Hookups that turned scary or dangerous
Have you ever genuinely felt unsafe during a hookup?
True story: back in 2009 or 2010, I connected with that hairy middle eastern guy on growlr. He looked hot and so we agreed to meet at my place. An hour later, he showed up at my doorstep and i welcomed him inside (i only had a towel around my waist as i was just out of the shower). As we were on our way to the bedroom, he jumped on me from behind and started restraining me. I didn't expect that at all so my heart jumped to 150 bps. I thought this guy was going to rob me, rape me or worse. He started to kiss my neck and ears, and saying things like that how i liked it. He was stronger than me, I felt powerless. He was also holding me with his arm around my neck, so it took me a few seconds before i could tell him to slow down. He pushed me onto the bed, and dropped his pants. I was recuperating from the previous terror when he jumped on me again and directly tried to fuck me in the ass. He was super hard, and it hurt, but fortunately there was no way I was going to take him like that, with no lube and preparation. I also was scared of catching something from him so I pleaded for him to put a condom and some lube (i had some in my drawer). That's when he got up, released me and said "no problem", with a nice voice. He also asked me if I was ok and if i was enjoying myself. The sudden nice behavior made me wonder if he was high or something. He told me he loved role-playing. As he was ready to fuck again, this time with a lubed rubber, I asked him to be gentle. That must have triggered him because that's when he started to be rough again. He got inside me by force, in a brutal way, and started to fuck me hard. I was like WTF. I tried to push him back, but he was on top, and more powerful. I couldn't get his dick outside me. He could see my struggle, and seemed turned on by it. The whole thing was terrifying. And between his overpowering me, and the pain in my butt (his dick was thick and hard), I felt it impossible to fight back, so I eventually gave in entirely. All along, he kept saying this is how I liked it, and had me say it. But really, i was in pain, terrified and humiliated. Eventually he pulled out, took off the condom and finished on my back. He jacked me off until i came. Then he turned into mister nice again. He spent the next 20 minutes cuddling with me as i was recovering (frankly, my head was still spinning), and asking me if I had enjoyed it. He again told me that he loved role-playing. It was super confusing. I think this is what sex meant to this guy. Some kind of brutal transaction. I was happy when left the house. Several weeks later he tried to hook up with me again, but I didn't want to go through the same ordeal. So I made up the story that my bf was back in town and that i couldn't play. He said he understood and never contacted me again. He was visiting from LA, i was in the bay area. Never saw him again. Needless to say that this episode changed my outlook on hookup apps. I used then much much less after that.
| by Anonymous | reply 34 | March 5, 2020 2:38 AM
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I'm sorry you were raped, OP. You're not alone.
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | February 27, 2020 8:03 AM
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OP the same thing happened to a friend of mine but the guy was teacher in another school, not middle eastern, and he liked to roll play being a nazi and when he overpowered my friend he tied him up and cut off his dick and ate it and then he killed my friend. True story!
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | February 27, 2020 8:07 AM
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Back in the day I had this guy constantly hitting me up online begging to suck me off, and eventually I gave in and went over to his place to let him suck my dick. Immediately after he busted his nut he got up off his knees, sat on the side of the bed, put his head in his hands and goes, "Oh man...this is when the guilt sets in." It caught me really off-guard and I remember getting really nervous for a few seconds thinking to myself, "Oh shit, is this also where you rage kill me to try and reconcile what you just did?" I got the fuck outta there and never went back. Apparently he was a religious nutter butter.
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | February 27, 2020 9:29 AM
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OP, he sounds like a psychopath who was gaslighting you.
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | February 27, 2020 9:54 AM
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Went to hook up with someone from online. Got there and it was a sex party with tweakers. I tried to leave and they wouldn't let me. I eventually overpowered him and ran out. It was a gorgeous apartment too.
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | February 27, 2020 10:02 AM
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R3 That has more to do with his dopamine receptors depleting and not recalibrating post-orgasm which can lead to some feeling drained, anxious, guilty, or even grotesque after orgasming. His religious indoctrination might lead him to mistake it for his special friend judging him.
| by Anonymous | reply 6 | February 27, 2020 10:05 AM
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Had group and one of the participants posted clips of it on his Twitter. We all thought he was reading something on his phone. The next day a friend called and said he recognized my bedroom.
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | February 27, 2020 11:35 AM
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OP do you have his contact info. Sounds hit!
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | February 27, 2020 11:47 AM
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I could never let a middle-eastern terrorist in my home. You got what you deserved.
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | February 27, 2020 11:51 AM
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This is why i only have sex with my friends.
| by Anonymous | reply 10 | February 27, 2020 11:55 AM
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Hookups have never turned scary or dangerous
for me.
| by Anonymous | reply 11 | February 27, 2020 11:58 AM
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R1 seems to be the kind of person who waved at the trains heading for Auschwitz shouting, "You're not alone!"
What kind of shallow creep posts like that?
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | February 27, 2020 11:59 AM
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I was always so afraid of a bad situation that I made absolutely certain I never allowed anyone into my home I did not have a long history with.
