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Single dad adopts 13-year-old who was abandoned 2 years earlier at hospital

A 13-year-old boy who was abandoned by his parents has found a forever home.

On Nov. 12, Tony Mutbazi was adopted by his foster dad, Peter Mutbazi in Charlotte, North Carolina. Tony had been in the foster care system since the age of 2, and at the age of 4, Tony was adopted by a couple in Oklahoma. No details are known about his birth parents.

"He's the nicest, smartest kid I've ever had," Mutbazi told "Good Morning America." "From day one, he's always called me 'dad.' He truly meant it and he looks up to me. He's proud to show me at school and say, 'Hey, he's my dad.' That's something that I love about him."

When he was 11, Tony's adopted parents left him at a hospital and never returned, according to Mutbazi and foster care worker Jessica Ward.

"He asked if his parents were coming to get him and they said no," Mutbazi said. "[We have] no idea why."

On Jan. 16, 2018, Mutbazi received a call from Ward asking if he could take Tony for the weekend.

Mutbazi, who's been a foster parent for three years, said he was originally supposed to have Tony stay at his home for the two days. But then he learned Tony's story.

"By that time, I was crying. I thought, 'Who would do that?'" Mutbazi said. "Once I knew the parents' rights were signed off and he had nowhere to go, I knew I had to take him."

Tony and Mutbazi have been together ever since.

Mutbazi, who grew up in Uganda, said he ran away from his abusive home at the age of 10 and found a parent figure who guided him through school.

"They became my sponsor, my family. I grew up the poor of the poorest people on the planet," Mutbazi said. "I grew up where no one told me to dream, that there was no future for me."

Matazbi eventually moved to the United States and became a citizen. He works with the nonprofit organization World Vision United States, which helps kids living in vulnerable areas. Matazbi has also fostered 12 children.

After meeting Tony, Matazbi decided to legally become his father.

"I had the room, the resources, so I had no reason to let him go," Matazbi said. "For what someone did for me I wanted to do something for someone else."

Tony's adoption was made official in a Charlotte courthouse. The moment was captured by photographer Cole Trotter among Matazbi's family and friends. Matazbi recently shared the story on how he adopted Tony with Love What Matters.

Ward, who works with Angels Foster Family Network in Edmond, Oklahoma, said she helped facilitate Tony's adoption, which was eventually finalized when Matazbi and Tony moved from Oklahoma to North Carolina.

"Tony had some issues that he was dealing with from foster care and trauma when he was abandoned, so Peter know once he took him in, that was it," Ward told "GMA." "Peter's story all around is beautiful and amazing. Because of the age Peter was when all of the things happened in his world, I feel like that's been such a connection for him and Tony."

Matazbi said he and Tony enjoy watching movies, playing board games, reading books and bicycling together.

He and Tony are looking forward to welcoming a new foster child, who will join their home in the near future.

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by Anonymousreply 83March 8, 2020 10:45 PM

This story just warms my heart.

So beautiful.

by Anonymousreply 1March 2, 2020 9:27 PM

linky done gone stinky

by Anonymousreply 2March 2, 2020 9:33 PM

Hmmmm, there's an idea . . .

by Anonymousreply 3March 2, 2020 9:33 PM

That story is terribly written. They can’t get the spelling of the family name straight.

by Anonymousreply 4March 2, 2020 9:34 PM

the gays always come to the rescue

by Anonymousreply 5March 2, 2020 9:37 PM

Bizarre how the link just disappeared only a couple minutes after it appeared, R2.

I wonder if it was receiving lots of hateful comments?

The father is black and the kid is white.

by Anonymousreply 6March 2, 2020 10:03 PM

Here's another link from Good Morning America, R2.

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by Anonymousreply 7March 2, 2020 10:04 PM

It’s nice to see a story about people being kind and compassionate.

