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Can I be arrested for sleeping with a guy with Down syndrome?

So I met a family friend of a friend for the first time. He looks more normal than the average Downie but I could immediately tell something was a bit off when I first saw him. His speech is a bit slurred but understandable and he can articulate himself so it’s not like he’s just moaning and drooling everywhere.

Things happened and we ended up back at my place and I gave him a handjob. He wanted to suck me off but I started feeling guilty and made him stop. He made it very clear that he wanted it. I want it too but I don’t want to end up on a registry. He has a job and goes to school, but he has to live with his mother. I’m not sure if this is enough mental capacity to consent...

by Anonymousreply 114Last Sunday at 8:37 AM

Strangely, this is not a question we’ve ever been asked to ponder before now.

by Anonymousreply 106/27/2020

So you molested him

by Anonymousreply 206/27/2020

If he's over the age of consent I can't imagine there's anything illegal about it. But ethically I think you're on shaky ground. Get your libido under control and pass on this one.

by Anonymousreply 306/27/2020
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by Anonymousreply 406/27/2020

R2, no?

by Anonymousreply 506/27/2020

Growing up some teenage whore in our neighborhood fucked a mentally retarded man because he had a big dick apparently. She said she got pregnant and had an abortion.

by Anonymousreply 606/27/2020

Classy, R6.

by Anonymousreply 706/27/2020

I haven't watched it yet, but isn't the premise of that Netflix series Special that differently-abled people are sexual beings as well?

by Anonymousreply 806/27/2020

Dat's da suck job!

by Anonymousreply 906/27/2020

Growing up some teenage whore in our trailer park fucked a mentally retarded man because he had a big dick apparently. She said she got pregnant and had an abortion.

Fixed that for ya.

by Anonymousreply 1006/27/2020

Wasn't there an early Mel Gibson film with this plot (he played the retard)?

by Anonymousreply 1106/27/2020

8/10

by Anonymousreply 1206/27/2020

You probably should be arrested.

by Anonymousreply 1306/27/2020

[quote]If he's over the age of consent I can't imagine there's anything illegal about it. But ethically I think you're on shaky ground. Get your libido under control and pass on this one.

This is literally the exact advice to get you arrested.

Consent requires mental capacity to consent. If the IQ is low enough, there isn't capacity to consent.

by Anonymousreply 1406/27/2020

There was a SUPER sexy Downs guy in Now Apocalypse. That was the first time I've ever even thought about possibly having sex with one. He was a Hollywood version of a Downs man, though, since he was the most beautiful Downs man I've ever seen.

by Anonymousreply 1506/27/2020

Is your sexy Downie named Joel, OP?

by Anonymousreply 1606/27/2020

You better get Gloria Allred on retainer before Forrest does. And if Mama's a Karen... whoooo doggie.

by Anonymousreply 1706/27/2020

It’s fine. You’ve actually done a good deed. They have sexual desires also. He probably doesn’t get laid very often.

by Anonymousreply 1806/27/2020

R11: "Tim" with Piper Laurie

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by Anonymousreply 1906/27/2020

Dick you used to jerk it to Life Goes on op?

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by Anonymousreply 2006/27/2020

If he is able tocommunicate clearly, work and ask for a hand job then he is likely to have the capacity to consent. It would actually be discriminatory for people to state he couldn’t engage in sexual activity. I would however be making sure that clear conversation takes place before any activity so explicit consent is given and received.

by Anonymousreply 2106/27/2020

r14 But assuming everyone with down syndrome is helpless and low IQ is ableist my dear

by Anonymousreply 2206/27/2020

I wonder if his parents have gone through surrogates court to be declared his legal guardian. If so they have control over giving consent. If he has not been legally determined to be disabled or incompetent, then he probably still has the right to make his own decisions.

