How did you lose your virginity?

10th grade - let my friend on the track team fuck me. It took him about 60 seconds to cum. Then he sucked me off, which also took only a minute. We were fuck buddies all throughout high school. No one else ever found out. He's now married with a few kids.

R1 did you guys ever spend the night together in each others arms after fucking?

I was 17 yrs old. I did it all my first time with my boyfriend. Oral, anal, ass eating, foot sucking, foot fisting, cum swallowing. Didn’t do piss though.

I lost it by having sex.

I was a junior in high school, and at the college book store looking at the art books with nude men. This freshman in college came up behind me and invited me back to his dorm room. We went back and we sucked, 69ed, and I fucked him.

7th grade with my best friend next door (same age). Within a week, his Irish twin brother had fucked me too.

I was 18, a freshman in college. I pledged a fraternity and because of all the crap they made us do and they kept us up half the night, I needed to take naps during the day. One of my pledge brothers and I started napping at the same time in my dorm room...and you can guess what happened next. First in separate beds, then giving each other back rubs, getting boners while doing that, etc. Next thing I know, we are fucking like rabbits every chance we get...

I was 12 the first time I'd had sex to completion, and she was 16. Before that, I had been horsing around for years in perfectly natural, normal preparation. I even knew by instinct all the right things to say to get those panties off.

I haven't yet.

R8 a 16 year old girl wanted to bone a 12 year old?

Evidently, R10

R3 why not piss? I mean foot fisting? Why the limit- clearly you were a raunch queen

I was 15. He was 17. Sleep over. Cock sucking. Body humping. Repeat. Month or so later: I have an older brother. He had a penthouse forum that he showed me. I learned about anal sex. So me & the 17 year old did that too.

I'm 100% gay but lost my virginity when I was in 8th grade and this stupid girl who was 3 years my senior and was left back twice, cornered me at a party. I fucked her and actually thought it was a good experience. I had never thought about women before and still never once thought about fucking another woman again. I tried to met up with her again because I was horny but she had then moved on to her next pray. I moved to another town right after this and never heard about her since.

R14, she gave birth to your child.

R12 we would have but we were in a small space and had to sleep there.

We actually didn't have a lot of penetration. I fucked here a bit and she mostly sucked me off while I sucked her tits. I came in her mouth. I know this is too graphic but I was already masturbating to guys back then, this same girl I would learn later, blew three other kids at the same party, all kids from my class so she was a predator who preyed on young boys.

By having anal sex, r1, or by having vaginal sex?

I know some guys too who define it by when they bottomed during anal sex for the first time, not by when they topped.

First time was 16 in a tent in my bfs backyard. First time getting fucked was when I was around 18 or so years old by an Italian-German guy in his 30s with a big dick and I handsfree came all over his sheets. I count the second time as the actual loss of virginity.

Which time?

Obviously it was on my wedding night. You gays are whores.

r21 = Melania Trump

I’m still a virgin at 27.

Nothing wrong with that at all, R23. If you're holding out for love, then be sure you don't align yourself with your direct opposite. Best wishes, pal.

Now I feel incomplete because I didn’t do piss. Ugh!

Crashed at a friend's house the summer I turned 17. Everybody was asleep, including me. His 15 year old brother slipped into the bed I was sleeping in on my stomach, lubed himself up, and slid it in. He came within a minute, as did I. Later that year, he came to my house on a day school was canceled due to snow. He wanted to drink my dad's alcohol and mess around; I did not. So he called me a fag and took off.

First time fucking a guy was in college. I was 19 and searching the stacks for an old book. I had no clue guys cruised there. Some dude motioned for me to follow him into a tiny bathroom. I did. He sucked me for a little bit, then turned around and pushed himself onto my dick. I blew my load fast and he zipped up and disappeared. I spent 15 minutes washing his shit off my dick in the sink.

R26 backstory on the brother? Was he hot?

Do you want to know poosey or anuse or donkey virginity?

How in the fuck am I supposed to remember?

You don’t lose your virginity by having oral or anal sex. When I was coming up, many girls had oral or anal with their boyfriends specifically to preserve their virginity.

So based on R30 men can't lose their virginity because they can't be virgins because there's no hymen to break. Right, R30?

When I had sex for the first time.

I forgot to mention that R30 can fuck off.

I was 17, and got on my 10-speed bike, and went to the local cruising park, and waited until I was able to talk a guy into taking me home with him (my age kept putting people off.) The guy who gave in was 31, and we went back to his apartment and sucked and jerked each other off. He was so hairy, I ended up with a rug burn. I felt so proud, though.

Many yars ago...at a gay porn theatre in Boston. I was 18. It was awesome. Loved it. Anonymous, hot guy, cum everywhere.

*years

[quote] When I had sex for the first time.

What kind of sex? Oral? Anal? Vaginal? Intercrural?

I was young, desperate, suffering from depression and definitely needed better judgement. A short guy in a straw hat at a bar asked if I wanted a BJ, I said yes. Went outside behind some bushes and got sucked off for the first time. Lots of teeth scraping, not very pleasant. Took a VERY hot shower when I got home. Hardly my proudest moment.

I was 5 and he was 6. We rode on horses made of sticks. He wore black and I wore white but he would always win the fight. Bang! Bang!

OP, in what year was your first time with Mr. Jarhead? I think that was me!

The man went up into the other man. I was one of the mans.

Another fraternity house story. My first weekend in college, a brother in one of the Jewish houses asked me if I wouldn't rather sleep over than walk all the way back to my dorm. He was cute. Cocks were sucked all night long.

Raped by a filthy hound dog in trademark blue pants during my first Disney cruise.

Stranger-danger rape.

early 20s; met a guy from a phone chat line and went to his place.

he suggested we shower first.

we got in the shower, his hand brushed my leg, i involuntarily shot buckets on him, and excused myself to "go see my girlfriend".

R20 = Blanche Devereux

Marcia stole the banana seat to my bicycle and I didn't notice until I was up the block.

I can’t answer your question as I am still a virgin.

R23 get laid already. Jeez. It’s odd

anal

I came out in the 70s in the midwest. I was 16 and having come out, I wanted to get laid.

Almost immediately, I started looking for chicken queens and it didn't take long to find one. I took advantage of him by encouraging him to take advantage of me. Everyone got what they wanted. I liked it so much, I wanted more. And the chicken queen gambit paid off every time.

[quote] One of my pledge brothers and I started napping at the same time in my dorm room...and you can guess what happened next. First in separate beds, then giving each other back rubs...

[quote] Sleep over. Cock sucking. Body humping. Repeat.

[quote] Some dude motioned for me to follow him into a tiny bathroom. I did. He sucked me for a little bit, then turned around and pushed himself onto my dick.

As a virgin (fistbumping R23, @R49 maybe reserve the judgement and stop being an arsehole) and probable-autistic, I find these anecdotes so baffling and so funny. It’s almost impossible for me to comprehend how this happens in reality; these scenarios sound more like scenes in a movie to me.

How do you go from 1-60 so naturally and so fast, and without any awkwardness? How does the conversation start that segues into sex? Are there signals? Who says what, and when? How do you reach consensus on who is making the first move, and whether it’s welcome? I get that there is meaningful eye contact and probably some sort of atmospheric tension or chemistry palpable to both parties, but beyond that the intricacies of the social mechanics absolutely elude my understanding.

R52, those guys are lying, of course.

Under the old oak tree. The football team lined-up as eager and vivacious gentleman caller starters. Yippee!

[quote] but beyond that the intricacies of the social mechanics absolutely elude my understanding.

It's probably best if you have a drink first. Also, start with a top, that way you don't have to worry about who makes the first move.

I was 12 and another 13 year old kid down the street got me over to his house and jerked me off. I had never even puled my own pud before. It was quite a pleasant surprise.

R52 - I feel the exact same way.

In an adult book store when I was 17. Was serviced by a guy in his 30's.

Met a guy at a bar when I was 19 and in college. It was amazing and afterwards I knew with certainty that I was gay.

I lost my cherry the day shit passed through my shithole and it still happens every day! My first golden husband.

I came out at 19 and was sucking and getting sucked left and right. I met a hot 27 y.o. who really liked getting fucked, and I banged his ass for a couple of hours, cumming in his ass about 6 or 7 times with no refractory period at all. He fucked me once, but he wasn't all that great.

In my youth, I accidentally sat on my mother’s hi-heel. 👠

Gay virginity - with my best mate Tony, we were both 11. Looking at a porn magazine. I came for the first time. Didn’t even touch myself. It was amazing. We then progressed to sucking each other off - completely self-taught, based on instinct.

