When Someone Close to You Forgets Your Birthday

Are we to understand that today’s your birthday and you’re fishing for salutations???

Merry Fartmas, hon.

I’m the one who always forgets. And I’m sorry. I think my brother and most of my friends know to expect me to forget by now and don’t take it personally, anymore.

Almost everyone forgot about my birthday this year, but I don't blame them, I barely know which days it

OP no one cares you were born in the first place - they're certainly not going to send you balloons to remind us you're still here.

My mother forgot it was my 16th birthday.

Nope, R1, I don't need salutations, just trying to put it in context. Thanks for the Bronx cheer, though.

Well, I'm not 9 yrs old, so I can't imagine caring one way or the other.

My own mother forgot my birthday a few years ago...and I was her firstborn

OP if you expect everyone to forget your birthday, then you are pleasantly surprised when they don't.

One time I forgot my own mother's birthday ... and I called her on the day of her birthday and we had a long conversation about my day-to-day selfish nonsense and we finished the whole conversation without my remembering it was her birthday. And she said nothing to remind me.

And I felt terrible afterwards.

Yes people forget mine and I forget others.

I’ve always felt birthdays, like Christmas, are for kids. I try to remember them, but don’t make much effort, and I couldn’t care less if someone remembers mine. I do something for myself, and if someone joins me, that’s always nice.

I was born on December 26, the day after Christmas. I'm always amazed if someone DOES remember it.

The only way to prevent this from happening, if remembering your birthday matters to you, is to remind your friends it is coming in the two weeks ahead. Only remind them once.

This used to bother me to no end, R14

A person's birthday is the one day, the only day people who say they love me have to show it.

Years went by and I learned to let it go.

I'd take myself out to a nice dinner; buy myself something off ebay or amazon. go for a massage (can't wait till those days come back).

I didn't think I'd ever get here, but I did.

Good luck.

One year my Aunt forgot my birthday (Sept 16). I mentioned it in October and she started friendly arguing with me that my birthday wasn't in September

It is in September and been that way, SINCE THE DAY I WAS BORN

R5, is your name Samantha Baker?

OP's birthday is Saturday and nobody has forgotten it.

May a loved one never die on your birthday. Think it through.

I don't think it happened. I think they lied about the date.

[quote] A person's birthday is the one day, the only day people who say they love me have to show it.

Oh for fuck's sake: get OVER yourself, Mary. Listen to yourself. Ten-year-olds expect tinsel tiaras and birthday cake, not adults.

Show some dignity and quit whining like a spoiled baby. If there are people who say they love you, then they are showing you just by saying that, and by treating you regularly with kindness and affection--not by remembering your "one day."

My mother forgot my birthday last year. It happens. What bothered me more is that she remembered everyone else’s.

There is something sincerely lacking in people that are insistent that everyone remember and celebrate their birthday. You can be sensitive about it up to the age of 16 - beyond that it is just silly.

The idiots that feel compelled to have a birthday week are the worst.

Are you an adult, OP?

Then if someone close to you forgets your birthday, get the fuck over it. Chances are they'll remember in a few days and feel awful so just keep your yap shut.

If you are such a fucking baby that you can't shut up. Just remind them that it's your birthday without going all drama queeny about it.

If you want a present, go buy yourself one. No one knows your taste better.

OP. Do you remember the birthday of everyone that are close to you.

Happy Birthday OP

I work with an obnoxious 50-ish year old woman who has been posting on FB for the past 2 weeks that her birthday is October 27.

My mother regularly forgot my birthday when I was a child but she was a drunk so my expectations were never particularly high! Plus my birthday is 22nd December so it usually gets forgotten by most people because they are all SO BUSY rushing around buying shit.

In my circle, unless your birthday has a zero in it, or you’re a pre-teen - grow up for fuck’s sake! It’s just another day.

People! Technology has made it easier than ever to remember peoples birthdays. I used to forget certain birthdays every year. Now I put them on my iPhone calendar with a reminder a week before and the day of. I also set them to repeat yearly. Sometimes it sneaks up on me and I only have time to do a birthday text and send them a belated gift. Nothing fancy but people like that you make an effort to remember their birthday.

Thanks for the comments, all. I was just curious enough to get some other perspective on it. R24, where did all that come from? I stopped caring about my birthday after I was old enough to vote. It's just that the person who forgot mine (my sister) would have a cow if I forgot hers. So that strikes me as comically lopsided. I haven't said a word about it other than on this anonymous board, and I plan to keep it that way.

