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Millennials Want To Ban Secret Santa Because It Gives Them Anxiety

Millennials aren’t interested in participating in the office “Secret Santa,” according to a new study by the British job-hunting website, Jobsite, because the practice is “stressful” and anxiety-inducing.

“Secret Santa” is, of course, a regular practice among work colleagues during the holidays. It’s often preferred to other practices because organizers can limit the budget spent on gifts, and it doesn’t align with any specific religious holiday, so it doesn’t leave anyone out of the loop (though, of course, jolly ol’ St. Nick is identified with Christmas).

But Millennials – facing the blame for killing everything from home ownership to landline telephones to sit-down Pizza Hut – are tired of participating in mandatory holiday activities at work and would rather corporate America keep the gift-giving private.

Jobsite’s study focused on the “negative effects” of Secret Santa and “it found that some millennials – Yes, of course, it’s millennials – have been suffering from anxiety as a result of their workplace Secret Santa,” reports viral news site Twenty-Two Words.

The study, they say “found that younger workers are often spending more than they can afford on presents for their colleagues” in order to avoid being “judged” for their selection or thought “cheap” by their peers. Even though most Secret Santa groups set a budget, Millennials say they feel pressure to “up their game” in order to fit in with their colleagues.

Beyond that, Millennials apparently report that they feel “angry” at office party organizers who don’t take Millennials’ much-reported dire financial straits into consideration when instituting a Secret Santa game. That builds resentment among Millennial workers which can lead to inter-office tiffs and a decline in workplace morale among Millennial colleagues.

A psychologist who spoke to Twenty-Two Words agrees – at least with regard for temperamental Millennials.

“I think there’s the potential for the whole range of human emotions, right from humiliation when you give someone a gift,” the psychologist said. “It’s important to us how others feel about our behavior and how it comes across.”

Unfortunately for the office busybody and the office party-planning committee, its not just Secret Santa that puts Millennials on edge, either. Jobsite found that all forced workplace socializing has the same effect, even office birthday parties (and yes, even if they feature free cake).

Millennials are just generally worried about being judged, and it leaks into all aspects of their work lives.

Jobsite suggests that up to 35% of Millennials say they want to see Secret Santa banned – holiday cheer be damned! — and a similar number is aiming straight at office birthday parties.

Instead, psychologists and workplace moral experts suggest that bosses and party-planners take “mental health” into consideration when organizing work events and plot holiday-themed activities that will appear to workers across the board, regardless of salary or rank. Perhaps a “non-denominational totally-not-a-holiday-party” might work well.

Secret Santa, of course, is just the latest target in a more widespread “war” on holiday fun and frivolity. As the holiday season rolls around, expect to be inundated with requests to tamp down holiday cheer in the name of inclusion across the spectrum.

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by Anonymousreply 85January 5, 2020 9:28 AM

What’s next? These kids are so sensitive.

by Anonymousreply 1November 25, 2019 3:31 PM

OK boomer.

by Anonymousreply 2November 25, 2019 3:33 PM

You raised them... r1

by Anonymousreply 3November 25, 2019 3:34 PM

It definitely isn’t anxiety inducing for that one person at my job who every year regifts crap that’s yellowed and covered by 2 inches of dust that’s turned into glue and can’t be removed.

by Anonymousreply 4November 25, 2019 3:34 PM

Thank god I have my own practice and do not have to deal with this frau corporate holiday shit.

by Anonymousreply 5November 25, 2019 3:35 PM

R3 fuck no, I have no children. Speak for yourself.

by Anonymousreply 6November 25, 2019 3:36 PM

Come on, let's be honest. Most of us hate having to do that shit. We have enough to deal with during the holidays. No one looks forward to that crap.

And the Dailywire is a right-wing fucking rag trying to frame this as some huge "liberal" plot and you know it, you fucking idiot OP.

by Anonymousreply 7November 25, 2019 3:37 PM

What's next for you, asshole/OP: An article legitimizing the War on Christmas?

by Anonymousreply 8November 25, 2019 3:38 PM

First world problems, this people needs to travel more and get a little perspective about real problems.

by Anonymousreply 9November 25, 2019 3:39 PM

[quote]Come on, let's be honest. Most of us hate having to do that shit.

