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After 20 years online, I'm finally limiting my time on the internet to post-5PM

Instead of getting sucked into time-wasting and mindless surfing all day long, I am focusing on work, reading, and other non-internet activities until 5PM, when I finally log in. (I make one exception for email.)

I don't have a smartphone, which makes it easier.

I'm hoping it slowly improves my mental health.

I think about the percentage of my life I've spent online (I'm 36), and it frightens and depresses me.

by Anonymousreply 42Yesterday at 9:19 AM

I’m sure it will make all the difference for you. Congratulations.

by Anonymousreply 106/14/2020

Good but even better, exercise between 5 and 6 and start your Internet after 6.

by Anonymousreply 206/14/2020


Oh dear!

by Anonymousreply 306/14/2020

I tend to lift weights in the evening r2 (now that I can't go to the gym). I enjoy watching true crime shows while I work out

by Anonymousreply 406/14/2020

I’ve considered this too. Please return with an update. I view art, read, and learn a lot of historical trivia online though. Sometimes I think it can be considered productive?

by Anonymousreply 506/14/2020

so you don't have a smartphone, yet you claim to have a job? Something doesn't add up. I've seen homeless crackheads with smartphones.

by Anonymousreply 606/14/2020

Me too, r5. But I have found it impossible to draw the line ... if I am online, I eventually succumb to mindless scrolling sooner rather than later.

I have a ton of non-fiction books that I'm using to fill the void ... I hope!

by Anonymousreply 706/14/2020

I'm an academic r6.

Thus, being offline is easier now that it's summer.

And I have never owned a smartphone.

by Anonymousreply 806/14/2020

a lot of the old millennial demographic doesn't have smartphones ,for various reasons

I've tried this OP but after a few months I get sucked back in. I hope and pray you make it out.

the last book I read was the Bostonians, and every few paragraphs my shattered mind would start casting about for distractions and it's not even one of his particularly complex novels...I can feel myself slowly dumbening day by day

by Anonymousreply 906/14/2020

oh I meant : "the Bostonians--MARY!"

by Anonymousreply 1006/14/2020

r9 I have so many long novels on my "want to read" list, r9, including several VERY long Chinese novels (basically, the "four classics" and some others, like The Scholars and Plum in the Golden Vase). It often feels impossible with how my mind is now conditioned.

I've read some James but never The Bostonians - do you recommend?

by Anonymousreply 1106/14/2020

Well, SMELL you, OP!

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by Anonymousreply 1206/14/2020

I was told that cutting out screen time an hour before bed will help you sleep better. I can't seem to tear myself away, though.

by Anonymousreply 1306/14/2020

I am not sure if you had any data that you based that on, but I used to be sad when my iPhone would tell me every Sunday what my weekly screen time was. I always average 6-7 hours per day. Then I looked into what goes into that and listening to podcasts, watching videos, etc. is all included.

by Anonymousreply 1406/14/2020

[quote] I don't have a smartphone

So do you use an iPad for your Grindr account?

by Anonymousreply 1506/14/2020

This would be easy if I never had a smartphone. The iPhone is what really amped up my internet addiction to unimaginable levels. There was no problem staying away from it when it required me to sit at a desk in front of a computer. Walking around with the internet in my pocket however is a whole different thing.

by Anonymousreply 1606/14/2020

OP, I recommend Proust.

by Anonymousreply 1706/14/2020

R11 --it's a strange little book, it's actually a fast read, but I'd way recommend the Golden Bowl, which I think is his finest, the Ambassadors and even Wings of the Dove, in that order, before the Bostonians. it hasn't aged all that well. depth of characterization is not at the level of his later books. chunks of it are James trashing spiritualism/seances in 19thc Boston but not really in a fun way

by Anonymousreply 1806/14/2020

R13 lately I find myself lying in the dark with my phone, reading about serial killers and which muppet is coming out as autistic

by Anonymousreply 1906/14/2020

[quote]The iPhone is what really amped up my internet addiction to unimaginable levels.

Interesting. Unless it concerns directions to or reviews of something I'm about to see, eat, or purchase, I can't stand accessing the internet on my phone. Yesterday I was trying to access different refrigerators at Lowe's website, and only being able to look at one at a time on the screen was maddening. I had to stop.

by Anonymousreply 2006/14/2020

I feel the same way, R20. I don't understand why anyone would stare at a tiny screen at home when they have a laptop or iPad available. When you're out and about, it's different, but at home, why not use the larger screen?

by Anonymousreply 2106/15/2020

I can easily be online on my phone for two hours after waking up, it's disgusting. First news, then DL, then some new dicks from reddit. It takes forever especially if I start writing comments. I'm not the fastest writer in the first place and on a phone a paragraph this short can sometimes take 5 minutes to write with all the editing.

