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Do white gays date Indian(Desi) gays ?

Do you or any of your friend ever dated an Indian/Desi guy ? I don't see many White- Desi pairs for some reason. What gives ?

And what kind of indian guy do white gays find attractive ? Well built, Twink, Bald ?

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by Anonymousreply 9605/24/2020

"Did you", not "do you"

by Anonymousreply 103/19/2020

I find Kumail Nanjiani very sexy and Kal Penn too. I know they're Paki or something but still. Same thing.

BTW isn't Penn supposed to be a closet case?

by Anonymousreply 203/19/2020

I am more into Desi Jr gays

by Anonymousreply 303/19/2020

There are no Indian gays. Show me one porrno with Indian gay

by Anonymousreply 403/19/2020

I apply the same standards I do for everyone else:

1. Nice facial hair

2. Enthusiastic powerbottom who'll fuck my cock with his ass & milk every drop of cum out with his sphincter.

3. Decent musculature, not too fat. Think: bearcub who worked out at some point in his life, even if he doesn't anymore.

... and yes, the OP pic satisfies all the relevant criteria. They dön't even HAVE to be Desi. If he's cute, I'll happily fuck a Dalit(*), too. Or have a threesome with a Desi & Dalit.

(*) Dalit == Untouchtable/Outcaste

by Anonymousreply 503/19/2020

r5 Idiot i am asking about dating, loving and marrying. Not whether you want to fuck them, dummy.

by Anonymousreply 603/19/2020

can't deal with the families, OP.

seriously---no one who isn't indian will ever be good enough.

whole life revolves around the Indian social circle. no outside friends are really maintained, as far as i can tell.

by Anonymousreply 703/19/2020

Closet cases. At least the good looking ones.

by Anonymousreply 803/19/2020

R7 Are you an Indian ? If yes, what is your experience ?

by Anonymousreply 903/19/2020

R7 Are you an Indian ? If yes, what is your experience ?

by Anonymousreply 1003/19/2020

sadly, no R9 . i have blood relatives who are, though.

and they don't even maintain relationships with their non-indian relatives. and literally every spare hour is spent with other indians.

i also had friends all through school growing up who were indian. but they ditch out on you eventually.

cultures are too far apart, i guess.

by Anonymousreply 1103/19/2020

If I were still dating, I'd be willing to date an Indian guy.

by Anonymousreply 1203/19/2020

Yes. Two of my dearest friends are a white/Indian couple. They’ve been married for years.

by Anonymousreply 1303/19/2020

r11 How can u be a blood relative to an Indian but not of Indian origin yourself ? Sorry, I am confused. So you have some relatives who are of Indian origin and you think they don't like to date white people ?

by Anonymousreply 1403/19/2020

You marry an Indian, you marry their culture. Works for some, not for many though.

by Anonymousreply 1503/19/2020

Tiny Dikka Masala

by Anonymousreply 1603/19/2020

Aren't there secular Indians? It can't be that bad with everyone.

by Anonymousreply 1703/19/2020

Are you watching Family Karma on Bravo? There is a desi/white gay couple? The desi boy is handsome and very tall. He’s also a lawyer...the show is filmed in Miami, and he lives in Chicago with his partner. Amrit is doing long distance to film the show and open a new law firm. The video is his coming out story.

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by Anonymousreply 1803/19/2020

my two younger, half brothers are mixed.

their father refused to marry my mother, partially because she was "not indian". although she went to all events and immersed herself in their culture.

eventually the parents separated, and the indian family finagled to have sole custody. we only saw them 3 times a year after that, on "western" holidays.

i didn't even get to go to my own brothers' graduations.

and neither of them will date white people.

by Anonymousreply 1903/19/2020

I work in IT, OP - as a consequence there’s nothing that I’d rather do less than date one of our friends from the sub continent.

by Anonymousreply 2003/19/2020

They are great for a casual hook-up. But dating usually involves their family drama. It's the same with American-Italian guys. At first they claim they aren't close to their families and then almost literally drop everything when mom calls and you better be quiet or they get mad at you. And then you start to realize that family means everything to them and you are their dirty little secret and he will rather pick his conservative family (even when he complains about them all the time) over you and you wasted time and energy in a relationship that was doomed from the start. Because yeah, this time it's really true when he says that he isn't close to his family.

by Anonymousreply 2103/19/2020

r21 Are you speaking from your own experience ?

by Anonymousreply 2203/19/2020

r22, yes, I did.

by Anonymousreply 2303/19/2020

They all get into marriages arranged by their families and want to keep you on the side. Fine by me!

by Anonymousreply 2403/19/2020

R23 How was the dating experience if you forget about his family ? How did you guys meet ? Were you the top in the relationship ?

