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Do you remember everyone you had sex with?

Do you remember their names?

(This question is making the rounds on Twitter, thought I'd ask it here)

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by Anonymousreply 13808/01/2020

do who do what, dear?

by Anonymousreply 107/29/2020

No. I’m sure I don’t.

by Anonymousreply 207/29/2020

You mean just today's sex partners?

by Anonymousreply 307/29/2020

Yup only 3. I don’t do casual.

by Anonymousreply 407/29/2020

I kept a log until about my mid 20s.

by Anonymousreply 507/29/2020

Names? Hahahahaha!

by Anonymousreply 607/29/2020

Hell no. I can barely even remember what most of them looked like.

by Anonymousreply 707/29/2020

I don't do "names" with my sex partners.

by Anonymousreply 807/29/2020

No, you have to be kidding.

by Anonymousreply 907/29/2020

I can't remember all the names, but I like to hum them.

by Anonymousreply 1007/29/2020

yes, their names are in the dossier i keep on each one.

by Anonymousreply 1107/29/2020


by Anonymousreply 1207/29/2020

They are Legion

by Anonymousreply 1307/29/2020

Individuals or entire groups?

by Anonymousreply 1407/29/2020

I could keep count til I was in my 30s I guess, now I’d find it difficult to hazard a number

by Anonymousreply 1507/29/2020

Professional responsebility of architect is remember client and client name. Even when client is donkey, the good lady architect remember!

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by Anonymousreply 1607/29/2020

ROTFLMAO -That presupposes I knew their names to begin with!

by Anonymousreply 1707/29/2020

Certainly not.

But I remember some of them really well, like the cute deaf guy in Denver whose lover broke in on us in flagrante delicto.

And the Italian guy from Philly who had a fat 9" cock. (Joey, was it?)

by Anonymousreply 1807/29/2020

I wouldn't recognize 90% of the men I've had sex with if I walked by them on the street.

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by Anonymousreply 2007/29/2020

My deplorable friend wants to know if family members count.

by Anonymousreply 2107/29/2020

I don’t even remember the sex.

by Anonymousreply 2207/29/2020

I remember the name of every man and boys whose dick I groped

by Anonymousreply 2307/29/2020

I remember the name of every man and boys whose dick I groped

by Anonymousreply 2407/29/2020

R18 Philly has some GOOD dick

by Anonymousreply 2507/29/2020

OP you’re assuming I even ever spoke to them.

by Anonymousreply 2607/29/2020

R24 La Senatrice, is that you??

by Anonymousreply 2707/29/2020

I would say yes for the most part. Early in lockdown was bored and made a list out trying to remember as much as I could. Granted I’m only in my early 30s and not extremely promiscuous. Was an interesting exercise to say the least.

by Anonymousreply 2807/29/2020

Are you mad?

by Anonymousreply 2907/29/2020

After 1998, sure, things slowed to a normal pace.

But prior to that, in my college years and cruising years? Honey, I didn't always see their FACE let alone catch a name.

by Anonymousreply 3007/29/2020

No. My Weekends alone have big multipliers.

by Anonymousreply 3107/29/2020

OP - you do know how a glory hole works? It just slides through!

by Anonymousreply 3207/29/2020

Chit-chat was frowned upon in the darkroom at the baths.

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by Anonymousreply 3407/29/2020

No, but if you circled the listing of every 15th man in the phone book, you would probably have most of them.

by Anonymousreply 3507/29/2020

Not in the least bit and I’m just a semi-whore. Who cares?

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by Anonymousreply 3707/29/2020

Intercourse? Yes. One, and we were in a relationship. Other things? Eight, over the course of sixteen years. And no. There is one I can't remember. One of those seven, one shared my name, and had a lovely apartment, which was interesting.

by Anonymousreply 3807/29/2020

There are MANY I wish I remembered so I could look them up on social media. I come across pictures in a shoe box of old tricks that i don't remember their names. I had fun though so that's all that matters.

by Anonymousreply 3907/29/2020

Nope. Not even close.

by Anonymousreply 4007/29/2020

I remember only the ones I named, the memorable ones I called Omigod in the throes of passion.

by Anonymousreply 4107/29/2020

Some of them. The once in awhile a memory will pop into my head of a guy I fucked around with and it all comes back to me.

by Anonymousreply 4207/29/2020

The real question is do they remember me?

by Anonymousreply 4307/29/2020

Of course I do, silly. I see them at Grandma’s house for dinner every other Sunday. How rude would it be not to remember my uncle’s name????????????