Then when I was around 14 I hooked up with this guy at the beach - he was older - mid twenties, I guess (and I know, he was breaking the law, but I knew exactly what I was doing). He was blonde, hairy chest, built, pale blue nylon speedos which is what we all wore then. Perfect cock. I can still picture him perfectly all these years lately. Back to his place...amazing afternoon. Then we saw each other a few more times but he freaked out when he found out what age I was as I always looked older

Straight virginity - I was 16 and she was 14. Her name was Rebecca. This time it was me who was breaking the law as the age of consent in Australia was (maybe still is) 16. I do remember that I was wearing Paco Rabanne aftershave - probably drenched in it. We dated until my high school graduation formal (what you Americans would call a prom). I ghosted her from that night onwards as I was just really wanting to a) try the heterosex and b) lock in a date for the school graduation formal dance. Not my finest hour.

I never found out the name of the bloke from the beach but I remember every inch of his body.

As you asked, OP.

R63, which beach?

R52 - so my post about losing my virginity to a pledge brother in my frat is absolutely true. I think my pledge brother was the first person I fell in love with - and I think he had feelings for me - but he was pretty messed up about the whole guy-on-guy sex thing. He eventually dropped out of the frat, but stayed on at our university and we graduated together. He's a pilot and lives in FL now.

R59 maybe the cock in your ass was the tell. Just guessing...

South Bondi, R64! It was the gay end at the time. Before all the gays migrated to North Bondi.

Apparently lots of people on DL consider sucking or stroking to be loss of virginity.

R68 sure. Why not? You gonna tell your mother about stroking or sucking?

R24, you are a nice person. On behalf of the other poster and those like him...thank you.

What is the "Chicken Queen Gambit"?

R70 no. You’re wrong. He’s not nice & you’re troubled. You’re too old to be a virgin - you border on special needs. What’s your problem? Tell us? A fatty? Ugly? Mouth breather? Self hater? You know we know you’re not normal. Please share

Ha...ha? R72

Well let me see... I'm like r52 in that I don't know how to round the bases. There have been oportunities, but its always the least decent guys who want to get frisky - the kinds of guys who are already in relationships, or who won't make eye contact or ever talk to you again after it's done...the guys who will consider you a notch on their belt...or smile at you like they own some part of you now.

The nice guys I've courted, albeit clumsily, either turned out too nervous to proceed (but happy to flirt with you up until a certain point), fearful of losing their straight guy card, or just genuinely less attracted once they spend some time with you (or they lose their nerve...happens to me too).

I'm in shape woth good skin, hair on my head and attractive features, I get glances in public in a good way, but I'm not a "dudebro" skater muscle type, which is - going by DL threads - all that is valued in a male sex partner. And yes, I like those types too but I'm flexible.

Either I meet someone, watch their pupils dialate with excitement they can't hide, and then play it cool with them and never hear back, or I am enthusiastic and end up constantly initiating contact and hoping for a chill session (aka date) that never happens. Or when it does, it's friend zone only situation.

I think you more easily snag a sex partner by A) happening across one by chance (school, sports team) during the magic time known as college experimental years or B) by putting yourself out there in really extreme ways (bathrooms, parties, online ads and hookups). I'm not judging those who do the latter, it sounds hot, but it's risky and I don't feel sexy when I'm doing stuff like that. Yes, even a online profile. I hate online dating. It's so dehumanizing.

I've been trying to get to know a guy, become friends and see what his personality really is before ripping his underwear off. I'd like to think someone might actually care for me when we exchange fluids. That they would be someone who I wouldn't regret being with. So here I am, grown up, no real satisfying experiences to my name and a global pandemic putting any attempts on indefinite hold.

I've worked hard, been a good friend, put my energies and time to good use...I haven't "wasted" my years....but maybe I'm not putting enough confidence or enough of a sexy vibe out there.

It makes me sad. I feel like a priest (minus the creepy stuff) I've had old friends get back in touch with me and without them even saying it, they look at me and know I still have my V Card. Ok, one actually said it, matter of factly. Like it's stamped on my forehead. They seem to understand it's a closed topic with me. I've resorted to lying about it now, just to move conversations along when people ask the last time I got laid or had a relationship. Let me tell you, guys don't look at you normally when it's clear you haven't boned someone or been boned.

...but you already know that, right r72. Thanks for the understanding.

The DL - where having Anon Anal Sex under a bridge at 14 makes you normal....and being a Virgin after the age of 25 makes you "troubled".

...and the truly sad thing is, even if I had handed out blowjobs for two decades, I'd still be looking for the same elusive thing : a nice guy who actually likes me and who I like back.

R73, excellent post. I'm the same way...except that I don't feel sad about it and I don't have friends who pity me.

R73 i didn’t read all of it. One of the guys that wants to make you a notch on his belt? Do him & quick. Like yesterday quick. Otherwise you’ll write agonizingly long screeds about it. You’re too old to be a virgin.

R73 R74 i give up. Stop being afraid of pleasure.

You sound like a good guy R73, when you only want sex with real meaning it can be very hard to find. However, a lot of people get a lot of enjoyment out of casual sex. It is what it is and you can wait for the one (it still might be brief and few and far between in a lifetime) or start appreciating what someone can offer you with their limitations. Nothing to be sad about.

I used to teach college in the South. My students in sororities would have anal sex with their boyfriends so they could say they were virgins when they got married. Were they?

R72 As a fatty AND a sibling/caregiver for someone with special needs, you can go fuck right off. You sound like an insecure playground bully.

R78 they are virgins and their boyfriends are actually gay since they like butt sex. Duh!

I was in my mid-20's and finally bit the bullet and went on a date with a guy who I'd met through a friend. He was nice enough, but not really my type. I went through it just to say I'd finally done it and I couldn't understand what the big deal was. He was one of those guys who wasn't into anal (giving or receiving), so I'm not sure if that counts. I lost my anal virginity from some guy in his 40's or 50's who left the back door unlocked for me and would make sure the house was really dark. It wasn't romantic, but I ripped the band aid off and went for it.

After both experiences, I couldn't really understand what the big deal was. It was fine, but still felt like my hand and I had been a better team. It was after 3 or 4 more mediocre to lousy experiences that I finally experienced great sex and understood what everyone was freaking out about. I'd scared myself into thinking there was something wrong with me.

My best friend in high school, the summer before we parted to go to different universities. His family had been on vacation, and I fed their dog And got their mail while they were gone. The day they got back, I brought over the mail and he asked me to stay for dinner. We watched tv and he asked if I wanted to spend the night. I ran home quickly and got overnight stuff and came back to his house. We went to bed and he rolled over and kissed me (first time).. We kissed for some time and then took off our boxers.. we had oral sex only, but it was amazing (he was very handsome - coal black wavy hair, deep blue eyes, and a great cock)... we had sex almost daily after that night until we left for school. He’s in California now, but I don’t know anything else... I still think about it. I was not his first...

Drove to a bookstore in the gay neighborhood at 16 and had sex with the first guy I met. Got a BJ - and knew at that point I was guy. Grateful for it. Can’t imagine waiting until 25. Of course, I also only like casual sex now. But seems like that’s true for 80% of men.

R79 and you sound unhappy in your life. If a post that’s not aimed at you sets you off then you are a weak person. Note the ha ha in his reply? He knows it’s a joke. Grow a set or read a post that doesn’t ruffle your sensitive demeanor. The world must obey me because I suffer or whatever bullshit you need to get by.

How do you fuck for hours the first time, not to speak of foot fisting? You guys must have um practiced a lot before the physical encounter. I could barely walk home after I got rammed. I meant reamed but I'll let that autocorrect stand.

R85 it really is the best post. I wanted to know why piss was out when foot fisting was fine.

I was 12 ,he was 14 and my brothers best friend. We grew up together and I had already been blowing him for a year. I started puberty at 11 and hit the ground running. I remember the 1st time I sucked him off was behind our garage where we had stashed some fuck mags he got from somewhere. There was a huge bank of bushes right behind the garage that hid the back wall and created this tunnel effect. We were in there looking at mags and he whipped his dick out and started jacking it. I took mine out and did the same and after a few minutes he said in a husky voice 'come suck it" I will never forget that first taste,the way it felt in my mouth,the soft little bush of hair around his diamond hard dick . Not to brag but I took to it instantly,and was a natural born cocksucker. I even ate his load without thinking twice about it. I guess if you think of losing ones virginity as any sex act , i lost mine then. I sucked more dick in those bushes than Carter has liver pills !