How about your friends ? Have they dated any indians and had similar experiences ?

And finally what drove you to the indian guy you dated, in the first place ? Was it the looks ?

by Anonymousreply 2503/19/2020

The thing is, when push comes to shove family trumps the dirty little secret. He will say he's so sorry for stabbing you in the back or not showing up when he promised he would, but he will do it over and over again. And when your partner doesn't have your back it will turn into a trust issue that will ruin the whole relationship and your self-esteem (I don't deserve someone who supports me when I need him).

by Anonymousreply 2603/19/2020

I have. Nice guys and even sweet. One of them had an Indian mother and a French father. He looked full Desi and was a major alcoholic. They are almost always uncut except for the few Muslim ones.

by Anonymousreply 2703/19/2020

Mmm uncut 👍

by Anonymousreply 2803/19/2020

[quote] How was the dating experience if you forget about his family ?

It's always great at first when it's just him and me.

[quote] How did you guys meet ?

One was through a business project and the other was through a friend. Currently, I have a crush on a trainer who's in my gym. Guess either the Coronavirus saved me from myself or cock blocked me. LOL.

[quote] Were you the top in the relationship ?

I'm versatile. Not into the whole total top vs. total bottom thing. And they had decent sized dicks. One was bigger than mine and I have an eight inch dick (hard, of course). So, no "Indians have tiny dicks!" claims from me.

[quote] How about your friends ? Have they dated any indians and had similar experiences ?

I am the only white, gay guy in my circle of friends. The others are either straight or American Italian, American Indian or American African. I would guess they don't fare any better with their relationships since they share their grievances when their relationship go south. Two interracial couples got married and still are though (both straight couples) and there are three non-interracial couples (two straight ones and one lesbian couple). I would like to apologize that I don't want to share their actual experiences. Feels like a breach of trust. I apologize.

[quote] And finally what drove you to the indian guy you dated, in the first place ? Was it the looks ?

Looks and smile. I am a sucker for great smiles for some reason. Other than their looks nothing Indian specific. We shared common interest (music or entertainment in general) and had a similar sense of humor.

by Anonymousreply 2903/19/2020

I've had a few desi fuck buddies but never ended up dating any of them cos they were all closeted. Which is an absolute no from me when it comes to a boyfriend.

by Anonymousreply 3003/20/2020

What is Desi mean?

by Anonymousreply 3103/20/2020

I live in LA, but oddly enough with all the racial difference, I almost never run into an Indian guy. Never see them in the gay bars for example.

by Anonymousreply 3203/20/2020

Fresh off the boat ones are pushy, arrogant and scheming. Can't stand their caste system mentality and how much they think the world is in love with India (we most certainly aren't!).

by Anonymousreply 3303/20/2020

Where are there gay Indians? Finds some gay Indian porn. Well?

by Anonymousreply 3403/20/2020

To know it is to love it!

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by Anonymousreply 3503/20/2020

Why does every family gathering have to turn into a full blown Bollywood dance 💃 off??

by Anonymousreply 3603/20/2020

This movie is very sad but very good—and gives insight into why being gay in India might be a bit difficult.

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by Anonymousreply 3703/20/2020

My husband has a Sri Lankan father and British/ French mother. Everyone always thinks he’s a Spaniard or Italian. Very handsome mix that is.

by Anonymousreply 3803/20/2020

Not unless they are already out to their family, and unfortunately, too many of them are not.

I used to date this hot Indian guy who was out. I even met his parents. Just didn’t work out in the end but a good guy.

My younger brother is dating an Indian guy now who is not out. I told him to dump him before he gets dumped so his boyfriend can marry a woman.

by Anonymousreply 3903/20/2020

I love 'mist' men like R38 decribes

by Anonymousreply 4003/20/2020

Who is the guy in OP’s pic?

by Anonymousreply 4103/20/2020

r41 actor manish dayal

by Anonymousreply 4203/20/2020

“Desis” are typically closeted as fuck. Good luck with the Paki ones, because that’s like to the 10th power. On top of that they’re a small minority in the US.

Plenty of whites would fuck them or date them. I’ve known a few. But again: aren’t that many. Same with the Ay-rabs.

Oh and no one likes a total FOB unless it’s a green card sugar daddy desperado thing.

by Anonymousreply 4303/20/2020

The only gay Indian male I know is in his early 30s, about 5'1' and bald. And a whining, work-shy bitch.

by Anonymousreply 4403/20/2020

Repressed mamas boys with a sneaky side. They need to be kept on a short leash. But I like them. Sweet guys. Nice uncut dicks that are not too big.

by Anonymousreply 4503/20/2020

Indian men can be breathtakingly beautiful. And so sensual. But the culture is not supportive of gay people and that can cause awful problems. The family is smothering, also.

