Do any of you ever have temper tantrums?

So you were the BUTT of the joke ?

R1 Well, I stopped being the butt of the joke after that tantrum. I was very close to attacking him with anything I could get my hands on. I am not exactly proud of my behavior ,but he definitely backed off after that.

What did you atrack him with, your lipstick ?

I've never had them.

R3 I didn't attack him. Work on your reading comprehension next time.

Occasionally but it is out of character for me. I feel embarrassed and foolish afterwards.

Wow ! OP ! Why so offended ? Losing your tremper already miss gurl ?

I've never been prone to tantrums. Anxiety and panic attacks when I was young, but never tantrums!

Which is great, because temper tantrums are completely unacceptable for a modern middle-class adult. When I had an office job, a young woman was fired on the spot for raising her voice and thrown a stapler at another drone, she missed but she was still fired on the spot.

I agree with you R8. I can go years without a tantrum, but some people can get very trying. As I get older it has become easier however(I'm 27). I'm working on the Clint Eastwood approach, speaking in a cold, quiet voice when angry. It is generally more effective.

No, never...and when I see the sewer rats on TV like Real Housewives, etc... acting as such, I am embarrassed for them.

Getting angry when stupid people fuck up is normal behavior.

Uncontrolled anger comes from depression is my experience. But everyone is different. When I was most depressed is when I had tantrums. It was helpful in signaling to me I had issues that needed to be dealt with. When I addressed those, episodes of uncontrolled rage disappeared.

I do have them whenever I have to deal with fraus doing frau stuff such as cutting a waiting line, denying priority, talking AT you, invading a gay board and making outrageously offensive, homophoblc, and/or sexist comments about men and feeling completely entitled to do so, abusing children, neglecting children, using children as a passive-agressive weapon, and so on.

I have never had a tantrum. I have got into fights a few times decades ago , mainly sticking up for myself against older kids and it was me that got the worst of it. As an adult, got destroyed by a bouncer but I refused to make a police complaint, another time I was bitten and gave that person a black eye.

I can't imagine doing a Violet Elizabeth Bott

Bonnie at her worst

I don't but my upstairs neighbor does. She has a meltdown every week and I've recorded video of her screaming and shouting and CRYING...fucking ridiculous.

No, I was the designated eggshell walker in my birth family.

R17 Hahahaha thanks for the laugh

I consider myself very patient and level-headed. I am kind and respectful to everyone I interact with (even those that are not decent people). If someone continuously presses my buttons and backs me into a corner, however, I will cross that line and become an incredibly ugly person. Like the other poster said, I feel really yucky after. I can count on one hand how many times that has happened.

The only one I seem to have this problem with is my elderly mother. Much to my horror and shame. But dealing with her confused , addlepated ways is driving me insane. Literally. She still insists on doing things her way,never mind the whole goddamn world has changed around her. Currently Im trying to straighten out a mess with the alarm company who signed her up for automatic billing,wich of course freaked her out . 2 hours on the phone dealing with fucking Indians I cant understand and her incessant bleatings has got me ready to put a gun in my mouth. I never dreamed Id feel this way about her.

36% of Dataloungers are “On the spectrum,” so, yes. They probably melt down a lot.

I thought it was 31%, R21?

Never in public, and very rarely. I’ve honed my patience over a lifetime. Recently, someone TRIGGERED me badly and I had a strong physical reaction. Fortunately it was a phone conversation, and she couldn’t see me turn bright red and trembling. Normally I am unflappable, so I kind of trusted my gut that this person was Bad News.

R20 - I’m with you. I know the other side of this is grief - but can’t help hoping for her death soon so I can live a life free of her needs and button-pushing. I understand why she does what she does - but i fly into rages during which I have to literally walk away from her to avoid blowing up on her. A miserable existence - and pointless. Looking forward to freedom.

Yes. When people deserve it. When I get to that point I don’t back down, and I don’t apologize. If someone has pushed me to that point, I go ballistic and go scorched earth. I have had people apologize to me after pushing me that far, because I don’t lose it unless I mean it.

Two words: Grease. Fire.

You never have to even open your mouth.

I do. I don't blow up very often and am a very patient person but occasionally something is so trying or maddening, there's nothing left to give. Thar she blows! And when she does get out of the way!

Lithium and therapy stopped me.

I truly have the patience of a saint, but once in a blue moon someone will step way over the line and get to feel my wrath. In these times I never raise my voice. I don't have to. My anger manifests itself via facial expression, extremely vicious [italic]sotto voce[/italic] verbiage, and my patented Stare Of Fury. I never throw things or use any profanity or physicality. I have literally left people in tears, while five feet away, no one realizes what is even going on. If I could patent these fugues as performance art, I'd be rich.

I call it, [italic]piss me off, pay the consequences.[/italc]

[quote] My anger manifests itself via facial expression, extremely vicious sotto voce verbiage, and my patented Stare Of Fury. I never throw things or use any profanity or physicality. I have literally left people in tears, while five feet away, no one realizes what is even going on.

Mary!

We are all terrified now.

[quote]Mary! We are all terrified now.

As right well you should be. And with very good reason. You don't know with whom you are fucking.