I wish I could get at least one of these a day to offset the pervasive ugliness and contention of 2020.

by Anonymousreply 8March 2, 2020 10:09 PM

Editing is dead. The article's writer confuses adopted for adoptive and cannot spell the names consistently. That turns a heart-warming story into an aggravation.

by Anonymousreply 9March 3, 2020 2:12 AM

Very nice story, thanks for posting!

by Anonymousreply 10March 3, 2020 2:23 AM

The dad looks like a cheeky Idris Elba, and I wish the family well. What a good bloke.

by Anonymousreply 11March 3, 2020 2:26 AM

No need for that FleshJack anymore.

by Anonymousreply 12March 3, 2020 2:36 AM

Damn..I was not ready for how cute that dad is!!!

by Anonymousreply 13March 3, 2020 2:40 AM

This is not going to end well. There's a reason the original adoptive parents abandoned him.

by Anonymousreply 14March 3, 2020 2:49 AM

Sorry to be so cynical, but as inspiring as the story is, I can't help but feel a bit worried for the dad.

The kid was put in foster care at 2, adopted by a couple at 4, and at 11, the couple suddenly abandoned him at the hospital without explanation.

Warning bells anyone?

When I read that part, I was immediately reminded of those nightmare stories of people adopting Russian children and then "returning" them when the children turned out to be severely emotionally disturbed (the article states outright that the kid has "issues" stemming from his initial abandonment at age 2).

If the first adoptive parents took him in at age 4, only to abandon him again 7 years later (when he's at the cusp of puberty), then it's most likely the kid had/has serious emotional and behavioral complications that the parents didn't want to deal with when he became a teenager.

And notice that in the pic where the kid and the new adoptive dad are on a boat, the kid's body language is totally closed off (hands in lap, leaning away slightly).

The dad sounds like an amazing person, and I really do hope that this works out for the two of them (and any other children who join their family in the future).

by Anonymousreply 15March 3, 2020 2:49 AM

You're a sicko, R12.

by Anonymousreply 16March 3, 2020 3:54 AM

They will end up married in 10 years....

by Anonymousreply 17March 3, 2020 4:06 AM

I saw this the other day and right away noticed that they don't me ruin what kind of hospital the child was dropped off.

I also found it odd that the child immediately wanted to call the foster person, "Dad."

My guess is that he had some sort of attachment issue.

I do also think there's something off about the second set of parents getting rid of him after all these years, it's a red flag... But also a red flag that they did the same thing to another kid.

by Anonymousreply 18March 3, 2020 4:51 AM

*they don't mention what kind of hospital.

Damn autocorrect.

by Anonymousreply 19March 3, 2020 4:51 AM

Wait, a black guy adopts a white kid? Is that even a thing?

by Anonymousreply 20March 3, 2020 4:59 AM

Beautiful story 😢

by Anonymousreply 21March 3, 2020 5:00 AM

[quote]But also a red flag that they did the same thing to another kid.

R18, where did you read that the kid's previous adoptive parents also did it to another kid? The GMA article, as others have pointed out, is pretty badly written, so I wouldn't be surprised if I somehow missed that detail.

by Anonymousreply 22March 3, 2020 5:14 AM

R22 below is the article I read a few days ago. Just looked at the article posted above and it leaves out a lot of details.

The parents did this same thing to their other adopted son.

The article never mentioned what kind of hospital they dropped him off at which could be telling.

The boy immediately asked the foster parent if he could call him, "dad," which sorry, that's a sign something is off.

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by Anonymousreply 23March 3, 2020 5:29 AM

The foster parent should lock his door at night.

If it was me, I'd be terrified of that kid stabbing me in my sleep.

by Anonymousreply 24March 3, 2020 7:44 AM

R24 he looks more like the type that will wake him up by slurping on the bbc. Daddy issues obviously.

by Anonymousreply 25March 3, 2020 8:14 AM

The dad is hot

by Anonymousreply 26March 3, 2020 1:08 PM

Hope it ends well.

by Anonymousreply 27March 3, 2020 1:33 PM

The kid is cute. Is daddy a diddler?

by Anonymousreply 28March 3, 2020 2:01 PM

Something is up when a white kid get abandoned like that and no one else will adopt him.

White orphans are in high demand.

by Anonymousreply 29March 3, 2020 2:27 PM

Lovely story and I wish them both well. On a totally shallow note, who besides me thinks this kid looks like Patrick Mahomes' little brother? ;-)

by Anonymousreply 30March 3, 2020 2:53 PM

R29 - not white 11 year olds. Everyone wants babies.

Wait - so wouldn't the adoptive parents be charged with child abandonment? Isn't it against the law? There were a lot of parents who adopted Russian babies that turned out to be rather sociopathic. I don't remember any of them being able to send them back or give them up?