Exactly. I'm on the older end of Gen X and always hated enforced socializing when I worked in an office. Escaping that shit was a big perk of going freelance.

by Anonymousreply 10November 25, 2019 3:41 PM

I’m happy about this! I don’t give a fuck about the anxiety, but I hate giving gifts to my office mates, and hate the secret santa and white elephant games and all that other frau shit that comes with it too. I say well done and thank you to Millennials, it’s about damn time we got rid of this shit that pollutes the workspace enough already. I don’t want to spend money on buying gifts for people I loathe.

by Anonymousreply 11November 25, 2019 3:41 PM

I hate secret Santa.

by Anonymousreply 12November 25, 2019 3:43 PM

I just switched Secret Santa with another co-worker. I cannot spend money on a Debbie Downer bitch who bitches at me when they are in wrong.

Problem solved. I like the nice fun black lady she was replaced with and will have fun shopping for her. :)

by Anonymousreply 13November 25, 2019 3:44 PM

I always hated those holiday potlucks. Even worse, if such a thing is possible, was the department dinners at a local restaurant.

by Anonymousreply 14November 25, 2019 3:44 PM

I’m a Millennial and proud to say that I’m sick of all the cutesy office frau shit like potlucks, Secret Santa , team buildings, etc. Don’t you other generations have any damn work to do???

by Anonymousreply 15November 25, 2019 3:45 PM

Are some of you just ignoring the source of this bullshit article? It's a wonder Hillary and Obama haven't been blamed.

They've created an entire article over a few people pretty much saying Secret Santa sucks and I don't have time for that shit.

by Anonymousreply 16November 25, 2019 3:46 PM

I hate Secret Santa. I have enough stress during the holidays getting my loved ones gifts never mind people I don't know that well. I'm also on a limited budget and cash already earmarked for service providers, etc. Our office Secret Santa requires that you do several days of personal gifts that have special meaning to the recipients. WTF? Last year, the woman heading it up sent out a note saying there was no pressure to participate but joked that her feelings would be hurt if people opted out. I told her I had enough to do, so no thanks. She didn't talk to me for three months. Bonus.

by Anonymousreply 17November 25, 2019 3:47 PM

Not being interested in something isn't the same as wanting to 'ban' it. Fucking clickbait merchant.

by Anonymousreply 18November 25, 2019 3:47 PM

R2 R3 You are them.

by Anonymousreply 19November 25, 2019 3:47 PM

I just buy booze

by Anonymousreply 20November 25, 2019 3:51 PM

Yeah, Millennials are the problem to this right-wing shit site, not the fact that Rick Perry -after calling Trump a cancer- has decided Trump was chosen by God.

by Anonymousreply 21November 25, 2019 3:51 PM

Not a millennial but would love to see all office gift giving get the heave ho, along with potlucks, tree decorating, etc. Coworkers are not friends nor family. I wish these tightwad companies would just give a decent holiday bonus rather than pushing these "team building" activities that employees have to pay for out of their own pocket.

by Anonymousreply 22November 25, 2019 3:54 PM

Exactly R22. I work in an office to make money. Not to spend it on colleagues I wouldn't associate with otherwise. I also resent being expected to spend time outside work shopping for them. I just decline to participate. My colleagues can think I'm being a scrooge, but most of them probably envy me.

by Anonymousreply 23November 25, 2019 3:59 PM

I’m a millennial and I love secret Santa, mainly because I love gift giving, full stop. Receiving a gift is nice, but not as nice as picking out the perfect gift for someone and watching them open it. Picking out a gift isn’t about buying something expensive, but finding something that will mean something to that person. I had an older person, one year. I knew from talking to her she was a nostalgic type of person, so I went to the local Antique Mall and bought the Time and Life magazines from the week she was born. She loved it and still fondly remembers the gift. In total, I spent eight dollars.

by Anonymousreply 24November 25, 2019 3:59 PM

I hate this frau shit and always have. I hope it gets banned.

by Anonymousreply 25November 25, 2019 4:01 PM

[quote] Receiving a gift is nice, but not as nice as picking out the perfect gift for someone and watching them open it.

