Edging

I consider edging to be more about "self love", not being jacked off

Yes, it's the only way I jerk off. I don't jerk off that often, so when I do, it better be an A+ ordeal.

And Merry Christmas to you Bootsy!

I love edging. Picked it up rather late (early 30s). Can be unreal if done well. As above, I think of it as more masturbation but I would like to try being edged by someone who knows it well.

Are the gays no longer giving each other handjobs? This news saddens me.

Thank you r3!

Are you kidding me? Is there any other way? I edge for at least 4 hours when I beat off. And that's only because that's usually all the time I have in the day.

I still don’t get why men edge themselves. When I masturbate I want the pay-off right away. It’s only when I give or get a handjob that it’s exciting to me. It’s me teasing or denying, or being teased/denied.

Two ways I'll start squirting like crazy. One is if a guy really turns me on, the other is if I edge one out.

It can be intense:

Bump as I’ve been getting really into it, lately. Never gave it the kink thought before lockdown and all that; guess the opportunity of isolation, frustration and boredom set off a switch and pushed me to try it out. I’m naturally curious and can go long periods without sex, anyway, so I’m naturally wired for it some ways.

Have been slowly working up to longer periods of tease & denial since the start of summer. My method: to keep myself aroused I edge at least three times daily (preferably more) without climax, with at least two of those edges to be done manually without proper toys or water/electric aid. I allow myself to use visual or verbal stimulation whenever I want, but I don’t put on porn as a strict routine (it can break the brain, and tends to worsen my depression). Sometimes I change it up from just watching or reading, and listen to erotic hypnosis or to mature audiobooks - amazing what people record and put on the Internet these days. If that doesn’t do it I go to bdsmlr chat, or add a few little creative sensations using household items in the vicinity (this forces one to be very creative - think elastic band snaps, wax drips, menthol rubs etc.).

Personally I find the practise of edging process itself quite a challenge, which is part of the appeal. I can soft edge -gentle masturbation that gives pleasure but no threat of orgasm - easy to do, especially as I’m reading or bathing or watching shows. Hard edges though live up to their name, and I find it a big effort of concentration and focus to get really close to coming but hold off on climax. If I do accidentally go over, as I have done once before, I make sure to stop all stimulation as I come and hold myself still while breathing deep and evenly. It’s a kind of punishment and a saving throw if I accidentally climax to not enjoy it fully.

As I type I am on the first evening of my first five-day stretch, and a little nervous about what to expect this time around. Two days was easy and barely more than a little kick to my system, and I think anyone not literally addicted to sex could halfheartedly do it; three was a bit tiring and called for a little exertion if willpower, but still quite manageable; the four-day stint, however, was a challenge. On day four I was shocked when I woke up from a non-erotic dream to see myself automatically humping my comforter, and cried when I realised I would have to proceed through my day horny as hell with shaking legs and hyperaware of any touch on my skin. All I could think about in that 24 hours was sex, and this is a big deal as I have very low libido normally. Even with a shower I felt I reeked of sex. When in private at any time during that day i.e., in a bathroom or my bedroom, I would be panting and rubbing up against something. On night four I didn’t even sleep, just stayed up vibrating with tension and what felt like a ‘tantra orgasm’ (soft slow powerful waves of tingling washing over my body & mind) until around daybreak, when I went for it and just came with barely any touch. The end was quite an anticlimax, but apparently it’s normal for denial orgasms to be disappointing for beginners because the huge floods of dopamine over days fades away with a little burst of oxytocin that doesn’t compare in strength.

It’s an awakening and a rush to self-deny if you aren’t usually someone who needs and seeks a lot of sex, or if you’re someone who doesn’t centre it in your life. It’s also a boost to the willpower, at least temporarily (beware post-orgasm slumps and depressions, though). If you’re very active in the sack or a bit of horndog, though, I think for it to have any worthwhile arousing effect then you’d need to directly and explicitly give someone else (consenting) like a Dom/me control of teasing and keeping you denied.

Love it in porn more than in real life.

Hate it.

Edging is stupid.

Whenever I used to see ads for edging on Craigslist or Grindr, I immediately ignored them.

I'm more of a go with the flow type of person. Cum when you're ready to cum.

Edging is annoying. I want instant gratification.

If you want to torture yourself, then be my guest. I just won't be a part of it.

[quote]listen to erotic hypnosis

R9 What is erotic hypnosis, please?

R12 basically, recorded tracks that blend low-wave barely-audible binaural trance-inducing sounds (some of them quite spooky or scary) with narration calming and guiding you into a suggestible state enough to imprint a temporary idea i.e., you will not come until such-and-such a time no matter what you do.

It’s risky - you have either be very sure or have faith that you aren’t being brainwashed for something else - and honestly doesn’t work for a majority of people. It helps to be a relaxed, open-minded person with flexible boundaries to have it work optimally.

You can find any number of free recordings in this vein online, but proceed to listen only with utmost caution and some preliminary research.

Edging is fucking annoying and I get bored and want to go home. Just spread you legs and let me fuck you bitch.

R6 Until you experience it, you'll not fully understand. It provides one with a state of hyper-arousal, and feelings different to regular sexual arousal and release. Testosterone builds, as do levels of endorphins to create a high. It's rather difficult to describe, yet worth the time and self-control involved.

BTW, Sounds like an excellent technique Gumdrop.