R78 I gravitate toward darkness and I have very dark fantasies and I don’t deny any of that to myself. But I only want to do good things in the world and I tend to be optimistic in the worst of times and try to think of constructive ways out of even horrible situations that are brought about by horrible people.
Both personally and professionally, people seem to just take for granted that I am there doing what I do, certainly not super ambitious or extraordinary—and I am fine with that—but it seems like people gravitate to me during crises, from the two CEOs I’ve worked for to colleagues and friends and family. This feels to me to be a pretty typical role of a taurus, and the symbolic animal makes sense to me.
We’re just sturdy, solid, unassuming creatures that tend to mind our own business and contemplate things. Exceptions to the rule are when someone needs us or when someone goes too far in trying our patience. That’s when the worst and the best come out.
But mostly, even bulls don’t attack. They charge and chase problems away when necessary.
The one mistake people who know Taureans make is that they think we are all moo and no bite, and once we’re triggered to attack, since it *really* takes a lot to violate our patience, we’re perfectly willing to follow through. We don’t really make threats. It’s tolerance, tolerance, tolerance, tolerance, and then you get gored and say you had no warning. I’ve known people who thought I was simply and inviolably mild mannered and were shocked and terrified to see me explode.
Which is one more thing I can criticize Taureans for: we are “nice people” and as a result we don’t always communicate very well about what gets on our nerves. And then when we can’t take it any longer, that’s the end of that. I have had friends who had annoying tendencies I never told them about and then, after obsessing over those things, I just distance myself and basically sever the relationship, and I understand that from their perspectives it’s not fair and it seems inexplicably cruel. And at the same time, I feel like, well, we’re clearly not compatible and I was really patient with you, so—it didn’t work out. Sorry. Best to move on.
My psychiatrist once told me I have “an all-or-nothing personality,” and I think it’s true and I think it’s true of a typical Taurus. We’re lazy, focused grazers. Or else we’re charging at a problem, intent on ending it by chasing it away or goring it through the guts.