Technology reminders a week in advance and the day of?

No, thank you. If I happen to remember, great. If I don't, it' also fine.

I don't mind, since I'm forgetful myself, and I'm a grown man. What bums me out is that I suddenly get a rush of texts and Emails and calls insisting that we MUST get together, but without any kind of follow-through. I don't have a terribly busy life, and I'd make myself available, as long as there isn't a conflict on my calendar. And, yes, I also send out invites myself, although people are almost always too busy. But I'm perfectly okay pottering around the house on my own without being acknowledged.

I don't think my family forgets my birthday but they rarely acknowledge it anymore. My birthday is between Christmas and New Years. There are about 12 family members who have birthdays in December as well and I also share my birthday with another family member. some years we have a get together in January to celebrate everyone's birthday but not every year.

Now that I'm older I don't wish to acknowledge it at all except with with my partner. A few good friends and close family remember, but other than that, there has never been much made about my birthday. Sometimes I will indulge in self pity about it but mostly I don't care.

When I was in kindergarten, my mom forgot to pick me up from school. Our house was actually not that far and I ended up walking home, dodging across a highway by myself.

Every so often, I remind her: "Mom, remember that time you forgot to pick me up?" Her response: "I *forgot*!" She says it like Shirley MacLaine: "It *twirled* up!"

The only time my entire family forgot my birthday was when I was pregnant and due to give birth any day.

Then my best friend showed up expecting to be wined and dined. (We lived in wine country at the time.)

It was a difficult birthday.

Death!

My dad has forgotten most of my life. He’s never been too interested in me.

I have my Alexa app, notify all my family members' Alexa apps, to send me well wishes through said Alexa apps and back. I only communicate thru apps. Right now I'm not even typing this. It's an app.

I try to make it a point of wishing my Facebook Friends a Happy Birthday on the site .I know it is kinda trite but I also know that this might be the only acknowledgment some of them might get . So I am happy to do it .

[quote] I was born on December 26, the day after Christmas

Same here, and for that reason, I've never been into celebrating birthdays, especially my own.

[quote] You can be sensitive about it up to the age of 16 - beyond that it is just silly.

I would say 25-30 is the cut off. 17-21 are still kind of special.

After 30 I no longer looked forward to birthdays anyway. Maybe acknowledgement from family, but not friends or co-workers.

I knew somebody who was around 40 that would actually take the day off from work because it was her birthday. I thought that was a bit excessive.

My F buddy forgot my bday so I only sucked him off

My father never remembered my birthday, but always remembered my brother's and sister's.

Some people remember, some do not, in general it doesn't bother me except for one person. I have had this friend for over 10 years and he never remember my birthday. Now again no big deal but here's the rub, my birthday is on the same day as an old movie start he worships. Every fucking year he goes bat shit crazy posting on FB about her birthday, even though she is actually dead!

He loves the attention on his birthday, he celebrates all week. So giving him the benefit of the doubt, I told him one time actually several times you know the way to remember my birthday... it's the same day as your Hollywood idol. Did it work? NOPE. Because basically he doesn't care. But then his partner has called him a narcissist in public so there's that.

I've forgotten my own birthday.

If it's someone I care about I'm sad for a bit, and then move on. Once it's forgotten it's forgotten, and apologies don't make it any better. They've already shown they don't care.

Christ OP, if it is that damn important to you, throw yourself a birthday party each year and invite everyone who you would get upset if they forget it. Then when they still forget to show up for your party you will have a real reason to be upset.

Be grateful.

Uh no, R47, it's not that important to me as I've mentioned in R29. I posted the question out of curiosity to see what others have experienced. And yes, R25, I forgot the birthday of a close friend once long ago in the middle of a tumultuous time. He was quite put out about it.

NOBODY in my family called me last year on my birthday and I was a bit bummed about it. But this year everyone did, even all my nieces and nephews, it was quite nice.

Doesnt bother me in the slightest, I can barely remember it myself

Once when I was young, I'd fogotten it and needed it for a form, so I called the local equivalent of the DMV to ask them when my birthday was

While it's always a nice thing to be wished a happy birthday, if you are no longer eleven years-old there is no reason to be making a big deal out of it. It's childish.

R21, oh, for fuck's sake did you read the next sentence I wrote:

"Years went by and I learned to let it go."

and then I wished OP good luck in getting there him/herself.