colon cancer decades ago and only had surgery (maybe radiation but no chemo) and it never came back. She had a family history on both sides too. We did lose her this year, but it was totally unrelated to that.

R193 it's basic negging. Poor R184 was a victim.

Everyone said you were boring. I wish I had listened to them.

[quote]i was called mulatto.

Well, are you?

Years ago I went with a friend to a bathhouse. My friend was NO spring chicken. He was willing to top this black guy who was even older than him. The black guy looked at his cock and said he was too small. This black guy was mid 60's or older and heavy set. NOT attractive AT all. What an ATTITUDE !

They told me you were boring but I didn't realize how much.

R209 I see your POV that sometimes this sort of thing is commonplace, even sort of bonding for some. We never did have a history of that sort of banter. He's known me for years, and that I'm a sensitive person. I'm not really a catty person, or one who likes to insult.

Funnily enough though, after sharing this experience with another gay bloke who finds him handsome as well, he had asked if our friend was packing, and I said sadly, " no". I could have served that nastiness back with, a yeah, and I always thought you had a big cock, but actually you're no meat and all potatoes! I always think of these retorts after the fact, but still am not the sort to dish them out. Glad you agree about keeping him at arm's reach. I don't need it.

R207 Right. Because everyone loves hearing they look fat, but simply have a fat face. (And in my case, a stocky body type without much of a neck, and only 5'7" as well... former rugger here). And It's especially even more enjoyable when hearing this from a bloke you admire physically, who is 6'4", naturally lean, gorgeous, etc.... Especially when you've been a generous friend over the years as well. I've never been skinny, but work like hell to remain fit, and I eat smart, but it takes an incredible amount of willpower, as well as skipping some meals.... And all for naught apparently, as I still look fat...

R218 You sound JUST my type ! Come sit next to me ,honey .

R219 Cheers doll. I appreciate the invitation.

I was in a sauna at a the Golden Gate YMCA in San Francisco many years ago. Everyone was naked and a handsome man with a beautiful body and a thick 9" flaccid cock nudges his equally hot friend, they whisper to each other and he points to me: he says "You remind me of my ex. But he had a much bigger dick". The sauna was full of people. It was quite humiliating.

R221 Total catty toxicity. It's especially unforgivable coming from those who possess such physical beauty. One should think there would be some sort of noblesse oblige, and humility. Exactly why my friends words gutted me so. If there's any reincarnation or divine justice for them, they'll all come back in Trump bodies.

that i was an old fart....i cussed her out so bad she told her bf to whup my ass.

i ran.

"If you made more money you'd be perfect."

And they say bitchiness and destructiveness in the gay community is a thing of the past. Ha!

R206, you keep mentioning that the guy is really handsome, lean and fit? Why would that make a difference anyway? Would his comment have been less cruel and hurtful had he been plain-looking, ugly and unfit?

Or were you perhaps in love with your straight friend and hurt by your fantasies being crushed by his remarks?

R226 No, not in love with him at all. He justvso happens to be one of those really attractive people,, and everyone in our group finds him handsome. The ladies talk about him all the time, and he gets so much attention. Imagine a dark haired Paul Walker, albeit a bit older..(same exact nose ). I suppose I expect someone so beautiful to be gracious, and realise we're not as as attractive. I almost expect most miserable, and really unattractive types to be catty and nasty. But him? Seems as if he has the world by the arse. He's also in an open relationship with a beautiful woman twelve years his junior. He doesn't need to tell me I have a fat face; I know I do! It's rude and unkind to someone like me.

After I unveiled my 6-inch penis, my trick said disappointingly, "I thought you were black!" (I am).

R226 I know many readers here pay no mind to signed, or previous posts, but go back and read my remarks @ R222. That posts sums up my feelings on the matter a bit more succinctly. (Before my 3rd cocktail!)

This didn’t have anything to do with me but I saw a guy for a while who wasn’t obviously sexy - he was frankly a little weird - but I’d gotten to know him and a mutual attraction developed and he had a really big, gorgeous cock. But he was just a bit too weird.

We had these really long sessions - y’know, the kind where I taste him for days after - and he was really affectionate. But he’d never fuck me. He said he knew from experience that if he fucked me, I’d be on his doorstep every day begging him to fuck me again, which sounded completely absurd. I was like, “Yeah, okay.”

R228, and then he said, “No, I mean black black!”

R206/R218 If you look puffy, bloated, chubby or red in the face without being overweight, that can signify that the body is reacting on red alert to something you’ve have eaten, drunk, bathed in, or touched.

Have you considered getting tested for allergies, using hypoallergenic skincare/hygiene and cosmetic products, or going on a histamine-lowering diet (sans alcohol)? You may also be affected by the presence of pets, use of candles/cologne/air freshener/sanitizer/cleaning products etc., or by living close to forest or green spaces (pollen).

If you’re taking a lot of supplements, vitamins, steroids, or anything for workouts, then that could also be making your face look that way.