But I digress. The first time he ever fucked me,he was spending the night and my older brother had snuck out to meet his girlfriend and we were talking nasty as teen boys will about what he might be doing to her ,and he asks me if I would suck him off again and I was all "sure!" and start going to town on it . After a few minutes he asked me if I wanted to get fucked and again I was all "sure!" . When he first tried to stick it in it just wouldnt go,I was too tight plus we didnt even know enough to use lotion .After some fumbling he finally gets it in a couple of inches . I wouldnt say it hurt terribly but I felt it ,he wasnt small . He finally gets it all the way in and just lets it sit there for a second . I could feel it throbbing inside of me . I absolutely loved it. Then he starts moving and about a minute later floods my ass. Just when I was getting into it. He made up for it though,we fucked around till I was 21.

R82 Didn't his parents mind?

OP, please explain how you and your Marine fucked for hours. Was it anal, oral, or mutual jerk? I'm not being snarky. I really want to know about your first experience.

Ladies: handjobs at 15, oral (I think, it’s hazy) at 16, vaginal at 17; all different girls, all my age. I have a big dick so it took forever to get in vaginally (she was a virgin) and a second for me to come. Must have sucked for her but didn’t realize it at the time.

Dudes: Oral and humping with a guy a couple years older at 18, topped at 19 with a 24 year old, kind of a boyfriend. Bottomed at 24 for a guy I LOVED on I think the second date. He just casually said, “I have condoms if you want to fuck” and I about lost my mind. It’s been almost 20 years and we’re still together with mortgages, dogs, a kid. It’s not all roses, we’ve not always been on the same page sexually, we’ve had some betrayals and anal sex faded long ago. At first I wasn’t ok with that, now I am. Still, pretty good that we have regular oral and jacking off and cuddling after so much time. We’ve been monogamous for many years. I think we’re pretty unusual.

He had an average dick but it was girthy. We 69ed and then he fucked me, first in missionary position then we turned over and I rode him for awhile. Afterwards I fucked him in the shower. We fell asleep and I was awakened by a bj. I jerked him off. He left early in the morning and I never saw him again.

Sweet, R91/OP.

R91, OP Thank you! OMG, you obviously lost your virginity that day but which specific act do you think makes a man lose his virginity?

The first time he orgasms with another person.

[quote] We watched tv and he asked if I wanted to spend the night. I ran home quickly and got overnight stuff and came back to his house.

I never really understood the sleepover thing at that age. Care to explain?

First oral was 69 with a high school friend in our sophomore year. Neither of us came. Him because I probably wasn't very good, and me because I was so nervous. I freaked out afterward and it nearly ended our friendship. Later, in college, I had a couple of guys suck me off, but nothing else. First anal was a guy I met in Seattle between my sophomore and junior years of college. Personal ad in the local gay paper. He was a year or two younger than me, and really cute. I had never really thought of anal -He had made himself a huge wax dildo, but had never been fucked for real. I fucked him and we both loved it. He fucked me, but never finished as he saw me crying from the pain and pulled out. He couldn't understand why I wasn't enjoying it like he had. I ended up fucking him eight times in one night (not that first time). He was also the first guy I ever sucked all the way -swallowing his load.

Nobody agrees on what "losing it" means for gay men, but for me it's doing anal, top or bottom, or giving oral.

r73 - I get it. I feel the same way. Like I somehow missed the window to do it and now it’s really difficult and I feel like something is wrong with me and I shame spiral.

I’m also in shape, fine looking, I have a good job and an apartment and friends who I care about.

I don’t know why the years keep passing without me figuring this part of my life out - but they do.

Anyway. I understand.

I met this French guy in a pub one evening, took him home and we fucked each other. We were in our mid-20s. We also kissed and blew each other. I stuck a finger up his ass fairly early on which he thought was rather forward of me. He was good looking and muscular. His dick was big with quite an odd, abrupt sideways angle at the end.

I had two “first” encounters a few weeks apart when I was 21. I met both guys on Manhunt. The first guy was near my college, and he picked me up in his car and drove to a deserted lot. I went in to kiss him, but he pushed my head onto his cock. I sucked him for a few minutes, but he didn’t cum... neither of us was having a good time, so he drove me back to campus and that was it. The second guy was in my hometown a few weeks later. I went to his apartment, and he sat me on his bed and kissed me. That was my first kiss. I then sucked him and he fucked me, and he came buckets. It was amazing, and I consider that encounter to be the loss of my virginity.

I’m always amazed at the number of guys who had sex with friends or classmates in high school. I was terrified of ever revealing that I was gay to anyone in high school.

R100, I did reveal to one I was smitten with. He was very nice about it, but no.

Same place I lost my wallet, in the dark room of a seedy gay bar!

R84 your pointless bitchery wasn't cute, original or funny. It was you demanding explanations about a really sensitive topic, and throwing insults out to provoke a response. If you were intending to be playful with your tone, you came across harsher than you realize.

And I didn't write haha to signify that I thought it was funny. I wrote "Ha....ha?" Because you sounded like the ass at the dinner table who asks a woman who can't conceive if she's completely barren and infertile. You put your foot in your mouth. It says a lot to me when someone who hears they've possibly offended someone else fires back that that other person is too sensitive. That's actually just you being too cowardly to say the much simpler and kind response of "oops, my bad, I'm sorry if I hurt you."

It's also completely clear that you've never been a caregiver and don't understand the sacrifice that can go into that. You've no idea the emotional toll it takes on a person to put themselves second to help somebody else. You absolutely sacrifice your social life....but you do it for the best possible reasons and that should be applauded. Grow a heart.

[quote]Grow a heart.

Now, you know that's not going to happen.

It all started with a game called “trust me” while hanging out alone by his pool in summer when I was 11 and he was 12. You put your hand on the other person’s knee and ask “Trust me?” And if they say “Yes” you move your hand up an inch and repeat. You do this until someone chickens out, or until you go down their pants and fondle their junk.

This leads to sexual exploration that goes a little bit farther each time. His parents worked late and he was the youngest and only one in the house. Over years it includes oral sex and then full on anal sex, learned about by me reading the dirty parts in the book Twins, that was made into the movie Dead Ringers staring Jeremy Irons as killer gynecologists twin brothers who had an incestuous affair. It is based on a true story, look it up. I also figured out from it to use Vaseline as a lubricant.

I lost my virginity before I had pubes. It was mutual and not coerced in any way despite what everyone wants to think when I tell this story. It went on for five years on and off, but many times twice a week. I had a lot of sex before I turned 16. While I know who I lost my virginity to, because it’s all a jumble in time, just pushing the boundaries of what we were doing, I have no strong memory of the first time I gave or got a blow job or the first time I was fucked. That is the only thing I’m sad about it happening that way. Other friends had such defined stories of their first time, I didn’t.

^^^ WHORE!!!

Given some of these accounts the legal age of consent seems ridiculous without the so-called Romeo-Juliet proviso.

[quote]How did you lose your virginity?

I keep it in a jar at the back of my closet.

I was 18, and he was 23. It was a Grindr hook up (no biggie). We made out, oral, and fucked (I fucked him). Before that, I hadn’t kissed anyone or gave/received head from anyone, so I lost my kissing, oral, and fucking virginity at the same time. It wasn’t really that monumental. Many people regret their first time, and most people say their first time was terrible. Surprisingly, mine was ok. I do remember that I also fucked a daddy that same day, a few hours after losing my virginity, and the daddy was much better.

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More whores and filthy sluts please!

R100 right?! I didn’t even know what masturbation was when I was in HS

It was 1984 and I was 14. It was at boarding school with this guy called Martin. He was fucking gorgeous and had a hard athletic bod and delicious big cock. I used to watch him and his cock in the showers and he must have noticed. I was surprised because he was very straight. He must have been bi. He came to my bed one night, woke me up and whispered in my ear did I want to go for a "walk" with him. It was early in the morning (2 am or so) and we went under one of the classrooms, got naked, blew each other and then I fucked him and he fucked me. I had a hard on all day thinking about it and his cum up my ass - he had my cum up his ass all day too and we laughed about that later and got all horned up about it. He was very intense.

We became fuck buddies and managed to keep it quiet and nobody ever found out for 4 more years. Best sex I've ever had. We did it everywhere and as often as we could. We weren't school friends in the day time as he was in the same year but a different class stream and he kept to himself. Bit of a tough guy and a bit scary. He is only one of only 3 guys who has ever fucked me in my whole life - the other 2 were boyfriends who I let them do it once each. I'm a top and never enjoyed it but I enjoyed him fucking me. I've tried Googling him but I can't find him. One of my school friends said he went to prison in his twenties. I don't know what for or for how long. If I saw him again now - I would drop my pants in a heartbeat and let him pound the cum out of me - no matter what he looked like. I'm 50 now and he would be 50 too.