And then you cradle that special mug and think to yourself, "I am living my best life!"

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by Anonymousreply 26November 25, 2019 4:05 PM

R24-great for you that you love doing that, but that's the kind of thing that should be voluntary. I have enough obligations in my personal life without doing things like going to antique malls to find magazines from the week someone was born. That's highly time consuming. With an elderly father in a care facility, the majority of my time outside work is spent with him. I have more important things to do than shop for people I'm not close to.

by Anonymousreply 27November 25, 2019 4:08 PM

I hate secret Santa’s and don’t participate. It is not out of anxiety, but out of disinterest in buying for and receiving crap from coworkers (not friends). Just more crap that will Sit on my kitchen counter for a few weeks until I likely throw it away. I like my coworkers in general but they are not my friends or family. No need for the pretense

by Anonymousreply 28November 25, 2019 4:09 PM

The problem, R24, is those "only 8 dollars" add up. Tack on the time and gas money, and the whole thing becomes costly and inconvenient. Whoever said it upthread had it exactly right. Companies should just pay their employees bonuses.

by Anonymousreply 29November 25, 2019 4:10 PM

R24’s vagina is huge and gaping

by Anonymousreply 30November 25, 2019 4:10 PM

I don’t care how ludicrous this story is— ANYTHING that causes Secret Santa to be banned gets my vote. Now, GET BACK TO WORK!

by Anonymousreply 31November 25, 2019 4:15 PM

I hated secret Santa. I had a hard enough time affording presents for my family. I lived in NYC with no help from my parents, paying my way through school while working. I worked the night shift and wanted to sleep in the daytime, not schlepp around present shopping. It’s easier nowadays with amazon, but still, it really was something I couldnt be bothered with.

by Anonymousreply 32November 25, 2019 4:41 PM

The Daily Wire? Next!

by Anonymousreply 33November 25, 2019 4:48 PM

R23 find a job with robots then and stay away from any human contact.

by Anonymousreply 34November 25, 2019 4:49 PM

No, R34, I'll just show up, be pleasant and professional and do my fucking job. I'm not there to be your bestie.

by Anonymousreply 35November 25, 2019 4:54 PM

R15 too funny. You’ve changed my opinions of millennials. It’s nice to hear you actually want to work.

by Anonymousreply 36November 25, 2019 4:59 PM

R36 it took ONE PERSON to change your opinion? One person speaks for millions of others??

by Anonymousreply 37November 25, 2019 5:26 PM

I think it's time to give all the BS a rest.

by Anonymousreply 38November 25, 2019 5:28 PM

It should be noted that R37 is also the OP and chooses the Daily Wire as his source. He prefers that you dump on Millennials en masse along with Mexicans and Muslims and then he'll whine about the suffering by the most targeted group: White Males.

He's OK with millions of brown people being represented by ONE person who does something bad, but don't you dare do that to his ilk!

by Anonymousreply 39November 25, 2019 5:33 PM

I am a Millennial stupid. R39

Born in 1991.

by Anonymousreply 40November 25, 2019 5:38 PM

R37 STFU, really you’re that stupid and literal. As I see more comments by millennials I have a better understanding of their generation. R37 mentality works for me. We attract what we are... I would love more millennials to be like him.

Now R37 lets fuck.

by Anonymousreply 41November 25, 2019 5:39 PM

Too late. I've just finished.

