Lisa Whelchel and her gay ex-husband

I am curious too. Good topic OP!

This thread is useless without pictures.

It was her father:

Lisa, a born-again Christian, was just 25 when her father decided it was time for her to get married. He even chose Steve, the much-older associate pastor of their church, to be her suitor.

In her 2001 book, “The Facts of Life,” Lisa wrote that she felt pressured to marry Steve after their engagement was an­nounced in front of the entire congregation – even though she says she hadn’t accepted any of his proposals. Feeling she had no way out, Lisa went through with the wedding, despite admitting she was never attracted to Steve. They tied the knot just two months after her hit TV show ended in 1988.

The family moved to Lantana, Texas, from Sherman Oaks, Calif., in 2006.

“Lisa and Steve’s marriage was doomed even before they said their ‘I do’s’ and it just got worse as time went by,” said a family friend.

“Over the years, she realized she never loved Steve the way she should have as his wife and it affected the way she treated him.”

Lisa finally filed for divorce in Den­ton County, Texas, in December 2011. But in a strange twist, the records have been sealed and only a hand­ful of the couple’s closest friends and family members even know about the split!

While no public records of the divorce ex­ist, The ENQUIRER obtained property docu­ments which show that the couple started the process to change the ownership status of their marital home in December 2011.

And in May, the deed for a home Steve bought in north Dallas shows he made the purchase as a “single man.” Lisa currently lives in a three-bedroom apartment only a few minutes away.

“Their divorce has been in the works for years,” added the family insider.“Lisa waited to file until their youngest child turned 19 and went away to college.

“It was a quick, non-contested divorce, and it took only months to finalize.”

The 25th season of “Survivor” kicked off on Sept. 19, and Lisa has said it was the hardest thing she’s ever done – and that she wouldn’t do it again!

“She’s hoping that being on the show will kick-start her career,” added the insider. “She wants to move back to L.A. full time – as a single woman – and get back into acting.”

Thank you, MIndy, for posting this.

It is funny how they look like the perfect lesbian couple whenever she takes a picture with Nancy McKeon.

R4, yours was the most R1 response I've ever read. Bravo!

I remember when the LWT would post links to her blogs, and before Lisa and her husband separated, it was clear she was on the crazy train heading for a mental breakdown (locking herself in her prayer closet?!).

Though Doth Protest Too Much ..........

Lisa IS a Lesbian.

I hope not since she is engaged again. I hope she has a happy marriage this time. It would not surprise me to find out she is bi, though. She does ping a lot at times.

How can she have an ex-husband since their precious Bible doesn't allow divorce? How? How?

This famous and gorgeous Hollywood star was forced into an arranged marriage. She has to harbor lots of anger, which is a complicated emotion when you otherwise love your father.

Nobody held a gun to her head. She made her own choices. Sheesh!

[quote]“Over the years, she realized she never loved Steve the way she should have as his wife and it affected the way she treated him.”

Well, she has three children. So either she tolerated him three times or she closed her eyes and thought of Jesus.

R3 makes me glad I refused to go to church after age 10

When the world never seems to be living up to your dream.

When you're raised in a fundamentalist Christian household, the kids are essentially brain-washed and that inculcated fear and shame and blind obedience carries over into adulthood. Lisa was essentially a Duggar girl.

R14 who allows a 10-year old decide what to do?

Lisa wasn’t attracted to her husband so she had to use Creative Erection, in bookstores now.

R17 I was a very bitchy and assertive child. And my parents were occasional churchgoers, on average once a month. If I'd been raised by fundamentalists, I'd never have made it to kindergarten.

OP, if you think anger is an "un-Christian" emotion, you have no idea what being a Christian is.

cant stand her, alwys seemed fake as fug

Most girls raised in fundamentalist families are inculcated with the belief that anger is an unChristian emotion.

Lisa is very pro-gay and even blasted churches over their homophobia. She said she understood why gays have turned away from church.