And why should his parents object to him having some sex, anyway. Especially if he's not going to get anyone pregnant.

by Anonymousreply 2306/27/2020

This thread is useless without pictures.

by Anonymousreply 2406/27/2020

Hmm, I just googled it and the guy in Now Apocalypse, RJ Mitte, does not have Down's syndrome but Cerebral Palsy. I didn't even know he was a regular in Breaking Bad appearing in 62 episodes.

by Anonymousreply 2506/27/2020

R14, what exactly is the IQ capacity that’s considered too low to consent? He seems smarter than the image of Down syndrome that I typically have in mind, but the fact that he has to live with mother makes me hesitant. Clearly he’s delayed to a point

by Anonymousreply 2606/27/2020

Ask him to sign a release that your sexual relations were agreed to by both parties. How old is this chap?

by Anonymousreply 2706/27/2020

It’s a really interesting ethical question, OP, and there’s a lot of research and information on people with cognitive disabilities and sexuality. Obviously People with disabilities have a higher incidence of abuse and being taken advantage of, but they are sexual beings like all adults and have a right to sexuality. The problem is that we don’t have access to capacity evaluations to people we meet in life who could have a disability. But if he expressed clear desire and initiated, I wouldn’t think it’s totally wrong of you to have engaged. As you less-than-eloquently expressed, it sounds like he was on the more alert and oriented end of a cognitive disability spectrum. The main concern with people with disabilities is that they may or may not be able to make informed consent regarding specific acts/associated risks, and they also may not be empowered to know that they have control of what does and doesn’t happen to their body— thus the high risk of being abused. The long story short is that I wouldn’t eat yourself up with worry over it, but you did the right thing listening to your gut and stopping. I wouldn’t get myself into the same situation again if I were you; while each scenario should be looked at through a unique lens, it could get very messy.

by Anonymousreply 2806/27/2020

R5 you don’t seem too sure about that

by Anonymousreply 2906/27/2020

"He has a job and goes to school, but he has to live with his mother. I’m not sure if this is enough mental capacity to consent..."

Not to put too fine a point on it, OP, but you're concerned about his capacity for consent and yet don't have any thoughts about how good he is at keeping secrets from Mom?

by Anonymousreply 3006/27/2020

I wouldn't get near the dilemma. His family could make you miserable for the rest of your life.

by Anonymousreply 3106/27/2020

Mel Gibson looks hot in R19. He wouldn't let us get near his junk. Unless, of course, if conditions are met....

by Anonymousreply 3206/27/2020

Did you plan to bottom for him

by Anonymousreply 3306/27/2020

RJ Mitte is hot.

by Anonymousreply 3406/27/2020

It’s akin to pedophilia imo

by Anonymousreply 3506/27/2020

It's not likely he's been legally deemed incompetent, but that's usually for financial purposes anyway. One thing I can tell you from my time working with people who have cognitive disabilities is that they are likely to tell everyone and anyone if someone gave them a handie. If you're not bullshitting, OP, it's something to be aware of.

by Anonymousreply 3606/27/2020

Go ahead, but NO SURPRISE ANAL.

by Anonymousreply 3706/27/2020

Ewwwwwwww

by Anonymousreply 3806/27/2020

I know the pandemic has narrowed all our horizons, OP, but there are still other ways to get a date...

by Anonymousreply 3906/27/2020

6/10. Clearly not in the same league as the DL hall-of-fame entrants such as the hobo sex scenario and its legendary juice box detail, but nevertheless titillating and mildly shocking. There should've been a more vivid account of the hand job. (I'd like to have read some reference to the noise he made on cumming.)

Keep trying and aiming high, OP.

by Anonymousreply 4006/27/2020
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by Anonymousreply 4106/27/2020

[quote][R14], what exactly is the IQ capacity that’s considered too low to consent? He seems smarter than the image of Down syndrome that I typically have in mind, but the fact that he has to live with mother makes me hesitant.

As far as I know, there isn't a bright line in the sand. One of the key arguments is that acquiescence does not equal consent.

Also, apparently there are also some situations where your IQ matters as well. If you're 100 (average) and have sex with someone who has a 70, it might be a problem. Whereas, if you had an IQ of 80 and have sex with someone with 70, it wouldn't necessarily be a problem. Part of the issue is whether the low IQ would be noticeable to the other person. So, an average person would notice slower speech and such, but a lower than average person might not - or so the argument goes.

by Anonymousreply 4206/27/2020

OP is also r33 and r35

by Anonymousreply 4306/27/2020

R43, oh woh, BTW, he's also R2 and says to himself: "So you molested him ".

