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Age difference of over 10 years?

Does anyone have a success story? How many years of being together before you two reached milestones such as getting married and having children? Curious to hear the success stories, not the failed relationships stories. We all know there are many failed relationships out there but let’s hear some success stories.

by Anonymousreply 81Last Saturday at 4:23 PM

Twenty years apart, thirty years together.

by Anonymousreply 109/14/2020

Not me, but my friend married a woman 21 years his junior. They dated for about 7 years before getting married a couple years ago. Now, they are expecting a baby girl. Despite the age difference, it does not seem weird or "father-daughter" at all. It might help that he looks young for his age and acts even younger.

by Anonymousreply 209/14/2020

My partner and I have a 23 year age difference. We have been together 16 years and married for 6. We seem to be doing fine. I do notice we are much more independent from each other than many couples. It seems to be working.

by Anonymousreply 309/14/2020

Fifteen years ago a friend met "the love of his life." Mike is now 65, Ray is 83.

by Anonymousreply 409/14/2020

A good friend of mine - straight. She was 43, he was 66. That was 6 years ago. The man is *ga-ga* for her and this is her first big love relationship. My friend is like Mavis Gary from Young Adult but way less dark. Sarcastic bombshell who dropped out of corporate life to become a dogwalker on the north fork of Long Island. He was one of her clients. He's wealthy and she really doesn't give a shit about his money. The local ladies HATE her which is kind of hysterical.

When they are together, they're like goofy teenagers. It's very sweet.

by Anonymousreply 509/14/2020

I was with someone 26 years my senior for about 9 years. He hit 70 and I swear to god, something switched and he suddenly seemed ancient. I couldn't do it.

by Anonymousreply 609/14/2020

Do not have children. That's a stupid old Disney fantasy. Live a happy life of travel, pets, etc. - no children - that will ruin EVERY couple.

by Anonymousreply 709/14/2020

R7, right you are. Straight couples say the best time of their lives began when their kids left home.

by Anonymousreply 809/14/2020

Large age differences always involve $$$. It has always been this way.

by Anonymousreply 909/14/2020

When I was very young I was with a guy who was 22 years older than me. I stupidly thought that he was solid and mature. He was crazy and paranoid about me leaving him for someone younger. He made terrible, untrue accusations constantly, and eventually I had to get away from him. I moved 400 miles away, and even that didn’t work. He found me. I was too young for that kind of drama,

by Anonymousreply 1009/14/2020

My husband is 64 and I'm 40. We have been together for 16 years.

by Anonymousreply 1109/14/2020

12 years. we lasted 11 years.

by Anonymousreply 1209/14/2020

I think I saw it here on DL. But the "half plus seven" equation has always seemed reasonable. Take half of the older persons age and add seven years. That is the border.

So if I am twenty, the half is ten then add seven years. Twenty and seventeen seems reasonable.

If I am 60, then 37 doesn't sound too cray cray.

by Anonymousreply 1309/14/2020

Sometimes an age difference of 40 years works.

by Anonymousreply 1409/14/2020

20 year age difference. He was 58, I was 38. Together for 25 years this October, married for five. I think it helped we were both in middle age when we met and each had already had a LTR (me with another man, ended 8 years before we met; he with a wife for 20+ years, two kids, amicable separation—he had a 2-year relationship with a man before me, ended when the partner died unexpectedly).

by Anonymousreply 1509/14/2020

My BF is 29, Im 66...been together 8.5 years. No problems whatsoever.

by Anonymousreply 1609/14/2020

I seem to know a few people who have gaps of around 13-15 years who are doing fine.

by Anonymousreply 17Last Tuesday at 6:18 AM

Eleven years apart, twenty years together

by Anonymousreply 18Last Tuesday at 6:28 AM

Gross r16. I mean, more power to you. But what do y’all talk about? And will you feel any guilt when he has wasted his youth on you?

by Anonymousreply 19Last Tuesday at 7:44 AM

My partner is 10 years older and we’re together 27 years. I was late 20s when we met and he was late 30s. It’s worked out just fine.