Good times. I also fucked around with another guy at boarding school who we called horse cock - his name was Andrew. They didn't know about each other. We never got caught. I left school at 18 but I was very sexually experienced by then. Martin was my first.

My tiny hometown had a drive-in movie theater that showed XXX-rated movies at midnight. There were railroad tracks just behind it. Beginning when I was 13, my buddies and I would organize a sleep over (usually at my place; my parents did not care and we had a pool). We would sneak out and ride our bikes to the railroad tracks about a couple hundred yards away from the drive in. We sat on the tracks and watched the porn and, usually, could hear it from the speakers hanging on the stands. So I had seen virtually everything males and females did to each other sexually. One night was a rare treat -- two guys and one girl. I remember being so excited seeing two guys' dicks touching as they double penetrated the woman.

My first blow job experience (giving and receiving) happened the summer I turned 10. In retrospect, I had a lot of (oral) sex for a kid growing up in a rural village in the middle of nowhere. With the same 4-5 boys, but a lot.

What NIFTY stories !

I did not lose it.

It was taken.

R71, what I was referring to in that phrase was me, at 16, seeking out chicken queens and going out of my way to appear that I could be gotten, while never overtly going after them. Then the older guys would start their conquest.

They thought they were seducing me, but I had already seduced them into doing that. I did not 'inadvertently' find myself alone with them. They did not manipulate me into anything I had not hoped they would manipulate me into. If I had pursued them, I would have been viewed suspiciously and as potential trouble. But if I acted stupid and unaware, they pounced. Which is what I set them up to do.

I was 16 and unhappy and horny. They were selfish and unconcerned with my welfare. But we both got laid. It only worked when I was in high school. But it worked really well. After I was in college, much more became available to me. I did not have to rely on crazy older men who risked everything to fuck a 16 year old.

My boyfriend and I were making out, kissing and touching and holding each other. I came in my pants. Not a great start to my sexual career but I was 15 and my body was on full tilt mode for semen production. This was my first orgasm caused by someone other than Mr Hand so I count this as losing my virginity. The good thing about being 15 was that my cock was hard again twenty minutes later and we 69ed each other for more proper cumming. It took us a month or more before we dared to try anal. We didn't know what we were dong so we tried to imitate a scene from a VHS gay porn, lol.

I guess I’m grateful that there was knowledge about anal sex causing HIV transmission by 1985. Knew not to do anal and didn’t even try it until 3 years into my sexual life - at 19. It was ridiculously painful and made no sense to me why people did that. Took until 25 to start to enjoy.

R87, I've read on here that once it's all the way in, a top should just take a minute to let the bottom get used to it.

I was a 17 year-old freshman in college, living in the dorm. We had gang showers. One of the guys liked what I had. He was. 22 year-old senior and was the R.A. of our floor, which meant he had a private room. He befriended me and within a couple of days I was fucking him several times a day. He was a total bottom and a size queen. After he graduated, he stayed on for 2 more years and got his Masters degree. I would stop over at his apartment whenever I had the urge to fuck him. Good times!

The first time I got fucked in the ass was the summer after I graduated from college. I went to Europe on a tour with a group of people. I was paired up with another lone traveler. He was a retired older man in his 60s, excellent physical shape, good looking, handsome. We immediately clicked and within a day, he was fucking me several times a day. He was a total top, And he taught me how to bottom. I don’t remember much about that trip except the sex.

Seems everyone her is defining the loss by anal sex. For me, the “aha I have finally had sex moment” was about oral. At 17 while perusing books on homosexuality In a public library (circa 1983), a 16 year old boy walked by quickly and threw a folded up note to me. It invited me to follow him to the bathroom to get a blow job. List overtook my fear, so I did. Into a stall together. He freaks out, so I take over and blow him to orgasm, then swallow every drop of his load. The end. The source of my cocksucking/cum guzzling obsession I suppose.

First anal experience was two years later in college when a 22 year old fucked me in my dorm room. I didn’t it enjoy it at the time, and I especially disliked it several days later when I realized the guy had given me crabs.

12. Church retreat. He was 27 and one of the pastors. I didn't know what was happening. But it felt great.

Same here, r122. Oral sex was the thing for the first five years. I didn't even hear of anal sex until I'd been sucking cock for three years, and my straight (male) roommate asked me if I were top or bottom, and I didn't know what he was talking about. It wasn't until two years after that that I let guys fuck me, and it took another entire year before I loved it, i.e., came hands free.

I still think of the first time I had oral sex as losing my virginity, but I fell madly, deeply, impossibly in love with the guy who made me cum hands free. We carried on as (mere) fuckbuddies for another couple of years. I had to leave town to get away from him I was madly in love with him, but to him, I was just another piece of shit to fuck.

My dad's best friend fucked me in my bedroom. I was 17.

R125 how the hell does a guy get the nerve to mess around with their barely legal buddy's kid?

R117 oh so chicken queen means gay guy too scared to make a move....

Ahhh okay. Thanks.

Weird term. Why chicken?? Why not duckling or something else that sounds young ...

In the ass.

R114/R26 I’m sure you’re telling the truth, but all the same I have trouble imagining that drive-in movies showed porn. What did they do about the volume? Wasn’t it completely mortifying for people who loved nearby to hear that? And how about the awkwardness buying tickets?

They did. On one of their first dates my dad took my mom to see Pinocchio. It turned out to be a porn version which my dad swore he had no idea. According to mom in this version Pinocchio's cock grew every time he lied.

R130 There used to be an x rated drive in called the Playtime in Jax Fl . Google it,they did have them . My god the amount of cock I got there ! Me and my best friend who had a car would go there and cruise our asses off . If you saw a guy in his car all by himself you knew you had a 90% chance of getting it. Good times !

r130 In the early 70s, our local drive-in theater showed porn movies occasionally.

WTF R131 !!! LMAO

r126 I posted it on another thread but here goes. He was a co-worker of my dads and they always hung out. He was a swarthy Italian guy, really handsome and well built. I went to HS with one of his daughters. It was late August and my parents had a 20th-anniversary party at a local hall. I had two-a-day practice the next day so I had to leave early. My Mom was going to leave to take me home but he volunteered since he said he had to work the early shift (my dad and he worked in a automotive factory together). Before all this, he would always compliment me on my legs and body when he was over. How he could tell I was working out. On the drive home, he is asking me if I am dating, how football is going etc. He grabbed my thigh and squeezed it at one point. We get to the house and he asks if he can use the bathroom. We live in a split level one bathroom house and my bedroom is right across from the bathroom. He leaves the door open and takes a piss, I get undressed for bed. I am in my underwear and turn around to see he is still at the toilet holding a huge hard-on and smiling at me. I was transfixed on it. It was literally about six steps from my door to the bathroom but it seemed like a mile. He said "wanna touch it," and that was it. I put my hand on his hard cock, he slid his hand down by underpants and we were making out. He fucked me on my twin bed and it was fucking amazing. He asked me if I wanted to do this again and I said fuck yes. Then the fuck had a heart attack and died two weeks later so I never got it again from him.

With vaseline and a ruse.

R135 your Bussy killed him ! Murderer !

Called a personal ad out of a rag when I was 18 and in college and living away from home.

Guy picked me up at a train station; he wasn't my type at all; he gave me a blow job and I was a late bloomer believe it or not. I wasn't doing a lot of self pleasuring; as a result, I shot like a rocket ship. I froze when it was my turn. I just wasn't ready; he drove me back to the train station and said it was okay.

Had sex with a girl a few years later, also in college; I felt a level of acceptance with the guys the next day that I've never felt since (No wonder so many gays marry women; it's an easier life in some respects, but not for me).

I consider a 'first' time to be when you know what you're doing and you are emotionally connected and you feel a level of trust. that happened years (decades?) later and I think about him every day.

R135, obviously that was surprise anal. Any messes?

[quote]I posted it on another thread but here goes. He was a co-worker of my dads and they always hung out. He was a swarthy Italian guy, really handsome and well built. I went to HS with one of his daughters. It was late August and my parents had a 20th-anniversary party at a local hall. I had two-a-day practice the next day so I had to leave early. My Mom was going to leave to take me home but he volunteered since he said he had to work the early shift (my dad and he worked in a automotive factory together). Before all this, he would always compliment me on my legs and body when he was over. How he could tell I was working out. On the drive home, he is asking me if I am dating, how football is going etc. He grabbed my thigh and squeezed it at one point. We get to the house and he asks if he can use the bathroom. We live in a split level one bathroom house and my bedroom is right across from the bathroom. He leaves the door open and takes a piss, I get undressed for bed. I am in my underwear and turn around to see he is still at the toilet holding a huge hard-on and smiling at me. I was transfixed on it. It was literally about six steps from my door to the bathroom but it seemed like a mile. He said "wanna touch it," and that was it. I put my hand on his hard cock, he slid his hand down by underpants and we were making out. He fucked me on my twin bed and it was fucking amazing. He asked me if I wanted to do this again and I said fuck yes.