A troll. A homophobic one?

by Anonymousreply 4406/27/2020

Also could someone show an example of a “hot Down’s syndrome guy” I mean they all have the same look to me.

by Anonymousreply 4506/27/2020

[quote] If the IQ is low enough, there isn't capacity to consent.

If the guy is going to school and holding down a job I would think he's smart enough to know if he wants some sex from another man.

by Anonymousreply 4606/27/2020

Aren't Downs people super horny and sexual, too?

by Anonymousreply 4706/27/2020

Damn, someone beat me to

Dat's da suck job!

by Anonymousreply 4806/27/2020

R45 this bitch, apparently some men find her “hot”

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by Anonymousreply 4906/27/2020

Ewwwww

by Anonymousreply 5006/27/2020

OP, you asked about getting arrested. Sure, you can get arrested for this. There's plenty here to support an arrest. You will be at the whim of the arresting officer on that. And then you'll be in the system.

Maybe your attorney will be able to get the arrest tossed out. Maybe the judge will decide that if the guy can hold a job, he's got sufficient capacity to consent to sex. Or maybe not. But you didn't tell us where you live and criminal law is mostly a state matter. I hope you're not in Alabama or Mississippi or South Carolina. Things could get messy for you.

If the judge does not toss the arrest, then you're sent before the Grand Jury. Will 12 straight people vote to charge a homo who had sex with a young man with Downs Syndrome? It seems pretty clear that they might well do that. And then you have to go to trial.

At trial, after evidence is presented, will 12 more straight people believe the young man lacked the ability to consent and so convict you ? Who knows? But, hell yes, they certainly might.

Don't forget that you're probably going to have his mother gunning for you at every step of this process.

Date someone else, OP. Date someone else.

by Anonymousreply 5106/27/2020

An acquaintance of mine from NYC did just this. He went to prison.

by Anonymousreply 5206/27/2020

There is a question of mental capacity and consent. If the person in question does not have a legal guardian then they are fully capable of giving consent. If he lives with a parent or guardian it is possible you could be breaking the law.

by Anonymousreply 5306/27/2020

You better hope to hell that tard isn't telling the whole town by now, OP

by Anonymousreply 5406/27/2020

The poor Downie asked to suck OP's cock and OP said no because he wasn't sure the Downie had enough sense! LMAO! You hurt that poor little bitch's feelings you bastard!

by Anonymousreply 5506/27/2020

Why didn't you just have him call his mom and ask for permission?

by Anonymousreply 5606/27/2020

The dude in the pic at r41 looks like a growed-up Eric Cartman.

by Anonymousreply 5706/27/2020

OP, did you jerk him off to completion? Did he cum normally? Why didn't you swallow it--afraid the flavor would be off?

by Anonymousreply 5806/27/2020

He didn’t want to catch it r58

by Anonymousreply 5906/27/2020

So what's his o-face look like? I'm finding it really hard to imagine a Down's guy coming in a way that isn't pretty horrifying.

by Anonymousreply 6006/27/2020

You're going to Hell, Missy!

by Anonymousreply 6106/27/2020

[quote]Can I be arrested for sleeping with a guy with Down syndrome?

Rose, I'm not getting a clear picture on that...

by Anonymousreply 6206/27/2020

Is it akin to fooling around with a guy passed out at a bathhouse ? I mean, if he's at the bathhouse he's consenting, right?

by Anonymousreply 6306/27/2020

Isn’t there Intellectual Disability porn? There’s a thread about it here.

by Anonymousreply 6406/27/2020

Every mother of retard know, son can have sex urgings. When not in cage, Mother must watch Son more closely. This Mother is not very Best.

