I’m 36 and am dating a 22 year old

Congratulations, doll.

Sure, Jan.

Gurl, you in danger.

Put your valuables in a safety deposit box asap!

When I was 17 I dated a Spanish guy who was 41. He was a cheater, this was when the aids was killing lots of whores, and also he had tinymeat. Dating a whore with tinymeat is not a big deal. You always dump their ass because they ain't worth nothing. After I dumped him he started dating a super slut who got fucked by literally everyone in their building. I met one of the sluts who fucked him. He said he had him gagged and tied up in his apartment for 48 hrs. That made me laugh so hard. Moral of the story is dump anyone with tinymeat.

It's nothing much unusual. 36 is not old but you do sound a bit desperate. Why would you have to sell all your stuff and give it to him? Half kidding or not. Speaks to some idea that you're not worthy of his attention. Gays are so weird. Are his looks all you like about him? 22 to 36 is not insurmountable, but if you have no common interests or goals, then just enjoy it. His ASS. Eyes and smile. My bf is 7 years younger than me. But we're married now. Both under 40. But without that ASS on him and this dick and presence of mine, we wouldn't be. Most all good things start with attraction. But not many 36 year olds say they get "the feels." Sounds weird after 4 months. You should be falling in love by this point. Why else would you still be dating? Maybe he wants U for your money? That's what you should have said, if true.

[quote] But not many 36 year olds say they get "the feels." Sounds weird after 4 months

I think DL has a lot of damaged souls here, whom i feel sorry for. It's totally normal to have the feels after even weeks, it's what most normal people have. Nothing remotely strange about that, unless you have deep emotional scars.

You will pay for all of your dates and vacations (if not rent, if he moves in). You will be fine for a few years, until he starts to make enough money on his own and starts to look around.

Fast forward 5-6 years, he's 28 and you're 42. He's gone with a guy his age, richer than he would be because you paid for a larger share of expenses, and you are alone at 42 and wasted 6 years where you could have found a partner.

Did that help?

You're 36 and you say something like "I’m starting to get the feels."?

Is he bigger than you?

Is there a question, OP?

What do you have conversations about? Just curious.

I hope it works out. Keep us posted please... seriously.

OP, if you’re really into it and the feeling is mutual and he’s a decent human being, then I don’t see the problem.

But... there’s one thing you wrote that’s a red flag for me. You say it’s been a four-month-long hookup?

If I’m reading that correctly, then you’re only having sex with him, right? If you’re not going anywhere with him, not having any meaningful conversation, not sharing any activities outside the house with him, then you two may not have any common ground apart from sexual attraction. Not enough of a foundation for a serious relationship, perhaps.

[quote] And I find myself wanting to sell everything I own, *which is substantial*, and give it to him.... [I]t’s now been a four month long hook up and I’m starting to get the feels.

Obvious sugar daddy & sugar baby set-up.

Girl, I am 32. When I was 30, I started fucking an 18 year old soon to turn 19 year old. He turned 19. Then I was a 31 year old, fucking a 19 years old. We broke up but continued fucking.

The. Sex. Was. INSANE.

My partner was 36 and I was 23 when we met and now he's 68 and I am 55, that's a long time for a couple of gay guys to be together. We have friends that have been together since 1971, that is unbelievable. Yes we are all eldergays now.

LOL we do this thread like every week.

Are you both into felching?

R17 how did all you dinofags survive the aids? Cuh razee.

Who said there is anything wrong with getting the feels? It's just 10 years late for that expression. The kid won't get it. And the 36 year old is really 68 1/2.

Didn't go on vacation to Africa, R20.

That NEVER happened.

You didn't have a 7 year long marriage, just another trick who hung around way past his sell-by date.

Pics or it didn't happen.

I did this, several times.

Never works out. At least not for me.

Have fun, OP.

"Dating"....

Good luck, OP. Enjoy every moment.

A 22 year old will change. Also become more complicated and difficult. He will not form an attachment like a 36 year old. It’s hard to see in the heat and enjoyment of the experience - but logic dictates that statistically the chances of him staying around are less than 10%. At 36, you are looking for something more. In your 20s, you think you are but in reality there are way too many changes and options coming to ever settle down.

