Do you think it's reasonable for gay couples to have kids but also remain openly polyamorous?

It takes a village, Mary.

Dan Savage and his partner apparently feel differently than most of you do.

How their kid will feel years from now is more to the point.

Just leave the kids out of it.

Maybe polygamous would be better than polyamorous.

Openly polyamorous? No. If you can manage an occasional side piece without the kids needing to know about, let alone see or meet, these people, okay.

When the kids are old enough, you can explain that you and their other dad have an open relationship, but they still shouldn’t have to interact with any of the third parties, unless you’re in a permanent, thruple-type relationship with someone. Kids don’t need or want to see a parade of gross freaks their parents are fucking.

[quote] Openly polyamorous? No. If you can manage an occasional side piece without the kids needing to know about, let alone see or meet, these people, okay.

So you're saying: as long as you're deceitful, it's okay.

Little kids aren't supposed to know everything their parents do. There's being deceitful, and there's maintaining appropriate privacy. I did say that when the kids are old enough to understand, the parents should acknowledge that they have an open relationship. Even then, no need to share all the grisly details.

Kids are moldable clay. They don't see anything wrong with polyamory until (certain) societies teaches them it's wrong or an indication of instability.

Frankly, it's none of anyone's business since the myths the surrounding it have been thoroughly discredited as much as pernicious myths about single mothers and fathers, monogamous gay couples, etc. The children in orphanages are not the discarded experiments of polyamorous folks I can tell you that.

It's personally not for me, but I know enough to know it's none of my fucking business who is fucking who when it comes to consenting adults. What R6 is harping about is not polyamory and he's attacking a strawman.

OP, you forgot two options:

“I don’t particularly care one way or the other.”

and

“Vivian Vance.”