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by Anonymousreply 42November 25, 2019 5:40 PM

You're definitely a Millennial stupid and what I said about you still stands. Prove me wrong. You fucking linked to the Daily Wire. You're going to pretend what I said isn't true? You go to a source that does exactly what you like. People you hate are vilified by the millions. You get to use individuals to hate on those millions only when it suits your warped views and the offense committed by the other poster to whom you responded was seeing millennials in a *positive* way. You prefer ONE person be a negative reflection that you can then use to shit on the millions of others from that group. That's every right-wing shithole site's MO

by Anonymousreply 43November 25, 2019 5:44 PM

Who knew Secret Santa could be so inflammatory?

by Anonymousreply 44November 25, 2019 5:46 PM

R35 Is that cunt at work whose probably depressed as fuck and masturbates over a picture of his mother.

by Anonymousreply 45November 25, 2019 7:45 PM

Only to retard R44

by Anonymousreply 46November 25, 2019 7:46 PM

R45 lmao

by Anonymousreply 47November 25, 2019 7:47 PM

I’m a GenXer who despises that shit, too. With you on this one, Millenials!

by Anonymousreply 48November 25, 2019 7:59 PM

R43 are you sure you’re feeling ok? No clue, what’s happening with your crazy post, except the fact that we are watching you spiral out of control over a damn thread and comment. I have a feeling if you cannot get control of your anger you might be headed for high blood pressure.

by Anonymousreply 49November 25, 2019 8:01 PM

GenXer as well. I call it "Santa's Secretions" and want nothing to do with it.

by Anonymousreply 50November 25, 2019 8:59 PM

If any of this nonsense gets brought up at my place of work, I just politely ask whoever is organizing it to count me out. I opt out of the "company party" too if there is one. It doesn't interest me at all. I'd rather just see everyone get the opportunity to leave early for a few days during the holiday season rather than participate in fake socialization. Or - if you really do enjoy socializing with co-workers, go for it.

by Anonymousreply 51November 25, 2019 9:11 PM

I call it Secret Gift Card Santa. Everybody swaps one $20 gift card for another.

by Anonymousreply 52November 25, 2019 9:13 PM

No, R45, I masturbate into your lunch when no one else is in the kitchen. Don't worry. I put it right back in the proper spot in the fridge. Enjoy!

by Anonymousreply 53November 25, 2019 9:18 PM

I hate this type of shit. Last year everyone in the office (except me) participated in secret santa. They were supposed to spend $25 on a gift. They all filled out cards that listed 3 things they wanted.

So despite that, it basically consisted of 75% of the people trading gift cards with each other. 20% cheaped out and bought shit that wasn't even close to costing $20. And the other 5% gave stuff they made or actually bought something nice

One cheap bitch bought some cheap ass cologne from Big Lots and a curling iron for a woman from India. A curling iron won't work on her hair

This year they've already made up the cards with the three things they would like as a gift. Someone put a set of Apple earpods on her list. Another put "liquor"

by Anonymousreply 54November 25, 2019 9:35 PM

R53 omg, so funny.

by Anonymousreply 55November 25, 2019 9:35 PM

I went to a Christmas party once, when I first worked as a nurse. Most of the nurses in the hospital were young, so I figured it would just be like a regular party with young people.

Omg..

It was in a dank room without windows, looked like a basement. Folding tables, folding chairs, cardboard ashtrays (back in the days when smoking was allowed) filled with dirty butts. Cigarette butts on the floor. Trays of baked ziti & mini meatballs. The majority of the people there were janitorial staff, transport (people who pushed patients in stretchers or went to Central Supply when we needed a box of 4x4s). Then there were the dietary personnel. I had no idea that the dietary department was made up of the lowest of low class white women who literally started a fight wherever they went. The liquor gave me an instant stomach ulcer.