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | February 27, 2020 12:03 PM
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I've only had two scary ones. One was a guy much younger than me - 23 or so - came to my hotel room, we fucked, it was awesome. We cuddled a bit afterward, then he didn't want to leave, yet I had work the next morning, so I had to start being pushy about him leaving. He started having this weird meltdown like - WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS? I FELT A CONNECTION? All that. I basically tried to politely say "We met on Grindr. The connection was 30 minutes of fucking. I like you. It was fun, but now it's over." He would not leave until I threatened to call the cops. Obviously I immediately blocked him on Grindr but - surprise- he showed up the next morning knocking on my hotel door at 6:00 a.m. I was so freaked out. I got out, and thank god I did not live in that town. I'm sure at this point he probably has bodies buried in his yard.
| by Anonymous | reply 14 | February 27, 2020 12:20 PM
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The other guy was also a Grindr hookup who supposedly was a bottom. Once he came over, he wanted to top me as well, which I don't do. When I refused, he also tried to force me down with some weird fantasy shit. "Every top secretly wants to get fucked by my big dick." That's probably true, but not me. First, I need "prep time" if I'm going to bottom, and second, I wasn't very into the guy, so no way bottoming would have worked. He did not see it that way at all, and it turned into a full-on attack, with me assuming I was about to get beat up and/or violently raped. He was very muscular and fit - clearly a major athlete with rage issues. Once I got loud and he could tell others would hear, he caved in, made some threats then left. Those are the only 2 bad ones out of many. Yes, I was a whore, darlin'
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | February 27, 2020 12:28 PM
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R12 You've lost your mind.
| by Anonymous | reply 16 | February 27, 2020 1:15 PM
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These scenes sound hot to me. But to each his own.
| by Anonymous | reply 17 | February 27, 2020 1:25 PM
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One time many years ago I went home with a tall, dirty blonde, straight-acting man from the bar. We sat on his couch and he brought out a couple of drinks from the kitchen. After a couple sips I started to feel weird and woozy. As I watched him walk toward his tool chest to retrieve some kind of tool, I realized I’d been drugged and immediately pushed my fingers down my throat to induce vomiting. I then picked up a large vase on the coffee table and smashed it over his head as he was bent over the tool chest and ran out. I went back the next weekend but asked only to be served a sealed beer. He let me suck his dick but it had a nasty smell like it had been in near dead, rotting meat. I went ahead and sucked him off to completion anyway, and sucked down every last drop. (He was hot.) He then pissed all over me to “clean his pipes” and I got up and went back to the bus stop. I went back in another couple weeks for more but his door was sealed and had yellow police tape on it. I’ll never know what happened to him but he was the hottest blow job ever.
| by Anonymous | reply 19 | February 27, 2020 8:44 PM
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r19 you met Jeffrey Dahmer?
| by Anonymous | reply 20 | February 27, 2020 9:27 PM
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R19. Wait .. you went BACK!?!? 🤣🤣🤣
| by Anonymous | reply 21 | February 27, 2020 9:56 PM
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R19 is insane. I can't imagine anyone going back.
| by Anonymous | reply 22 | February 28, 2020 12:45 AM
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You fucking liked it bitch bottom op! Stop gloating!
| by Anonymous | reply 23 | February 28, 2020 12:46 AM
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R22 do you seriously not recognize that story line? You thought he was being serious?
Good grief, people
| by Anonymous | reply 25 | February 28, 2020 12:49 AM
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DLers are more idiotic every day.
| by Anonymous | reply 26 | February 28, 2020 1:22 AM
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I was at the Parliament House motel, Orlando, FL and the guy ass up in his room with the door opened beckoned me inside and it was MIKE PENCE. EEEkkk.
| by Anonymous | reply 27 | February 28, 2020 1:36 AM
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"He jacked me off until i came."
aaaand FAIL
| by Anonymous | reply 28 | February 28, 2020 1:40 AM
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Learn to state all of your rules and what you are and are not into before meeting everyone. It prevents situations like these.
| by Anonymous | reply 29 | February 28, 2020 1:46 AM
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My bff & i were house sitting for a friend. The house was a block away from a gay bar & next to the gay bar was a lowlife bar (lots of fights between the two bars.) anyway, i stayed in but my friend went to the gay bar but came home with a drunk ‘straight’ guy from the other bar. They fucked. They crashed. The next morning ( after i came back from a run ) my bff had locked himself in a bathroom & the place was trashed, things stolen. When they woke up, the trade freaked out & wanted to kill my friend. Police were called , the guy was busted, & we lost a friend (the homeowner) this was in the early 90’s
| by Anonymous | reply 30 | February 28, 2020 2:11 AM
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R30 you missed out on a chance for a hot 3-some
| by Anonymous | reply 31 | February 29, 2020 8:05 PM
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Bump. Give us your best EST bitches!
| by Anonymous | reply 32 | March 1, 2020 2:05 PM
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R25 get a sense of humor.
| by Anonymous | reply 34 | March 5, 2020 2:38 AM
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