No, I don't have tantrums. I'm pretty patient. But when I get pissed, my face changes (not on purpose). Usually, the recipient of my death stare will back off.

What happens is that a door closes in my mind. I'm already writing off that person (I'd rather part ways) and it shows in my face, I think.

R32 You type Scorpio. or Capricorn. Am I correct?

Tantrums are very faggoty OP. Real men don't lose their temper . Never complain, never explain

WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN LITTLE HOMOSEXUAL BOY?! DO I EVER HAVE TEMPER TANTRUMS? NO I FUCKIN DON'T. I OCCASIONALLY THROW LETTUCE FOR FUN! OR URINE TO PUT SOMEONE IN THEIR PLACE. I DON'T HAVE A FUCKIN ANGER PROBLEM, I HAVE A QUICK REACTION TO BULLSHIT!

R35: KAPOW!

Hahaha I had forgotten about the lettuce. Hahaha. Faye is just the best. Who else would throw lettuce around in a rage fit ?

[quote] As right well you should be. And with very good reason. You don't know with whom you are fucking.

guuuuurl...

I hope that lettuce is from Salinas, bitch!

Yes, R8, violence at work is grounds for immediate firing. Rightly so. Besides it being morally right, there is the liability for the employer. That fired employee could have been arrested.

If a temper tantrum involves screaming and/or throwing things, then, no, I don’t have temper tantrums.

Similar to previous posters, I’m very patient and reasonably mild-mannered. And I hate when others raise their voices so I never do that.

But if I’m pushed past my limits, which might happen once a year or so, I tend to go into lecture mode and I’ll say exactly what’s on my mind and exactly what I think of you, and not let you get a word in. It can get ugly. Not vulgar, but ugly. To be honest, I usually feel shitty afterwards.

OP and others, I hope you will all try to not do this. You lose your leverage when you go berserk. If you throw something, do other violence, touch someone in an unwanted manner, including minor things like a tap on the shoulder or so, it’s assault.

I don’t know what “menacing” is. Like, can you get arrested for it just for being visibly mad? God help you if you have a litigious acquaintance.

If you swear, that’s all anyone will remember, no matter how right you are.

As an adult, if anyone flips out on me, and I don’t deserve it, and don’t think I ever do, I’ll cut them off, as I think it’s abusive. I know someone who does the “fuming silent treatment”. That’s just as bad, and deserves to be cut off as well. He’s blown up a lot, not at me, but in general about everything. Real anger issues.

So, I encourage people not to do this. You look foolish, or dangerous, and to be avoided.

Occasionally. I say give yourself a pass for the rare brat attack. But as my husband has said to me (and I took note) “This is why you really need to express yourself before it gets out of hand.”

I once came upon my then-new boyfriend when he was chewing out an obviously inexperienced shop girl at Sears. He was embarrassed, but I just thought it was a slip. He was never that way with me. Three years later, I got severe passive aggressive silent treatment from him, and I eventually tossed him. Broke my heart.

Occasionally and they go like this:

R42 is obviously a raging asshole self-righteous cunt frau. ' A tap on the shoulder is assault'. RMAOTFLOL. Bitch, you are CRAZY. Just the fact that your only audience left is an anonymous gay board should send you straight to therapy.

R46, it is surprising, but it is assault. My neighbor’s a lawyer and I got a call from the police after she reported that I touched her, though I hadn’t. The cop grilled me, then told me that it was. Any unwanted contact is.

You realize that you’re having a temper tantrum in R46, and read like you’re a real asshole, don’t you? Of course you do. You are just trying to be funny by proving my point, right? Even so, it’s too pathetic to be funny, but I guess that’s what you were trying to show.

[quote] You realize that you’re having a temper tantrum in [R46], and read like you’re a real asshole, don’t you? Of course you do. You are just trying to be funny by proving my point, right? Even so, it’s too pathetic to be funny, but I guess that’s what you were trying to show.

Get that big bitch, mama Get

Hahaha R47 couldn't get any frauer. You are right sister gurl. As always. You are the beginning and the end of all things, soooo clever, you can defeat any kind of contradiction with a simple twist of you pussy hat. ' gotcha'. Hahaha. Gurl !

R8 what about upper class adults? Is it acceptable for them to have tantrums? I see rich white women screaming at others in L.A. all the time

Having temper tantrums is immature behavior, you expect it from a 12 year told but it is embarrassing when I see adults carrying on like that. Grow up already, learn some self-control.

I go from 0 to 60 in a nanosecond when people irritate me. 99.9% of the time I just walk away and calm down but sometimes I let rip. Having “leaders” who behave like children has really filtered down to people in the US.

I don't know..on one hand it looks ridiculous and you lose any respect, glamour or credibility that you may have had...but on the other hand it's really fun screaming and swearing at someone's face when they deserve it.

Trump gave some people the privilege, or whatever it is, to be racist and rude, aloud. But that’s new. There’s lots of it on youtube.

R51 Do you think it is more socially acceptable for adult women to have temper tantrums than it is for adult men? Seems that way to me.

I really expected more than ~34% of you to be pathological liars.

The thought of any user on this forum responding "never" to this poll is hilarious.