Exposing a narcissist as a cheater: worth it, or dangerous?

His partner will probably forgive him anyway - narcissists always attract weak partners.

Reveal the truth “by accident”, OP. Then report back to us!

Why bother unless he’s done something to you peronally. If he has than tell the partner anonymously.

If he is dumb he’ll end up hanging himself. Just watch and let it happen naturally.

I did this. My narcissist ex was cheating on his boyfriend. I found out and told the boyfriend. The narcissist ex goes batshit crazy threatening to sue me and put a restraining order on me blah blah blah. Never did, he was all talk, He knew he had nothing on me. His empath boyfriend forgave him and took him back and subsequently suffered more narcissistic abuse, but I was the devil for telling him. Go figure.

Mind your own business. They’ll just double down and the narcissist will have you in their crosshairs. It’s not worth it.

I turn to mine advantage. Make Do - I mean HIM - pay big time and no fuck.

Soon life be good. Home Slovenija. Be BEST.

Do it anonymously, by letter.

Make sure you use the sentence "Everyone else knows, and they're laughing at you"

It's best to not get involved in other people's problems.

I know intellectually that its not worth the hellfire he might rain down. But he is smug, a terrible person, and so arrogant and stupid about being a louse and a cheat. Its pathetic. Like a poster already told me upthread, he'll hang himself. The fact he's swiftly becoming a drunk will probably speed along him inadvertently exposing his own lies anyway.

I've never encountered such a toxic person in my life. Its a little frightening how remorseless he is.

It's best to not get involved in other people's problems.

Yeah, but some people deserve it. I'd certainly do it anonymously though. Although, knowing narcissists, he'll probably make out you're lying and turn it around so he's the victim and you're the crazy.

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[quote]I'm also a little scared.

Then, maybe, move on.

A narcissist will ALWAYS be able to re-interpret things to make himself appear to be in the right (my top boss, e.g., who re-writes history while he's walking down the hall and more than once has blamed me for his own mistakes).

Send notes using letters clipped from newspapers: we kNoW eVERything you'Re dOINg.

How do you know this person is a narcissist and their partner does not? Usually NPD and sociopaths flock together. You might have 2 Nars and their crazy family coming for you, op.

You need better friends.

You need a life.

Do not run towards crazy.

OP, you seem determined to do this, so it doesn’t matter what we say. But don’t say we didn’t warn you.

There seems to be some sort of reward in it for you. Can you think of what that might be?

Just move on OP. If you think of your ex at all let it be an exercise in recognising what to avoid in future.

Anonymous letter.

I heard of one who used to cheat on his spouse and grab pussy every chance he had. When he was exposed, he sepaedrat thousands of children from their families, and locked them in cages.

Yes, I know...separated.

Yes, OP here. I actually won't do it, but I agree there would be a reward. Exposing him. Seeing him unhappy. It really grinds my gears he will get away with it.

But...it's not worth the mess it would cause in my own life when the narcissist inevitably strikes back. So, I'll just wait and hope they fuck up themselves.

Never intentionally put yourself in the crosshairs of a narcissist. They will retaliate 1,000 x harder AND their wrath and revenge will go on FOREVER.

Think tRump and Rosie O, it's been YEARS since she made fun of him and to this day he doesn't miss an opportunity to attack her. Ten years from now he will probably drive 100 miles out of his way to piss on her grave, THEY NEVER STOP PUNISHING.

R1 is correct. I had a female friend when I was younger who got involved with the worst guy. I tried to expose him, but she forgave him and it ruined our friendship.

Do it anonymously. Set up an email address using a pseudonym. Use a template to write your letter so it doesn't sound like your writing style. Post a picture to a website and attach a link to it. Make sure all identifiers are removed from pictures. You dont have to spill all the beans to bring this person down - they're doing the heavy lifting and things will eventually crumble on their own. Good luck!

OP, I thought about you when I pissed off a narcissist this morning. No matter that it couldn’t be avoided and I made amends as well I could. Awaiting the vengeance...

If I could steer clear totally, I would. If you can steer clear totally, you should.

They are so good at trying to suck you back in. Know all your soft spots. Shamelessly manipulative. Mildly threatening.

Its even harder all cooped up during the pandemic.

"LEAVE IT, BO!"