Do white gays date Indian(Desi) gays ?

"Did you", not "do you"

I find Kumail Nanjiani very sexy and Kal Penn too. I know they're Paki or something but still. Same thing.

BTW isn't Penn supposed to be a closet case?

I am more into Desi Jr gays

There are no Indian gays. Show me one porrno with Indian gay

I apply the same standards I do for everyone else:

1. Nice facial hair

2. Enthusiastic powerbottom who'll fuck my cock with his ass & milk every drop of cum out with his sphincter.

3. Decent musculature, not too fat. Think: bearcub who worked out at some point in his life, even if he doesn't anymore.

... and yes, the OP pic satisfies all the relevant criteria. They dön't even HAVE to be Desi. If he's cute, I'll happily fuck a Dalit(*), too. Or have a threesome with a Desi & Dalit.

(*) Dalit == Untouchtable/Outcaste

r5 Idiot i am asking about dating, loving and marrying. Not whether you want to fuck them, dummy.

can't deal with the families, OP.

seriously---no one who isn't indian will ever be good enough.

whole life revolves around the Indian social circle. no outside friends are really maintained, as far as i can tell.

Closet cases. At least the good looking ones.

R7 Are you an Indian ? If yes, what is your experience ?

R7 Are you an Indian ? If yes, what is your experience ?

sadly, no R9 . i have blood relatives who are, though.

and they don't even maintain relationships with their non-indian relatives. and literally every spare hour is spent with other indians.

i also had friends all through school growing up who were indian. but they ditch out on you eventually.

cultures are too far apart, i guess.

If I were still dating, I'd be willing to date an Indian guy.

Yes. Two of my dearest friends are a white/Indian couple. They’ve been married for years.

r11 How can u be a blood relative to an Indian but not of Indian origin yourself ? Sorry, I am confused. So you have some relatives who are of Indian origin and you think they don't like to date white people ?

You marry an Indian, you marry their culture. Works for some, not for many though.

Tiny Dikka Masala

Aren't there secular Indians? It can't be that bad with everyone.

Are you watching Family Karma on Bravo? There is a desi/white gay couple? The desi boy is handsome and very tall. He’s also a lawyer...the show is filmed in Miami, and he lives in Chicago with his partner. Amrit is doing long distance to film the show and open a new law firm. The video is his coming out story.

my two younger, half brothers are mixed.

their father refused to marry my mother, partially because she was "not indian". although she went to all events and immersed herself in their culture.

eventually the parents separated, and the indian family finagled to have sole custody. we only saw them 3 times a year after that, on "western" holidays.

i didn't even get to go to my own brothers' graduations.

and neither of them will date white people.

I work in IT, OP - as a consequence there’s nothing that I’d rather do less than date one of our friends from the sub continent.

They are great for a casual hook-up. But dating usually involves their family drama. It's the same with American-Italian guys. At first they claim they aren't close to their families and then almost literally drop everything when mom calls and you better be quiet or they get mad at you. And then you start to realize that family means everything to them and you are their dirty little secret and he will rather pick his conservative family (even when he complains about them all the time) over you and you wasted time and energy in a relationship that was doomed from the start. Because yeah, this time it's really true when he says that he isn't close to his family.

r21 Are you speaking from your own experience ?

r22, yes, I did.

They all get into marriages arranged by their families and want to keep you on the side. Fine by me!

R23 How was the dating experience if you forget about his family ? How did you guys meet ? Were you the top in the relationship ?

How about your friends ? Have they dated any indians and had similar experiences ?

And finally what drove you to the indian guy you dated, in the first place ? Was it the looks ?

The thing is, when push comes to shove family trumps the dirty little secret. He will say he's so sorry for stabbing you in the back or not showing up when he promised he would, but he will do it over and over again. And when your partner doesn't have your back it will turn into a trust issue that will ruin the whole relationship and your self-esteem (I don't deserve someone who supports me when I need him).

I have. Nice guys and even sweet. One of them had an Indian mother and a French father. He looked full Desi and was a major alcoholic. They are almost always uncut except for the few Muslim ones.

Mmm uncut 👍

[quote] How was the dating experience if you forget about his family ?

It's always great at first when it's just him and me.

[quote] How did you guys meet ?

One was through a business project and the other was through a friend. Currently, I have a crush on a trainer who's in my gym. Guess either the Coronavirus saved me from myself or cock blocked me. LOL.

[quote] Were you the top in the relationship ?

I'm versatile. Not into the whole total top vs. total bottom thing. And they had decent sized dicks. One was bigger than mine and I have an eight inch dick (hard, of course). So, no "Indians have tiny dicks!" claims from me.

[quote] How about your friends ? Have they dated any indians and had similar experiences ?

