What are the new destinations for meeting gay men of means?

So you're a whore.

OP = Blanche DuBois' twin brother

I will be at the Breakers in Palm Beach for Thanksgiving.

Welcome to the 21st century, OP.

If you want to meet and have a relationship with an educated, successful, professional man....

BECOME an educated, successful, professional man. Because that's who most of them are looking for.

The highest rates for whores are in the highest priced cities, such as London, Zurich, and Dubai. But those gentleman pay for QUALITY and there is STIFF competition.

Precious little country lamb- you had better be a lot more than just 'attractive'. The competition is fierce. And being in your late 20s would suggest that you are already too late to start.

Perhaps flight attendant is your best option.

Try your local Taco Tuesday...

R5 It's never too late.

If you're going the flight attendant route you will have to resign yourself to those 65+. In their hearts they understand they've sagged past hope and in terms of STD's they're past caring. The question will be are you up to the job?

236 E. 58th Street

It's more than a bar, it's The Townhouse Piano Bar of New York

Palladio. Piano. Profiteroles. Applause.

What more do you need?

Go to Palm Springs.....many old men with disposable income. Another option is Wilton Manors. You just need to choose which environment you prefer: depressing, hot desert or depressing, humid, hurricane crack town.

Men of means don't want dumb pretty young things until they turn 70 or 75. So, if you're up for some geriatric fucking and don't mind taking care of them in their decline, then you should have some options.

But don't expect any respect from anyone - as they'll always give you side-eye while you're with your aging hubby.

Any man under 70 who will take you on and support you financially will make you earn EVERY penny and hold their power over you for your entire life.

I want to meet a rich potential life partner.

I’m not interested in one night stands.

It’s OK if they’re older. I prefer an older man.

Saudi Arabia but do not call them gay or they will cut your throat.

I saw a May December romance when May was August or September and December had missing teeth. But he was a wealthy surgeon. It was chilling, the contempt and the using. They weren't even keeping up appearances, just forcing one another through the motions. It was ugly.

R13, how well I know. The "Rent Came Due" every day. I bailed after seven months.

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Tell us MORE r17!

Well, what did you expect, R17? It's fine to be a whore, I guess, but a dumb whore is unforgivable.

But the alternative is working retail in nowheresville.

Can anyone say one is worse?

29? Oh dear. Hon, haven't you watched Ryan Murphy's Versace

R17 he must've had stock in Viagra. Wanted to fuck me four times a day.

LATE 20’s?? Forget it, OP.

Maybe try becoming a cabaret singer.

A geriatric nurse, maybe. Near-death, rich pensioners so you don't have to wait too long for inheritance. It worked for me.

R24, I can’t help but indulge in these reveries...reality has been so hard and cruel lately.

Your biggest reverie is the notion you can really stomach an old man in exchange for money.

Late 20s early 30s can be a sweet spot for a very gorgeous, very professional whore. But you'll need to be skilled in many ways and it would help to have either an old family name or one fancy degree to add legitimacy in your partner's circle. Do you have an Ivy degree, OP? Speak French, or Chinese? Do you have a swanky family background so know how to navigate the monied life?

R28 - great point. And if you do in fact, have all of the qualities you mentioned, why not use them to advance yourself professionally so you don’t have to depend on anyone else?

It would help if you worked a few years in international contemporary art, or opera production, or private banking, or have been a couple years in some non-job, through family connections, in an international agency in Geneva or Vienna. Any apply, OP? Those are tickets to "marrying up".

I would say your odds are better in Wilton Manors and Palm Springs - there are a lot of guys who already left their successful jobs and who are pursuing other interests.

Many of these guys are in their 50's - but they could be lonely in their semi-retirement. If you meet men in major cities like NY, LA, etc. they are usually still working and busy with their careers. I would think those types would be less open to having to care for someone financially or who doesn't already have a career.

There are tons of older single gay men - but it's not easy to find one with a decent amount of money, who is still attractive, and who isn't too damaged.