Then a Marine burst in and fucked both of us.

Erna told me once that her first experience was at the age of 6 when she developed a nasty infection from eating her own poop. She would bury some in the garden to savor for later. Anyway, her trout of a mother was away visiting family and her farther was horny and constipated. She crept into his bed one night and begun to Bobbie Brown pieces of his rock hard poop out of his hole. When the dam was eventually burst, the avalanche of backed up FUDGE sprayed out all over her and she shrieked with glee! This was the first of many fudge deliveries from her farther.

When I do... I’ll let you know!

Still a virgin! I probably should sell my virginity! Is that possible?

[quote]How did you lose your virginity?

I left it in my good purse. It's in the third booth from the kitchen in a diner in Bayonne as I type.

R52 you sound so adorable.

TBH, it just happens. I think you think it’s more complicated than it is. One person tries to seduce the other, the other allows it to happen.

R130 where i grew up the shannersville drive in tried to extend it’s life by showing porn . It was a hit for the summer but the drive in closed for good that winter.

I lost it with a girl. Did it all - fingered her, went down on her, put my semi-hard dick in her, and came afterwards when she blew me. I was 16. I didn't have sex for the rest of high school.

I lost my "gay" virginity freshman year of college when I blew another student.

All this talk about porn in drive-in theatres makes me think it's about time to bring back drive-ins! We could watch first run movies in the privacy and safety of our own cars! One of the big brick multiplexes near me is doing something similar - showing movies on the side of the building. You buy a ticket, park in the lot, and receive the audio through your cell phone or car radio.

OK, it's not porn but at least it's something to get us out of the house!

r139 actually it was not so bad. I was on a high protein diet for football and that gives you the shits so I was pretty clean. He used petroleum jelly from the bathroom. His dick was huge. I might remember it bigger than it was but he was Italian. It all happened so fast I went from wanna touch it to holy fuck I am getting fucked in like no time. He did clean up a bit when he was done so he might have hit dirt I dunno.

Still a virgin! I probably should sell my virginity! Is that possible? —GermanGayGuy

Certainly possible. Not legal in most places. A few years back a teenager had his/hers (can't remember which) up for sale on eBay. It was taken down. Since then, it appears to have become a thing.

Like I’ve said in this thread.... I did it all my first time (except piss). We used Paul Mitchell The Conditioner for anal lube.

[quote] When I was coming up, many girls had oral or anal with their boyfriends specifically to preserve their virginity.

I can attest to that!

18, first bf who was 26 and had the best intact penis ever. We were mostly oral but I’d fuck his bubble butt now again. In fact, if we met up today we’d probably have sex.

I have only had one lover since I was 12 years old.

So , I'm a chicken queen?! The fuck! I just didn't go out with guy's my age when I was younger. So, I'm trying it out the younger age group.

R154 -Is that you, Ivanka?

I was 12 when a friend of mine (same age) stayed overnight and slept outdoors because it was summer and think both of us wanted private time together. We had played around with each other a few times before but this night we tried anal. We both topped and bottomed (without lube) but neither of us came. We did that the next time he stayed over.

So why do guys have sleepovers at that age? I think I found out why when I was 12.

My priest.

How should I know?

When I was 6 I slept in the same bed as a next door neighbor who was a few years older. We both got hard and played with each other’s dicks. I remember putting my cock against his ass. We were both too young to cum but that was when I knew I needed cock and ass.

When I was a fetus

Talking about lube. My first fuck was with Crisco. It was in the penthouse forum that intoduced the concept of ass fucking to me

[qoute] So why do guys have sleepovers at that age? I think I found out why when I was 12.

And there are some parents who presumably know this but turn a blind eye when their horny boy invites his team mate to sleep over?

[quote] my straight (male) roommate asked me if I were top or bottom,

R124 he was coming on to you. Not so str8 ... your roomie, right?

I got fucked at 3

If you mean getting fucked - to a sexy, furry Iranian guy with a beautiful body. Older but just perfect agewise, and with a cock that was nice and big enough without being too much for my first time.

As far as oral - I had my first oral sex with two guys in a short period of time - the first was someone my age in my neighborhood who I had known for a long time, the other was a mechanic who had a shop in my town. Playing with the friend felt like just exploring or something...but blowing the mechanic was **it** for me (though I freaked out a bit about it after).

Sadly, that friend and I fell out after playing around a few times. I wish we would have crossed paths as adults but we never did, and tragically he was murdered.

[quote] the other was a mechanic who had a shop in my town

Still waters run deep. Was this a small town? How old were you R166; how old was the mechanic? How did you get to blow him? The risk to you both may have been rather great in terms of reputation, esp him!

R167 Well, I was still in HS. He was probably in his early 40s. We were in a pretty small town, for sure.

He ran the gas station which had some video games and I hung out there too much - partly because I was bored, and partly because he was hot and I'd noticed him. When he locked up I went to the men's room and he came in and I just stared at his cock at the urinal while I washed my hands.....I didn't have any experience and just did the only thing I knew how to do. He asked me if I wanted to suck it and of course I said yes.

I was there a few weeks later and he took me aside and told me not to come round any more, that he thought I was older and that he didn't want any trouble, and I told him I wouldn't make any. But it was hot the one time it happened, for sure. Being with a guy in mechanic's overalls, the scent of his cock mixed in with all the oil and gas....definitely had an imprint on my tastes. I did get a little guilty about it the night it happened but after a week or so I had shaken that off.

I thought I'd burned my bridges since my only successful cock source was now off limits, but a few months later when I was at JCPenney in the mall a guy at the urinal waved his cock at me and after I sucked it he told me men cruise rest rooms all the time....and I was off to the races!

[quote] Then the fuck had a heart attack and died two weeks later so I never got it again from him.

R135 How old were you; underage I assume? And he was your dad's workmate? No wonder the guy had a heart attack.

To the person upthread who expressed doubt re porn at drive ins, I can remember advertisements for porn at one drive in near where I grew up.

Drive ins have been making a comeback even before the 'rona, but from the late 70s on, many were struggling and eventually closed. And for any theater in those days, X was the last stop before going out of business. In an era before VCRs/DVD's were ubiquitous (or before you could jack off in a men's room watching your phone), that was an option, I guess.

[quote] Had sex with a girl a few years later, also in college; I felt a level of acceptance with the guys the next day that I've never felt since (No wonder so many gays marry women; it's an easier life in some respects, but not for me).

R138 Had the guys assumed you were a gay?

[quote] find these anecdotes so baffling and so funny. It’s almost impossible for me to comprehend how this happens in reality [quote] How do you go from 1-60 so naturally and so fast, and without any awkwardness? How does the conversation start that segues into sex? Are there signals? Who says what, and when? How do you reach consensus on who is making the first move, and whether it’s welcome? I get that there is meaningful eye contact and probably some sort of atmospheric tension or chemistry palpable to both parties, but beyond that the intricacies of the social mechanics absolutely elude my understanding.

It's hard for me to explain and I know when I've shared experiences with friends or guys I was dating, there was a healthy skepticism.

The signals aren't in a textbook, for sure. With things like cruising when I was at the mall....you'd watch to see someone making the rounds, coming back around to look at you a few times. Or if I was in the men's room itself, you'd know if someone didn't piss and then leave in a reasonable time that they were there to play.

I shared my experiences here a few weeks ago in about times where I played with men who were straight - guys who were not looking for sex with a man but picked up on my attraction to them and found the offer of an uncomplicated BJ appealing. It's also hard to describe how those happened, but if you're tuned into how other people are feeling, picking up on body language, etc. you can tell if someone's open to something. I never said anything as bold as "I want your cock!" or, to invoke a DL joke, I never lifted my caftan and licked my lips....but I gave off enough signals and responded to theirs that they got the hint and then said, if this is what you want then yeah, I'm down for it.

It's a little mixed channel communication completely unique to gay men and while people laugh and roll their eyes that anyone would lament the loss of looking for sex (or love) in a piss stained men's room, it IS something that is mostly lost to the gay men of today. There's no mystery or dance or buildup or flirtation to it, and there's not many places where you can disconnect from that and just have detached fucking, either. With apps most men spend hours looking but panic at the time of execution and freak out, or they get so tied up in casting an actor for the fantasy in their minds that they miss an opportunity to meet and get to know someone who might be close to that fantasy....or even more interesting!