I am the only white, gay guy in my circle of friends. The others are either straight or American Italian, American Indian or American African. I would guess they don't fare any better with their relationships since they share their grievances when their relationship go south. Two interracial couples got married and still are though (both straight couples) and there are three non-interracial couples (two straight ones and one lesbian couple). I would like to apologize that I don't want to share their actual experiences. Feels like a breach of trust. I apologize.

[quote] And finally what drove you to the indian guy you dated, in the first place ? Was it the looks ?

Looks and smile. I am a sucker for great smiles for some reason. Other than their looks nothing Indian specific. We shared common interest (music or entertainment in general) and had a similar sense of humor.

I've had a few desi fuck buddies but never ended up dating any of them cos they were all closeted. Which is an absolute no from me when it comes to a boyfriend.

What is Desi mean?

I live in LA, but oddly enough with all the racial difference, I almost never run into an Indian guy. Never see them in the gay bars for example.

Fresh off the boat ones are pushy, arrogant and scheming. Can't stand their caste system mentality and how much they think the world is in love with India (we most certainly aren't!).

Where are there gay Indians? Finds some gay Indian porn. Well?

To know it is to love it!

Why does every family gathering have to turn into a full blown Bollywood dance 💃 off??

This movie is very sad but very good—and gives insight into why being gay in India might be a bit difficult.

My husband has a Sri Lankan father and British/ French mother. Everyone always thinks he’s a Spaniard or Italian. Very handsome mix that is.

Not unless they are already out to their family, and unfortunately, too many of them are not.

I used to date this hot Indian guy who was out. I even met his parents. Just didn’t work out in the end but a good guy.

My younger brother is dating an Indian guy now who is not out. I told him to dump him before he gets dumped so his boyfriend can marry a woman.

I love 'mist' men like R38 decribes

Who is the guy in OP’s pic?

r41 actor manish dayal

“Desis” are typically closeted as fuck. Good luck with the Paki ones, because that’s like to the 10th power. On top of that they’re a small minority in the US.

Plenty of whites would fuck them or date them. I’ve known a few. But again: aren’t that many. Same with the Ay-rabs.

Oh and no one likes a total FOB unless it’s a green card sugar daddy desperado thing.

The only gay Indian male I know is in his early 30s, about 5'1' and bald. And a whining, work-shy bitch.

Repressed mamas boys with a sneaky side. They need to be kept on a short leash. But I like them. Sweet guys. Nice uncut dicks that are not too big.

Indian men can be breathtakingly beautiful. And so sensual. But the culture is not supportive of gay people and that can cause awful problems. The family is smothering, also.

So, a hook up with an Indian man can be great. But usually it needs to end there.

Back when I was drinking, the liquor store I went to was all Indian guys and they were ALL FUCKING HOT. I used to flirt relentlessly with them. One, a young kid of maybe 20, used to flirt back. I actually got rock hard flirting with him once and had to hide my erection as I left the store.

I've never been topped by an Indian, probably never will be at this point, but would have loved it.

Indian guys are sexy as fuck. The non-fob, bro types are some of the sweetest guys you will ever meet. They tend to dress very well and work out. Sadly most are either straight or deeply closeted.

YES!!!!!!!!!!

I worked for a family in Atlanta that were from India that had a son who was as gay as a goose . They knew it ,they loved and accepted his black boyfriend BUT when he hit 30 they married his ass of to a stunning young woman . He still kept his boyfriend ,even bought him a house ,and I think the only one who didnt know about him was his bride. he was absolutely gorgeous by the way ,and so was his boyfriend. I watched all of this going on ,all the fights and tears and threats from his mother (lovely woman but she RAN that show!) and I was astonished.

Yummy

r21 it sounds like your experience with Italian-American guys is from decades ago. All the Italian guys I know or have known have been like any other white guys as far as family relationships go. None of them have been overly attached to their families.

I'd date one if I found one. But they aren't real common where I live, or in my age range. I had a Desi bf 4 years ago, lasted about 3 months. He had weird desires to have a very sex-stereotyped life, where he would be the woman, and I'd be the man. Oh, and he was a strict vegetarian.

Of course they do!!!

R54 that actor was so cute and likable in that movie.

I dated a Malayasian guy with an Indian father and Chinese mother. That's a common mix there. Anyway, he hated Indian women and said they are unbearable. Around the corner from our condo was a convenience store owner by Indians and he disliked the wife.

By the way, he was raised Christian and educated in London. Uncut.

If they all look like this then YES! But sadly, all the the other guys in the background, no thanks.

Too much facial hair. And why do they all have mustaches? The women I can understand, but the men??

When I used to work out at an Equinox Gym in NYC there was an Indian guy on the same workout schedule as me. He was maybe 5 9 or 5 10, perfect legs, probably fit-fat by DL standards, but a gorgeous hairy, meaty muscular body. He used to shower and step out soaking wet and dry off in front of the shower. He loved to bend over and moon everyone while he spent a lot of time drying his feet. The ass was so nicely defined and lightly hairy.