So, a hook up with an Indian man can be great. But usually it needs to end there.

by Anonymousreply 4603/20/2020

Back when I was drinking, the liquor store I went to was all Indian guys and they were ALL FUCKING HOT. I used to flirt relentlessly with them. One, a young kid of maybe 20, used to flirt back. I actually got rock hard flirting with him once and had to hide my erection as I left the store.

I've never been topped by an Indian, probably never will be at this point, but would have loved it.

by Anonymousreply 4703/20/2020

Indian guys are sexy as fuck. The non-fob, bro types are some of the sweetest guys you will ever meet. They tend to dress very well and work out. Sadly most are either straight or deeply closeted.

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by Anonymousreply 4903/20/2020

I worked for a family in Atlanta that were from India that had a son who was as gay as a goose . They knew it ,they loved and accepted his black boyfriend BUT when he hit 30 they married his ass of to a stunning young woman . He still kept his boyfriend ,even bought him a house ,and I think the only one who didnt know about him was his bride. he was absolutely gorgeous by the way ,and so was his boyfriend. I watched all of this going on ,all the fights and tears and threats from his mother (lovely woman but she RAN that show!) and I was astonished.

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by Anonymousreply 5103/20/2020

r21 it sounds like your experience with Italian-American guys is from decades ago. All the Italian guys I know or have known have been like any other white guys as far as family relationships go. None of them have been overly attached to their families.

by Anonymousreply 5203/20/2020

I'd date one if I found one. But they aren't real common where I live, or in my age range. I had a Desi bf 4 years ago, lasted about 3 months. He had weird desires to have a very sex-stereotyped life, where he would be the woman, and I'd be the man. Oh, and he was a strict vegetarian.

by Anonymousreply 5303/20/2020

Of course they do!!!

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by Anonymousreply 5403/20/2020

R54 that actor was so cute and likable in that movie.

I dated a Malayasian guy with an Indian father and Chinese mother. That's a common mix there. Anyway, he hated Indian women and said they are unbearable. Around the corner from our condo was a convenience store owner by Indians and he disliked the wife.

By the way, he was raised Christian and educated in London. Uncut.

by Anonymousreply 5503/20/2020

If they all look like this then YES! But sadly, all the the other guys in the background, no thanks.

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by Anonymousreply 5603/21/2020

Too much facial hair. And why do they all have mustaches? The women I can understand, but the men??

by Anonymousreply 5703/21/2020

When I used to work out at an Equinox Gym in NYC there was an Indian guy on the same workout schedule as me. He was maybe 5 9 or 5 10, perfect legs, probably fit-fat by DL standards, but a gorgeous hairy, meaty muscular body. He used to shower and step out soaking wet and dry off in front of the shower. He loved to bend over and moon everyone while he spent a lot of time drying his feet. The ass was so nicely defined and lightly hairy.

One day I see he's carrying a tote bag with the name of a company I used to work for and we struck up a conversation. He did work there. I have since returned to that company and was disappointed to find he's no longer there. I did just look him up and the 12 years that have gone by since have not been kind to him and now he looks like your average Indian dad. He's on his second wife according to marriage gift registries I found.

That being said, I'd have been happy with a few steamroom sessions with him. Thinking back, I don't think he ever went in there.

by Anonymousreply 5803/21/2020

Yes Indians and Turks. When they are hairy as fuck with a small dick and an insatiable bottom it is the hottest sex ever.

by Anonymousreply 5903/21/2020

[quote] But dating usually involves their family drama. It's the same with American-Italian guys.

Italian families are fun, loving and delightful compared to strict Indian families. And the Italian food is amazing. Lots and lots of food. Indian and Italian cultures are completely different.

by Anonymousreply 6003/21/2020

I want to fuck Arjun Gupta (Penny from The Magicians).

by Anonymousreply 6103/21/2020

If he's vegetarian, that would eliminate dating potential completely. I'm a militant carnivore, like my cats. Bacon is food of the gods, and a good burger from somewhere like Chili's is heavenly.

Veggies are strictly appetizers... and even then, generally require deep-frying or augmentation with cheese and/or bacon to be really appealing.

by Anonymousreply 6203/21/2020

Could someone remind me/us of the name of the cutie in OP's linked photo?

Also nude or shirtless photos of him would be appreciated.


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by Anonymousreply 6403/21/2020

r63 the photo is of Manish Dayal, an actor

by Anonymousreply 6503/21/2020

[quote] Are you watching Family Karma on Bravo? There is a desi/white gay couple? The desi boy is handsome and very tall.

He's tall, and he seems nice. And he has a decent (not great) body.