by Anonymousreply 20Last Tuesday at 8:01 AM

Hey, R19...yeah, I can understand your POV somewhat, but I'm not sure how you figure he's "wasting his youth' and I'm not sure he'd agree, either. I understand younger guys not being attracted to older (hence your comment "gross...good for you," but the other side is "good for him.") We're polar opposites...I have graduate degrees, he dropped out of HS, I'm tall, thin and athletic, he's short, stocky and not into sports, I'm a CEO, he builds race cars. But being opposites, we each bring knowledge of "the other side" of life, which each of us finds interesting. I'm happy wrenching on cars with him, and he's interested in politics and finance now. We live separately, neither of us watch television, and stream everything, and in over 8 years together, we've never sat across the table with our faces into our phones, because we've run out of things to say. we would both say that our lives have been enriched by the diversity of our experiences, and assuming I die before him, I think our time together will not be wasted. (I believe the current average of a gay relationship is 7 years, so which is really the waste? :)

by Anonymousreply 21Last Tuesday at 9:00 AM

Indeed R21. That seemed a bit rehearsed, but who cares. I only said gross because your time line would suggest a 20 year old with a dude in his late fifties. It would be easy for you to captivate him. I know of what I speak. I cut one loose for that very reason.

by Anonymousreply 22Last Tuesday at 9:23 AM

We!ve been together 18 years- no sexy in 10 of those years. Not married, no kids- just his one from a previous marriage to a woman. Works for me bit i never thought I’d end up in a facsímil of a straight relationship

by Anonymousreply 23Last Tuesday at 9:36 AM

10 years doesn't seem that much to me. I have a friend who is closing in on 50 who is dating a 19 year old and I can't imagine what they talk about. I've tried having conversations with the guy, but I don't really get any of the references.

by Anonymousreply 24Last Tuesday at 9:39 AM

Tom Daley [26] and Dustin Lance Black [46]. They are together since 7 or 8 years now.

by Anonymousreply 25Last Tuesday at 10:09 AM

We've been together for almost 20 years. He was 28 and I was 51. My friends thought I had lost my mind dating someone that young. Money was never a factor. We each have our own. I'm not his "daddy". I brought a sense of stability to his life, which he never had and I think that's where the love began to grow from. We have the occasional disagreement our individual quirks have never become issues. Age difference can be an impossibility for most people, so I think he and I are very fortunate.

by Anonymousreply 26Last Tuesday at 10:41 AM

I'm 65 and my partner is 27. Together 9 years. I'm tall, thin and sporty, race cars, manage a vineyard and I'm foreign minister of a small European country. I have 2 doctorates and speak 5 languages fluently. My husband is a short fat uneducated gardener from Honduras. It works out beautifully.

by Anonymousreply 27Last Tuesday at 10:51 AM

We'v been together 33 years of pure bliss, love and companionship. Yes, we're best friends, but we have our own interests, too. I'm 102 and my husband is 49. The key to a long relationship is keeping the fire alive in the bedroom!

by Anonymousreply 28Last Tuesday at 10:55 AM

I'm 384 and my ward is 27. We've been together a couple weeks. It was fun for 5 days. I'm thinking of doing him in, he's a dreadful bore, and so bourgeois.

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by Anonymousreply 29Last Tuesday at 11:02 AM

My husband is 18 years older than me. Married 4 years. Never really argue. Going strong!

He’s goofy and fun loving and we both have our bar days well behind us.

by Anonymousreply 30Last Tuesday at 11:03 AM

Are people seriously asking what do you talk about? Discussions abound - people do live in the same world, politics is the same, art is the same, your day to day life is important. Do you think that somehow the younger can only discuss Justin Bieber and the older can only discuss Richard Gere? I just don't understand thinking that is a problem in an age gap relationship. Adult conversations are the same no matter what age you are unless you're an idiot.