After I was there for an hour I said, “I’m going to my car. I forgot something” and left. I never went to another Christmas party again.

by Anonymousreply 56November 25, 2019 9:36 PM

[quote]One cheap bitch bought some cheap ass cologne from Big Lots and a curling iron for a woman from India. A curling iron won't work on her hair

LMAO! 🤣. What was the Indian woman’s reaction when she opened her gift?

by Anonymousreply 57November 25, 2019 9:52 PM

R27 It took me all of ten minutes and I was going to the antique mall anyway. I always form friendships with people I work with, because it makes the day go quicker, plus I like to have people to go to lunch with. And, I don't mind a party with them, once a year. Some of you just seem terribly anti-social.

by Anonymousreply 58November 25, 2019 9:57 PM

We used to have great Christmas parties at my old job. It sorta felt like the 1950s there anyway. Each department had it's own party. The first day you worked half a day and the second you ate leftovers at an extended lunch. Our dept had boxes of stupid decorations going back decades (plastic dredles, ugly elves etc.) which were dug out of boxes hidden away and put up about a week early. Food was a combination of ordered (Italian in our dept.) and brought (heavy Central and Eastern European given the Jewish and other makeup of our dept). Someone brought their "special dip" every year and everyone liked it. It was actually fun. Sadly the company has been bought out by its rival and no longer exists. No Secret Santa, tho.

by Anonymousreply 59November 25, 2019 10:08 PM

[quote]Some of you just seem terribly anti-social.

Some of us get our social needs met outside of the workplace.

by Anonymousreply 60November 25, 2019 11:54 PM

What's so hard about saying, "No thanks, I choose not to participate."

by Anonymousreply 61November 25, 2019 11:58 PM

Unfortunately, r61, co-workers and supervisors take note of your behavior during these moronic things— even when they insist that your participation is voluntary, and it’s internalized as a strike against you as a cooperative, team-playing good guy, particularly if a lot of your co-workers are women. They will talk, and talk, and fucking TALK about it incessantly for YEARS. It’s better just to trade gift cards with the rabble and compliment their holiday sweaters and whatever vile slop they brought to share at the potluck.

by Anonymousreply 62November 26, 2019 12:42 AM

[quote]LMAO! 🤣. What was the Indian woman’s reaction when she opened her gift?

She was an older woman who was usually very quiet, but she was really pissed off and it showed on her face. Her expression said, "what the hell am I going to do with this cheap garbage"?

by Anonymousreply 63November 26, 2019 12:45 AM

Or you could stand up for yourself and your points of view R62. But do whatever works best for you. Personally, I am never afraid to say no to this bullshit. My work speaks for itself, and if not participating in some ridiculous "holiday party" or related bullshit means I am looked down upon, I'm working with some idiots and it's time to do some career planning.

by Anonymousreply 64November 26, 2019 5:28 AM

I don’t have much in common with millennials; however, I completely agree with them on this issue. I go to the same Xmas party every year, which was always quite nice. However, last year the host started a Secret Santa thing. It ruined the night. And it will happen again this year. Fuck. I can’t stand it. And yes, it does cause me so much goddamn anxiety. Just fucking bring back our simple Xmas gathering and end this Secret Santa nightmare.

by Anonymousreply 65November 26, 2019 6:59 AM

LOL, but I do hate that shit. Whatever gets rid of it.

by Anonymousreply 66November 26, 2019 7:00 AM

I hate Secret Santa so good for them.

by Anonymousreply 67November 26, 2019 7:02 AM

"BAN!" Is the clickbait word of the decade.

"X wants to BAN! X"

by Anonymousreply 68November 26, 2019 7:04 AM

I like Millennials having anxiety and having to sleep with one eye open. They don't know when we will strike.

by Anonymousreply 69November 26, 2019 7:11 AM

Back in the '80s and '90s, two friends of mine had a Xmas party every year, to which everyone was asked to bring a Secret Santa gift. Within three years, it had become a regifting extravaganza. Everyone hated it and eventually I stopped going. I knew people who kept going and kept complaining. I just couldn't.

by Anonymousreply 70November 26, 2019 7:13 AM

Okay, so 35% want it to be banned according to some survey.

Meh.