"I think it would be surprising to a lot of people that, unless I’m just totally not aware of it, Hollywood has really respected my beliefs. I’m sure there were some parts that I wasn’t offered, but that’s OK. I don’t feel like I had any backlash because of it.”

She takes responsibility for her beliefs and opinions, and asked for a few reasonable compromises when she was on TFoL. If only all religious performers were like her, rather than whining about persecution and playing the martyr.

I think Gays turned away from the church after it became quite clear that the church had turned away from Gays

R24 who could you be talking about????

R22, how would you know? Are you one? This is a genuine query.

A good friend in high school was. She was trapped, I was trapped as a gayling, so we shared a bond.

I’m not R22 but every blog on Patheos written by an ex fundamentalist woman has posts about the pressure on women to conform to gender stereotypes. Part of that they say was being a perma smiling, happy, obedient, “positive” woman. Anger was not something women were ever to express or show.

I've shared my Lisa Whelchel story here before, so forgive me if it's a repeat for you. My husband's parents were very good friends of Lisa's aunt and uncle. Several years ago, right after Lisa and her family moved back to Texas, her aunt and uncle celebrated their 50th anniversary with a huge party, to which my husband and I accompanied his mother. Lisa, Steve, and the kids were all there. Lisa spent most of her time visiting with family and friends. I really wanted to speak to her, but there was always a circle of people around her. I was basically a stranger to everyone there but my husband and his mother, so I was too uncomfortable to approach her. But from a distance, she seemed to be very down-to-earth and personable. I don't remember getting a gay vibe from Steve, but again I didn't interact with them. I just observed them from across the room.

I don’t know, but she was pissed when he came on my tits

Hope she got custody of that sweet doggie.

Why do hardcore Christian families like Lisa's get their kids involved in Hollywood?

I wonder what it's like for the kids to know "You exist because Grandpa decreed it"

How do we know the exhaust and is gay? Is he out or is he just pinging.

Exhaust is so gay! R35 She’s exhausted by pronouns. She can’t with you right now

She admitted on a television show that if she could go back then she would’ve never married him. That’s really sad.

Arranged marriages are pretty sad.

She wouldn't have the kids with the weird names if she hadn't married the exhaust.

I hate kids with weird names.

R33, I'm guessing they like the cash. Still crazy though.

I have to poop

This you must see. Video of Steve. He is undoubtedly a five alarm flaming homosexual. How could she ( as well as anyone in the world around them) possibly have not known? Very bizarre indeed...

omg he gayer than gomer pyle.

Well, R28, R29, I am fortunate that this was not my upbringing. My original point stands. If that's what they or anyone else thinks Christian life is, for women or men, they are sorely mistaken to say the least.

I love that his file folders create the GAY flag......

What's the son been up to?

Uncle Justice sure was a hottie.

And he never let TGIFridays down while they were so kind as to employ him.

His mama raised him right!

Wow., R43. Steve makes Truman Capote sound butch

A woman!

I seem to recall reading on her blog that as a child her family wasn’t especially religious and she joined some whack fundie church on her own as a teen. And it was her pastor who pressured her to marry Steve. She probably just really needed to get laid instead of married.

Jesus Christ

Steve is gayer than Christmas! 🎄

Lisa is a grandma!

Is Haven the ugly middle child or the youngest daughter who seemed to be angling for a life of drug addiction and bisexuality.

Does anyone know anything about her fiance? I cursory look over her IG and google search doesn't reveal much other than he's a doctor.

That's awful what happened to Lisa. Very sad. I'm sorry her holier-than-thou family screwed up her life. The shame in this belongs to her parents for manipulating Lisa.

Haven is the older daughter, R55. She bears a strong resemblance to Lisa's mom.

Sorry to hear about how Lisa was used and manipulated.

Perhaps her parents or their religious community or even her ex-husband chose to ignore the signs. Perhaps they believe that getting married suddenly turns someone heterosexual. Perhaps this guy decided to suppress his own feelings. Whatever it was, Lisa ended up suffering and being used. She's the victim here.

I hope she finds true love and happiness.

