No matter what, I can’t cum in the bottom’s hole while topping

neither can I, I have to slap his face after I pull out

Don't cum until you cum inside a guy. No pulling out and jerking off on him, no solo masturbation. Sooner or later, from desperation your dick will erupt inside a guy's ass.

If you're with a guy and can't cum, just say you did. He really wont' be able to tell.

Neither can Jared.

[quote] If you're with a guy and can't cum, just say you did. He really wont' be able to tell.

I'm a big ol' bottom and I've never been able to feel a guy shoot his load in my ass.

My sluttiest years were in the age of condoms, so obviously I wasn't going to feel those, but my long-term partners always barebacked me once we'd been tested. I did notice that, when we'd jerk off together, none of them were particularly big shooters, so maybe that was the problem.

I did have one memorable tryst at the baths with a Puerto Rican named Enrique who shot seven or eight of the most powerful over-the-shoulder jets of cum I'd ever seen and I wondered if even my overused asshole would've felt them if he'd cum inside of me. Sadly, I never got the chance to find out.

I have the same problem OP.

I wish Dr. Ruth was still around.

Abstain from jerking off for 2 weeks and then see if you can cum while topping.

I also can’t cum while i’m being topped either, I have to usually wait til the guy pulls out and then I finish myself by hand.

“Ah, Smitty, we all finish ourselves off in the end, anyway.”

W&W for R9.

"I have to usually wait til the guy pulls out and then I finish myself by hand."

I have to "finish myself off by hand" even if I'm getting fucked, as has pretty much every guy I ever fucked. I don't know many guys who can cum totally hands free even while getting fucked.

What about blow jobs, OP?

Self finish as well?

Arrested development is the obvious answer.

We’re so proud of you, r4!

[QUOTE] What about blow jobs, OP?

yes, 90% of the time I have to finish myself by hand

OP, that's how they do it in all gay porn, so no one is going to think it's unusual.

Old guys are like this. Two much sex when they were young and too much porn now. They can't come from being blown either. You ruined yourselves. I never go with old guys. Ugly assholes and they haven't any stamina. A young bear I don't mind. But smooth ass fit muscled jock ass are where are deliver my babies. Direct deposit. Breed. It helps if you can still get hard dudes. Get that blue pill, it's cheap now my dad says.

[quote] jock ass are where are deliver my babies. Direct deposit. Breed.

I think Miss Mary needs a biology lesson.

It’s a pretty common problem actually. Plus you may have to been really really turned on by a guy to cum in him.

my advice is to fall in love. All my hang ups just disappeared overnight when I fell in love

You newbies haven't got a clue. Fuck that ass until you're close. Pull out and start jacking. But just as you're about to cum, shove it back in. Keep doing that to train yourself to cum in his ass. If your partner wants you to breed him, he'll go along with this and support you by telling you he feels it and how hot it is, etc.

Too much porn, too much masturbation. It's not rocket science.

R9 takes no credit for that actual or near-enough quote.

[quote]my advice is to fall in love. All my hang ups just disappeared overnight when I fell in love

Love? Now there's a word you don't see too often on DL.

When poosey is not enough, the lady always finish the man with hand or mouth. If you don't finish the man, you don't get the money. Every lady in my country know that.

You have a self-esteem / self-concioiusness issue.

[QUOTE]jock ass are where are deliver my babies. Direct deposit. Breed.

[QUOTE]I think Miss Mary needs a biology lesson.

Not to mention some remedial grammar instruction.

Thank god Vairst Lady is here to offer her wisdom and experience!

[quote]You have a self-esteem / self-concioiusness issue.—Do what R2 says

Which self-respecting bottom would endure that procedure?

[quote] Which self-respecting bottom would endure that procedure?

...

A homeless one?

I couldn’t cum in asses even back in the early 90s, and back then I wasn’t burnt out on sex and porn as someone has accused me of. We wore condoms back then so guys on the bottom weren’t so desperate for the load.

Frankly they should be happy enough that someone is fucking them, why did it become all about the load? Since I’m not going to cum that means I can fuck for an hour if I wanted to, all he has to do is enjoy it. Why isn’t it enough anymore?

I usually pull out and unload on their face

[quote] Since I’m not going to cum that means I can fuck for an hour if I wanted to, all he has to do is enjoy it. Why isn’t it enough anymore?

Gurl, you sound neurotic. Please YOURSELF.

I have a big dick and I'm vers. It's a weird conundrum. If a bottom has a tight hole or only bottoms occasionally, his hole is too tight and he can't take a dick. If the bottom fucks often and can take a big dick, his hole is more loose and it doesn't have that grip I like. I just do the jo/shove my cock in when he's about to cum. Even in hot breeding porn, you can see the quick cuts/edits where the top is cumming either through j/o shoving it in or faking it, a cut, then he pulls out with fake cum. I think this happens in straight porn too.

ok so I won’t stress over it. I’ve done the pull out-JO-shove back in thing before. R32 is right, I’m overly neurotic.

You not a real top if you can't bust inside it

R35 nails it.

Thread closed, and Opie can continue on the path to cum dump whore/insatiable bottom slut he so desperately wants to be.

OP, don't sweat it.

It's amazing to me how few men realize that we each have different sensitivities when it comes to the head of our penis. (Just like how some guys have sensitive nipples while others don't). I also can't cum inside because the feeling is too intense. Most guys love it when I demand they turn around so I can cum on their face. You know, the dominance thing. Just be in charge and be demanding! You'll do fine. :)

I don’t think that’s true, R35. And anyway, I like to do both I’m not a “top” in that stereotypical way that you all believe tops are, that fantasy world where they use a tough guy voice and have smelly armpits and then toss you to the side when they’re done. That’s just the movies you beat off too, there’s more nuances to sex play. My reason to start this thread is that I obviously have some dysfunction (either in my head or physically) with how my penis reacts to stimulation, and the culture now seems to be that bottoms want cum inside their holes.

Cut dicks and loose holes. Not a good combo OP

Totally, R38. You can see the age and guess the amount of fucking most DLers are doing based on the responses. Not true R35, even in the porn fantasies. And even so who cares. I like coming in a nice asshole and I like getting fucked by a nice fat cock or flip fucking. A lot of the old bottoms here are stuck in male/female roll play. If you can enjoy both, keep fit, and have a nice cock you have a lot more options.

“Roll play”

Oh, dear.

I get no pleasure out of fucking someone and I don't bottom so I usually just end up jerking off

R42, you sound fun.

More like rolls play.

A bottom can't feel a top coming inside him. It's more psychological. But I do love amateur cream pie videos.

R43 totally