Best response when someone comments on your weight loss

Just say you were pregnant.

Just for laughs, you could turn it back on them. When asked if you’ve lost weight, say, “Yes, chemo tends to do that.” Then enjoy the awkward silence.

I would not conflate the two. If someone says or notices that you’ve lost weight I would say something noncommittal, like “it’s been tough” or “yes it’s been a challenge.” If they compliment you say “thanks very much, I appreciate you noticing.“

I think I’m in the same emotional boat as you. When I lost 50 pounds some people commented on the lost weight. It wasn’t congratulatory nor was it complimentary. I did feel uncomfortable because I thought that they were possibly being unkind when I was heavier. Stay positive and be proud of your accomplishments. You did this for you, not anyone else.

When I started losing weight and people talked I would be honest with them: I wanted to lower my blood pressure. People are amazed when someone starts losing weight. Some people thought I had AIDS. I think when you are losing weight for a good reason it encourages others to do it as well.

“It was an abortion, Michael.”

Tell them you didn’t ask their opinion bout your body. Then tell them them to shut the fuck up.

Tell them their comments are upsetting to you and their attention is unwanted and makes you uncomfortable.

I'm sure there is a Huffpo article or ten that's like "Open Letter to the Aldi Cashier Who "Complimented" Me on My Weight Loss Journey" or "1,000 Things NEVER to Say Someone Who Looks Like They Just Lost 50 Pounds"

*about

OP should print out several copies of said Huffpo screeds and wordlessly hand them out to offenders.

Tell them you got Giardia from rimming a stranger in a Port-o-Potty, and you just decided to not get it treated since it was helping so much with the weight loss!

OP, The only response to a compliment is "thank you." To a question regarding weight loss, you might reply, "Well, I did just wash my hair," accompanied by the tightest closed-mouth smile you can manage.

Re3 is absolutely correct: "Stay positive and be proud of your accomplishments. You did this for you, not anyone else."

Nice humblebrag, hon,

Just tell them, “thanks, I was able to lose some weight. Unfortunately for you, ugly is forever.”

“I don’t think so. Maybe you’ve just gotten bigger?”

I lost 30 lbs. since June, and I just say thank you. When they say I'm "lookin' good," I just say something like "Yeah -- ain't it great?"

Relax, OP!! If you've lost weight and people notice, enjoy it!!

Tell them it's the AYDS diet plan.

LMAO, r6!

R2, I went to my doctor last month for the first time since March and he said actually did worry for a minute that I had cancer when he first saw the weight loss.

R3, it’s such a weird thing to me to feel proud of losing weight. I mean I guess it’s an accomplishment but I’d feel more proud if I hadn’t gained it all in the first place. Plus there’s more I want to lose so maybe it just doesn’t feel right to take the compliments prematurely. Like you said, I’m doing this for myself and not looking for any attention for it but I guess it’s not something I can hide.

R11, you’re right but I suppose I get hung up on the implication of how they think I looked before the weight loss. Yes I have issues. I’ve spent most of my life trying to go unnoticed. Even when I was younger and a normal weight I never drew much attention which was always fine with me. So even though it’s well-intended I find it uncomfortable to be noticed.

Nice work, r14!

Oh for fucks sake OP. Just say “thank you” and move on. You know what? Better yet, gain the fucking weight back, and enjoy the peace and quiet of being ignored. Your drama created by something that should be celebrated is asinine. SMH.

Need more details:

Did you need to lose weight? (If so, say thank you and move on)

Did you NOT need to lose weight? (If so, your friends might be concerned about your health. That's called caring about you. Let them know you're fine and move on.)

Did you need to lose weight, but now have lost too much? (If so, see above).

A genuine "thank you" is in order (they offered a free compliment); but then make it clear by your manner (even to the point of changing the subject) that you want no follow up questions. If they still pose them anyway, just respond by saying (with a smile), "Oh, I would never dream of burdening you with such personal information!"

Why all the drama and cuntery? Just say "yes, thank you", and if they ask anything more just say "I'd rather not talk about it, if you don't mind" and move on. Stop with the drama and don't be rude to people because of your weirdness.

HOW-FAT-WERE-YOU?

you were fat and boring because you didn't want attention.

[quote] Over the past few months I’ve lost quite a bit of weight and don’t know the best way to respond when someone asks me if I’ve lost weight or tells me I’m looking good.

OP, you sound like an introvert. I am, too. It can be uncomfortable when people remark on your appearance, even if it's complimentary. Here's how I would respond:

1. "Have you lost weight?": "Yes, I have!" and maybe "Thanks for noticing!" Keep on moving.

2. "You lost weight! Looks great!": "Thanks so much!" Keep on moving.

Don’t be a fucking snowflake that is offended by everything. Just say “Yes, I’ve lost some weight”, or “yes, I’ve been losing”. Nothing else needs to be said.

A hiss is always an appropriate response from a Datalounger.

R21? I could swear that started on The Gong Show.

“Yes I have. Would you like some? “

Op were you fat or fat-fat?