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by Anonymousreply 6506/27/2020

All downs syndrome moms are Karen's. Hope you dodge this bullet.

by Anonymousreply 6606/27/2020

R60 you're terrible, Muriel

by Anonymousreply 6706/27/2020

Did he exclaim “now dats da handjob!”?

by Anonymousreply 6806/27/2020

What a retarded question.

by Anonymousreply 6906/27/2020

OP is a mega spaz

by Anonymousreply 7006/27/2020

Oh, super. An Extremely Suspicious Tale from a faux fucker.

I could never go for a Downy, but I have had sex with simple-but-gorgeous young men who lacked outlets with narrow-minded women. I think of it as an outreach effort for mainstreaming. I love when they giggle and then get very serious, like they've just realized the secret of life was there all the time.

by Anonymousreply 7106/27/2020

Thanks for the heads-up, R43. Verified + F&F for OP.

by Anonymousreply 7206/27/2020

R62 Five stars. An instant DL classic.

by Anonymousreply 7306/27/2020

DISS IS DA SUCK TROLL!

by Anonymousreply 7406/27/2020

I dated a guy in Pittsburgh and went to his house once. While we were chatting in the kitchen, a young man came to the door and started yakking away and gesturing. I could tell he was 'special' but not severely so. My host kept saying "No!" through the window and the fella eventually gave-up and went away.

But the realization came over me that they had a little arrangement.

Everyone I met in Pittsburgh was some kind of grotesque.

by Anonymousreply 7506/27/2020

R19, Colleen McColough, the author of the Thorn Birds, wrote the book Tim which was later made into a movie with Gibson. The book is light years better than the movie.

by Anonymousreply 7606/27/2020

Even Claire Bloom managed to say no to Cliff Robertson.

by Anonymousreply 7706/27/2020

This is a first in 20 years of reading the datalounge

by Anonymousreply 7806/27/2020

I’ve gotten fucked by fobs, sociopaths and even poor guys but never have I lain with a retard.

by Anonymousreply 7906/27/2020

I AM NOT RETARDED!!!!!!

by Anonymousreply 8006/27/2020

You Can Tell she's retarded, just look at her face. She has the face of an old lady

by Anonymousreply 8106/27/2020

You'll be fine OP. It was illegal, and Jenna Dewan would have been in jail by now, wouldn't she?

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by Anonymousreply 8206/27/2020

*If it was illegal

by Anonymousreply 8306/27/2020

Sounds like a hot love affair for the ages OP!

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by Anonymousreply 8406/28/2020

That was actually a cute movie r84

The sad thing is that Juliette Lewis didn't have to that much acting. She plays retards in all her films: Cape Fear, Kalifornia, Strange Days, Natural Born Killers (well in the beginning at least, before she meets Mickey Knox)

I just love her LIVID expression in the show Secrets and Lies (only watched it for hottie Ryan Phillipe)

by Anonymousreply 8506/28/2020

Retarded guys are hung.

by Anonymousreply 8606/29/2020

As sorta fucked up as this thread is, I appreciate the fact that we can still have it. I also laughed throughout, so...I'm probably fucked up too.

This is the kind of weird, male stoner shit that can lead to interesting conversations, but is increasingly frowned upon these days.

by Anonymousreply 8706/29/2020

You can fuck them but never sleep with them.

They will kill you while you sleep.

Drop him off at mom's home with an ice cream cone.

by Anonymousreply 8806/30/2020

[quote]This is a first in 20 years of reading the datalounge

Did you really miss the Dat's Da Suck Job thread?

There are many days when I wish I had missed the Dat's Da Suck Job thread.

by Anonymousreply 8906/30/2020

[quote]Drop him off at mom's home with an ice cream cone.

Just don't give him the ice cream cone in the car, because he'll probably drop it. They always do.

by Anonymousreply 9006/30/2020

[quote]There was a SUPER sexy Downs guy in Now Apocalypse. That was the first time I've ever even thought about possibly having sex with one. He was a Hollywood version of a Downs man, though, since he was the most beautiful Downs man I've ever seen.