The bigger problem may actually prove to be the physical differences - health, energy, etc.

by Anonymousreply 31Last Tuesday at 11:13 AM

My parents are together since nearly 60 years. They met when they were 32 and 20. Now they are 91 and 79 and still going strong.

by Anonymousreply 32Last Tuesday at 11:51 AM

I’ve never heard of a huge age difference where the older guy has less money than the younger one. NEVER!

by Anonymousreply 33Last Tuesday at 1:25 PM

What you are talking about is more about interests and perspectives. I am polite amongst my younger friends. But I wince when I hear them way off base on things like politics and history. And I am just talking about facts, not opinions. You are the idiot r31. If you can't recognize the difference, then you must be young or stupid.

by Anonymousreply 34Last Tuesday at 1:59 PM

Did I mention I'm a CEO? I am and my husband is a peasant. It's a perfect match. 43 year age difference. He was swabbing my deck and I couldn't keep my eyes off him.

by Anonymousreply 35Last Tuesday at 4:41 PM

LOL r35. Your husband is probably also a little fattie with no self esteem.

by Anonymousreply 36Last Tuesday at 5:05 PM

Can anyone refute R33?


by Anonymousreply 37Last Tuesday at 5:07 PM

11 years apart and together for nearly 25 and counting. Two of the couples we are closest to have 15-year gaps and great relationships,

by Anonymousreply 38Last Tuesday at 5:19 PM

Ok, r38. I am happy for you and your friends. If it doesn't work out, Colinboy might be willing to step in.

by Anonymousreply 39Last Tuesday at 5:24 PM

I met my first husband when I was 26 and he was 40. We were together for 13 years... and then he died.

by Anonymousreply 40Last Tuesday at 6:31 PM

I make more than my older husband R33. 🤷🏼‍♂️

by Anonymousreply 41Last Tuesday at 7:39 PM

Details R41. How can you respect him?

by Anonymousreply 42Last Tuesday at 9:01 PM

I'm 50 and partner is 63, we met 3 years ago.

I don't think the age difference matters as much when you're past 40 or 45.

He's the best thing - 98% of the time. There are a few small irritating things he does, but it's really NOTHING compared to my other exes.

Kind, handsome, fun, energetic, artistic - the whole package. Don't know what life will bring us, but enjoying the now and have ZERO regrets or thoughts of anyone else.

by Anonymousreply 43Last Tuesday at 9:33 PM

The older you get the more money you ought to have (worked longer, opportunity for promotion, savings account, stock portfolio and better financial sense). Unless you're a dumbass and age as a bigger dumbass or grew up a trust fund kid, that's life, man. So, if you date someone even a little older, much less over ten years older, they're going to be better off than their younger counterpart.

by Anonymousreply 44Last Wednesday at 4:23 AM

R7 should have more WWs!!!

by Anonymousreply 45Last Wednesday at 4:31 AM

[quote] He hit 70 and I swear to god, something switched and he suddenly seemed ancient. I couldn't do it.

Do you mean he suddenly became an old man, sitting in front of the TV all day and watching garbage like 'The Price is Right' or did he suddenly become physically unattractive to you?

by Anonymousreply 46Last Wednesday at 4:47 AM

When I was with a guy 12 years younger for over a decade he left me for a guy 12 years younger than him. And that guy looked like me when I was his age. It was revolting. But I perfectly understand that people can seem to change in desirability overnight. Its silly because most relationships are not about physical attraction after a few years. I mean, really. But that ex choosing a younger version of me to start again, that's just weird and sad.

by Anonymousreply 47Last Wednesday at 4:57 AM

R19. R16 here. Did you even bother to read my posting—I was 38, he was 58. Neither of us “wasted our youth” as you put it. Both academics, so always have plenty to talk about. And nothing “gross about it—what are you, 12?

by Anonymousreply 48Last Wednesday at 5:01 AM

Sorry to hear the R47. How much of your money did he get?

by Anonymousreply 49Last Wednesday at 5:02 AM

Old and/or desperate pervs can convince themselves of anything. "I know he's 20 years younger, but we're a great match." "We've been together 15 years, and still going strong. I mean, he cheats on the side, and I pay the bills, but we're super happy!"

by Anonymousreply 50Last Wednesday at 5:05 AM

R16, help me out here. Maybe I am missing something.