Of course, some people are just born with wide or chubby faces. Maybe that’s you, in which case you might as well cease fretting about it, because short of a head transplant it will never change.

^^forgot to mention spores from mould or damp, that’s another big trigger for blowing up like a pufferfish.

Sometimes the swelling can be subtler, enough that you don’t notice it and assume it’s just babyfat or chub.

A guy once told me I looked like Barry Manilow.

Is it true, R234?

Someone once told me I looked like Tom Hanks

I was at a bar chatting up an okay looking guy. After a nice conversation, he looked around and said, "This is a place with such great looking guys--we seem so out of place."

I'm so glad that this isn't a date...

R232 Thanks for the advice, and making me chuckle a bit. I do have some slight allergies, but I'm just a short , thick, wide-faced natural Endomorph when it comes down to it! Working out has prevented me developing my Grandad's "Fred Mertz body type TBH!

I'm not fretting over it, and am fine with myself. It's simply how one doesn't expect comments like that... not only because friends ought to support one another, and "if you don't have anything nice to say, simply say nothing at all", but it's very "tone-deaf" coming from someone like him. It's lost on me how many posters here cannot understand that aspect.

Certainly hurtful words are more loaded, considering the source. Someone else asked if it had come from someone out of shape, or unattractive, would it not he as rude... Yes, still a rude backhanded compliment, but if they were surprised I was more fit after seeing me naked, there would still be a camaraderie of sorts. It's something a mean queen would utter, none of my other mates make comments about our bodies, or fat people. We don't put each other down, but rather raise each other up. I still wonder why he was looking and judging anyhow.

It's as R209 hit on it, really almost Aspie or spectrum-like behaviour to say something like that and be completely oblivious. He's sort of a cad, and a bit full of himself. This bloke once modeled when he was younger as well, if that helps with a mental picture.

I have a great partner, whom I'm very happy with. I don't need compliments or constant validation, but I certainly don't need weird insults either from better looking friends. I'm too old to put up with people like him.

I'm no gym rat, but at 5'11" and around 175 pounds, I'm certainly no Jabba the Hut either. Some super queeny and shit faced drunk emaciated twink started flirting with me at a bar one night and immediately said that he was into "heavier" guys, then to make things worse, he asked me if I had big nipples the size of "silver dollar pancakes" (I don't!) and that he's really turned on by that too. I quickly ended our conversation and walked away.

“I’d sleep with you if you lost 20 lbs....” 🙄 Uh...no thanks!

Are you sure that guy is 100% straight because I could never imagine a straight guy saying that after seeing a friend naked. That really takes jerk to another level. He just could have said something like 'all the work you're doing is really paying off' if he saw fit to complement you.

I'll oh, dear myself.

compliment

R242 I know, right? EVERYONE knows I'm gay too. It is weirdly out of place on many different levels. He's a bit younger as well. TBH, I don't have any other friends that attractive, where everyone seems to be unanimously crushing on. This may sound a bit odd, but I generally like that most of my mates are straight, because things like this aren't said... no sexual tension either. His comments made me uncomfortable as well, and I'm pretty comfortable otherwise in the locker room. I'm not keen on getting naked for young or sexy doctors either, so maybe this says something about me as well.

A few in our group, and a straight bartender call him "Handsome" or "Mr. Handsome". He's doesn't seem to have a lack of different ladies as for companionship, despite his part-time GF, but who the fuck knows. I took it as a put down nonetheless.

You look like Neil Young.

You look like Bruce Villanch. No one ever said that to me. But it would CERTAINLY be insulting.

"Is it in yet?"

"I thought 'you people' didn't have gag-reflexes"

Apparently, I'm not very good at this gay thing.

When I was younger I was ok looking. Thin. Nice face and hair. But I wasn’t a gym God or a gay mans wet dream. I can’t tell you how many coffee dates or hookups I had where guys were just plain nasty by either making insulting comments or just not wanting to speak to me. I always hung in and made the best of it. Now I wish I had just said fuck this and gotten up and left. No one deserves to be treated that way.

With a blank poker face he said, "You calm me down". I read it as 'you're no fun'. He always wore a ton of Calvin Klein Obsession and his credit cards got declined.

His next several boyfriends were hardcore bar queens who can't stop the music.

My friend's 14 year old daughter told a boy she loved him and he replied that she ought to be ashamed of herself.

R248, R250 wow!! Men really are cunts!

R251 we really can be!

We sometimes out-cunt the cuntiest of women.

Re: R250, he was right, he knew he wasn't worth it.

"I've never been involved with anyone as unmotivated as you."

While walking along the beach in the Pines: "Close your mouth. You look stupid."

"You're more accepting now of your betters."

A comment or criticism shared amongst friends can often come off as an insult to an acquaintance. The fat face comment comes to mind. When I was younger and not as immersed in gay culture as I am now, I would always consider the other gays I met up with as brothers in arms. I quickly disabused myself of that notion. But during that time, I was often disappointed in how other gay guys treated me and I managed to insult others by making insensitive comments assuming the same familiarity that I shared with my childhood friends. So it cuts both ways.