00/10

Just enjoy it but prepare for possible heartbreak -- young men are fickle. OTOH, it could work out, sometimes that happens. Go with the flow. I'm 40, have been with my now 27 year old partner for five years, so pretty much the same age difference. We're happy, but we both have the "nesting type" personality and compliment each other that way very well. It can work.

Could be me I'm 55 and got to fuck a cute 20 year old.

Enjoy it OP

The only description of this guy you are supposedly dating revolves about sex and his body. Not a word about his personality, or how you guys get match as people...just shallow physical shit.

That speaks VOLUMES.

Would it have killed you to have at least posted a picture or link OP? Would it? I mean would that have really been that hard? Would it? Why don’t you try to think more of others next time before you post? Can you give us a straight answer? At least be honest for once in your life and tell us why you were so inconsiderate?

We can assume you're a bottom, OP. Because we know 22 goes into 36 more times than 36 goes into 22.

Sounds more like fuck buds than love. Nothing wrong with that, but don't lose your perspective. If it's going to turn into a real relationship, let that come from him. If it ends up just being sex -Hell, enjoy it!

Enjoy it! It may not last long, but as long as you are both having fun, what's the issue? I'm in my early 40s and have enjoyed being with several younger guys in their 20s. I'm no troll, but I know that my bank balance, Central Park view apartment, home in the Hamptons etc, is what makes me more attractive, and I'm ok with that. Straight people do it all the time.

When I was 22, I had a 43 year old boyfriend. He was really hot and I was completely in to him. He didn’t want anything serious, so I moved on, but we remained friends. That was nearly 15 years ago. Now, I’m really glad that it didn’t work out between us because he lost his muscles and his looks in general. I’m sure that if we would have gotten serious, I would have stayed with him, but I feel like I dodged a bullet. My current partner is my age.

R39 He probably would have lost interest once you turned 30 anyways.

Are you really 36 or are you 51 but can pass for 36?

A 21 year age difference is quite different than a 14 year one.

But does he rim you?

I don't believe a word of what OP wrote.

Regardless, R29 gives wise advice to all.

So?...

Hi! I’m back and finally reading replies to my own post.

R8 - that is the exact scenario I’ve worked out in my head too / give him my b̷e̷s̷t̷ ̷y̷e̷a̷r̷s̷ (ok my soon to be ex husband stole those) mediocre years and end up screwing myself over, being parked at some rest home with a bunch of ugly straight people. Sigh

My divorce isn’t even half way done yet (though separated for over a year) and I had no intention of linking up with anyone, much less this cute kid. Gross. (But also hot!)

and yes, we do have a number of things in common and he’s “mature for his age” 🤦🏻‍♂️ Yes I realize I’m 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 guy

R7 has poor reading skills.

Op, stop stressing and just enjoy it. If you're doing things other than sex and have interests in common, it could work.

Let's see....in 4 years, you're going to be 40 years old.

In 4 months, he's going to be with someone else.

I hope I've put it simply enough.

I should clarify a couple of things -

When I said “I find myself wanting to sell everything I own and give it to him” I was attempting humor. You always hear of the guy in the midlife-crisis do something like that. I do jokingly call him “my midlife crisis” to the few friends I’ve talked about him to. I by no means intend on signing over my house - I even had a prenup for my marriage . Maybe not romantic but I’m sure glad I had one in place now.

He hasn’t asked for money. I naturally end up paying for more things because *hes a 22 year old kid* LoL I call it a four month hook-up only because that’s all it was supposed to be. In truth we spend a lot of time together and I really enjoy his company.

Coming from a 7 year marriage where my husband was very stoic, very by-the-book (he never met a rule he didn’t like) it does feel invigorating to be around someone with the opposite energy who seems gaga over me.

Finally, his personality is very sweet. You can tell he’s a good hearted guy who maybe hasn’t had anyone up until now encourage him to achieve things. I’ve mentored him with some business and career advice and he’s already talking about registering in post secondary, which I like. Downside to the personality is he hasn’t had a grownup relationship yet so a number of times his immaturity has come through. Example: getting snappy with me over text because I’m not glued to my phone like he is, getting jealous, wanting to see me even super late on a Sunday night when I have work in the morning. The few disagreements we’ve had he automatically thought I was going to end it and I had to explain to him that people argue but you don’t just walk away over small things.