R56, her fiance is a psychologist in Nashville. I believe he's divorced. He has a young son, about 6-7 years old.

Chili & Sea Bass...Where’s the chili?

[quote]Where’s the chili?

You never need ask on a Lisa Whelchel thread

I wonder if she cringes at the thought of her old Christian Mom blog.

Who the hell is Lisa Whelchel? I must be WAY too old for this train...OK OK I'll get off now :)

^ Or too young.

It's Chilean sea bass. Chilean referring to country of Chile.

R64: only Americans have heard of her

r66 -- whoooosh! It's a reference to a hilarious blog she posted about how she and her mother ruined an entire group's biking tour vacation.

The Blair Necessities was a mockery companion blog to Lisa's earnest prayer closet blog. They'd analyze and deconstruct all of her posts.

He's the kinda guy who'd order a mulled wine, heavy on the cinnamon, light on the cloves.

R69 every now and again I revisit Blair Necesseties. It NEVER gets old!

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We’ve only heard Lisa’s side of the story. No one knows what goes on in a marriage behind closed doors.

Of course, Datalounge is quick to vilify the gay man even though none of us have heard from him.

R73 is Lisa's homosex ex. It's hard for him to type with 17 purses flying out of his mouth.

[quote]Of course, Datalounge is quick to vilify the gay man even though none of us have heard from him.

From? Verified gay man? Please tell us a little more about your sources.

R69 Thank you! I'm still cry/laughing! Never heard of this person and now I can't get enough!

In celebration of the Fourth of July holiday, I thought I’d share a personal story of freedom.

Oh, god, you're killing us already, lady!!! Please, make it sto...

I was recently tempted in an area that I thought was behind me.

Wha? Without the use of the Bible (unabridged or Readers' Digest version), she has instantly redeemed herself. Now, what could she be talking about? Our first three thoughts, in this order, were 1.) drugs, 2.) lesbianism and 3.) well, we really only had those two thoughts.

It started with a dream. I woke up the next morning and said to myself, "Where did that come from?" I knew it came straight from hell but I was surprised that my subconscious let it get through to my dream life.

Speaking of straight from hell, this entry has gone in record time from terrible to terribly intriguing to no one gives a shit about anyone else's dreams. Still, what could she be talking about?

From that point on, old feelings began to resurface in an area that I had been successful at subduing for years. I didn't want the feelings but they grew stronger and stronger. I could look at them objectively and see the lie and reject the promptings but the compulsion was so strong. I began to contemplate ways to give in a little to the temptation without actually "sinning." One idea, in particular, seemed perfect. On the outside it looked perfectly innocent but I knew on the inside it was a step down a path that would only lead to trouble.

I still want to know about ^.

Clearly, she was fighting her lesbianic feelings.

Lisa's dream

Dr. Pete Harris is another one who looks like he is sniffing fresh baked cookies.

Who knew Lisa would be our new Judy/Liza?

Was Judy/Liza tempted by women?

[quote]Dr. Pete Harris is another one who looks like he is sniffing fresh baked cookies.

Is that it? I just thought he looked picture-dictionary creepy. His eyes are just... "Off" somehow?

Well, OF COURSE, Lisa would hook up with a psychologist! I mean, c'mon........

Did Lisa write that the ex was gay? Where's the proof. Except for the video of course.

Yes, we must have EVIDENCE before we can ACCUSE somebody of being gay! How very dare we?!? 🙄

Who is Dr Pete Harris? I'm trying to keep up with this thread but you guys keep losing me! I tried googling but that was no help! R69

And again they look like the perfect lesbian couple.

I am now wondering if Lisa is suppressing her attraction to women. What if she gets married and the dreams start back?

"Collector's Call" Season 2 is coming our way next year. Certainly this pays more than doing "Butterflies Are Free" at a dinner theatre in Florida.

BTW, I didn't make that up. My fellow Dataloungers, did you ever think you'd say, "and Lisa Whelchel in the Eileen Heckart role?" I think she did it to help her daughter get started and to have the memory of working with her.

r91, that's some Joan Crawford shit.