They have the names of the adoptive parents. Did the parents drop out of society? Drugs? He's great for doing this - but what happened to the adoptive parents?

by Anonymousreply 31March 3, 2020 3:06 PM

You people are sick.

by Anonymousreply 32March 3, 2020 3:29 PM

the adoptive parents could have deserted him for a reason that has nothing to do with any issues on the kid’s part.

Maybe the boy is gay and they don’t like that. Maybe they have a biological teen son who they secretly suspect of being gay and that makes them nervous. Maybe they are screaming racists and the boy is mixed race and starting to look it as he gets older.

The new adoptive dad is experienced and probably knows what he is taking on. I’m happy for them.

by Anonymousreply 33March 3, 2020 3:37 PM

R33 - but child abandonment is against the law, right? Or is it legal if you turn the child over to foster care?

by Anonymousreply 34March 3, 2020 3:40 PM

It is likely the child is gay, the original adoptive parents found out and dumped him. The new adoptive dad also reads as gay and probably was the one the agency called just for that reason.

I don’t know about Oklahoma but I know in Kansas you can surrender your child of any age at the hospital. People with mentally ill kids they can’t afford to care for regularly drive from hundreds of miles away, or at least they were at one time.

I don’t think the kid is a troubled case, he doesn’t read as one in pictures at least. All of the Instagram photos are cringeworthy though, and seem to be ads for adoption from a PR firm than snapshots of daily life.

by Anonymousreply 35March 3, 2020 3:42 PM

Maybe the adoptive parents have other kids and this kid was violent towards them. Again they don't mention what kind of hospital he was dropped off at.

by Anonymousreply 36March 3, 2020 3:43 PM

Adoptees always have issues, I wouldn't doubt this little cutie had some disturbing behaviors that scared the former adopted parents. I'd be sleeping with one eye open and a pistol beneath my pillow if I was Hot Pop.

by Anonymousreply 37March 3, 2020 3:44 PM

He doesn't "read" as troubled? Seriously? He wanted to call a random stranger he just met and was only to staybeith for 48 hours, "dad."

He's either got attachment issues or he's already extremely manipulative.

Also if his parents already did this to one of his siblings, there's no way the kid didn't know what was going on when he was being dropped off.

by Anonymousreply 38March 3, 2020 3:46 PM

The guy is an experienced foster care parent so I am sure he went into this knowing whatever issues there are. Can't be that bad if they're talking about bringing another kid into the family. I guess it means a lot to the kid's self-esteem to get adopted but if I had an older foster kid even if I loved him enough to adopt, I'd keep his foster care status and take the check from the state for his college fund. After five years that would be a nice little nest egg for him.

by Anonymousreply 39March 3, 2020 4:06 PM

He’s fucking him.

by Anonymousreply 40March 3, 2020 4:06 PM

[quote] It is likely the child is gay, the original adoptive parents found out and dumped him.

yeah, sure, that was the reason. lmao

by Anonymousreply 41March 3, 2020 4:08 PM

The experienced foster parent also had attachment issues and was in an emotionally low place at the time of taking the kid in.

by Anonymousreply 42March 3, 2020 4:11 PM

Not to be a dick, but I think the father shouldn’t take on any more foster kids. It would be better to just focus on the one child he adopted. Maybe I’m projecting my own issues, but I think the boy might feel less “special” if the father keeps taking in more kids. There could arise a dynamic where the adopted boy feels more entitled to the father’s attention and resources and feel resentful and threatened. Then he might act out against the new kid who’s taking his dad away from him.

Just a thought.

by Anonymousreply 43March 3, 2020 4:36 PM

I am friends with a married gay couple who adopted 2 young boys. The kids, now 8 & 9, were quite young when adopted and seem to be normal in all respects. My friends decided to foster an older child, same age as the other two, with an idea of eventually adopting. It only lasted a month before they had to "return" the foster kid. Taking the other boy's belongings and insisting they were now his, demanding the other boys take off their clothes so they could check each other out and explore one another, pets yelping and running to hide when they were left alone with the boy. The last straw was, as they were driving past a McDonald's, the boy begged for them to stop. When they didn't, he unbuckled his seat belt and dived into the front seat of the car, trying to grab the steering wheel and biting the driver at the same time. Adios, nut job!

by Anonymousreply 44March 3, 2020 4:59 PM

That's a shame, r44. Sadly, most kids come out of foster care deeply damaged.

by Anonymousreply 45March 3, 2020 5:01 PM

I really hate the FILTHY implications being tossed around in this thread.