by Anonymousreply 4407/29/2020

Well, I don't remember everyone, but many of them had the same name: "Anonymous."

by Anonymousreply 4507/29/2020

Of course I do! I only sleep with guys who have the same name as my father.


by Anonymousreply 4607/29/2020

Only three and they were each so different. Yes, I remember their names.

by Anonymousreply 4707/29/2020

I don't even remember the one's i have in my phone contacts

by Anonymousreply 4807/29/2020

Yes I remember. I named them all, Prince.

by Anonymousreply 4907/29/2020

I only remember the ones who had their dick up my butt: Don, Sam, John, Richard, Sean.

by Anonymousreply 5007/29/2020

Everyone? No, just the talented ones.

by Anonymousreply 5107/29/2020

I haven't known everyone's name, but I'd at least be able to remember what they looked like and where it happened, up until I fell in love, and almost all the prior hookups faded from my memory. It wasn't all that many, though.

by Anonymousreply 5207/29/2020

It's quite shocking how whorey y'all are. I am a virgin!

by Anonymousreply 5307/29/2020

Only ugly straights do. We are too fabulous for this question..

by Anonymousreply 5407/29/2020

And you're German so that's kind of sad.

by Anonymousreply 5507/29/2020

R53 Please “twink” I have seen your xtube videos where you shit on all your top’s dicks.

by Anonymousreply 5607/29/2020

No, but I do keep the receipts.

by Anonymousreply 5707/29/2020

[quote]Do you remember everyone you had sex with?

Every single one except the one's I've tried to forget.

by Anonymousreply 5807/29/2020

I never saw half of their faces, so no.

by Anonymousreply 5907/29/2020

I can remember the experience but I cannot remember the names (or the faces) of all the people I had sex with.

The men I had relationships with, yes I remember their names and remember what they looked like, but causal encounters just the opposite.

by Anonymousreply 6007/29/2020

What part of "No!" is it you all don't seem to get?

by Anonymousreply 6107/29/2020

Not all. Many names are forgotten over the years. If one doesn't see them again, or there are no mutual acquaintances, such fade quickly.

by Anonymousreply 6207/29/2020

#61 got surprise anal.

by Anonymousreply 6307/29/2020

[quote]Do you remember everyone you had sex with?

Yes, of the ones whose names I ever knew in the first place.

However, the real question is how many of the people with whom you had sex did you ever bother to learn their names.

by Anonymousreply 6407/29/2020

I can remember how their loads tasted

by Anonymousreply 6507/29/2020

I wonder how many of my ~1000 partners remember me...

by Anonymousreply 6607/29/2020
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by Anonymousreply 6707/29/2020

Not only can I rarely put a name to the face, I often can't even put a face to the dick.

by Anonymousreply 6807/29/2020

This question is homophobic.

by Anonymousreply 6907/29/2020

I know the name of everyone that has fucked me in the ass.

I know the names of most of the guys I've fucked in the ass.

I couldn't even begin to name all the guys I've sucked off or who sucked me off, or hand-jobs, etc.

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by Anonymousreply 7107/29/2020

[quote] I kept a log until about my mid 20s.

I wish I'd done that, just for curiosity's sake.

About 20 years ago I did sit down and try to make a list of every partner I could remember and I came up with about 150 names or descriptions (eg. cut guy with PA, Strand balcony).

During the recent lock-down I was cleaning out old boxes and I came across the list. Now I can't even remember a lot of them. Middle age sucks

by Anonymousreply 7207/29/2020

Lol, you’re kidding right? I’m almost sixty and lived in SF and LA for most of my adult life. I’m no beauty, nor a troll. A typical gay man if you will. Sex has always been quite easy to find. Think about that for a second...

by Anonymousreply 7307/29/2020

by mid-20s I didn't need to keep a log. It was one. Just one guy.

By late 20s it was two.

By 30, it was three.

Between 30 and 40, you gotta add hundreds.

After 40? Like... a couple.

