How do I forget Pete ?

Go lick the nearest store doorknob.

I think you should actually travel to South Bend, find him and express your emotions!! What's the worse that could happen??

You might get the closure you need, become friends or he might even dump Chasten and take you on as his new homosexual lover.

Why are you closeted in the Bay Area? No one is going to give a shit.

I’m sure they have an open marriage.

r2 Meeting Pete will only make me weaker. I'd rather meet him for some work and let our friendship grow organically. I do not want to force myself into someone's life. I am just not like that.

R3 Because my family is extremely homophobic but loves me to death and yes, I am a person of color. I am out to a few close friends of mine though.

OP what is your hygiene like these days?

r7 What do u mean ? Lol. I shower every day and brush twice a day. Even in Quarantine.

And I am very well built. More than 6 feet tall with persian features. (I am not Persian). My hairline has started receding though.

Send a message to Pete and ask him for a mold of his dick. Have a dildo made from it and you will never feel lonely again.

OP, Pete got Coronavirus and died. You are too late. Sorry for your loss.

[quote]and yes, I am a person of color.

Well that’s a problem, because Pete Buttigieg is a racist.

Unless you’re married,OP you need to come out of the closet first.

r9 My interest in Pete is mostly emotional than sexual.

He was rather impressive during his campaign. I wonder what he’s thinking now. I will follow his career with interest.

r12 I am not married and I am fairly young at 28. Yes, i will come out but that will happen gradually. Like I said I am out to a few close friends. Rest of the world will know someday eventually. I am not a celebrity , so it doesn't matter what the world thinks about me.

You’re young. There will be other unrequited love yet. Be kind to yourself. Volunteer with a political cause that you feel aligns closely with Pete.

Not on your life, buster!

Post you pic on here and we can rate you. Then for sure you will know if you will end up with Pete.

That will work, we promise. Us DLers take care of each other!

You’re South Asian, aren’t you, OP

R18 I don't think Pete will find me interesting or attractive. He might find me too tall and too ethnic. And my personality is not at all similar to Chasten's. I am very shy and a little introverted. Anyway, I don't want Pete to fuck me. I just want to talk to him . I want him to ask me every now and then if I am doing okay. I want him to be the first person I go to for any advice. I know it is funny and a little weird but that's what growing up in a homophobic atmosphere and closet does to you emotionally.

He’s on Morning Joe tomorrow at 8 AM EDT, OP. He wants you to remember!

r19 Yes. But I look more middle Eastern than a typical Desi. Many think I am a muslim from Arab country which I am not.

Sorry, I'm so over Pete. New hotness: Jared Polis who WILL be the first gay POTUS. He's already a governor.

Aha! Knew it.

Unrequited love hurts, OP, but it will fade in time. To distract yourself, find some other guy to crush over, someone you know you’ll never meet... because he’s dead. Or do as the ladies do and go find fanfiction. A warning- don’t do this if you’re going to get too invested in it and think it’s real.

I have the same problem with Chris Hemsworth...but I got a feeling we will have sex very soon! I want him in me!

Find someone else who resembles him. There are many gay geeks in this world. They'll likely have more personality and a bigger cock than he does, too.

Oh for God's sake, grow the fuck up OP, you aren't a 13 year old girl so stop acting like it and this is exactly what I would say to you if you were a close friend. Adults know the difference between a crush and the real thing, so act like an adult for a change. Find someone available to you and stop crushing on a happily married man that lives over a thousand miles away from you.

I assume you're sidled with tiny meat. Though, Pete is most likely a top. So that might not matter. You're closeted and so was he. So there's that connection. He's brilliant and you seem rather pedestrian. Hmmm. I'm conflicted as to what to advise. But stay in the closet as long it you can. That ALWAYS works wonders.

I love Pete though I don't think I would actually want to be friends with him.

Therapy yes. Dead serious.

You need a proper boyfriend, OP. Why not contact LGBT organizations in your area for support? I recall there was one that was for south asians specifically in the Bay Area. Sorry, can’t remember the name.

Try Grindr.

R28 what makes you think i am pedestrian? I am pretty good at what I do ? I earn good money and i am also an attractive guy.

R27 so u think i should make no efforts to know Pete and stop trying to be friends with him ? Is it unreasonable to expect it to happen at some point in my life ?

Delusional.

OP. Gurl. Are you serious? Do you need us to tell you it’s unreasonable to expect that a married guy who is expected to have no interaction with you in any sphere of your life is NOT going to be your BFF or BF?

If so, I am telling you: it’s not going to happen.

Let it go, let it gooooo....

I feel emotionally invested in Beto.

I wish Pete would show his feet. We only have one half picture on wiki feet

[quote] trying to resolve this organically

First, stop speaking like this.

r36 Why not ? What did Pete have in common other than the fact that they lived closer to each other than I do now ?

I meant what did Pete have in common with Chasten r40

R3, here. Honey, I am biracial. I know that it seems difficult, but I can guarantee you that your family already knows that you are gay. They just don’t want to bring it up, or talk about it at all in some cases. No one will be shocked. Also, Pete has a husband. It is normal to fantasize about people, but he is taken. Even if you met him and had sex with him, you would want more. Where would that go? He is happily married. Aspire to something greater.

OP, if you’re genuine about your aim being to find love and grow professionally, then advice along those lines has already been offered above. If you want to stick your heels in, then we cannot help you.

God, this is bringing out the worst of my bossy tendencies, but you need to hear it. You said you wanted suggestions as if you were our friend. Look into the constructive advice above and quit moping over a HAPPILY MARRIED dude. You missed your chance, and btw who said you ever had a chance?

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Snap out of it!

Snap out of it!

[quote] Why not ? What did Pete have in common other than the fact that they lived closer to each other than I do now ?

[quote] I meant what did Pete have in common with Chasten

Well OP they were both single and on a dating app, that is how they met. Now they are married and assumably not looking to date anyone, I doubt they are so desperate for friends they need to find one on the west coast. Your time has passed, if it even ever existed in the first place.

and if all that common sense won't help you this picture of Pete from Morning Joe this morning should do it.

r48 what's wrong with the picture ?

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Are you 17 and living with your parents? Do you live a country where gays are hanged or tortured? Is your health or financial well being dependent on being closeted?

If not, then that's pathetic. Fuck you. Your biggest problem is not in South Bend, Indiana.