It seems from these posts that the was more opportunity for juvenile sex in the small town than in the big city.

R173 My experience as an adult for sure is that searching in the smaller town was like shooting fish in a barrel. I always had far more luck, and far hotter guys, when I lived in small and medium towns than when I lived in a big city. Big fish in a small pond, etc. and all that shit.

r168 damn I would have told him I would not make any trouble and he could fuck me all he wanted :)

Don’t wish to pass judgement or shame anyone, but it is a bit heartbreaking, sickening (and somehow wrong) to hear of all these preteens having sex with each other or panting after older people. I understand that young people are curious, but all the same - such lamentably short childhoods some of you had.

Surely those among you who played with mates at sleepovers would, in an ideal world, rather have put it all off another four or five years so you could enjoy living in the mystery and the innocence.

Now, I don’t have kids and don’t want them either, but if I had any I’m sure I’d be horrified to find out they were experimenting that young, and would feel as if I’d failed in a protective capacity as a parent.

Eat shit r176

R176: Mary!

Well said indeed R72 ! I never had to say a whole lot either ,but I never could describe it as succinctly as you did. We didnt need words,we had faces !

[quote] Surely those among you who played with mates at sleepovers ... Now, I don’t have kids and don’t want them either, but if I had any I’m sure I’d be horrified to find out they were experimenting that young, and would feel as if I’d failed in a protective capacity as a parent.

R176 It seems real parents didn't / don't care about sleepover sex. I suppose they know where you are, even if you are screwing about with your fuck buddy...

Sleepover veterans, please explain what your parents' and his parents' approach was? Or were they absent/drunk/VV?

"Surely those among you who played with mates at sleepovers would, in an ideal world, rather have put it all off another four or five years so you could enjoy living in the mystery and the innocence."

Oh do fuck off, Emily.

I was exploding with dick lust by the age of 12. Managed to fend it off until age 15, then gave in and went to one of the Times Square video places (this was 1989). They were packed with a lot of closeted business daddies back then and the moment I entered I saw a guy in a suit who looked like a young Tony Lo Bianco. He laid eyes on me and immediately came over, practically dragging me into a booth. We sucked face hard, all sloppy, with spit everywhere; then he blew me and I blew him. He had the hugest dick. We finished by jerking off, him breathing hard all over my neck with his arm wrapped tightly around me. The moment we were done, you could see the utter shame just seep into him and he bolted. Almost running. Ha. Poor guy. He most definitely had a wife and kids somewhere in Long Island or Jersey.

It's still one of the hottest random hookups I've ever had.

R135 has the hottest story imo.

[quote] I was exploding with dick lust by the age of 12

LOL!

[quote] Almost running.

R181 He might have been afraid of going to jail, you were only 15.

"He might have been afraid of going to jail, you were only 15."

I should clarify, even though I was 15, I was already 6 foot. I was the kid that could buy beer for everyone in high school because I looked a bit older.

R185: classic jail bait for barkeeps, Times Square storekeeper and store hookup. Phew.

What planet is R176 from? What an absolutely bizarre post to make on Datalounge.

R176 - it's perfectly normal for horny teens to play around with each other sexually. Especially gay teen boys (or straight/bi boys too) who are constantly horny and thinking about sex and decide they want to have sex with each other. Don't try to make it into something shameful or something that it's not. It's a beautiful and natural thing to experiment and enjoy sex. Those memories were some of the most precious of my entire life.

Who first had sex of any kind on a sleepover? What happened; do you consider you then lost your virginity?

R130 The drive in we went to was just outside the corporation limit, surrounded by corn fields on two sides, a road in front, and railroad tracks in back. It has been in operation for over 80 years, so XXX movies were not its death knell. It still shows new releases and, amid the pandemic, is thriving.

R187 How true about sleepovers. Female here. That was the whole point of girly sleepovers. We learned how to French kiss by practicing on each other, compared breast size and sensitivity. There was always a lot of titty licking and sucking.

R176, there's nothing wrong or sad about teens experimenting with each other. They wouldn't do it if their hormones weren't raging at them. As for sex with adults, the law is clear but the situations aren't always comparable, and you can't always tell someone's age. When I was 15-16 young Marines used to hit me up to buy beer for them because they thought I was older than they were. (Sadly, none ever hit me up for sex -or if they did it went right over my head.)

The real problem is that our society is so anti-sex. We instill shame and fear into kids and tell them to just say no until their wedding night -When we should be teaching them about safety, consent, and respect. I'm not advocating sex with teens -But there is nothing abnormal or wrong about teens wanting to experience sex.

R88

I don’t know if they knew, though I suspect maybe his mom did. It never came up... thank god.

Sounds dreadful, R190.

That's cool R192 did u 2 stay oral only before you went off to univesity? Personally I think I would have had to try other stuff incl anal.

R180 i doubt mr & mrs —— thought we were having sex. They were in their bedroom. We were in his bedroom. We knew to hide it. No shame. I came out early - was totally glad to be gay. I love the pious guys on here. The one’s that waited - some are still waiting! - I don’t understand it. I was ready to get on with it - everything really but I grew up in nyc & so much of everything I wanted was on displayed .

"The real problem is that [bold]American[/bold] society is so anti-sex".

Fixed it R191.

We was around 11 when we first tasted dick and from then on we could never get enough even if it put us in the pokey. Anything 4 cock. And I mean ANYTHING.

14 to a girl. We were both very curious and just wanted to get it over with it seemed. She was also 14

Is R197 Dick van Dyke from Mary Poppins again?

"How did you lose your virginity?"

It was another sleepy dusty Delta day, which means I was watching Designing Women.

And then something came over me.

It was Randy from next door.

So after I wiped myself off, I said, "Is that all there is?"

And Mama said, "No, hon. Let me drive you to the sex store. Then we'll hit Walmart for some batteries."

And I've never looked back.

Although one time I did squat over a mirror.

Thank you.

It doesn't even rhyme R200. -10/5

R200 i give you a gold star on your post. If i was your mom it go on the fridge

Come on guys, let's hear from you, this is interesting and it's anonymous: from young sluts to maiden queens and everything in between please. This is one thread where you can express youselves in more than just a few lines without hearing the usual hisses!

R176 here; thank you all for your responses, scathing as some were. You are right to say that our society has an unreasonable and unrealistic way of curtailing burgeoning sexuality, and that education is destructively oriented toward a culture of silence and shame. I agree with this entirely, on reflection.

With that being said, there is of course no such thing as truly safe sex (even if the only risk is emotional), and with childhood being such a brief fragile tormented state as it is these days, the urge in me to ensconce it away from potential harm is great. Clearly I need to address that idea again, it would seem, and I will as ever put in the work to arrive at a more open-minded positive mindset; still, my mixed emotions remain.

To clarify and reiterate what I said originally - I was NOT LOOKING TO SHAME ANYONE. I was merely expressing my own personal feelings of sadness and confusion, which I didn’t expect anyone to share. I see now that the tone with which I wrote contradicted the sentiment I was attempting clumsily to express. There is nothing to feel wrong about in oneself about one’s own sexuality - I only meant to say what is true to mec that it makes me uncomfortable to read of such things happening to others. This is my concern alone, but I suppose I assumed that to express it may be interesting or enlightening for someone else here to know.

Me being someone who bloomed very late in a sex-negative household, was sexually bullied and chastised in school, and who was in the self-imposed closet for a very long time after early adolescence due to depression, I am speaking from a place of ignorance in many respects. True that I haven’t shared in the experiences of most of you and can’t fully or deeply understand them, but in spite of that I don’t feel that my points are moot to the OP and others and should be completely silenced. Healthy discussion must hear all voices, and opinions like mine in this context provoke new tangents of debate.

Nonetheless, I hope that any offended posters may forgive my comment, and comprehend the spirit in which it was made. You stories are fascinating, and you all show great compassion and honesty in the telling of them. Thank you.

R176 Why ask for forgiveness for your comment? No need. Your explanation at R204 is enough to explain your intention. Good job!

R204 I think I understand what you're saying.

I had my first experiences fairly early and was pretty, uh, experienced by the time I was off to college. I cherish some of those experiences and know that I experienced something unique and, in many cases, beautiful. And in all those cases, I sought out the experience, sought out the men.

I'm not ashamed of what happened at all - it took me a long time to work off the inherent layer of shame that being gay in the 80s brought all on its own - but....I have moments where I also wonder what would have been if maybe that part of my life happened later on. I had to grow up fast for other reasons (family turmoil) and perhaps it wouldn't have been that different.