After 50? Zero more.

by Anonymousreply 7407/29/2020

Only my family members

by Anonymousreply 7507/29/2020

I know the name I always called out....


by Anonymousreply 7607/29/2020

No, but I can tell you their VENMO username.

by Anonymousreply 7707/29/2020

When Craigslist came out, I’d download a copy of the post I replied to and kept the photos they’d exchange prior to meeting, so I do have a great record, which I look through occasionally, of all the guys I’ve fucked in the last 20 years or so. There are several hundred.

by Anonymousreply 7807/29/2020

They had names????

by Anonymousreply 7907/29/2020

No, I genuinely don't remember 98% of them, because I used to be majorly promiscuous - that's putting it mildly.

by Anonymousreply 8007/29/2020

I dated someone briefly, nothing serious, before I met my partner of the last 35 years.

by Anonymousreply 8107/29/2020

No but many are in my DNA so to speak.

by Anonymousreply 8207/29/2020

Well, that's a complicated answer for me. I certainly remember every single person I've been in bed with. But the sex I've had with guys in backrooms, porn theatres, The Ramble, sex parties, between parked cars and the like? No. Sometimes I see a guy and wonder if I've had sex with him. As I got older, I let go of my embarrassment, and when I meet someone who I think I may have fucked around with, I just come out and ask, "Have we had sex?" It usually gets a laugh, either way.

by Anonymousreply 8307/29/2020

So much traffic. So little time to get acquainted.

by Anonymousreply 8407/29/2020

Their first names yes

by Anonymousreply 8507/29/2020

^except the one guy who I jerked off in a foot hole but that’s not exactly sex. A few of them used fake names too

by Anonymousreply 8607/29/2020

Oops glory hole

by Anonymousreply 8707/29/2020

At 78 years old.......Not even

by Anonymousreply 8807/29/2020

I don’t remember their name but I see them every time I open the freezer

by Anonymousreply 8907/29/2020

I keep thorough records....Names, fingerprints, DNA samples, etc...

by Anonymousreply 9007/29/2020

In 15 yrs hooked up at least 300 times.. im 32 now and slowing down. Def remember the good ones! Time for a ltr

by Anonymousreply 9107/29/2020

I wonder if I hooked up with any of you.

by Anonymousreply 9207/29/2020

Odds are, you have.

by Anonymousreply 9307/29/2020

I do. Kevin rhymes with 11. I decided to make him my permanent lay.

by Anonymousreply 9407/29/2020

remember their name, fuck no....we didn't even know their names, nor did we want

by Anonymousreply 9507/29/2020

No, they remember mine.

by Anonymousreply 9607/29/2020

In 40+ years of doing it there were many whose names I didn't even know when we were gettin' busy, much less remember them now.

by Anonymousreply 9707/29/2020

n the beginning, yes of course. On into a decade even. I kept names in a little book. Some names bring back no memories......some entries, "the one in the red sweaer" or "he wanted to put on bathing suits and take them off" cause dim memory, but Mike, George, Bill, Ralph, Jerry, , the silly one, Jose, the preacher, Dean,Stephen, Larry, Roger et al, are just names n a book and I've no recall. I'm in the central West Village NYC, nightly gay guys changed shirts 7 times in front of their bathroom mirrors until selecting the right shirt to wear coming downtown hopin to find a man forr sex. I was there, had a home to go to, they were easy to get. I'd remember the ones who'd come back and ring, or the ones I stopped and spent ime with, or two love affairs. Time passes, general anonymous sex or the piers sex or the Pines sex or street sex, in or out, the names written down mean little now. No, you don't really remember names, and sometimes not even the sex.. You remember the opnes upu become friends with, and still have. It happens.

by Anonymousreply 9807/29/2020

I want the bars to reopen so I can have drinks with you R88.

I'll bet your stories are fascinating

by Anonymousreply 9907/29/2020

Well there was this one guy who sneezed bigly when I came in his mouth. His name was Roger: I won't forget the mess on my pants, or his name.

by Anonymousreply 10007/29/2020

I can't even remember how many countries I've had sex in. How I am supposed to remember individual names?

by Anonymousreply 10107/29/2020

Names are so...temporary.

by Anonymousreply 10207/29/2020

I didn't even see all their faces.

by Anonymousreply 10307/29/2020

People in uniform all look the same.

by Anonymousreply 10407/29/2020

All Asians look alike.

by Anonymousreply 10507/29/2020

I’d have to think for a bit, but probably.

by Anonymousreply 10607/29/2020

Let's just say that when there was a name to remember, I've remembered it.

by Anonymousreply 10707/29/2020

Such little men, so many times.

by Anonymousreply 10807/29/2020

I was actually trying to remember every guy I'd ever slept with just the other day. Every time I think I got them all, someone I forgot about would always crop up. And I certainly don't remember their names, I was just trying to think of their faces.