One day I see he's carrying a tote bag with the name of a company I used to work for and we struck up a conversation. He did work there. I have since returned to that company and was disappointed to find he's no longer there. I did just look him up and the 12 years that have gone by since have not been kind to him and now he looks like your average Indian dad. He's on his second wife according to marriage gift registries I found.

That being said, I'd have been happy with a few steamroom sessions with him. Thinking back, I don't think he ever went in there.

Yes Indians and Turks. When they are hairy as fuck with a small dick and an insatiable bottom it is the hottest sex ever.

[quote] But dating usually involves their family drama. It's the same with American-Italian guys.

Italian families are fun, loving and delightful compared to strict Indian families. And the Italian food is amazing. Lots and lots of food. Indian and Italian cultures are completely different.

I want to fuck Arjun Gupta (Penny from The Magicians).

If he's vegetarian, that would eliminate dating potential completely. I'm a militant carnivore, like my cats. Bacon is food of the gods, and a good burger from somewhere like Chili's is heavenly.

Veggies are strictly appetizers... and even then, generally require deep-frying or augmentation with cheese and/or bacon to be really appealing.

Could someone remind me/us of the name of the cutie in OP's linked photo?

Also nude or shirtless photos of him would be appreciated.

Namaste.

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r63 the photo is of Manish Dayal, an actor

[quote] Are you watching Family Karma on Bravo? There is a desi/white gay couple? The desi boy is handsome and very tall.

He's tall, and he seems nice. And he has a decent (not great) body.

But handsome he is not. Nor is his boyfriend.

[quote]Veggies are strictly appetizers... and even then, generally require deep-frying or augmentation with cheese and/or bacon to be really appealing.

Baby tastes

[quote] Italian families are fun, loving and delightful compared to strict Indian families.

I can see that. Most of my friends (gay or straight) married to people of South Asian descent have a terrible time with their in-laws, who tend to be culturally disposed to criticize them and their partners, and constantly expect high income (which must be spent in showy ways to show how much you make to neighbors and friends). Elderly Italian-Americans expect to spend a lot of time with their children and their children's partners, but as long as their children are happy they tend not to expect that they somehow "honor" them by earning money and spending it in showy ways

One of my friends, who is heterosexual, makes a decent living as a public defender. but that is unacceptable to his South Asian in-laws, who think that because he is a Yale Law grad he has to make a fortune and should be a private attorney like their daughter (his wife, another Yale Law School grad), even though she makes plenty in private practice for the two of them and their child. He says it got so bad that they would lay into him starting at the airport gate when he and his wife picked them up from the airport. Now when they come to town to visit their daughter and grandchild, he stays in a hotel downtown or leaves town himself to visit friends. They cannot forebear from loudly and aggressively criticizing him, no matter how miserable they know it makes their daughter and grandchild.

I work across the street from the set of The Resident. Manish Dayal (the guy on OP's link) is really hot. That's a bad picture of him

I've seen him and Matt Czuchry in person. They are both gorgeous.

Last week saw two stunningly handsome SIkhs. One in Macy's, the other on the street. Anyone been with a Sikh?

Like Apu? Never found any attractive (maybe not my type). It seems like a lot have dark circles.

My doctor is a really handsome Indian-American gay with an equally handsome white husband. They have two kids.

I had an Desi FB for about a year. Hot and so passionate. Looking back I should have dated him

They’re fucking weird but can be hot

He’s a cutie

Yes OP

My Indian friend had dated nothing but white guys. He’s very cute and popular

Desis of the northern Caucasian kind are my new sexy. Nice and uncut with some hair in the right places.

The indian guy in this video is super cute. His name is Kartik Chainani

"Desi" <-- ?

It means south Asians.

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so, the answer was "yes"?

Desi? Speak American

Love them. Many are hot, hairy as fuck and can drain my cum like a champ.

I never had the opportunity but I definitely would.

The guy in OP's post is hot

of interest to those who said 'yes'...

Love Kal Penn. Hot feet, too.

Only Freddie Mercury if he were still around. The others have a major dork factor that is a turn off.

Some Indian women can be truly evil and narcissistic, even second gen sometimes, and even the ugly ones. It’s cultural. I work at a Big tech company and Indian Women managers are to be feared. Pakistanis are way nicer, as are those from Nepal. Anyway I’d be afraid to date/marry a desi guy because of his mother or sister.

Agree--love sexing a hot indian guy! They've got nice facial stubble and hair in all the right places. Even the 2nd or third generation immigrants are still uncut.

Most are closeted. Most of the Desi men I've sexed have been hot hotel room hookups with married guys whilst traveling on biz. That's what Craigslist was great for!

R92, you have the morals of a Sewer rat. Married dudes. Smh

Only if he can cook.

I personally can't get past the curry smell.

R95 I know! I can even smell it on myself for a day or two after eating a spicy Chicken Tikka Marsala. It eminates from my pores.