[quote] it’s such a weird thing to me to feel proud of losing weight. I mean I guess it’s an accomplishment but I’d feel more proud if I hadn’t gained it all in the first place.

One of the things I had to learn to do as I aged was to separate what was actually problematic because someone else said or did something vs. "me" problems that come from my own unique personal issues that I shouldn't entirely expect people to understand because that is irrational.

[quote] respond when someone asks me if I’ve lost weight or tells me I’m looking good.

"You've lost weight." = "Yes, I have."

"You look good." = "Thank you."

You don't have to say any more than that.

Also don't take the fact that any of the people who noticed you lost weight comment on it. By that I mean basic comments. Really it's like noticing someone got a haircut. It is sometimes just an observation motivated by nothing other than a person noticing something is different.

Gosh, I remember when Twitter was up its own ass because Adele lost weight. Half the people were pointing it out. The other half was telling the first half to shut up and "STOP COMMENTING ON WOMEN'S BODIES." Girl, she looked like 1/3rd of the person she was. Of course people are going to notice. They wanted everyone to say NOTHING as if it wasn't something brand new that just appeared out of the clear blue sky. It's like one of those mind games where you have to guess where something is missing in a photo. "That horse is missing an ear in the right photo and not the left" is really just that. An observation!

OP is down to husky fat.

R1 is perfection.

^^^ I mean r2 is perfection. R1 stinks.

How fat were you, OP?

Did you lose 50 pounds and have 120 more to go? Or, are you almost at your goal weight? I would not feel comfortable being complimented when my reducing regimen was only partially completed.

I'm with r3 - the remark is neither congratulatory nor complimentary. It's another way bring up "Wow you were/still are super fat-fat." Plus, it might jinx your diet.

Just blame it on COVID - "well, I stopped going to restaurants and the weight just came off. I didn't do anything so I can't answer any dieting questions." Then just nod and do not continue the conversation.

If a compliment, a simple “thank you.”

If it’s a nosy type of questioning, just say “I’ve been working out more, haven’t really paid attention to my weight.”

prob some jealous frau in lularoe leggings who shouldn't be wearing them.

"I'm not eating this month."

"My secret weight-loss tool is Ex-Lax!"

That'll shut 'em up.

R10 OMG that’s a good one, that’s funny

Tell them you hate to exercise but you love to tap.

My favorite thing about weight loss and people's compliments is when they also throw in about either how fat or terrible the person looked before the weight loss.

I had lost weight and a neighbor said I looked great..”ur not sick are u” I liked both comments..she cared about if I was sick. A u.s. prez once said about small towns..they care when ur sick n they know when u die.

I wish I could have lost a ton of weight like OP when I was dieting. I only hit my goal weight six months after being put six feet under.....

^ she was pooped

When i was 40, I had open-heart surgery, and lost 25 pounds I needed to lose. But I thought nevertheless it was really inappropriate when people complimented me on losing weight when they knew full well i had only lost it through drastic surgery.

Just say "Thanks!" and save the torture and issues for your therapist.

OP should seek psych help ASAP as even some neutral comment is enough to trigger a stupid reaction in him to start a stupid thread like this. Another yoyo-fat paranoid schizo on DL, obviously.

Are you a lesbian op?

I ask because I once heard Rosie O'Donnell talk about how she lost a bunch of weight once before she was famous. Some guys at a gas station complemented her and she said the male attention freaked her out so much that she went inside and bought a bunch of ice cream.

Just a thought that maybe that is what you are experiencing.

Tell them you’re in the process of becoming who you were always meant to be. That should keep them guessing as to what’s next...

Turn to them and shout, “Mind your own fucking business, turd!”

It won’t happen again.

For anyone feeling self-conscious about people noticing and/or commenting on weight loss, a Nancy Reagan-like shrug and a "Yeah... I guess I worry it off!" will do. If people are discreet, they won't ask any further questions and won't pester you for weight-loss and diet tips.

I've lost weight again.

OP: I know what you mean. I say thank you . But it dioes feel strange . Most people have some kind of agenda about weight loss, and their remarks show that.!Feel good about yourself . Losing weight shows you are POWERFUL

To amuse yourself, you could always gaslight them. Insist you haven’t lost any weight. Claim you’ve actually put on a few pounds since covid began. Suggest that it’s been so long since you last got together that they must have forgotten what you look like. Then begin to look hurt and sad, and wonder aloud whether everyone has a mental image of you as much fatter than you really are.

I once worked with a woman who lost a lot of weight, well over 100 pounds. When someone told her that she had lost a lot of weight, as she could see it in her face, the woman responded by telling her to let her know when she could see it in the rest of her body!

I’ve lost 30 lbs since mid July... I’ve thanked everyone who has noticed and said something. I just decided I was tired of being over weight.. I have 5 lbs to go to hit my goal.

“Oh, I just look smaller now compared to how much larger you’ve become, darling! And thank you again!!”

“Thanks, but I’m afraid it all went to my penis”