[quote] My BF is 29, Im 66...been together 8.5 years. No problems whatsoever.

and then

[quote] [R19]. [R16] here. Did you even bother to read my posting—I was 38, he was 58. Neither of us “wasted our youth” as you put it. Both academics, so always have plenty to talk about. And nothing “gross about it—what are you, 12?

What am I missing that doesn't make you look like a complete asshat?

by Anonymousreply 51Last Wednesday at 5:20 AM

I was taken advantage of and abused for several years when a teen by someone 40 years older than I was.

No, it didn't "work." But a lifetime of therapy (he killed himself after begging me to do it) has helped.

by Anonymousreply 52Last Wednesday at 5:24 AM

Some of the jokes here are funny.

I posted above with a 10 year age difference from my partner. Maybe it’s the younger posters who don’t realize that many conversational topics can appeal to people of all ages, and adults will find things of interest to discuss together if they want to.

Obviously it depends on the people involved. Some people will share a lot in common and others won’t, but sharing things in common is not really that important as loving and caring about each other enough to want to make a life together, and having and understanding and respect for who your partner is as a person.

by Anonymousreply 53Last Wednesday at 5:49 AM

Make a lifetime movie r53.

Have you convinced yourself yet?

by Anonymousreply 54Last Wednesday at 6:09 AM

No, I don’t need to convince myself or anyone else. But there IS life after youth, and age is not always the factor that makes or breaks a relationship. No one will be young forever (not even you, dear R54) so we are all likely to discover for ourselves that your age will change but you will largely be the same “you” you were all along. And something about that “you” may be what appeals to someone who happens to be younger.

by Anonymousreply 55Last Wednesday at 6:13 AM

Oh, come on r55. What's the income difference?

by Anonymousreply 56Last Wednesday at 6:19 AM

It’s considerable, but I am the younger one and make more, which would seem to disprove your point, R56. Have a great day!

by Anonymousreply 57Last Wednesday at 6:23 AM

15 years difference, 30 years together

by Anonymousreply 58Last Wednesday at 6:26 AM

Sounds like someone is going to be in assisted living very soon, r57. Why do you keep flopping from the old guy to the young guy?

It doesn't matter. If you have found something that works for both of you, then great. I wish you the best of luck.

by Anonymousreply 59Last Wednesday at 6:35 AM

R59 you seem like an angry bitter person. Try to find some happiness yourself rather than pick fights with other people. You seem like you can’t get along with anyone.

by Anonymousreply 60Last Wednesday at 6:55 AM

I did NOT write R48...some stupid fuck is responding to stuff I already replied to. Have we really come down to this, or has this been going on for a while? Bunch of fucking dumbasses.

by Anonymousreply 61Last Wednesday at 6:56 AM

I’m not flopping from anything to anything. I entered the conversation at R20. You seem “triggered.” 😂😂😂 If it doesn’t work for you, fine, but it works fine for some of us. Sheesh.

by Anonymousreply 62Last Wednesday at 7:05 AM

R42 -

Because he has a wonderful personality (yeah, that's a thing), is handsome, and makes me happy. He doesn't make SUBSTANTIALLY less than me, and it's stable employment. Trust is worth far more than money and I never have to worry about infidelity in the relationship. No drama is priceless. I've had enough ho-ish sex to last me 50 lifetimes so I'd rather be happy and content rather than constantly gambling on a roulette wheel of soul-sucking apps or tricks in bars.

Contrast that to my best girlfriend who recently dumped her boyfriend and is still wanting to know what kind of car her date(s) drive, how much money they have, etc. Have fun getting with players over and over. She's a catch and hot, but now she's back to feeling lonely. I told her I'd have 0 patience and sympathy for ending a relationship in the age of COVID where that would be a fucking given.

So I have nothing but respect and love for my much older husband who makes less money than me. :)

by Anonymousreply 63Last Wednesday at 7:12 AM

[Quote] He hit 70 and I swear to god, something switched and he suddenly seemed ancient. I couldn't do it.

This is interesting and I'm not judging. Somewhere in a wistfully poignant place I understand r6 for having felt this way.

by Anonymousreply 64Last Wednesday at 7:54 AM

My apologies R57. I did get you mixed up with a separate poster. Maybe I am the one with dementia lol.