I'm picturing a grown-up Arnie Grape.

by Anonymousreply 9106/30/2020

I know people probably think tards should experiment with each other sexually but are they even attracted to each other or do they all lust after Normies?

by Anonymousreply 9206/30/2020

[quote] I know people probably think tards should experiment with each other sexually but are they even attracted to each other or do they all lust after Normies?

You obviously never saw my critically-acclaimed show "Life Goes On". They fuck like rabbits with each other! And when they're not fucking they're masturbating constantly. You should've seen their dressing rooms (more like undressing rooms honestly).

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by Anonymousreply 9306/30/2020

This thread has now me very concerned. Has anyone checked in on Jill to make sure she's still getting her periods? You know, where blood from inside her body comes outside through an opening between her legs?

by Anonymousreply 9406/30/2020

[quote]This thread has now me very concerned

Cookie Monster does a great Susan Collins impression!

by Anonymousreply 9506/30/2020

Any updates op?

by Anonymousreply 9607/05/2020

[quote] Any updates op?

Would it be more like “downdates”, OP. Amirite?

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by Anonymousreply 9707/05/2020

Does a Tea-Party Republican count as a retart?

by Anonymousreply 9807/05/2020

r86 isn't that the truth? There was a kid in my high school who was special needs and I worked in the nurse's office senior year to get out of class. He would come to use the bathroom in the nurse's office and I had to watch him because he had a habit of pissing on things. His name was James. So the first time I have to go with him to the urinal he unzips and hauls out a fucking monster. Like no hard-on just wang and it had to be 7 inches and thick I mean it would put most hard-ons to shame. I always wondered what it looked like at full mast.

by Anonymousreply 9907/07/2020

In high school there was a downs girl who desired sex with normal boys. She talked about it constantly and how she wanted to be a star. She was severely downs so it wasn’t happening. She used to pick at her pimples in glass and eat the skin *shivers*

by Anonymousreply 10007/07/2020

#metoo

by Anonymousreply 101Last Wednesday at 7:38 PM

If you're just sleeping, no.

by Anonymousreply 102Last Saturday at 5:54 PM

So op have you and downs guy gotten into the difficult brown yet?

by Anonymousreply 103Last Saturday at 7:30 PM

Did any of the chicks who fucked Corky from Life Goes On get arrested?

No.

Enjoy your downsy sizemeat, OP.

by Anonymousreply 104Last Saturday at 8:24 PM

Chicks fucked Corky in Life Goes on?

by Anonymousreply 105Last Saturday at 8:40 PM

I'm sure someone fucked Corky at some point.

by Anonymousreply 106Last Saturday at 8:42 PM

[quote] Chicks fucked Corky in Life Goes on? —Gross and unrealistic

Okay. Yes. I admit it. It was indeed gross but all too realistic. Too realistic, but sometimes a gal needs some tardive Corky cock.

by Anonymousreply 107Last Saturday at 8:44 PM

You'd have to register in the National Down Sex Offender Registry.

by Anonymousreply 108Last Sunday at 6:42 AM

Bonnie Mace finger fucked Chris Burke behind a dumpster at a 7-11.

by Anonymousreply 109Last Sunday at 6:57 AM

There's a guy at work who is on the Spectrum. We were told about it up front when he started a few months ago. He's fairly bright, but he talks really loud in a monotone and will walk away in the middle of a conversation.

Anyway, he's about 6' 3" and not bad looking, and I sometimes wonder how easy it would be to get his weiner in my mouth.

by Anonymousreply 110Last Sunday at 7:13 AM

OP should be arrested for telling a dull story.

by Anonymousreply 111Last Sunday at 7:20 AM

R110 Would it be an issue at work were you to succeed and then, over coffee the next day, he then talked really loud in that monotone about the terrific blowjob you gave him the night before?

[italic]"...AND THEN HE SWALLOWED MY PENIS..."[italic]

by Anonymousreply 112Last Sunday at 8:18 AM

I actually think it's a totally stand up thing for the OP to ask this question.

by Anonymousreply 113Last Sunday at 8:20 AM

The movie at R84 was very cute. And it was also pro-gay.

by Anonymousreply 114Last Sunday at 8:37 AM
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