It's one of those dualities of life, that it can be fun and beautiful and yet something where I probably went back to the well too often. I think early on my self esteem became too wrapped up in "Wow, this hot guy is sharing his body and cock with me!" and that was a boost, but like all highs, it would go away and I'd want more so off I went to get more. It took me a long time to be intimate with someone I love and I am, frankly, still working on that.

I feel protective of young gay men starting out today - I don't want to be a hypocrite and it's not about "all for me and none for thee", but I do feel that same "take your time, be careful, be sure" feeling. I do feel that many young gay men of similar ages are more sheltered today than they were years ago. They may have exposure to more images and ideas via their phones but they have navigated less of the real world and I don't think they always understand the context of what they see and hear.

Years ago, I went to a petting zoo with my then girlfriend and her young daughter. We made fun of the baby goats who were mounting one another in pseudo-sexual play. The keeper, hearing our laughter and banter concerning what we saw, simply shrugged his shoulders saying "they're only led by instinct in their sexual practice at such a young age. You know - just like humans." I said to myself "Yes, of course."

Never willingly embrace ignorance just to fit in with the crowd.

I was in high school and did it the first time with a much older man. Maybe... 30? I was 15 and he seemed old to me. He was hairy and I was not, so I thought he was HOT. For mood music, he turned on his radio to an adult easy listening station. I remember him holding my head and pounding his cock into my mouth again and again as "Arrivederci, Roma" played in the background.

True. All strangely true.

[quote]I remember him holding my head and pounding his cock into my mouth again and again

R208 Was that pleasant for you? How did you feel when it was over? You commented that you thought he was hot; did you feel that way when this episode was over?

YES! I hooked up with him again and again, all through high school.

This was my first time and I didn't know how it would unfold. Every man has his own technique. This guy's technique was straight-forward and unadorned. I got a big mouthful of cum and loved the experience, just as I loved learning about sex with all the other men who were to follow.

I loved when guys held my head as they rode my mouth. Loved the feelings of those big hands on my head. Phroar!

R208 Thank you!

Nice r208

By the time I was 15 ,I pretty much was done having sex with boys my age. When I was 13 the next door neighbor who looked a lot like Desi Arnez jr would often sunbathe in his back yard,and I would peek through the bushes spying on him . One day as I was spying he said "I know your there,come on over" . I slip through and im standing over him,looking at his hairy chest with sweat droplets glistening in the sun,and staring at the mound in his tight shorts (blue terry cloth,I remember vividly) and he asks me why I keep spying on him . I blurted out "because you look like Desi Arnez jr!" and he gives a big ole smile and said "Ive heard that a few times" . Then the mound between his legs starts to swell ,and Im just riveted . At this point Ive already been quite active so I figured where this was heading fairly quickly . He then stands up and doesnt say a word as he heads into his back door ,but when he left it wide open I knew it was a done deal .

I follow him in and hes standing in the kitchen toweling off,and next thing I know his shorts are on the floor and Im looking at a fat,hairy grown mans cock . My first,I might add. Im on my knees sucking away before you can say boo to a goose and he kept exclaiming at how skilled I was (like a duck to water ,me and cocksucking!) . After a few minutes he asked me if I ever "got butt fucked" and I told him yes,but never by something that fat . He then asked me if I wanted to try . Next thing you know Im laying face down on his couch as he slowly works it in ,using lots of spit. It took a few minutes,but he finally gets it balls deep . I will NEVER forget the feel of his hairy chest on my back , the way he gripped my hips with his strong hands,the smell of sweat and sex. He fucks me for about 10 minutes then shoots a load deep. As hes laying there gasping he keeps telling me "You cant tell anybody,ever" and what not. I knew that as he was married and I knew his wife ,they were next door neighbors after all. I of course agreed,then cleaned up and slipped back into my yard.

About a week later I notice his wifes car is gone so I slip through and knock on his back door and he flips out on me ,telling me it was a one time thing and a mistake,etc,etc. I was all "yeah,whatever" and 5 minutes later Im sucking his dick . Unfortunately ,I ended up becoming a tad obsessed and I freaked him out so bad they moved . I got one fuck and one blow job out of it,but I was certainly willing to do much more ! He was my first "grown" dick and shortly thereafter I realized boys sucked at fucking so I actively sought out adults. Much to my disappointment,a lot of them sucked too ! Technically ,he took my virginity as he was way better at sex than the sticky fumblings of teenage boys.

All this surprise anal and no fudge? Hmmm

R215 in the 1000s of times I got fucked ,only twice did I shit on someone. I dont know if it was luck or timing ,but I wasnt looking a gift horse in the mouth.

This fudge issue is a DL obsession which is spreading. All the cleaning, douching, vacuuming and whatnot I had not heard of before I got to this site a few years ago and I had and have, before and since, hardly ever encounteted the fudge. The issue is one of diet, mainly, ie of overall health.

Thanks for sharing R214.

Shit on a cock? Is this what people are going on about? I love DL & how every thread goes off on it’s own adventures! Shit on a cock!!!! Also : have we addressed the early post on here about foot fisting & the limit for this poster is piss?

How on earth can you not douche and be clean down there all the time?

Three girls from former Russian families peed all over me behind the bleachers of a Queens middle school. I became addicted to it.

I just lost it to my boyfriend. He was really happy about it (wanted to do it for weeks) and I felt good about it but he's barely talked to me since.

He didn't like it R222. You're dumped.

He was a virgin too and was just as clueless as I was so doubt it. We said we would try and figure it out together; though it ended up being pretty hot anyway. But if I'm dumped I don't really care. He's not all that anyway. I just wish my first time had a more romantic ending lol.

R194.

No anal.. and I;m glad about that. Might have scared me off..and I didn’t want to be scared off :).

I think the expression is chicked hawk, not chicken queen

At the truck stop, daddy went to get some food and another trucker invited me into his cab for a beer. He told me to roll over while he took off my jeans. Then he whispered in my ear “this is what love feels like” and spit on his cock before shoving it into my virgin boyhole. He must’ve fucked me for almost half an hour before he said “I’m gonna nut inside you boy”. Then he pushed me out of the cab and told me fuck off.

R164, he had a girlfriend at the time, and eventually married a girl, so I didn't really think he was gay. I wasn't attracted to him, in any case.

That's what you think, R226?

Two can play at this game

R227 was that before or after he laughed at your Puny Cocklet?

Going by the definition of anal sex, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 27.

One weekend night I went to a local club relatively late and decided to sit at the bar rather than hang out at the tables where most of the people I knew would be. There was another guy sitting alone there as well and I sat next to him. I found him quite attractive and sneaked some furtive peeks in his direction. After a short while he made some small talk with me, and several beers later it became a full fledged non-stop conversation. As I continued to surreptitiously eye his body (he probably saw exactly what I was doing), references to sex came up (I don't remember what, specifically) and the discussion slowly veered onto the gay end of the spectrum. This was not a gay bar, nor was I out, so we spoke in a sort of code to feel each other out.

Around closing time, our little tête-à-tête stripped itself of all pretense and became very explicit. I couldn't believe that this dude was as interested in me as much as I was with him. I really don't remember any of the subsequent details, but next thing I know he's asking me if I want to go to his place just up the street, and the next thing I remember is that we were in his kitchen staring at each other, burning with lust, and taking off our clothes right then and there. I couldn't believe this was happening. I had not been with a guy since I was an 11 year old kid, and all that took place then were strips and fondles. Well, now we're in his bedroom and we began to fuck almost immediately. I went first, with him standing and bent over the bed. I was totally inexperienced and just rammed my hard dick into him like I was plugging a drain. His body winced and he shouted "Easy! Easy!" I immediately slowed down but came in his ass just a few seconds later.

We then sixty-nined on the bed, but it was mostly him doing everything, as I had never done that before and didn't like him rubbing his balls in my face (he was obviously experienced). I then asked him to fuck me, which he did, and remember it being painful and feeling like I was taking a shit. I passed out, not from pain, but from being wasted, and remember waking up moaning in pleasure. I then told him to come on my stomach, because I wanted to see him blow his load. The next day I woke at dawn, said a brief good-bye and that was it. I stayed away from that bar for at least a month or two afterwards. However, I did end up eventually seeing him there again, but in my closeted embarrassment, I ignored him. Oh, the lustful days of my twenties.

R232, that was in Burlington, VT, right? Pearls bar? I knew it!