The way straight men joke around with their friends is often quite insulting, and never done by women; eg, baldy, fatty, etc. Harry and William would snipe at each other being bald or ginger...sadly Harry is now bald AND ginger.

R249 - We must have dated the same guy. Sounds like many a 1980s-90s New York Italian guido. The exact same words were said to me: "You calm me down." I interpreted it as the opposite of an aphrodisiac or basically, "you don't turn me on." This was a guy who always wanted to fuck the hottest guys, but had a ton of insecurities and had a deep seated need for a confidante and a platonic shoulder to cry on. My response to him was: "You want a therapist? You pay me $300 an hour. Same as a whore!"

"Your deodorant failed you today."

Depending on the bar, that could have been a pickup line, R258.

Calling me chubby. I guess it's better than being called fat.

Those that are good in bed are usually not that good at anything else. The height of insult. And compliment!

In college back in the 80s I was cruising the notorious Royce Hall 2nd Fl men's room at UCLA. It was large, cavernous, drafty, and almost always busy. One weekend afternoon I was in there alone in a stall at the back and in walks a stud from my Art History class. He pees, washes his hands and just leans against the wall near the sinks with his back towards the stall area. I thought he must be cruising and since it was a miracle we were alone it must be a sign from Heaven that I was meant to have him. I took off my shirt, dropped my pants to my ankles, I was naked basically, and began to tempt him. I began to furiously jack off. I opened my stall door all the way and stood outside, pinched my nipples, moaned, banged the stall door against the wall. He never budged, never paid any attention, kept looking forward out the open windows with his arms folded. I wouldn't give up. I kept jerking, waving my dick in his direction, making noise. This went on for at least 15 minutes. FINALLY, he slowly turned his head around and looked back at me. I froze. Did all my hard work pay off? Did I wear him down? Would I get the man of my dreams? He looked at my naked body puzzled for a moment and then said, "Aren't you cold?"

I laugh about this now but then, it was so depressing.

I was meeting a guy I met online on a specific corner. As I waited, I see a guy with pronounced limp walk my way. we had actually had a pleasant conversation online so it would have been nice to at least have continued that conversation.

He limps up to me and within one second says, "Sorry, not my type," turned and limped away.

I was dumbfounded. I sort of just stood there.

Then I got depressed that I wasn't even attractive enough for a guy with a limp.

R263 because people with limps should have no standards??

If you get rejected by a person with the a limp, you must have been absolutely hideous

Met a guy on a blind date. I asked if he was ready (I picked him up at his door) he stopped and said 'I can't do this, you are not what i expected." I said what were you expecting and he looked at me and said "not this" and closed his door.

Bumped into a guy I knew through a co-worker and we started talking.

Him: God, I could really use a cup of coffee.

Me: There's a diner down the street that makes great coffee. I'll buy.

Him: No I'd rather not be seen with you.

Me: What?

Him: You're gross. Where's this diner?

He walked away I just stood there for what felt like an eternity.

My God R267 . Im just speechless. Though I abhor such behavior,Id have spit right in his face.

R263, it's amazing how many good online conversations mean nothing if the person on the other end is not attractive in person

Which is absolutely true and I don't understand why there are those on DL who insist looks take 2nd place to personality and if you think otherwise you're just a shallow fag. Nobody wants to be with an attractive jerk but you can find the most loving kindest most generous guy but if he's not your type physically it's not going to work.

Do you do stand up? You remind me of John Candy.

"If you made more money you'd be perfect."

R272- How did he know how much money you made?

R272, humblebrag much?

"I insult you!"

R271 honestly I love John Candy and would love to be compared to him.

I told the absolute most gorgeous guy I knew in college I was gay and he immediately began flirting and we went out and became a couple. Or so I thought. I was on cloud nine, of course. He turned out to be really mean. He told me that I "reacted to things strangely" and that I "wasn't normal". In less than two weeks he dropped me and went back to his regular boyfriend, who I hadn't known about.

"Meh, I don't see what everyone sees in you."

"Is it in yet?" asked a bottom.

“You’re so good looking! If you were rich I would date you!” This from a guy (30s) in my meditation group who sprouted all sorts of spiritual platitudes and claimed to be living a simple life in spite of being the sole heir to a fortune.

I just stared at him.

r273, he manipulated/pried it out of me.

r274, that's not what I said, it's what the other guy said.

btw twenty years plus later, we are still friends and touch.

Yes, we get it, you were perfect in every way except your income.

You're picking up the check, right?

Wow I’m sorry people have been so cruel to so many of you. I hope you all know now that they’re the ones with the problems.

The st8 married guy I was seeing, he was alone in his yard drinking a beer..I greeted him and he replied "keep going," I said "I won't bother you anymore" and his responded "go, go,go" I now realize what a fool I was.

You're a Data Lounger, aren't you? You act like one.