Question for Partnered Gays: Does your better half know how often you J/O?

My boyfriend could never know. He would be very jealous. I don't do anal but I let him give me head sometimes. I'd rather just jack off. Haha.

Why does my husband need to know how often I juice oranges?

No. He walked in on me watching porn once and was super mad. It's not like I was cheating on him.

My new mate likes to get pervy with questioning me about it; it's a turn on for both of us really. Before COVID lockdown together, I would often ask him when he had last unloaded his balls before blowing him.. We like to dock & frot if we're too tired to fuck, or if he isn't prepared. I think we're still really turned on by one another, as there hadn't been much wanking seperately.

J/O is something men do since teenage years. If my partner is too tired from work or not in the mood, I let him know that I plan to J/O before going to bed and vice versa.

It's not like going out and finding a trick.

Sex is fun until it becomes a hassle.

My partner is sexually turned on by the leaf-blower and needs an outlet so why not?

Too much emphasis is placed on the orgasm, to make up for the many empty areas in life.

I have been alone/single, mostly quite happily for the past 11 years. I recently started dating someone who is a great guy and wants to spend all his free time with me. I am happy to see him once or twice a week and enjoy J/O when he is not around. This makes me feel guilty, but I have to let him know because it is becoming a real burden..this guilt. I am already to start to miss my single life as this is already feeling complicated. I hope I can figure this out.

You have to keep the plumbing in working order, and few people are blessed enough to have a partner who wants sex any and every time you do, so taking care of yourself is perfectly fine. The only time it would be a problem is if you suspect your partner may want sex, but you take care of yourself anyway so you're not in the mood later for him. If you're not sure if sex is going to happen, you try to get things started with him and if he isn't receptive, you take care of it yourself. No big deal. And does my husband know each and every time I take care of myself? Don't know, but if he has a problem with it, he should step up his game and be ready whenever I am (which is six or seven times a week).

my partner has not looked under my caftan is 11 years, so an easy no.

Don’t know if he does. He hasn’t fucked me in 10 years!

God what terrible bf’s ya’ll have. Jerk off for fuck’s sake.

Let the river flow!

J/O is not just about your partner. It has medical and mental purposes. If it gets in the way of your sex life that is a problem. But when you need it do it. If my husband felt cheated that would be his insecurity. And stop treating it as if you are trying to jerk one before your mother caught you. The problem with most gay men and sex is the immature way they treat it. Straight do the same thing. Adults have far better sex because they understand it and themselves.

R11 I especially liked that last bit of your post. I think many of us need to "step up our game". I'm one of the rare ones, as I've never said no, no matter what. If I was too spent physically to throw them a really great fuck, I've always gotten them off another way!

A mutual wank can be a blissful experience in itself. Then, there are the blow jobs, and the sixty-nine. If I did happen to step in on my new partner in the middle of it, I'd definitely offer him some help. I'm GGG 24/7.

My husband and I are both separated, after 20 years together. It feels great. I'm free again. I can masturbate if and when I want. I feel liberated.