But it can be done.

Reveries OP?? You’re not one the WedtWorld robots waxing philosophical about her awakening or something, please stop that.

Because people are LAZY and they are nare do wells. I know ne'er do wells who would rather glom onto an older gent worth 50 million to a billion, rather than slave away - because they know they aren't much good themselves for making money. These polished youngish men essentially become "trophy wives". I know one now approaching 40, alcoholic, great looking, tall and huge slong. Just ran another vanity business into the ground.

[quote] BECOME an educated, successful, professional man. Because that's who most of them are looking for.

What a false statement, R4. Are you even a gay man?

If you were pretty and svelte, you wouldn't have to start this silly thread.

[quote]Late 20s early 30s can be a sweet spot for a very gorgeous, very professional whore

Gay men care about appearances. Not just the physical appearance of their partner, but about how people will view them as a pair. Plenty of older gay men want a younger man who looks good but also has some career path that's of interest: Art History, international something or another, landscape architecture, arts management, museum lighting specialist...something tidy and clean and with a bit of prestige to it. With that he has a handsome young man "AND VERY BRIGHT." It's a double prize because it shows that the younger man didn't fall off a turnip truck and move in with the first man who offered him room and board. It also smooths over the business of "it's the older one who pays for everything, of course," making that less whore-john and more protege-benefactor. But it has to be reasonably legit or the sham will be smelled out in no time at all.

During a pandemic? Good luck. Late 20s doesn’t last forever.

r18 That picture made me sick.. Thats really what it comes down to.

If the old coot hires a classy whore with some morals, and is generous tp the whore, the whore won't kill him.

I've always been attracted to conservative business types. I had heard that the Townhouse in New York was the place to go. Around 1998, I finally convinced a few friends to try it out while we were there in NY for a weekend.

It was a waxworks of old dudes many with them with too much plastic surgery. After one round of drinks and several old fucks hitting on each of us, I convinced our group to leave. We were all in our 30s at the time but there- fresh meat. Too depressing and disgusting.

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Look to your future.

Now's a great time to become a flight attendant with Covid-19 and all. As if the job wasn't annoying enough before the pandemic. And with everyone having to wear masks, how are you gonna tell if they're actually hot? At late 20s, you've surpassed the NYC milk expiration date but you're quite close to the suburban expiration date. Usually the "I'm too pretty for Albany/Fresno/Corpus Christi etc" get out in their late teens. I wouldn't get your hopes up for a pampered life.

Agreed with R36 about the 'protege-benefactor' appearance. Those always get a pass.

But an unpolished, unworldly pretty young guy will always be dismissed and met with scorn and contempt.

Plus, you can't be TOO young. I think mid-30's is when it has the appearance of being acceptable. Older men know they look like fools to be with guys in their 20's and early 30's.

If you were in your 30s in the 1990's, R40, that means you are now one of the "old dudes" you saw in the Townhouse. Have you returned? It might not seem so depressing and disgusting to you now.

If you were a genuine gerontophile, money wouldn’t matter. You would find a nice old man and make him happy. Whoring is a brutal way to treat yourself.

I'm 68, retired, well-off, no heirs--but my life is a mess and I worry about being alone as I get older. I don't care about sex, but I wouldn't mind having a "companion" to take care of me, my house, and provide some "affection" and just general companionship.

What do you mean by mess, r47?

You can always lower your standards and go for the professional worth 5 to 10 million rather than holding out for the hundred millions and above. That would at least be a comfortable lifestyle, if not as luxurious. The advantage is that the competition is much lower for those men.

What's your net worth, R47?

You might find some takers here on DL.

[quote] The advantage is that the competition is much lower for those men.

Lol. No it's not.

r50 Around $2.5 million. Plus I get an annual pension of around $110K. (Monthly take-home is around $6500.) No social security.

Have you considered becoming a Senate page?