You peole have filthy minds.

You couldn't even comprehend the possibility of someone genuinely wanting to help a child in need.

I agree, that you have filthy, sick and twisted minds.

by Anonymousreply 46March 3, 2020 5:20 PM

Bless your Christian heart. Wait until the kid murders the dad while asleep.

by Anonymousreply 47March 3, 2020 5:29 PM

R46, are you upset that someone floated the idea that the boy might be sexually abused?

Sadly, foster children are sexually abused quite often.

by Anonymousreply 48March 3, 2020 5:29 PM

What's a peole?

by Anonymousreply 49March 3, 2020 5:29 PM

There's only one reason a story like this is on Datalounge and it's not to inspire you old queens.

by Anonymousreply 50March 3, 2020 5:33 PM

Danger, Will Robinson! That kid can’t help but be a psycho.

by Anonymousreply 51March 3, 2020 5:40 PM

The article was probably pulled so someone could correct all the spelling errors.

by Anonymousreply 52March 3, 2020 5:46 PM

A friend of mine is fostering and intends to adopt two brothers. They came to her last year at age 11, both are doing well, but one has an issue with speaking and will only speak to people he knows well. He outright won't talk to anyone he doesn't know and it was a few months before he'd speak directly to my friend. Things are better now but the kid has a lot of anxiety issues and is very, very babyish for a near 12 year old. Both kids have been through a lot, but the one seems to have a harder time coping.

by Anonymousreply 53March 3, 2020 5:50 PM

There’s no indication I see that the foster dad is gay or I missed it, but let’s say he is. The comment ...

[quote] the gays always come to the rescue

... is actually making a good point.

We are here to help raise others biological children, and other good things that society needs. That is why even though gays do not reproduce, and we do not pass down our genes, we do not evolve out of existence but exist in every generation and in every society.

We serve an important function for our species. Respect.

by Anonymousreply 54March 3, 2020 5:53 PM

There’s no indication I see that the foster dad is gay or I missed it, but let’s say he is. The comment ...

[quote] the gays always come to the rescue

... is actually making a good point.

We are here to help raise others biological children, and other good things that society needs. That is why even though gays do not reproduce, and we do not pass down our genes, we do not evolve out of existence but exist in every generation and in every society.

We serve an important function for our species. Respect.

by Anonymousreply 55March 3, 2020 5:53 PM

I LOVE foster care! If it wasn't for foster care we wouldn't have PORN STARS!!!

by Anonymousreply 56March 3, 2020 5:54 PM

[quote]That is why even though gays do not reproduce, and we do not pass down our genes,

r54/55, every gay and lesbian parent I know have reproduced biological offspring.

by Anonymousreply 57March 3, 2020 6:02 PM

Threads like this prove that DL will never die.

by Anonymousreply 58March 4, 2020 4:20 AM

[quote]When he was 11, Tony's adopted parents left him at a hospital and never returned

Parents can do that?

by Anonymousreply 59March 4, 2020 9:00 PM

"We serve an important function for our species. Respect."

@r55

Why should we have any specific function that benefits society as a whole to feel worthy of respect?

Also, Uganda is one of those places, infested with evangelicals who want gay men/lesbians dead. I think the dad is gay, the son will be in good hands (I really hope).

Those of you suggesting anything improper are nothing less than feral and really need to get back to the basics of life.

by Anonymousreply 60March 4, 2020 9:26 PM

Hopefully someone is keeping an eye on these two. Remember those murderous cunts, Jennifer and Sarah Hart? They were wonderful warm people who took the kids no one else wanted. And abused them mercilessly. It looked great from the outside...

by Anonymousreply 61March 5, 2020 8:57 AM

The fact that he called him daddy right away? .. They’re clearly fucking...

by Anonymousreply 62March 5, 2020 9:11 AM

[quote]Adoptees always have issues, I wouldn't doubt this little cutie had some disturbing behaviors that scared the former adopted parents.