R233 I used to live in Vermont in 88-90, and would go to Pearls. People were incredibly stand-offish. Very cliquey. I would end up having a drink or two and then drive up to Montreal . The complete opposite of Burlington. Always a guaranteed good time in Montreal - but Pearls was a bust.

R227, didn't your dad wonder where the hell you were?

G A S P

When we were kids, my 3 brothers and I, along with neighbor boys would show each other's dicks, and touch each other. I never did to much more, but I think my brothers sucked the one boy across the street. In 6th grade, I did put my mouth around my friends dick. He was already maturing, and had pubic hair, and a nice big dick. I started to put my mouth around it, but we got interrupted, and it never happened again.

Fast forward to senior year in high school, at age 17 I discovered a park bathroom, with gloryholes. They were 2 'holes'; the main bigger hole to put your dick through, and a little peep hole that allowed you to view into the next stall from the sitting on the toilet position. At first, I thought the holes were for watching, which I and many others would do, and jack off and cum. I didn't see the ritual of the other person motioning to put your dick through. I observed, on occasion, the middle stall person stand and put his dick through the other stall, and I would cum watching his ass muscles squeeze and gyrate till they would cum, with those wonderful suppressed 'I'm cumming' sounds. From the gloryhole, I could even see the 2 hands holding the top edge of the stall partition. I watched young beach types jacking off, older guys, blue collar workers taking a cum break. It was like having live porn videos. My sucking virginity was taken when a middle stall person stood up, and put their dick through my gloryhole side, and I, scared and shaking, 17 and fresh, starting sucking that dick, and I took my first (of many) gloryhole loads. A couple more times of sucking, a person in the middle stall motioned with his finger for me to stand up, and slide my little dick through. I, scared and shaking, 17 and fresh, had my virgin load sucked out of my dick, knees buckling. From about 17 to about 22, I loved the gloryhole experiences. I loved having my dick sucked, but enjoyed sucking someone else's dick more. I even got arrested at this bathroom for lewd & lascivious at 18, but still went back. Even now as the elder gay, I love catching the few online gloryhole scenes. I have some Barracks Gloryhole on VHS, El Paso Wrecking Crew which I can catch these clips online now. ChaosMen has some great gloryhole scenes to watch as well.

Yikes r237 did the arrest follow you? Did you have to explain it to people/employers/cops?

I also got caught by a security officer at a mall restroom. I luckily overheard him telling someone before he came in to question me that if I was over 16 (I was) he'd have to arrest me, so I lied about my birthdate to make myself 15. I was never officially arrested and when my parents picked me up, I told them the officer mistook me for someone else and I had no idea what happened. (I didn't come out to them until a few years later.)

With a cucumber in the ass. I put it back in the larder later and then my family ate it with their tomatoes.

R240, at what age did you start using vegetables?

I lost my oral virginity in an adult book store after an older guy sucked me to orgasm. I lost my anal virginity over 10 years later when someone stuck meth up my ass.

Good times

I was about 15 and slipped on the rug and landed with the toilet brush handle up my ass. I came so hard.

I lost my anal virginity when I was darning socks and I fell. I fell onto the darning egg and it went... into my anus. I didn't intend for to happen. It was completely an accident.

WOW! R237 that bathroom glory hole is a #MeToo for the ages. Such great memories. College and early NYC.

If you're on Datalounge claiming that sex only happens when a penis enters a vagina, you can get the fuck out of here right now, BYE.

R237 here. Responding to r238 question that if I had to answer to whether or not I had to explain. Search this site for my other posts. I explained the humiliations of answering to this arrest my entire life. I was 18, arrested and still in high school. I had to answer to this to get a state license within the past 2 years. It definitely changed my view of my own self worth. That, and being raised with a mean alcoholic father, psychologically I am surprised I am not on every med known to mankind.

I am lucky I was not charged, then, when they found me at the mall!

Does it count as losing your virginity if that wasn't the original goal? When I was 16 I was in the hospital for an appendectomy. Two days after the surgery, an orderly gave me an enema. As the procedure was nearing the end, I spontaneously came, which surprised the hell out of me. I was lying on my left side and it was completely obvious what had happened. I was fucking mortified. "It's okay," said the orderly. "That happens sometimes."

So…does that qualify as losing my rectal virginity? I mean, I did cum. It was years later that I finally took a dick up my ass and I didn't really like it.

R249, how hot was the orderly?

[quote][R249], how hot was the orderly?

I guess he was okay looking—older guy with really short hair and a nice smile. I enjoyed what he was doing, but I don't think I would have cum if it had been a lady who was doing it.

Surprise anal, of sorts.

Did he give a slick smile when he said "it happens sometimes"? Did he comment on your load size or dick?

[quote]Did he give a slick smile when he said "it happens sometimes"? Did he comment on your load size or dick?

No, he was a true gentleman and didn't say anything else. He didn't seem at all surprised, even though he did nothing deliberately that would have triggered the event, leading me to believe the it really DOES happen sometimes.

R254, only to bottoms.

[quote][R254], only to bottoms.

I don't think that's necessarily true. I like having my ass played with, but I don't like being buttfucked at all. I consider myself a total top.

I lose interest in "total tops" when they start asking or begging for ass play.

Yes a TOP doesn’t finger his no no.

[quote]Yes a TOP doesn’t finger his no no.

By saying that, you're every bit as wrong as those people who say that any guy who likes having his ass played with is gay. You can be 100% a Top and still like having attention paid to your butt without being fucked. Additionally, r257, I have never "begged" for assplay in my life, nor would I.

R259 you cannot claim to be a TOTAL TOP if you’re putting things up your eBussy.

[quote][R259] you cannot claim to be a TOTAL TOP if you’re putting things up your eBussy.

You are dead wrong. That's like saying you can't be a total bottom if you like jacking off.

But I'll tell you one thing, a real Top would never use the term, "eBussy."

R261 hon, you’re Vers. Sucks to be you.

Could posters please answer OP's question?

I'm a blond guy 6'1". I have a smooth chest and my cock bush is dark blond and brownish with some dark reddish I have a little treaure trail. I'm on of the guys that has a thick floppy heavy dick that sways back and forth when I walk naked.. I was a small time Hollywood person and every now and then I'll take a part but all the roles are playing adult kids with magic. Anyway, my childhood friend and nextdoor neighbor mark had a huge dick and especially when he started getting criotch hair he kept whipping it out. He was handssome and he played ice hockey all through school and he skeates sometimes still. He's married, no kids. I was 2 years younger and if you are blond and not ugly like a hunchback troll....girls and guys are drawn to you, I'm not a blond lover....I dig dark hair and eyes. So it was September and for some reason I was at my family home (I didn't grow up living with my brothers and sisters) Mark knew I lost my virginity to his sister when I was 10. mark said if i didn't use a rubber she would get pregnant. I felt ice in my nuts....then he said, you can't make babies until your grow pubes and start shaving. I knew about the biology of human reproduction but it was all just words, semen, ovaries, cervix, vagina, scrotum, ejaculation. I keep getting side distracted I'm so fucking bored. My blond pubi hair started to come in and my voice was suddenly scratchy and low and whispery. Mark said lets go in the fort and in his basement there was a crawlspace that was closed with a locked little door. He carpeted the whole inside, the floor and the ceiling all mulit colored shag. He said it's time to find out about young men's urges. He told me about rubbers and we talked about deodorant he said he still laughs when he told me I got his sister knocked up....then he said, man, i was watching you on the porch Your round white butt banging her missionary. He started to explain cum. Then he showed me cum....I now matched the stuff to the books and he told me the regular words for fucking. He asked if I ever felt like kissing or touching another boy. I said, no, We shared the locker rooms on swim team and hockey he knew I felt like puking because guys stink so bad. He said are you sure. I had never jerked off at this point. I was just starting to looks at boobs and get hard but in six months to a year later I cranked my dick 5 times a day. I think mark was bi. When we got older he made comments such as.....wow, you look famous, your clothes look famous, you even smell famous....I was friends with some of the grandchildren of the Kennedy famly. I was raised by my grandmother and would only pass through my familiy house between school. That day as kids he jerked off....and it went everywhere and he mostly got alot in his palm. I said it looks like wet soap or cream shampoo. even though he jerked off in under 30 seconds it was about 5 feet away and it was dim. I could see his dick when he came over to shoa me cum. He explained orgasm....cumming. he said it's the best thing. he told me he wanted to do it together when I was ready but we never did.....we were freinds through sports and school and the boys club but, we didn't hang out. He dated girls and so did I. I was 19 or 20 and I was on a soap opera in LA. A guy sucked my dick when I was drunk at a peep show.

^r264. Spectrum much?

Do HJs count?

If not....