I have a fairly visible neck scar from a major throat surgery I had which runs the span of half the front of my neck, and up one side; the scarring was terrible at the time, but I was able to get laser therapy on it which helped smooth it out, but it's still very visible. I have another scar on my chest from open-heart surgery, which is thin and clean, but also very noticeable. In all honesty, I try to wear them as badges of honor most of the time, but there are moments where I get very self-conscious about them, especially when I notice people are blatantly staring at them. I can never really tell if they are repulsed or just fascinated about what happened, but it does make me wonder if they are a major turn-off to people in general.
No, wouldn't bother me.
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | February 11, 2020 8:35 AM |
Only if they are from sex change surgery.
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | February 11, 2020 8:40 AM |
Yes, especially the one most American men live with that was inflicted on them as infants.
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | February 11, 2020 8:50 AM |
Well, I suppose at least I have that going for me R3
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | February 11, 2020 8:55 AM |
They are a great conversation topic about "battle wounds". People underestimate the bonding potential of sharing funny or serious stories about accidents which left physical scars.
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | February 11, 2020 9:04 AM |
Facelift scars and the like are unattractive. Scars from non-elective surgeries are fine, sometimes sexy.
| by Anonymous | reply 6 | February 11, 2020 9:30 PM |
No. I don’t think so. I have one up the back of my leg from a surgery when I was a kid and I don’t even think about it. Never stopped me getting laid.
My sister nannied for a family of four, and not one of those kids ever went to the ER for anything. No broken bones, stitches, nothing. I feel sorry for kids who are that sheltered and inactive. BORING.
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | February 11, 2020 9:49 PM |
My roommate (female, witch) in the East Village in the 80s had a blond lanky artboy boyfriend. He had a violent scar across 3/4 of his face and altogether it was gorgeous. But of course his face was handsome and dreamy anyway. But the scar punched it up into sublime.
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | February 11, 2020 10:02 PM |
A scar certainly wouldn't be a deal breaker or even repulse me, OP. And anyone for whom it would be probably isn't someone you'd wanna be close to I'd imagine.
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | February 11, 2020 10:22 PM |
Don't worry about it, OP. Anyone worth knowing doesn't mind.
| by Anonymous | reply 10 | February 11, 2020 10:24 PM |
Had a brief fling with a guy from Wisconsin, living in Manhattan, who had a large scar running from his chest down to his side and over his back. It was from surgery he had having being stabbed multiple times when he walked into his apartment in Hells kitchen one nice in the 1980s. Made me want to protect him.
Bradon wherever you are, hope life has been good to you.
| by Anonymous | reply 11 | February 11, 2020 10:40 PM |
No, not at all. I would welcome the conversation on how it happened and then who gives a shit.
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | February 11, 2020 10:41 PM |
Not at all. They’re surgical scars, not a bad rhinoplasty.
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | February 11, 2020 10:52 PM |
I use to hate the couple of scars that I had on my chest from when I was younger. Then a couple of years ago I had my appendix removed and the scar from that on my naval doesn’t bother me at all. I think I’ve grown past caring.
A friend of mine has scars on his arm and thighs from when he was on fire during a mishap in his youth. I find them sexy. Certainly doesn’t bother me.
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | February 11, 2020 11:01 PM |
I have 6 surgical scars. They were repairs on the road of life. They're a good reminder that if I didn't have them, I wouldn't be telling you about them today.
| by Anonymous | reply 16 | February 11, 2020 11:15 PM |
R14 I never knew Liz had a tracheotomy
| by Anonymous | reply 17 | February 12, 2020 2:56 AM |
R17 Please surrender your gay card at the door.
| by Anonymous | reply 18 | February 12, 2020 3:06 AM |
scars are great. they are sexy. it means you've lived, suffered. it means you are human.
you wouldn't be "you" without them.
| by Anonymous | reply 19 | February 12, 2020 3:17 AM |
Lol sorry R18, I've seen several of her movies but am not well-versed in her life. I'm more of a Lana Turner gay
| by Anonymous | reply 20 | February 12, 2020 3:33 AM |
OP you need to construct an interesting dueling story to go with your neck scar to make it more interesting.
| by Anonymous | reply 21 | February 12, 2020 3:37 AM |
OP you need to construct an interesting dueling story to go with your neck scar to make it more interesting.
| by Anonymous | reply 22 | February 12, 2020 3:37 AM |
Not a turn off. It endears me to people cause it's a hard life.
| by Anonymous | reply 23 | February 12, 2020 3:38 AM |
Dick scars from being cut are gross.
| by Anonymous | reply 24 | February 12, 2020 3:59 AM |