Way too old, R53, to be a page. I

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Yes, flight attendant sounds perfect. I hear Covid Airlines is hiring...

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[quote] Around $2.5 million. Plus I get an annual pension of around $110K.

Hmm.

I'm thinking you want to set your sights on either a chubby, unemployed 40-something with a nice personality, or a hot 25-year-old ex-con with a girlfriend, cognitive issues, and a meth addiction.

Just trying to keep it real.

[quote]I will be at the Breakers in Palm Beach for Thanksgiving

Hoping to get stuffed like a turkey?

If you’re hung, especially a good looking one you will be eaten up fast.

r57 I was thinking more along the lines of a desperate Latino immigrant.

Go for it, R60. Particularly if you're not too picky about conversational skills.

R57, a net worth of $2.5 million puts him in top 5% in the U.S. Top 1% in the world. He can get prime beef with that.

Widower, 58, not unattractive. Still working. Well traveled and well educated. Net worth about 2.5 mill. Projected retirement income about $175,000. The idea of having a 20 something underfoot all the time whining about life and wanting to be kept is nauseating.

Maybe older gay men looking for social contact and some young energy should host gay asylum seekers. There are associations that help. They'll be neither your lovers, nor your children. Just people who need some kindness and generosity and a chance at a new life.

[quote]What are the new destinations for gay who are mean?

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r64 I'd do that, but I'd expect them to provide some (non-sexual) services, like housework, etc.

So you went to a bar known for having older guys and then got upset that there were older guys and they hit on you r40.

Anyway, clearly thats where you need to hang out OP.

R66 There are lots of regulations about how asylum seekers can work, or not. Usually they are required to do some community work for a low salary. You could pay them under the table to be your maid as well but that's kind of not the set up.

I have had two maids paid under the table while waiting to get papers but you know what? I paid them market rate and one was a computer programmer and the other a nurse. Don't assume desperate immigrants and asylum seekers are unskilled and uneducated.

Generally speaking, if a gay man hasn’t been in a long term relationship by age 35, they won’t be. My single friends in their 50’s can’t tolerate anything but their own routine and generally have low self esteem. But there are always exceptions, good luck with that.

[quote]a net worth of $2.5 million puts him in top 5% in the U.S. Top 1% in the world. He can get prime beef with that.

Be wary. 68 is not 78, and it's not 88 or 98. DL is a magnet for hypochondriacs and people who insist of the very best quality in everything, whether it's toilet paper or sheets of a thread count beyond the work of angels, or memorial candles to keep a steady flame for their memorials to Mother. A fair number of them would go to any lengths, medical and otherwise, to live forever.

But worse than the that, there's always some old fool who, in a fit of pique, changes his will to leave the bulk of his estate to a niece and nephew in Florida, unseen for 20 years, with a small annual allowance for the devoted life partner to look after the mean little yappy dog who will outlive us all.

Old people can get very pissy about their money as, more and more, they see it as all they have.

[quote]Old people can get very pissy about their money as, more and more, they see it as all they have.

After 65, money pretty much IS all anyone has, R70.

68-year-old here. I don't have any children, siblings, parents, nieces or nephews. Only first cousins.

It’s still Puerto Vallarta. Has been for years. Many gay hotels, some right on the beach. I go to blue chairs or green chairs and have slutty cute bartenders bring me cervezas and ceviche, while watching the waves and the glorious sunsets.

[quote]It’s still Puerto Vallarta. Has been for years. Many gay hotels, some right on the beach

How many gay men of means go to Puerto Vallarta *not* to stay right on the beach?

R74 - I’m a “gay man of means” and we stay at Hotel Mercurio, which is several hundred yards to the beach. They have the best pool parties and comraderie. No reason to stay right on the beach when you can walk there.

[quote] What are the new destinations for meeting gay men of means?

Sure, like I'm gonna share that info with someone like you. You gay men of means stealing hussy!

58 year of man here, not bad looking especially for my age, high profile career still, current net worth worth 14 mill. Many interesting friends in US and Europe. Looking for companionship and someone to manage my life at home.