They could just join me in not participating and let it die a natural death.

by Anonymousreply 71November 26, 2019 7:23 AM

If Melania is going to be there OP then yes BAN CHRISTMAS for the love of god and country!

by Anonymousreply 72November 26, 2019 7:23 AM

I personally hate Secret Santa shit be it in the office or parties. And I am not young by any stretch of the imagination. It's a fake corporate Boomer thing from the 80s like all their other motto's like "Dress for Success" or " Let's agree to Disagree".

No one should be forced to give a stranger a fucking cheap ass present. It's meaningless at best.

I prefer other alternatives. One place I worked at years ago dropped secret Santa and instead closed the office for half a day and treated everyone to dinner at a upscale restaurant. So no money out of pocket, no awkward interactions. I still remember that gift, cant say I remember any secret Santa stuff.

by Anonymousreply 73November 26, 2019 7:35 AM

In our office we all pitch in 5 to 10 dollars and a couple of people go to a quality bakery and buy a large assortment of cookies. Then we munch on cookies and stop people in the halls and give them cookies, including the cleaning staff when they walk by.

One of our stuffy managers does not eat cookies but he loves to pass them out. It seems like a true spirit of giving and none of us eat enough cookies to get fat.

by Anonymousreply 74November 26, 2019 7:37 AM

One of my friends has a White Elephant party around the holidays instead. You basically bring the worst gift or ugliest thing you can find and wrap it up like Secret Santa, it can be a re-gift or used. Creepy gnomes, nasty scented Yankee Candles, a Used Iron, Richard Simmons salad spray..

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by Anonymousreply 75November 26, 2019 7:45 AM

R71

No.... 35% aren't interested in it. Or would prefer not to partake.

by Anonymousreply 76November 26, 2019 7:58 AM

I only had one job where we did this - my first, when I was 16.

I can take it or leave it.

by Anonymousreply 77November 26, 2019 8:03 AM

Frau do this because they have plenty of disposable income because their husbands pay all their bills. They also like to snigger and bitch about who has bought what for whom. Should be called Secret Frau Cunt Present

by Anonymousreply 78November 26, 2019 8:07 AM

This is such an office Frau thing. Every place I have ever worked where they made us do this was always taken up by some frumpy Frau trying to mask her horrible dating life with fake holiday cheer.

Sorry, Charline, your secret Santa was the janitor this year.

by Anonymousreply 79November 26, 2019 8:13 AM

It is a Frau thing. The men tend to do something fun. Our head of HR - a guy - got a cart, hot chocolate and Christmas cookies and went around the office desk to desk in a Santa hat and doled out treats. That really brightened people's days. It was the company (really him) doing something thoughtful that showed we were appreciated. It was a great morale booster in the lead up to the holidays. This was a case of doing something for us rather than requiring we spend time and money doing something no one wants to do.

by Anonymousreply 80November 26, 2019 1:39 PM

Fraus would probably complain that they're lactose or glucose intolerant for the hot coco/cookie cart. Even if it's hot water and Swiss Miss, they'd still find something to carp about.

by Anonymousreply 81November 26, 2019 2:07 PM

So it seems OP, NO ONE likes secret santa, not just the millennials!

by Anonymousreply 82November 26, 2019 2:20 PM

Millennials say/do/like/dislike this/that. BFD.

by Anonymousreply 83November 26, 2019 2:23 PM

I love Christmas but I HATE Secret Santa because you know some co-workers buy (or re-gift) the shittiest gift so they can get something better.

This year I spent the $20 limit. Someone had the audacity to put in a bar of dark chocolate (unwrapped). Lazy, cheap. This is why we hate Secret Santa.

by Anonymousreply 84January 5, 2020 8:09 AM

I like R80's idea. So cheap and simple for a company to do. Secret Santa can be stressful if you get your boss as the person to give a gift to. And under 20 dollars is really hard not to find something cheesy. And like others have said, some people really don't give a rats ass and just toss in 99 cent store gift. Why waste the money at that point. And then you have to fake being appreciative on top of that. Plus, not everyone wants to take part in a fake Christian holiday.

by Anonymousreply 85January 5, 2020 9:28 AM
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