Fisting: what is is about?

I have done it to others upon request but never had it done. They seem so be in heaven from it.

Don’t

This will end in tears. Rectal, not. ocular.

I did it to my partner 15 years ago(upon his insistence) and it sort of ended our sex life. Freaked me out, big time

Wait, it freaked you out, and stopped your sex life with him? Why not go back to milder things?

there were other factors as well

As someone who enjoys being fisted, I can say that it's the feeling of being full that's exciting and it's also more likely that you'll hit the prostate this way. Some guys, even those with big dicks, still have no idea where the fuck a prostate is. I've been able to cum hands free many times from being fisted. It's kind of like the male version of squirting. It's not quite cum and not quite pee, but it's a milky-dish liquid that comes out.

R7 It is prostatic fluid so it is cum but not ejaculated.

Squirting is pee.

Gross

Enjoy dragging your colon behind you when you're 50.

But on the positive side your anus will be light and flaky.

I've known some who have done a little fisting here and there and they're fine. I think it's just one of those things you don't do every day.

Back in the day, I think it was about being in the vanguard of sexual enlightenment, being a rebel, being on the cutting edge of the sexual revolution.

Now, just like that other flash-in-the-pan fad, leather, it's just tired, worn out and cliched.

I'm surprised by how semi-mainstream it's become in the past few years. Back in the day, the men you saw in fisting porno movies were disgusting looking and, now, you see bright eyed and bushy tailed 20-somethings with fresh, attractive faces in these videos.

How does a guy who enjoys having a fist shoved up his rectum ever go back to normal gay sex? After having fists shoved up his rectum, I assume a bottom would only enjoy beer can dicks or fireplug dicks or whatever we're calling those ultra-thick mambos. It's lost on me.

We are resilient,

within reason.

Do fistees really end up with deformed anuses when they grow old, or is that a myth?

I've never been fisted and don't want to but, R16, the anus are muscles that can expand and contract. I've read that an anus can open to approximately 8 or 9 inches.

It doesn't stay that way unless you do it a LOT. It should 'snap back'. It still doesn't seem like the healthiest or smartest thing to do, but it doesn't affect me personally so whatever.

The problem with pushing sexual boundaries is that, for SOME people, the goal posts will continue to be pushed back. For these people, it's a start down a road with no end in sight.

Personally, I like regular sex. I don't feel the need to try a triple somersault from the 10 meter diving board.

It extra.

This practice -- and its practitioners -- are an ABOMINATION UNTO THE LORD, POLITE SOCIETY AND HUMAN DIGNITY!

I can't imagine anybody ever even thinking about such a thing if they hadn't heard about it first.

OP, in short:

Love / Lust = Pain / Discomfort

R18 for the win

It's about experiencing the pain and joy of childbirth.

I fisted a silver-haired celebrity at the East Side Club baths in NYC in the late 90s. He brought his own paraphernalia.

OP: You left off "Alfie"

I don't get it r25. Care to explain?

It's a big fantasy of mine to one day be fisted. I just don't know if I can get there. Any advice for a beginner?

Take me there.

I agree with R27. I’m like 80% of the way there but single. Are the monogamous couples that do this? Not looking to be a life long Grindr whore.

I think it takes a lot of practice. Butt plugs help.

"Do fistees really end up with deformed anuses when they grow old, or is that a myth?"

Why the fuck are you looking at me, bitch?

I can't say I'm into it.

A pro tried to break me in with various size dildos; all I wanted to say to him the whole time was 'could we just go play air hockey or go see a movie or play wrestle? you know, AFTER you take this plastic toy out of MY BUTT?'

I craze emotional intimacy. Not a guys fingers coming up my throat via my butt.

Did you agree to dildo playing with him?

I always wondered how long it takes to go from normal butt hole to fist. I had a friend that got his sphincter torn just from a guy with a thick dick. He had to have surgery and they did something like lower the inner one down forming his main one. Sounded really painful. I cant imaging going to fast trying to take a fist and then that happens.

