R329 - Nice try at white-washing Diana's fantasist and narcissism qualities. First of all, how would you know how close Lady Fermory was or wasn't to her granddaughter? Second, Diana's propensity for lying and fantasy were evident well before her marriage, and none of that would have precluded her being charming, charismatic, and good with kids. Yes, she was a wonderful baby-sitter, and as for "working hard" - PLEASE! She was a rich girl with a flat in Coleherne Court who drifted around doing bits of this and bits of that, with absolutely no actual career or goal in mind except for landing Mr Right.
Of course she was "nice". Why wouldn't she be? Narcissists are notoriously charming - I'm sure Meghan charmed the pants off (literally and figuratively) people she needed something fron.
The minute the ring was on Diana's finger, the red flags started unfurling. Disappointing marriage? Good God, the marriage was falling apart by the time they returned from honeymoon, because Diana's expectations of what a NON-disappointing marriage were she got straight from Barbara Cartland and her resentment of, for example, her husband serving his grandmother drinks first in the afternoon instead of his wife.
Her turnabout was so alarming that she was sent back to London that first September after the marriage for counseling. She wouldn't talk to guests at the Queen's table and sat there glowing and sullen. This is . . . two months after the wedding, and just one year after she had gone up to Balmoral and given her perfect, sweet-natured, malleable, docile "Looks How Lovely I Am Give Me The Job!" performance
And just in case you forgot, the Archbishop of Canterbury, in his memoirs, mentioned that when he met with Charles and Diana prior to the wedding, he "unfortunately" had to agree with Lady Fermoy that Diana was "an actress an a schemer".
Throwing yourself downstairs in a frenzy of anger and attention-seeking in early pregnancy is NOT evidence of "garden variety" issues.
Lady Fermoy was an arse-kisser, that's well documented; and she loved Charles the way so many older ladies of the court, and his grandmother did, and she worshipped the status and cachet of royalty and the aristocracy. But that doesn't mean she didn't know her granddaughter and hadn't been able to spot Diana's issues. In fact, she was on record as having warned Diana that "they aren't like the rest of us". Diana didn't listen either to Lady Fermoy OR her own mother, who warned Diana not to confuse the Prince with the man. Diana merrily replied, "Is there a difference?".
You can bet your arse Kate Middleton understood the difference.
These weren't "garden variety" mental health issues. She was seriously disturbed, and kept making the same mistakes over and over and over and over again.
Diana died in the arms of a playboy in his early forties with the maturity of a 16 year old who couldn't take a piss without phoning his father and asking permission first.
But he was offering the only thing Diana ever wanted: absolute adoration 24/7.