by Anonymousreply 10907/29/2020

R19 I'm with you. Good Lord, I've tried to forget most of mine. Several did make a long-lasting impression. Usually I remember those guys because it was someplace random, we had great sex or we ended up having a relationship.

by Anonymousreply 11007/29/2020

Put me down for that scene in Sex & The City when Samantha goes to have her HIV test and the nurse asks her how many partners she's had and she takes like 5 minutes to answer.

by Anonymousreply 11107/29/2020

OP? Gurl.

by Anonymousreply 11207/29/2020

Why is it even more sad to be a virgin when I'm German?

by Anonymousreply 11307/30/2020

Everyone or Anyone???

by Anonymousreply 11407/30/2020

How Could I forget?

by Anonymousreply 11507/30/2020

Of course not.

by Anonymousreply 11607/30/2020

How old are you GermanGayGuy?

by Anonymousreply 11707/30/2020

I am 29!

by Anonymousreply 11807/30/2020

R63 “surprise” anal isn’t fun. It’s violating. Happened to me once and honestly it hurt and it was without consent

by Anonymousreply 11907/30/2020

Yes and no. The more interesting yes. Intellect is rare enough that I take note.

by Anonymousreply 12007/30/2020

oh and those with bigger cocks tended to be named Al or Allan.

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by Anonymousreply 12207/30/2020

I'm surprised at the guys who say they have only had sex with 3 or 4. I've been in a 20+-year monogamous relationship and I had at least a dozen before that. And I never found it easy to find someone to have sex with...for whatever reason. Maybe it was just easier in the 90s.

by Anonymousreply 12307/30/2020

R123 I need to feel a connection to someone. Have to know him a bit and yes I’ve been called a Frau for that in this thread. It just doesn’t feel right otherwise and it kills my mood and sex drive if a person isn’t willing to put a little bit of time in getting to know one another. I do miss sex currently. I’ll admit it.

by Anonymousreply 12407/30/2020

R113 you have all those hot German men around! All that big schniedel! Mmm, mmm!

(seriously, ignore the other comment, you be a virgin for as long as you wish.)

by Anonymousreply 12507/30/2020

I am partnered now but my number of sex partners between, well, the beginning and age 30 was.....not small. And a lot of it was very casual. (Where I lived, cruising the men's room or park was the only option.)

But I remember some guys. I remember how they made me feel, or how hot they were. I was a nerdy, insecure guy when I was younger so when I had the hot ex-Big Ten football player in my mouth, I can remember how he felt, how he tasted. Or the guy I swore was a younger twin of Bryan Cranston....I can remember his smile and how he asked me "Did you bring a raincoat?" to warn me that he was a heavy shooter (and fuck, he was of the few guys I every struggled to swallow).

I remember more than that, too. And some names. But I was in mid three digits 30 years ago when I started to count. Things slowed down in my late 20s, of course, but life was a buffet and I went, bitches. I went many times and have no regrets!!!

by Anonymousreply 12607/30/2020

R125 I don't want to be a virgin anymore :-( I would be ready for a datalounger to top me :P

by Anonymousreply 12707/30/2020

I can remember, maybe, the first ten or so, as well as the last five. Between them, there were hundreds if not thousands. I always saw their faces, but rarely got a name. I dubbed some with nicknames, e.g., Motorcycle Guy, Aramis Guy, Mando.

by Anonymousreply 12807/30/2020

Some of you in New York in the1990s would remember me. I got around and I got a lot of compliments.

by Anonymousreply 12907/30/2020

Do AOL screen names count?

by Anonymousreply 13007/30/2020

I had a roommate who would give his tricks nicknames.

"Oh, I saw Uncut Navy at the bar. He was being really crabby. And Piss and Piercings was bartending tonight!"

by Anonymousreply 13107/30/2020

Before the hookup apps, there was more sex and less chit chat. That’s the way it should be.

by Anonymousreply 13208/01/2020

The better question is "Do you remember anyone you had sex with?"

by Anonymousreply 13308/01/2020


by Anonymousreply 13408/01/2020

I never used to see a lot of these when I was out looking to get laid.

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by Anonymousreply 13508/01/2020


So did I. Every person (didn’t get every name)... until I met my now husband... who is the last man I’ll ever sleep with ..... I’m an accountant... we like lists

by Anonymousreply 13608/01/2020

The good lays yes. The bad ones are dead to me!

by Anonymousreply 13708/01/2020

Hard to remember names when you're drunk.

by Anonymousreply 13808/01/2020
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