I can’t believe the bias here about adopting. Sure, foster kids have issues but that’s why foster parents are trained to deal with them. I’m currently fostering two boys that I’m planning on adopting. Yes, they have issues but we’re working through them. They don’t speak but I’m making progress. I have to teach them manners, how to behave in restaurants, how not to kill animals, how to sit still on flights but it’s because they never had those experiences before. They are adorable even though they like to stare. I always wake up with them staring at me. I think it’s because they’re hungry. One time they lined knives all around my bed. They sure wanted me to get up and chop their favorite veggies for pizza rolls. I love my hungry boys and will only feed them the best.

by Anonymousreply 63March 5, 2020 10:02 PM

Before adopting, always verify the age of the child in question. Always.

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by Anonymousreply 64March 5, 2020 10:36 PM

[quote] Why should we have any specific function that benefits society as a whole to feel worthy of respect?

You’re young, aren’t you?

by Anonymousreply 65March 7, 2020 4:00 AM

Well , at least hes not a 38 year old Ukranian devil dwarf ! Sorry , but my very first thought on seeing their instagram is they are indeed fucking . That could very well be Im a cynical old misanthrope ,but Im usually not wrong so...

by Anonymousreply 66March 8, 2020 3:49 AM

Link to their instagram?

by Anonymousreply 67March 8, 2020 5:17 AM

Theres nothing strange about this story for anyone who's dealt with adoption. My aunt works as a social worker and the truth is most children adopted late in infancy develop issues. Many parents simply don't know how to deal with it and try to return the child. It's a very common problem.

by Anonymousreply 68March 8, 2020 8:34 AM

[quote]Sorry , but my very first thought on seeing their instagram is they are indeed fucking .

A thief thinks everyone steals.

by Anonymousreply 69March 8, 2020 8:37 AM

I does look like porn 😂

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by Anonymousreply 70March 8, 2020 8:39 AM

R70 Oh god it does look like one of those attention seeking instahoe couple pages.

by Anonymousreply 71March 8, 2020 8:47 AM

Why is he putting his dirty shoes on his bed? 👞 🛌

by Anonymousreply 72March 8, 2020 8:50 AM

Linky stinky. Shitty writing. Yahoo. Heartwarming race-blind story of kindness. Dafuq is DL becoming? Did I mention YAHOO!!!!

by Anonymousreply 73March 8, 2020 9:03 AM

[quote]Hopefully someone is keeping an eye on these two. Remember those murderous cunts, Jennifer and Sarah Hart? They were wonderful warm people who took the kids no one else wanted. And abused them mercilessly. It looked great from the outside...

They were also annoying virtue signalers

by Anonymousreply 74March 8, 2020 10:42 AM

R69 nailed it!

And poor R63. He's probably already chopped up into pieces.

by Anonymousreply 75March 8, 2020 11:31 AM

Yeah, this guy is getting off on being a do-gooder. His whole identity is wrapped up in being the Savior of the Wretched Unwanted. It’s sinister.

by Anonymousreply 76March 8, 2020 11:48 AM

R76 is just jealous he didn't think of it first.

Sicko perv.

by Anonymousreply 77March 8, 2020 11:58 AM

Sadly, foster kids or targets of pedos, just like dumb single mothers. Lambs to the slaughter.

by Anonymousreply 78March 8, 2020 12:51 PM

^are targets

by Anonymousreply 79March 8, 2020 12:51 PM

[quote]Many parents simply don't know how to deal with it and try to return the child. It's a very common problem

Most don't return the child 10 years after adopting them.

by Anonymousreply 80March 8, 2020 6:39 PM

R69 the last time I wanted to fuck a 13 year old I WAS a 13 year old. Something just doesnt feel right with these two,and time will tell .

by Anonymousreply 81March 8, 2020 6:49 PM

R81, I get the same bad vibes. I don’t think it’s necessarily sexual, but it could be! I’m the one who thinks it’s virtue-signaling, which is often a cover for wrongness. This child isn’t a person to him; he’s a means for approval and backpats. It’s gross.

by Anonymousreply 82March 8, 2020 8:21 PM

I doubt they're having sex you guys. The dad may be a bit of a famewhore, but that doesn't mean he's having sex with his adopted son.

by Anonymousreply 83March 8, 2020 10:45 PM
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