I appreciate youthful beauty as much as the next guy. But, I can't imagine having to deal with a much younger man on my arm on a daily basis. I would loose some of their respect of my friends, feel foolish and be embarrassed for the young guy who was just trying to earn his keep to I'm gone.

R77, Hey, big boy!

Net worth of 14 mill, R77?

You might consider hiring a proofreader.

Real gay men of means, have a trophy husband to parade around in public, and sex with all kinds of hot gay porn / only fans stars behind closed doors or at very private pool parties.

OP, I inadvertently discovered just the place where older men of means meet younger attractive men looking to "advance themselves". I'm in my 60's and for the last 25 years have belonged to a somewhat exclusive urban health club in a major metropolis. The initiation fee and monthly dues ensures a certain caliber of membership. A young man looking to meet interesting - and interested - older gentlemen need only to keep his eyes open while in the locker room or in the grill as he walks through to see whose eyes are following him. It helps to keep your ears open too. Casual conversations frequently occur spontaneously in the lounges or restaurants. ("Excuse me, I couldn't help overhearing your comments about your new racket. Can you give me some advice?") My current companion is a 30-something real estate attorney who used just those tactics to strike up a conversation after "stalking" me for a few weeks. Fortunately for me, he's into daddies. We've been together for 4 years and enjoy each other's company. I don't kid myself this is a LTR (I was in one for 23 years and don't want another) and am just enjoying it for what it is. And yes, he's mentioned in my will.

r73 Are these "slutty cute bartenders" for rent?

[quote] somewhat exclusive urban health club in a major metropolis.

Why can't you tell us the name, R81? I'm assuming it's in NYC.

R83 - the club is called Equinox

Andy Cohen has a membership at Equinox, so you can be sure it's super A-List!

R81 is a little odd for not wanting to say the name of this club. Maybe he wants to keep it to himself? I don’t think it’s Equinox. I’ve been there and nothing like that was happening.

[quote]We've been together for 4 years and enjoy each other's company. I don't kid myself this is a LTR (I was in one for 23 years and don't want another) and am just enjoying it for what it is. And yes, he's mentioned in my will.

You've been together for 4 years, but

It's not a LTR. What does a short-term relationship look like?

You mentioned him in your will, presumably as a beneficiary.

You sound generous, anyway.

R83, R84, R85, R86 - Not Equinox and not NYC. It's a one-off private health club. Not part of a chain.

R87 - Ours is not an exclusive relationship. He still likes to go to Palm Springs and play with other daddies at his favorite clothing optional resort and I'm fine with that. I have relationships with two other young men with whom I enjoy some no-strings fun on occasion. He's listed as a beneficiary because he has shown himself to be honest and hard working, doesn't drink or do drugs, supports his single mother, and has never asked me for anything.

Fair enough, R88. Whatever makes you happy.

It's the Yale Club.

R90 he said it was not in NYC. In New York people probably find older guys by joining gay clubs for activities.

Are you hot? You have to be hot first of all. A big dick helps in lieu of being hot.

R92, fortunately I aged into a 'silver daddy' after hitting a dry spell in my late 40's, early 50's. Keeping in reasonably decent shape helps and being endowed doesn't hurt.

--R88

I am looking for a nice, slightly well-off American man! Please! It can't be that hard...

Go to Palm Beach, stay at The Colony hotel and go to their Happy Hour on Thursday night. You'll be cruising around in a Bentley Continental convertible in no time.

Palm Beach is gay?

No, and you'll be in that Bentley with an octagenarian woman with three face lifts and a moth eaten mink as her walker for the next three years

What' wrong with that, R97?

OP, your snooty diction thrills me. Do you carry a lorgnon?

Smell her!!!!!!

Are you Aaron Schock OP? I notice you have conveniently shaved a decade off your age and left out mention of your chronic meth habit.

But I think we can all see your game plan.