UGH I like him a lot but like R8 said, my gut tells me even with the best of intentions, anyway I look at it, I end up alone at 42ish

Lemme see if I can post a picture somehow to appease you whiny queens in the back

Oh honey save it. We don't need to see a picture. How creepy of you. Just enjoy the ride and grow the fuck up, yourself. "Feels"? He's probably carrying coronavirus. If you aren't living together and in quarantine together, you're an idiot taking his splooge from his big cock.

OP do what makes you happy. If you have the money to spare and this guy pleases you and makes you feel young be with him. Just never delude yourself, and know and can never truly make someone fall in love with you with $$$. One of my old sugar daddies had to learn that the hard way when I threaten to take out a restraining order against him.

This was the four months proceeding quarantine although now he splits his time between his parents place (they insisted he stay there instead of his apartment while things all rides out, which I think is reasonable) and my place..

Why so bitter R51 - sounds like you could use a little vitality in your own life.

If you, or anyone else, doesn’t want to see the pics, then don’t look at them. Pretty simple. I’m uploading some to imgur - and don’t worry, he wanted to post a video of us onto Pornhub so I doubt he’d feel precious about me posting anon pics here. Not everyone is quite as up tight as some of you appear to be.

To all of you normal, nice people, thanks for the encouragement! Kill keep you posted

This was the four months proceeding quarantine although now he splits his time between his parents place (they insisted he stay there instead of his apartment while things all rides out, which I think is reasonable) and my place..

Why so bitter R51 - sounds like you could use a little vitality in your own life.

If you, or anyone else, doesn’t want to see the pics, then don’t look at them. Pretty simple. I’m uploading some to imgur - and don’t worry, he wanted to post a video of us onto Pornhub so I doubt he’d feel precious about me posting anon pics here. Not everyone is quite as up tight as some of you appear to be.

To all of you normal, nice people, thanks for the encouragement! Kill keep you posted

OP, I totally encourage you to enjoy your relationship with your friend. IMO, difference in age does not matter at all. It is the relationship between two people which does matter and if he makes you happy and vice versa, that's what's important. 🙂

Some people who are 36 still look as if they're in their 20s and some bald overweight 20 somethings look 50. There are thousands of happy long term couples with this kind of age gap. If OP was a man with a woman, everyone on this thread would be fine with it.

DL puts way too much emphasis on same age relationships and on looks.

R56 are you new here ? Its not that anyone is really that focused on age difference or looks, its just that many of us skew older and weve seen it all,honey . Not only seen it all , but often did it ourselves . may december romances 99.9% of the time just dont last . of course there are exceptions,but odds arent in Op's favor .

Op, you can continue to date this kid and still see other guys in the hopes of finding a relationship.

There was a Hal Linden movie; he was wed to a younger woman; I want to say her name was Madolyn Smith. He meets up with Anne Meara somehow and finds he has so much more in common with her.

The movie was called The Other Woman; it won a WGA award; Meara wrote it, however.

I think the fantasy is that Hal Linden would drop a hot piece of ass for hers; but … hey, you gotta write what will sell.

Keanu did.

Enjoy it, OP, don't question it. He's there, now and that's all we have. If there's anything we can learn in this time of death and despair, it's that one simple truth.

It will change. Grab it and hold on with all the joy and happiness you can find. One of my best relationships was with someone 15 years older. He ended up cheating with someone else even younger because he realized he could!

Cactus Flower had the same theme, R58. Walter Matthau ended up choosing a mature Ingrid Bergman over a young, hot Goldie Hawn.

Ingrid and Goldie were both super hot in that film. I could never figure out what either saw in Matthau -Especially with hottie Rick Lenz pursuing both of them!

Dear Deirdre......

R50, judging from your post he sounds like an idiot, even for a 22-year old. Nobody’s saying don’t fuck him but he sounds so boring and useless. How are you not bored of him yet?

[quote] I know there will be the tired old queens who haven’t gotten laid in this decade who will tell me I’m a fool.

I am old (68) but not a queen, I think you should enjoy it as long as you want to or can.

I agree, you should enjoy it, and make the most of it. Make every meeting special, and please don't let the ending be acrimonious. This r'ship will be a memory you'll treasure in the future.

OP, give us an update on how this relationship is fairing under quarantine and upload those pics you promised.

Only 14 years difference?

Amateur.

HUMBLE BRAG. Why would you even be thinking about a long term relationship after only 4 months? Many 36 year old guys would love to have your "problem". And none of this sounds true btw.

R69 - Welp Troll