That whore! My watch is missing!

my first bf wanted to fist me. I had no clue what he was talking about. So he showed me a Falcon video — one of the other side of aspen movies. In the video a guy had a mini fire extinguisher shoved up his hole. I was in shock. I’ll never forget it. I can picture it as i type this.

I had a hookup do it once by slowly easing me into it. First with a butt plug, then his dick, then a big dildo, then a few of his fingers, and then his entire fist. It was the first time I ever had poppers, too. It surprised me because he was a very clean cut preppy kind of guy. I was surprised that I was able to take it. Maybe some of us just have more willing holes than others and, if a guy is hot enough and you're feeling it, you can just go with the flow. If someone goes slowly enough, it's definitely possible.

And, yes, it was quite nice, but this guy knew was he was doing.

[quote] I was surprised that I was able to take it. Maybe some of us just have more willing holes than others

OR, you are a whore Darlin.

Guilty R38

This is why you should never date a total bottom.

Sorry does nothing for me. Now you wanna eat my ass or finger it, even two or three fingers. But the whole damned fist - no thanks. And I know where the prostate gland is. So no problem there.

R33, he was showing me stuff; I had asked him too; he's helped me a lot.

typo: I crave intimacy; not craze it.

"I think it's just one of those things you don't do every day."

Wouldn't you have to, to keep things loose down there? You can't just shove things up your butthole (even a modest dildo) without practice and preparation.

I’ve done as a top a number of times and the guys seem to go off into another world. I’m not even positive the feeling is even sexual.

I’ve had it done to me because I was curious about it and I like getting my ass fingered and stretched but a fist was just uncomfortable and painful

Euphoric for hours after

Years ago, I was on the periphery of the fisting underground and attended a few fisting parties. I'd agree that it is not really sex - but it is a profound level of intimacy. The act really did nothing seually to me as the top, but I did enjoy bringing pleasure to my sexual partner.

The best explanation for the attraction was given to me by a fisting bottom: He said that the act demanded incredible trust. He knew that the top could readily punch too hard or trust his hand in the wrong way and wreck him medically, I can vouch that I could easily feel the pulse from his arteries next to my fingers. But it required the bottom to give his total trust the fister top to bring the fistee to a higher level of ecstasy than he could get from regular sex.

It's more a MindFuck than a real fuck.

Viktor Rom fisting Devin Franco.

Not using my username for this one.

Very interesting to read R46's comments about emotional intimacy. I found a guy on a hookup site once who was a dedicated fister. Being eager to try new things, I asked him if he would take me in as a beginner and teach me to be a fisting top. I really didn't want to try getting fisted at that point. This guy was almost religious about fisting. His explanation was the same as R46 - he says there is no way to be more connected to another man. I was glad to have had the opportunity to try fisting him but it really did very little for me - that connection wasn't there, and the intimacy was nowhere near the kind of intimacy I feel when I put my penis inside another man. Instead I remember thinking to myself, 'OK, my hand and forearm are inside this guy's ass, now what?'. Perhaps fisting as a top is just something you do as a duty and all the attraction is for the bottom guy?

Hoowever, I really don't expect to ever try it as a bottom, unless, I dunno, the rest of sex, and life, gets boring.

My mother always told me never to do it on a first date.

Try a hug ya freaks!

R46 has it -- but then again, all BDSM scenes demand that kind of trust from the bottom and the enjoyment of having complete control of the bottom by the top.

BTW, I (as a lesbian bottom from out-of-town) was invited by a local lesbian top to a gay BDSM dungeon in the basement of a row house in SF. This was in...hmmm...2000? I don't remember. I saw a guy in a sling being fisted by another guy. It was interesting to watch, and they had quite a passel of spectators. And although I and my hostess were soon busy in another area of the room, I never forgot the spectacle of the fisting.

Those days are long behind me, but it was fun while it lasted!

Seriously, wouldn't it be hard to keep your underwear clean for days after getting fisted? It seems like everytime you stood up from sitting, you'd leave a sloppy wet stamp on the chair, god forbid, and may he have mercy on your soul if you ate corn chowder earlier that day.

And for R26...

You're welcome.