But handsome he is not. Nor is his boyfriend.

by Anonymousreply 6603/21/2020

[quote]Veggies are strictly appetizers... and even then, generally require deep-frying or augmentation with cheese and/or bacon to be really appealing.

Baby tastes

by Anonymousreply 6703/21/2020

[quote] Italian families are fun, loving and delightful compared to strict Indian families.

I can see that. Most of my friends (gay or straight) married to people of South Asian descent have a terrible time with their in-laws, who tend to be culturally disposed to criticize them and their partners, and constantly expect high income (which must be spent in showy ways to show how much you make to neighbors and friends). Elderly Italian-Americans expect to spend a lot of time with their children and their children's partners, but as long as their children are happy they tend not to expect that they somehow "honor" them by earning money and spending it in showy ways

One of my friends, who is heterosexual, makes a decent living as a public defender. but that is unacceptable to his South Asian in-laws, who think that because he is a Yale Law grad he has to make a fortune and should be a private attorney like their daughter (his wife, another Yale Law School grad), even though she makes plenty in private practice for the two of them and their child. He says it got so bad that they would lay into him starting at the airport gate when he and his wife picked them up from the airport. Now when they come to town to visit their daughter and grandchild, he stays in a hotel downtown or leaves town himself to visit friends. They cannot forebear from loudly and aggressively criticizing him, no matter how miserable they know it makes their daughter and grandchild.

by Anonymousreply 6803/21/2020

I work across the street from the set of The Resident. Manish Dayal (the guy on OP's link) is really hot. That's a bad picture of him

I've seen him and Matt Czuchry in person. They are both gorgeous.

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by Anonymousreply 6903/21/2020

Last week saw two stunningly handsome SIkhs. One in Macy's, the other on the street. Anyone been with a Sikh?

by Anonymousreply 7003/21/2020

Like Apu? Never found any attractive (maybe not my type). It seems like a lot have dark circles.

by Anonymousreply 7103/21/2020

My doctor is a really handsome Indian-American gay with an equally handsome white husband. They have two kids.

by Anonymousreply 7203/21/2020

I had an Desi FB for about a year. Hot and so passionate. Looking back I should have dated him

by Anonymousreply 7303/21/2020

They’re fucking weird but can be hot

by Anonymousreply 7403/21/2020

He’s a cutie

by Anonymousreply 7503/21/2020

Yes OP

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by Anonymousreply 7603/21/2020

My Indian friend had dated nothing but white guys. He’s very cute and popular

by Anonymousreply 7703/22/2020

Desis of the northern Caucasian kind are my new sexy. Nice and uncut with some hair in the right places.

by Anonymousreply 7803/22/2020

The indian guy in this video is super cute. His name is Kartik Chainani

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by Anonymousreply 7903/22/2020

"Desi" <-- ?

by Anonymousreply 8003/23/2020

It means south Asians.

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by Anonymousreply 8203/28/2020

so, the answer was "yes"?

by Anonymousreply 8305/24/2020

Desi? Speak American

by Anonymousreply 8405/24/2020

Love them. Many are hot, hairy as fuck and can drain my cum like a champ.

by Anonymousreply 8505/24/2020

I never had the opportunity but I definitely would.

by Anonymousreply 8605/24/2020

The guy in OP's post is hot

by Anonymousreply 8705/24/2020

of interest to those who said 'yes'...

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by Anonymousreply 8805/24/2020

Love Kal Penn. Hot feet, too.

by Anonymousreply 8905/24/2020

Only Freddie Mercury if he were still around. The others have a major dork factor that is a turn off.

by Anonymousreply 9005/24/2020

Some Indian women can be truly evil and narcissistic, even second gen sometimes, and even the ugly ones. It’s cultural. I work at a Big tech company and Indian Women managers are to be feared. Pakistanis are way nicer, as are those from Nepal. Anyway I’d be afraid to date/marry a desi guy because of his mother or sister.

by Anonymousreply 9105/24/2020

Agree--love sexing a hot indian guy! They've got nice facial stubble and hair in all the right places. Even the 2nd or third generation immigrants are still uncut.

Most are closeted. Most of the Desi men I've sexed have been hot hotel room hookups with married guys whilst traveling on biz. That's what Craigslist was great for!

by Anonymousreply 9205/24/2020

R92, you have the morals of a Sewer rat. Married dudes. Smh

by Anonymousreply 9305/24/2020

Only if he can cook.

by Anonymousreply 9405/24/2020

I personally can't get past the curry smell.

by Anonymousreply 9505/24/2020

R95 I know! I can even smell it on myself for a day or two after eating a spicy Chicken Tikka Marsala. It eminates from my pores.

by Anonymousreply 9605/24/2020
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