My eyes hate me if I'm online too much on a phone.

by Anonymousreply 2206/15/2020

R22, I'll ask you - why don't you use a computer? The pictures on Reddit would be bigger and clearer and you'd have a proper keyboard to type on. I'm not criticizing; you should use whatever you works best for you. I'm just puzzled as to why people who have a choice (that is, people at home, not on the go) would squint at dick pics and try to type a comment on a phone instead of using a laptop or tablet.

by Anonymousreply 2306/15/2020

How do you function without a smartphone? Don't you need one for work? Several years ago, I resisted getting a smartphone for as long as I could, but then it just became impossible. But maybe you don't have a job that requires one. A smartphone also makes life easier. I don't find it a burden. Your desktop or laptop can be burdensome and complicated because that's where the real work happens, but a smartphone is a great convenience. In my opinion anyway.

by Anonymousreply 2406/15/2020

You'll miss the daytime pron the most.

by Anonymousreply 2506/15/2020

R23, it's mostly because the phone is there. I definitely do most of my browsing either on my 27" pc display or on a huge flat screen TV so it's not like I want to only use small screens ;)

I rarely go online when going to bed, it's really the mornings when that happens, partly because I just love lazying around in bed after waking up, and I tend to play with my dick and all the browsing usually leads to that. I use my phone also while watching TV since all my laptops are currently broken, besides the ancient iBook but it's so old the browsers don't support any of the new websites.

by Anonymousreply 2606/15/2020

[R18], please tell me what about "The Golden Bowl" you liked. And as much detail as possible, thank you.

I did read it. And I will refrain from any comment until/if you reply.

by Anonymousreply 2706/15/2020

the good news is that I CANT use my smart phone as my computer, I cant see anything, the formatting is so odd and i cant type well, so I use it just for calls and basic "grunt" texts, although my sister and some friends want entire lengthy convos. by text. Not happening. So I just use my laptop but rarely "whip it out" in public unless lengthy times at airport or something like that it.

by Anonymousreply 2806/15/2020

Is texting on flip phones still as difficult as it used to be?

by Anonymousreply 2906/15/2020

R29 yes, but I was told you cant even buy flip phones anymore, just androids.

by Anonymousreply 3006/15/2020

I agree, but what I've found works better is to limit internet time in the evening and do more enjoyable things (read a book, watch a movie, do general house things, exercise, no night time internet helps me sleep better too).

I work from home and am unfortunately a late riser but I find the occasions when I get up relatively early I'm more in the mood for work straight away. I have to use the internet for work, but if I can get myself in a work mood in the morning, I tend not to waste too much time online.

Switching off, now!

by Anonymousreply 3106/15/2020

Thanks, r30. What is a "just android"?

by Anonymousreply 3206/15/2020

Twat Maybe

by Anonymousreply 3306/15/2020

OP here ... I'm actually finding the allure of the internet is subsiding. It's becoming clearer that all the I waste online is, well, wasted.

But I still love my DL bitches!!

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by Anonymousreply 3506/21/2020

Suuuuuure you’re 36

by Anonymousreply 3606/21/2020

Why is that so hard to believe r36?

by Anonymousreply 3706/29/2020

I’m 27, having the same problem.

I think it’s because I’ve been bored and unstimulated most of my life, and my curious hyperactive mind uses the Internet as an escape to more bearable conditions. I’m aware it’s not healthy and I’m losing touch myself because of it, but if I stop I fear I will lash out at the people around me (the ones I’m sadly stuck with who bore and constrain me). It’s a tough one, especially in these times when we can’t easily go out and socialise to distract our minds.

Good on the OP for setting hard limits. What do you find is most effective for enforcing them? I am the worst at sticking to rules set for myself.

by Anonymousreply 3806/29/2020


by Anonymousreply 39Yesterday at 6:07 AM

I’ve tried and failed many times. I have no problem avoiding streaming services, but when it comes to news and such I have a major FOMO, despite the fact that it brings me down most of the time.

by Anonymousreply 40Yesterday at 6:32 AM


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by Anonymousreply 41Yesterday at 6:56 AM

I'm the complete opposite of you, OP. I find the internet has actually been very beneficial to my life and I use it on a daily basis. I've been using it for the last seven years so I can't imagine going without it now, it's become an essential part of my life. I've learned so much from it more than I ever knew before. My only issue is with social media, it's addictive and only brings out the worst of human trash. I try to avoid it as much as I can.

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