R16 is the one claiming the Joy Reid defense. After he posed as two different people.

Congrats on the relationship.

by Anonymousreply 65Last Wednesday at 8:47 AM

I posted as R16 and R21 ONLY. I DID NOT POST R48! WTF? Its simple enough to figure out

by Anonymousreply 66Last Wednesday at 9:52 AM

Ha Ha Ha

Yes, r16. Somebody gave enough of a fuck to sabotage you.

I don't expect you to grow up and own it. But you should just quit defending it.

by Anonymousreply 67Last Wednesday at 10:00 AM

R66, you lie!

You posted at R66, too!

Can we believe nothing you say?

by Anonymousreply 68Last Wednesday at 11:14 AM

Why the need for full disclosure for anonymous posts? Sign your name if anonymity is not your game.

by Anonymousreply 69Last Wednesday at 10:46 PM

Beauty fades, but stupid is forever!

by Anonymousreply 70Last Thursday at 12:46 AM

I think dumping somebody for hitting 70 invites too much karma into the room.

by Anonymousreply 71Last Thursday at 1:36 PM

30 years age difference here. Been together 22 years. We met when I was in college and he was a professor on campus (not mine). I'm 42 now, and he's 72. Married 7 years. No children. They say relationships take a lot of work, but ours has been just the opposite - it been low maintenance, extremely easy and relaxed. I'm worried about what my life will be like after he is gone. It's hard to capture lightning in a bottle twice.

by Anonymousreply 72Last Thursday at 2:13 PM

Depends on how you classify that relationship. I guess it works for some, but I really don't get it. Whatever works.

by Anonymousreply 73Last Thursday at 3:15 PM

Melania & Donald. 25-year age difference. She married him for his looks and personality, and that's it!

by Anonymousreply 74Last Thursday at 3:54 PM

[quote] I'm worried about what my life will be like after he is gone

I'm 63 and my partner is 48 and, from time to time, I ponder what he'll do after I die. I've told him I want him to find someone new to fuck and keep him company, but we never really have a serious discussion about it. I'm in good health and theoretically he could go before I do, but I figure, statistically, I'm likely to die first.

Having said all that, with AIDS and now COVID, we're constantly reminded that there are no guarantees, so just live your life and let the chips fall where they may.

by Anonymousreply 75Last Friday at 5:13 AM

Gross, who wants to change adult diapers in their 40s? Yuck 🤢

by Anonymousreply 76Last Saturday at 5:44 AM

You sound young and immature R76.

by Anonymousreply 77Last Saturday at 6:51 AM

I heard a siren stop on my street, but I didn’t want to get up off the couch to see what was happening.

by Anonymousreply 78Last Saturday at 1:46 PM

Oookaaay, R78. Good for you?

R76, how stupid are you? You think people in their 50s and 60s are in adult diapers? Karma is going to paralyze your ass by hitting you with a bus.

by Anonymousreply 79Last Saturday at 3:24 PM

26 and 50 when we met, married two years later and now it’s been six years. We live in his (European) country so there was a cultural gap as well as an age one. Having to learn a new language (although we mostly speak English at home) has forced me to become more reflective? instead of just blurting out the first thing on my mind. So really, the difference in ages is not a big issue in the scheme of things. I’m very happy with our life.

by Anonymousreply 80Last Saturday at 3:42 PM

Well, I’m a Capricorn Venus/Mars person and Saturn Rising person, so naturally I’d love to date someone 10-15 years older😂🙄

In all seriousness, though😅 My celebrity and IRL crushes are mostly in their 40s & 50s, but for some reason I only attract people younger than me (sometimes by several years) who I’d feel self-conscious and awkward about dating even if I were into them (which I’m mostly not). I didn’t like my peer group or people younger than me when I was a kid/teen (I was bullied by those my own age), and my feelings have not changed on that score.

Maybe my quandary is a sign from the cosmos that I need to mature some in myself before I get into a relationship.

by Anonymousreply 81Last Saturday at 4:23 PM
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